So I just joined at contributor level and received the franklin t10. The cellular signal is 1 or 2 bars at best. My friends with t-mobile cellular plans have full 5g signal in my house. So I'm looking at some various options and wondering if anyone else has some input?

1. There's an external antenna option I was looking at.

http://www.maxmost.com/fkt10mag5db-MMP.php
Would something like that work? It sticks over the internal antenna and runs to a larger antenna receiver outside. Or is there a better option for boosting the signal to the device?

1. Is there a better device with an external antenna port or just better in general I could stick the sim card into and rewrite the IMEI so it would read the sim?
   
2. Is there a way to unlock the bands? The closest tower is band 41 according to cell mapper. I can't find anywhere in the settings to adjust this.
   
3. So when I first turn it on it shows full signal but no lte. In the settings menu it says network disconnected. As soon as it picks up LTE it drops to 1-2 bars. Is the full bars a factory default thing? Or is it just connecting to a different tower for data?
   

Hello! I'm really curious about service dogs, and had some questions if anyone wouldn't mind answering them.

1. Something I'm confused about, is when seeing lists of tasks that service dogs commonly do, things such as "remind to take medication" and "check house for intruders", just things that possibly could only be done at home. If those were the dogs only tasks, could the person still take the dog out with them to places as a service dog? Or are they required to have at least one task that has to be done outside? I haven't really seen clarification on that, and wanted to know
2. Do you have to be, I'm not sure how to say it, "confirmed" disabled to have a service dog? Like say you have a disability and haven't been diagnosed yet, or your doctor confirms you have anxiety, but it's not considered a disability? I'm sorry if that question comes across as rude, I really don't mean it to
3. In the case of a service dog for autism or anxiety, where it's main task is grounding the person, would it still be a service dog if the person could calm themselves down by petting their dog? Like with an autistic person stimming by running their hands through the dogs fur before they get upset. Would that still count? Or does it only count if the dog senses the anxiety and initiates the contact themselves?
4. Is it rude to say that a persons service dog is cute (Directly to the person! Not interacting or even really looking at the dog at all)? Or is it better to just not acknowledge the dog at all unless it's brought up?
5. What's one thing you wish people knew about service dogs (aside from how people aren't supposed to interact with them)?

Thank you in advance!

Good Evening-
BLUF (Bottom Line Up Front): Stats and Interests Below the Cut-Line. Rationale and Compatibility Analysis Directly Below.
::::::::::::
I’ve received feedback that I should change my posts from “FWB” to Actual Girlfriend since I am seeking monogamy and commitment from one lady and I am willing to show the same.
I think that the only reasons we might not be compatible are preferences for looks, our careers (especially me in the Navy), sexual compatibility, and how we spend our free time. As for other reasons- I pride myself in communication, problem solving, patience, chivalry, authenticity, and being altruistic.
————————
Statistics: 6’2, Soon to be 36 YO, 196 lbs, 34 waist, Pulse 52, BP 118/72, Shoe- 12, xxx-7.25, Credit Score 807. Foster Homes Lived In-28, Schools Attended- 23. 43 countries visited, Deployments (USN)- 5, Kids- 0. Black Hair, Hazel Eyes, Lean-Athletic Muscular build. Sweet smile, great calves, aging grey temples, youthful/positive face. The usually response I get is either “fuck yes” or “fuck no” - I realize I am not everyone’s type. 5k PR: 1557- college. Mile-4:17- high school (RI all-state). Undergrad: USNA. Master’s: GWU, USNWC
Red Flags 2 Marriages, 1 other Engagement. Broken hearts- many. Times broken-hearted- 2. Currently separated. Introverted and Calculated decision maker due to upbringing. Analytical for good and bad reasons. Harry Potter House Ravenclaw Hat-Stall to Slytherin. Left-Handed, 800M SAT Score. Have won over 600k lifetime gambling (A hobby now, used to be a matter of life/death when I was youngehomeless as a teen).
Personality Assessment: Altruistic and Thoughtful people-pleaser. Detail-oriented and sexually charged gentleman. More cooperative and curious than critical. Constantly self-assessing and self-correcting, reflective and strives for improvement. Aims to use own experience to better others in close proximity and to scale. INTJ, love languages physical touch and quality time. Future POTUS, RI GOV, or Government SES, Navy Ship Captain. Vulnerability, Passion, and Compassion are Hallmarks (See Brene Brown/Esther Perel TED Talks).
Interests: Sports fanatic- specifically Boston teams. Board/Card games. Intellectual/Philosophical conversations. Human Behavior, Running, Walking, Pokémon Go, improving my teams around me, including family. Road trips, the beach, kissing, giving massages, finding a partner who wants to deeply connect romantically and physically and discuss and act out our fantasies. Improving our EQ and erotic intelligence together.
Someone will really like this and I hope if you are interested, we could write our success story here. I am an eternal optimist and I realize that you can’t small talk on apps the way I would really like to get to the heart of serious issues. If you are genuinely ambitious yet humble from our beginnings- maybe one of us is the First Spouse to the other, or, the half of a great partnership and earn the title of best parent, or co-chefs in our house together. Coach of the kids’s sports team is cool, too.
I have almost all the pieces I have to make life great and for me it is- just hoping to find that force multiplier where we can enhance our lives and take each other to a place of leadership and bliss that not even we can imagine right now!

Brace yourselves, this is gonna be a long one.
Table of Contents
1…… The Main Goal
2…… What I’m Seeking
3…… Personality
4…… Interests
5…… Physical Characteristics (with pics)
6…… Expectations of You
7…… Living Situation
8…… Deal Breakers
9…… Closing Remarks
(1)
The Main Goal:
Well if you’re browsing this subreddit then much like me, you were alone this weekend and I’m sure you’d like to change that as much as me. I won’t lie, I am going through a rough part of my life right now. It’s difficult for me to find the energy for anything at the moment and I’m just really seeking affection in general, anything that will give me a push. I don’t want to be that person who brings everyone down but I could really use someone to talk to right now. I’d really like to find someone who’s similar to me so much to the point that we do everything together and talk about everything while not having to pretend to be interested. I want someone with whom we can mutually spew our emotions onto and have those feelings reciprocated. Not an emotional punching bag, but an emotional teddy bear to hug and cuddle until everything feels better as many times as we need. There’s people who I’m sure have told you the same, they’ll be there no matter how many times you need the support, no matter how many times the insecurities and bad thoughts come back but they don’t mean it. I will be the exception, I’m not so ignorant to think some nice words and tales of relating to you will magically forever heal whatever ails you then get mad when you seek the same support again. Mental ailments are rarely temporary and I don’t care about someone because they’re perfect, caring about someone means being there no matter how many times they need you to be. It doesn’t feel like a chore, it doesn’t get old, and it never will.
(2)
(2.a)
What I'm Seeking:
I will upfront let you know if I’m clicking better with someone else or if you’re the one, I’m not here to tread the sea of fish or keep my options open, I’m here for one singular person.
(2.b)
Relationship:
A relationship is difficult for me right now, it’s been nearly half a year since I got out of my last relationship and the reasons for it ending are partially responsible for how I’ve been feeling and why it’s so hard for me to seek the comfort I so desperately crave. I will tell you about it but for the sake of not treating the entirety of the internet as my therapist, it’ll be in private. I really need the comfort of intimacy and the warmth of someone who cares. I'm not going to feel better if I just sulk and don’t move on. This is my attempt to get better, I’ll admit I’m not great right now and I don’t expect you to be either. If we can help each other heal, then I’d be more than happy :) A relationship isn’t just being there for when someone’s at their best. Even if a relationship is hard at the moment, I do want a life partner and I don’t want to be alone. Things aren’t going to get easier without you so I don’t want to hesitate. I view my other as an equal, I don’t like categorizing us into specific roles. We take care of each other and treat each other how we like to be treated, whatever that is, it's as simple as that. I don't care if you're "successful" or not, living simple lives with our days filled with love is the ultimate measure of success to me.
(3)
Personality:
(3.a)
On the Surface:
As you can tell I can be rather… stoic but that’s largely due to my current stressors, I truthfully am goofy and fun loving but I just can’t find it in me right now. I want to return to that but without someone to light up my world it’s been difficult to just have fun and enjoy stuff. I’m definitely more introverted, you won’t catch me at any parties or really outside at all. I definitely prefer being home though the occasional outing is not out of the question and one day I’d like to travel to other countries because I think that kind of perspective is important.
(3.b)
The Core of My Being:
I like being a spectator to it all and if we bear witness to humanity burning or its miraculous recovery, I want to watch it with you. I enjoy watching humanity advance, less so when it devolves but I want to watch it to the end nonetheless. I’m both a realist and someone who lives with my head in the clouds dreaming of scenarios or worlds that don’t exist. I’m saying that I enjoy a good narrative and can suspend my disbelief to enjoy something but you won’t catch me refusing vaccines or ignoring blatant facts for the sake of some pseudo science or witch doctor’s remedy. I’m an atheist but I do not rule out existence after death, not because I’m agnostic but because due to the nature of potentially infinite time at some point after how many googol years with a googol amount of 0s after that, something’s bound to replicate your consciousness perfectly at some point. It’s actually a really fascinating topic I like talking about. If infinite time and infinite possibilities exist, does non existence exist? Though that’s an awfully existentially dreadful thought process considering the ramifications of infinite existence and infinite possibilities during said infinite existence. I would say I’m confidently left leaning and I don’t think I could truly get along with anyone right leaning, at least America’s definition of right leaning. Left and right seems to have just become; do people deserve to suffer or do they deserve to live good lives? Being political is not something I expected to become but how can you not be when crimes against human rights are being passed on a daily basis and at the end of the day, everything’s political. Oftentimes I imagine the perfect moment as relaxing with my significant other playing games or cuddling in a cold room under blankets.
I value that special someone above all of the existential thoughts, the bad of the world, the good of the world, they practically become my world. So many worries wash away when I’m with them. I don’t know if that’s the defense mechanism my brain created to not feel bad 24/7 but if it is, I’m currently without it.
(3.c)
Insecurities:
I talk of philosophy and politics here but really I spend most of my time just playing games, watching stuff, and trying to not be sleep deprived. I’m also nowhere near as well spoken, heck sometimes I feel like my speech is broken. I won’t claim to be something I’m not, I sit at home while I complain about the world doing nothing about it wishing I had someone here with me. I’m not noble nor do I really want to be, I have morals I uphold but much like most other hypocrites I acknowledge that my comfortable life is built on the suffering of others without doing anything about it. Why? My sleep problems? Am I depressed? Is that why I have no energy to do anything? Do I just think nothing I could do could help? I can’t nail it down myself, maybe it’s a mix of everything, maybe I’m just a bad person. I have always told myself that if I had wealth I would help people but if I get that kind of wealth will I just become a wealth hoarder who tries to justify my riches as something I earned rather than something given to me through incredibly lucky circumstances? If I do help people is it because I’m a good person or out of guilt? Will I die alone? I feel like I drive everyone away with my clinginess, I get paranoid often and need reassurance often. It’s something I want to work on, something I’ve been trying to work on. Hearing that someone cares about me just never gets old. I value self awareness even if it’s painful.
(3.d)
Socializing:
I’m definitely a socially anxious/awkward mess, especially around strangers. I do feel a large amount of anxiety in public, people can’t tell by looking at my face since I kind of go stone faced in an attempt to block everything out but yeah you’ll notice that if we go out in public. Growing up my pediatrician said I was probably autistic, never got a formal diagnosis so that’s just great. But yeah that explains why I can’t make eye contact with people, I kinda just stare at the ground and avoid their gaze at all costs. A lot of these social struggles go away to a great degree once I know you for a bit but yeah I apologize for how terrible I am at socializing at first. Don’t let my social struggles fool you though, I love cuddling and being close with my person.
(3.e)
Sexuality:
I am a heterosexual male, though I’m not very masculine like at all. I may even be a bit feminine sometimes. Not that I believe any activity or manner of acting belongs to a gender but I don’t know how else to describe it. I’m definitely super affectionate and love it when my partner is too. I am open to dating demi people but I do have a libido so I don't think asexual would work out.
(4)
Interests:
(4.a)
Video Games:
As stated before, I do spend a lot of my time playing video games. It’s been hard lately with me having no energy but I really do want to play more games and have a good time playing them with you! I primarily play on PC though I do have a switch. I’m primarily into platform fighters, roguelikes, open world, survival, and sandbox games. As for single player story games, I enjoy watching them through twitch or youtube but for the most part I don’t play them myself. I’d watch you play them though!
Here’s a list of games we can play:
-Minecraft (Java)
-Risk of Rain 2
-Gunfire Reborn
-Roboquest
-7 Days to Die
-Phasmophobia
-Rust
-Unturned
-Bloons TD 6
-Platform fighters: Super Smash Bros. Melee, Slap City, Multiversus, Flash Party, Fraymakers
Whatever you want to play I’ll give it a shot! I will say that League bores me to death but I’ll play it for you :) I try to avoid MMOs, not because I don’t like them but because of how addicted I can get to them. I enjoy learning games in-depth so MMOs can be a fast track to addiction.
I recently got Kerbal Space Program 2 and ehhh not really worth it right now but hopefully later it will be? I’m super excited for Tears of the Kingdom! In the far off future I’m excited for Rivals of Aether 2 which is a platform fighter releasing in 2024, let me know of your most anticipated releases and I’ll see if I could play them with you!
Also I never got into FPS games but I could totally see myself playing like CoD with you or Escape From Tarkov. Any FPS really, I’m down.
I am a fan of Pokemon but with how things have been lately I don’t know how long that will last. Pixelmon is a common Pokemon mod I play for Minecraft if you want to play that! Also if I say I want to play something with you I mean it but there are often times when no matter how much I want to I'm just drained and can do little more than lay in bed so please don't think I'm making an excuse.
(4.b)
Science:
I really enjoy keeping up with the latest advances in pretty much everything, it could be biology, technology, astronomy, anything! I love seeing progression and I love talking about it! Really I could go on and on about what I’m obsessing about that day. I particularly love technology, ask me for my laptop specs I dare you. When I was little I always wanted to be a scientist of any kind but then insomnia and fear of college stuff hit me like a truck aaaand that’s the end of that dream.
(4.c)
Anime:
You got me, I like anime but I’d like to think my tastes are benign.
Here’s some of my favorites I can list from the top of my head:
- To Your Eternity
- Vinland Saga
- Spice and Wolf
- Re:Zero
- Mob Psycho
- Dr. Stone
- Attack on Titan
- Spy x Family
- My Hero Academia
- Ranking of Kings
- Demon Slayer
Okay I can go on and on but I will say I don’t like pointless fan service and the spamming of cliche anime moments. I mostly enjoy action and anything well animated if it doesn’t have a potato story. Heck Demon Slayer could be my top 3 out of season 2’s animation alone. I don’t watch slice of life often or romance but I would with you!
(4.d)
Misc:
I’m not going to go on and on about the tiniest little things when the main ones are covered but I’ll watch pretty much any show with you and anything really. I like random youtube videos that explain some kind of lore or mystery, sometimes mini documentaries too.
As for food I looove sushi and I’m a sucker for fast food. Okay and candy, definitely candy.
I used to play tennis but haven’t really had the opportunity nor friends to play it with and I’m way too socially anxious to seek it out. Also I will say that when we move to something like discord I type waaaay more casually. I’m not going to expect long paragraphs back and forth like we’re writing English papers for each other, I do enjoy long conversations but seriously don’t worry about having to put the utmost effort into every response, I just like making good first impressions I guess.
(5)
(5.a)
My Physical Characteristics:
I’m 5’8 (172cm), 128 pounds (58kg), with curly brown hair and blue eyes. I like keeping my hair long in the winter and cutting it in the summer. I’m pretty slim in general so if you’re looking for someone large, that’s not me. I don’t work out but my work is pretty physical so at least I’m not totally inactive. I don’t have the urge to work out or gain muscle but I do want to maintain my slim figure so if I start losing control of that I’ll work out. I like to keep my face shaved because I don’t think I look good with a beard/mustache so if you’re into those I apologize. I have an average amount of body hair? I’d prefer to be completely shaved but it’s easy to lose motivation with that battle, if you prefer shaved then I’d have no problem complying. Anyways here’s what I look like: https://imgur.com/a/MZZgf2t
(5.b)
My Physical Preferences:
Having physical preferences makes me feel shallow, if I could make myself not have them I would but unfortunately that’s now how that works. I don’t care if you’re shorter or taller than me and I don’t care if you weigh more or less than me. All I ask is that you’re slim-average weight. I would never ask for someone to be something I’m not. I don’t care about tattoos or piercings.**(6)Expectations of You (Relationship Only):**I am not looking for someone “exciting” or someone to “keep me on my toes” I’m not looking for someone to cater to my every whim or anything like that. I don’t care if you’re “boring” or if you aren’t “successful”. I know it’s a common thing for people to not want a “boring” relationship and to seek something argumentative or something with constant challenges but I just want to be with you. During the exciting times, the boring times, and everything in-between, all of it will be great with you! Maybe we do argue sometimes or maybe there will be challenges but that will never be something I purposefully seek out and I don’t want that to be something you seek out either. I will not play tricks on you and I will not play mind games, I expect the same from you. We all have personal measures of success we may or may not have lived up to but what I care about most is our commitment to each other. If we have each other we can get through tough times, near the ends of our lives I want us to look back and feel that this life together was worth more than anything. That’s not saying I want us to be haphazard, I don’t want us to make poor decisions for the sake of yolo and I want us to always be rational, especially with each other. I want you to be someone I can trust to make decisions and weigh the options with a level head, I’ll try my best to live up to the same for you. Most of all I want empathy, understanding, someone to feel the utmost comfort and trust in.
(7)
Living Situation:
Currently my life is pretty relaxed, I work 3 times a week as a night shift stocker. I currently live in a 2 bedroom apartment with my roommate but we’re looking to move into someplace larger by the end of the year if everything works out. The internet is weirdly great for Ohio too like I have fiber and later this year we’re supposed to be getting dedicated fiber so that’s neat. I’m not attached to Ohio so the ultimate goal living location wise is probably moving to a country that won’t send you into a lifetime of dealing with the repercussions from one medical emergency.
(8)
Deal Breakers:
Might as well make this simple and make it a list.
- Anti-vaxxers
- Unironically believing astrology
- Right wingers
- Hard drugs (occasional 420 and alcohol is fine, may even join you)
- Wanting children, there was a time when I was younger when I wanted children but with the state of the word that’s a definite no and I feel like I wouldn’t be able to handle the stress. I’d love a stress free life with as much time with you as possible.
- Homophobic
- Transphobic
- Racist
- Super Religious
- Don’t be a bigot and don’t deny facts.
(9)
Closing Remarks:
Well you made it, I was thinking that finding someone I’d be willing to put a lifetime of effort into at least required this much effort. If I think of anything more I’ll update the post. Also about timezones, it really doesn’t matter where in the world you are. I don’t have a sleep schedule and I have most of the week off from work so it really doesn’t matter.
I request that in your response you do put effort into it, it doesn’t have to be anywhere near as long as this but at least enough so I know that you read this and enough about you so I know why you saw potential compatibility. I will seriously read all of it and respond the best I can. I do also request a pic included in your response (sfw please) or one soon after we start talking to prove identity, I’ll send identity proving pics too. As long as this post is up, you can send a reply!

Brace yourselves, this is gonna be a long one.
Table of Contents
1…… The Main Goal
2…… What I’m Seeking
3…… Personality
4…… Interests
5…… Physical Characteristics (with pics)
6…… Expectations of You
7…… Living Situation
8…… Deal Breakers
9…… Closing Remarks
(1)
The Main Goal:
Well if you’re browsing this subreddit then much like me, you were alone this weekend and I’m sure you’d like to change that as much as me. I won’t lie, I am going through a rough part of my life right now. It’s difficult for me to find the energy for anything at the moment and I’m just really seeking affection in general, anything that will give me a push. I don’t want to be that person who brings everyone down but I could really use someone to talk to right now. I’d really like to find someone who’s similar to me so much to the point that we do everything together and talk about everything while not having to pretend to be interested. I want someone with whom we can mutually spew our emotions onto and have those feelings reciprocated. Not an emotional punching bag, but an emotional teddy bear to hug and cuddle until everything feels better as many times as we need. There’s people who I’m sure have told you the same, they’ll be there no matter how many times you need the support, no matter how many times the insecurities and bad thoughts come back but they don’t mean it. I will be the exception, I’m not so ignorant to think some nice words and tales of relating to you will magically forever heal whatever ails you then get mad when you seek the same support again. Mental ailments are rarely temporary and I don’t care about someone because they’re perfect, caring about someone means being there no matter how many times they need you to be. It doesn’t feel like a chore, it doesn’t get old, and it never will.
(2)
(2.a)
What I'm Seeking:
I will upfront let you know if I’m clicking better with someone else or if you’re the one, I’m not here to tread the sea of fish or keep my options open, I’m here for one singular person.
(2.b)
Relationship:
A relationship is difficult for me right now, it’s been nearly half a year since I got out of my last relationship and the reasons for it ending are partially responsible for how I’ve been feeling and why it’s so hard for me to seek the comfort I so desperately crave. I will tell you about it but for the sake of not treating the entirety of the internet as my therapist, it’ll be in private. I really need the comfort of intimacy and the warmth of someone who cares. I'm not going to feel better if I just sulk and don’t move on. This is my attempt to get better, I’ll admit I’m not great right now and I don’t expect you to be either. If we can help each other heal, then I’d be more than happy :) A relationship isn’t just being there for when someone’s at their best. Even if a relationship is hard at the moment, I do want a life partner and I don’t want to be alone. Things aren’t going to get easier without you so I don’t want to hesitate. I view my other as an equal, I don’t like categorizing us into specific roles. We take care of each other and treat each other how we like to be treated, whatever that is, it's as simple as that. I don't care if you're "successful" or not, living simple lives with our days filled with love is the ultimate measure of success to me.
(3)
Personality:
(3.a)
On the Surface:
As you can tell I can be rather… stoic but that’s largely due to my current stressors, I truthfully am goofy and fun loving but I just can’t find it in me right now. I want to return to that but without someone to light up my world it’s been difficult to just have fun and enjoy stuff. I’m definitely more introverted, you won’t catch me at any parties or really outside at all. I definitely prefer being home though the occasional outing is not out of the question and one day I’d like to travel to other countries because I think that kind of perspective is important.
(3.b)
The Core of My Being:
I like being a spectator to it all and if we bear witness to humanity burning or its miraculous recovery, I want to watch it with you. I enjoy watching humanity advance, less so when it devolves but I want to watch it to the end nonetheless. I’m both a realist and someone who lives with my head in the clouds dreaming of scenarios or worlds that don’t exist. I’m saying that I enjoy a good narrative and can suspend my disbelief to enjoy something but you won’t catch me refusing vaccines or ignoring blatant facts for the sake of some pseudo science or witch doctor’s remedy. I’m an atheist but I do not rule out existence after death, not because I’m agnostic but because due to the nature of potentially infinite time at some point after how many googol years with a googol amount of 0s after that, something’s bound to replicate your consciousness perfectly at some point. It’s actually a really fascinating topic I like talking about. If infinite time and infinite possibilities exist, does non existence exist? Though that’s an awfully existentially dreadful thought process considering the ramifications of infinite existence and infinite possibilities during said infinite existence. I would say I’m confidently left leaning and I don’t think I could truly get along with anyone right leaning, at least America’s definition of right leaning. Left and right seems to have just become; do people deserve to suffer or do they deserve to live good lives? Being political is not something I expected to become but how can you not be when crimes against human rights are being passed on a daily basis and at the end of the day, everything’s political. Oftentimes I imagine the perfect moment as relaxing with my significant other playing games or cuddling in a cold room under blankets.
I value that special someone above all of the existential thoughts, the bad of the world, the good of the world, they practically become my world. So many worries wash away when I’m with them. I don’t know if that’s the defense mechanism my brain created to not feel bad 24/7 but if it is, I’m currently without it.
(3.c)
Insecurities:
I talk of philosophy and politics here but really I spend most of my time just playing games, watching stuff, and trying to not be sleep deprived. I’m also nowhere near as well spoken, heck sometimes I feel like my speech is broken. I won’t claim to be something I’m not, I sit at home while I complain about the world doing nothing about it wishing I had someone here with me. I’m not noble nor do I really want to be, I have morals I uphold but much like most other hypocrites I acknowledge that my comfortable life is built on the suffering of others without doing anything about it. Why? My sleep problems? Am I depressed? Is that why I have no energy to do anything? Do I just think nothing I could do could help? I can’t nail it down myself, maybe it’s a mix of everything, maybe I’m just a bad person. I have always told myself that if I had wealth I would help people but if I get that kind of wealth will I just become a wealth hoarder who tries to justify my riches as something I earned rather than something given to me through incredibly lucky circumstances? If I do help people is it because I’m a good person or out of guilt? Will I die alone? I feel like I drive everyone away with my clinginess, I get paranoid often and need reassurance often. It’s something I want to work on, something I’ve been trying to work on. Hearing that someone cares about me just never gets old. I value self awareness even if it’s painful.
(3.d)
Socializing:
I’m definitely a socially anxious/awkward mess, especially around strangers. I do feel a large amount of anxiety in public, people can’t tell by looking at my face since I kind of go stone faced in an attempt to block everything out but yeah you’ll notice that if we go out in public. Growing up my pediatrician said I was probably autistic, never got a formal diagnosis so that’s just great. But yeah that explains why I can’t make eye contact with people, I kinda just stare at the ground and avoid their gaze at all costs. A lot of these social struggles go away to a great degree once I know you for a bit but yeah I apologize for how terrible I am at socializing at first. Don’t let my social struggles fool you though, I love cuddling and being close with my person.
(3.e)
Sexuality:
I am a heterosexual male, though I’m not very masculine like at all. I may even be a bit feminine sometimes. Not that I believe any activity or manner of acting belongs to a gender but I don’t know how else to describe it. I’m definitely super affectionate and love it when my partner is too. I am open to dating demi people but I do have a libido so I don't think asexual would work out.
(4)
Interests:
(4.a)
Video Games:
As stated before, I do spend a lot of my time playing video games. It’s been hard lately with me having no energy but I really do want to play more games and have a good time playing them with you! I primarily play on PC though I do have a switch. I’m primarily into platform fighters, roguelikes, open world, survival, and sandbox games. As for single player story games, I enjoy watching them through twitch or youtube but for the most part I don’t play them myself. I’d watch you play them though!
Here’s a list of games we can play:
-Minecraft (Java)
-Risk of Rain 2
-Gunfire Reborn
-Roboquest
-7 Days to Die
-Phasmophobia
-Rust
-Unturned
-Bloons TD 6
-Platform fighters: Super Smash Bros. Melee, Slap City, Multiversus, Flash Party, Fraymakers
Whatever you want to play I’ll give it a shot! I will say that League bores me to death but I’ll play it for you :) I try to avoid MMOs, not because I don’t like them but because of how addicted I can get to them. I enjoy learning games in-depth so MMOs can be a fast track to addiction.
I recently got Kerbal Space Program 2 and ehhh not really worth it right now but hopefully later it will be? I’m super excited for Tears of the Kingdom! In the far off future I’m excited for Rivals of Aether 2 which is a platform fighter releasing in 2024, let me know of your most anticipated releases and I’ll see if I could play them with you!
Also I never got into FPS games but I could totally see myself playing like CoD with you or Escape From Tarkov. Any FPS really, I’m down.
I am a fan of Pokemon but with how things have been lately I don’t know how long that will last. Pixelmon is a common Pokemon mod I play for Minecraft if you want to play that! Also if I say I want to play something with you I mean it but there are often times when no matter how much I want to I'm just drained and can do little more than lay in bed so please don't think I'm making an excuse.
(4.b)
Science:
I really enjoy keeping up with the latest advances in pretty much everything, it could be biology, technology, astronomy, anything! I love seeing progression and I love talking about it! Really I could go on and on about what I’m obsessing about that day. I particularly love technology, ask me for my laptop specs I dare you. When I was little I always wanted to be a scientist of any kind but then insomnia and fear of college stuff hit me like a truck aaaand that’s the end of that dream.
(4.c)
Anime:
You got me, I like anime but I’d like to think my tastes are benign.
Here’s some of my favorites I can list from the top of my head:
- To Your Eternity
- Vinland Saga
- Spice and Wolf
- Re:Zero
- Mob Psycho
- Dr. Stone
- Attack on Titan
- Spy x Family
- My Hero Academia
- Ranking of Kings
- Demon Slayer
Okay I can go on and on but I will say I don’t like pointless fan service and the spamming of cliche anime moments. I mostly enjoy action and anything well animated if it doesn’t have a potato story. Heck Demon Slayer could be my top 3 out of season 2’s animation alone. I don’t watch slice of life often or romance but I would with you!
(4.d)
Misc:
I’m not going to go on and on about the tiniest little things when the main ones are covered but I’ll watch pretty much any show with you and anything really. I like random youtube videos that explain some kind of lore or mystery, sometimes mini documentaries too.
As for food I looove sushi and I’m a sucker for fast food. Okay and candy, definitely candy.
I used to play tennis but haven’t really had the opportunity nor friends to play it with and I’m way too socially anxious to seek it out. Also I will say that when we move to something like discord I type waaaay more casually. I’m not going to expect long paragraphs back and forth like we’re writing English papers for each other, I do enjoy long conversations but seriously don’t worry about having to put the utmost effort into every response, I just like making good first impressions I guess.
(5)
(5.a)
My Physical Characteristics:
I’m 5’8 (172cm), 128 pounds (58kg), with curly brown hair and blue eyes. I like keeping my hair long in the winter and cutting it in the summer. I’m pretty slim in general so if you’re looking for someone large, that’s not me. I don’t work out but my work is pretty physical so at least I’m not totally inactive. I don’t have the urge to work out or gain muscle but I do want to maintain my slim figure so if I start losing control of that I’ll work out. I like to keep my face shaved because I don’t think I look good with a beard/mustache so if you’re into those I apologize. I have an average amount of body hair? I’d prefer to be completely shaved but it’s easy to lose motivation with that battle, if you prefer shaved then I’d have no problem complying. Anyways here’s what I look like: https://imgur.com/a/MZZgf2t
(5.b)
My Physical Preferences:
Having physical preferences makes me feel shallow, if I could make myself not have them I would but unfortunately that’s now how that works. I don’t care if you’re shorter or taller than me and I don’t care if you weigh more or less than me. All I ask is that you’re slim-average weight. I would never ask for someone to be something I’m not. I don’t care about tattoos or piercings.**(6)Expectations of You (Relationship Only):**I am not looking for someone “exciting” or someone to “keep me on my toes” I’m not looking for someone to cater to my every whim or anything like that. I don’t care if you’re “boring” or if you aren’t “successful”. I know it’s a common thing for people to not want a “boring” relationship and to seek something argumentative or something with constant challenges but I just want to be with you. During the exciting times, the boring times, and everything in-between, all of it will be great with you! Maybe we do argue sometimes or maybe there will be challenges but that will never be something I purposefully seek out and I don’t want that to be something you seek out either. I will not play tricks on you and I will not play mind games, I expect the same from you. We all have personal measures of success we may or may not have lived up to but what I care about most is our commitment to each other. If we have each other we can get through tough times, near the ends of our lives I want us to look back and feel that this life together was worth more than anything. That’s not saying I want us to be haphazard, I don’t want us to make poor decisions for the sake of yolo and I want us to always be rational, especially with each other. I want you to be someone I can trust to make decisions and weigh the options with a level head, I’ll try my best to live up to the same for you. Most of all I want empathy, understanding, someone to feel the utmost comfort and trust in.
(7)
Living Situation:
Currently my life is pretty relaxed, I work 3 times a week as a night shift stocker. I currently live in a 2 bedroom apartment with my roommate but we’re looking to move into someplace larger by the end of the year if everything works out. The internet is weirdly great for Ohio too like I have fiber and later this year we’re supposed to be getting dedicated fiber so that’s neat. I’m not attached to Ohio so the ultimate goal living location wise is probably moving to a country that won’t send you into a lifetime of dealing with the repercussions from one medical emergency.
(8)
Deal Breakers:
Might as well make this simple and make it a list.
- Anti-vaxxers
- Unironically believing astrology
- Right wingers
- Hard drugs (occasional 420 and alcohol is fine, may even join you)
- Wanting children, there was a time when I was younger when I wanted children but with the state of the word that’s a definite no and I feel like I wouldn’t be able to handle the stress. I’d love a stress free life with as much time with you as possible.
- Homophobic
- Transphobic
- Racist
- Super Religious
- Don’t be a bigot and don’t deny facts.
(9)
Closing Remarks:
Well you made it, I was thinking that finding someone I’d be willing to put a lifetime of effort into at least required this much effort. If I think of anything more I’ll update the post. Also about timezones, it really doesn’t matter where in the world you are. I don’t have a sleep schedule and I have most of the week off from work so it really doesn’t matter.
I request that in your response you do put effort into it, it doesn’t have to be anywhere near as long as this but at least enough so I know that you read this and enough about you so I know why you saw potential compatibility. I will seriously read all of it and respond the best I can. I do also request a pic included in your response (sfw please) or one soon after we start talking to prove identity, I’ll send identity proving pics too. As long as this post is up, you can send a reply!

To achieve similar strides in promoting flexible work arrangements and improving work-life balance, Kuwait could consider the following steps:

1. Policy and Legal Framework: Kuwait can review and update its labor laws and regulations to provide a legal framework that supports flexible working arrangements. This may include provisions for alternative work schedules, remote work options, and flexible start and end times. -> which they're relatively attempting to do now.
   
2. Employer Engagement: Encouraging employers to adopt flexible work policies and create a supportive work culture is crucial. Kuwait can promote awareness campaigns, provide guidance to employers, and highlight the benefits of flexible work arrangements for both employees and businesses.
   
3. Stakeholder Collaboration: Collaboration between government entities, employers, labor unions, and employee representatives is essential. Creating a platform for dialogue and cooperation can help identify challenges, share best practices, and develop tailored solutions that fit the Kuwaiti context.
   
4. Pilot Programs and Case Studies: Initiating pilot programs within specific industries or organizations can serve as a testing ground for flexible work arrangements. By collecting data and conducting case studies, Kuwait can assess the impact of flexible work policies on productivity, employee satisfaction, and work-life balance. -> anyone have any idea of a place that's being using as a testing ground for these laws?
   
5. Infrastructure and Technology: Supporting the necessary infrastructure and technology is critical for successful implementation. This includes ensuring reliable internet connectivity, promoting digital tools and platforms for remote collaboration, and investing in flexible workspace solutions.
   
6. Employee Education and Support: Providing training and resources to employees on how to effectively manage flexible work arrangements can enhance productivity and ensure a smooth transition. This may include time management skills, remote communication etiquette, and self-discipline strategies. -> I'm not sure about self discipline strategies.
   
7. Work-Life Balance Initiatives: Encouraging a healthy work-life balance through initiatives such as wellness programs, mental health support, and promoting employee well-being can further support the adoption of flexible work arrangements.
   
8. Monitoring and Evaluation: Regular monitoring and evaluation of the implementation and impact of flexible work policies are crucial. Gathering feedback from employees, tracking key performance indicators, and making necessary adjustments based on the outcomes will help refine the approach over time.
   

By taking these steps, Kuwait can work towards creating an environment that promotes flexibility in working hours and empowers employees to have better control over their work-life balance, ultimately enhancing productivity, job satisfaction, and overall well-being.
Another Q to CGpt. How would these solutions be relevant to Kuwait's current affairs ?
In considering the relevance of the solutions to Kuwait's current affairs, it's important to take into account the specific context and challenges faced by the country. Here are some points to consider:

1. Economic Diversification: Kuwait has been striving to diversify its economy beyond oil, focusing on sectors such as finance, technology, and tourism. Promoting flexible work arrangements can support this diversification by attracting talent, fostering innovation, and improving productivity in non-oil sectors.
   
2. Workforce Demographics: Kuwait has a significant youth population and a growing number of women entering the workforce. Offering flexible work arrangements can help accommodate the needs and aspirations of these demographics, providing opportunities for career growth, work-life balance, and gender equality.
   
3. Urbanization and Infrastructure: Kuwait is experiencing rapid urbanization, and infrastructure development is a key focus. Implementing flexible work arrangements can help reduce traffic congestion, ease the burden on transportation systems, and contribute to sustainable urban planning.
   
4. Digital Transformation: Kuwait is making progress in digital transformation, with initiatives such as e-government services and Smart Cities. Flexible work arrangements align with these efforts by leveraging digital technologies, remote collaboration tools, and flexible workspaces to enable remote work and enhance productivity.
   
5. Quality of Life and Well-being: The well-being of individuals and their quality of life are important considerations. Promoting work-life balance through flexible work arrangements can contribute to improved mental health, reduced stress levels, and increased job satisfaction among employees.
   
6. Cultural Values and Social Norms: Kuwait has its unique cultural values and social norms. Solutions that respect cultural practices, traditions, and societal expectations while addressing work-life balance can be better accepted and implemented within the local context.
   
7. Public-Private Collaboration: Collaboration between government entities, private sector employers, and labor unions is crucial to implementing and sustaining flexible work arrangements. Encouraging dialogue, partnerships, and shared responsibility can ensure that solutions are relevant, practical, and inclusive.
   

These factors highlight the relevance of the proposed solutions to Kuwait's current affairs, aligning with the country's goals of economic diversification, infrastructure development, digital transformation, and the well-being of its workforce. By customizing and implementing these solutions in a manner that considers Kuwait's specific context and challenges, the country can work towards creating a more flexible and productive work environment.
Just thought I should share some of these point to y'all.

I keep trying to play my game with the mods but it kept freezing on the black and have to constantly restart my pc.
I need help do I need to add or delete any mods.
Here's the list of mods I have downloaded in: +Yukichigai Unofficial Patch - YUP
+You Go To My Head - A Vanilla-Style Legion Quest Mod
+Yes I Would Actually - A Legion Quest Mod
+Working on the Chain Gang - A Powder Ganger Quest Mod esm
+Working on the Chain Gang - A Powder Ganger Quest Mod
+Wendy Gilbert Companion
+Voiced Doc Friday for New Vegas Bounties II
+Unofficial Patch NVSE Plus
+Unofficial Patch NVSE
+UIO - User Interface Organizer
+TSC Vegas
+truth and lies death crossover
+The Someguy Series
+The North Road Remastered
+The Mod Configuration Menu fix
+The Mod Configuration Menu
+The Initiation
+The Inheritance
+The High Desert
+The Depths of Depravity
+Th3Overseer's Core ESM
+th3overseer Quest Mod Bugfixes
+Tammer's Customizable Companion - Jessica
+Tammer's Customizable Companion - Fletcher
+Tammer armory
+Tammer guns
+Stronger Traveling Merchants
+STM
+Sierra Madre Grand Entrance
+ShowOff xNVSE Plugin
+ShowOff xNVSE
+Sarah Weintraub Sexy Sleepwear Fix
+Sarah Weintraub Companion - More Than Just a Classy Chassis
+Russell
+Roleplayers Alternative Start Fallout New Vegas
+Restored Papa Khan Armor
+Quick Fix
+Perk Styled CCC Icons
+Pepper Companion - hair
+Pepper Companion - Fully voiced with quest
+Old Abraham - Companion for Freedom and Liberty
+Of Truth and Lies - New Quests. Weapons and Armours
+NVTF - New Vegas Tick Fix
+NVAC - New Vegas Anti Crash
+New Vegas Bounties III - Marko Story Rewrite Edit
+New Vegas Bounties III
+New Vegas Bounties II Fixes
+New Vegas Bounties II (NVBII) transition to New Vegas Bounties III (NVBIII)
+New Vegas Bounties II
+New Vegas Bounties I - Immersive Start
+New Vegas Bounties I
+NCR Trooper Overhaul_beta
+Mojave Reloaded (Factions Reloaded Series)
+Mojave Raiders
+Masters of the Madre main file
+Masters of the Madre -- Player-Elijah Alliance and Cloud Ending Continue
+lStewieAl's Tweaks and Engine Fixes
+lStewieAl's
+Lime's Old Mormon Fort Overhaul
+Leanne Companion FULLY VOICED
+kNVSE Animation Plugin
+JSawyer Ultimate Edition Patches
+JSawyer Ultimate Edition
+JohnnyGuitar NVSE
+Joey - A Companion Mod
+Joana Companion
+JIP LN NVSE Plugin
+JIP Companions Command and Control
+JAM - Just Assorted Mods
+I Fought the Law - NCR Start
+Humble Goodsprings Bungalow
+Hope Lies - A FNV Companion
+Herbert - A Bounty Quest Mod
+Headhunting
+Hall Of Face
+For the Enclave
+FNV Mod Limit Fix
+FNV Mod Limit
+Faster Start Menu (Skip Splash Screens)
+Factions Reloaded - Raiders
+Factions Reloaded - Legion
+Factions Reloaded - Followers of the Apocalypse
+Faction Wasteland Presence Compilation
+Faction Wasteland Presence - Improved Edition
+Eve's Vacation Fund Weapon Pack
+Eve's Vacation Fund Weapon
+Emily Ortal Standalone Doctor Companion
+Eliza
+Eden - A Vendor Mod
+Easy To Find Hidden Valley Bunker - ETFHVB
+Death's Last Whisper - lines
+Death's Last Whisper - Hugs AND Death
+Death's Last Whisper - fix
+Death's Last Whisper - b2
+Death's Last Whisper - b1
+Dagger- The Fully Voiced Super Mutant Companion
+Chem Control - A Fully-Voiced Quest Mod
+Caesars New Regime - Legion Overhaul
+Brotherhood of Steel Unforgotten
+Big Mike - A Fully Voiced Ghoul Mercenary Companion
+Better Brotherhood
+Bees For Sale. A Quest For Bees
+Battle For Bitter Springs Campground
+Base Building (FO4 inspired)
*DLC: CaravanPack
*DLC: ClassicPack
*DLC: DeadMoney
*DLC: GunRunnersArsenal
*DLC: HonestHearts
*DLC: LonesomeRoad
*DLC: MercenaryPack
*DLC: OldWorldBlues
*DLC: TribalPack
*Unmanaged: FalloutNV_lang

I’m interested in both therapy and psychological testing services as a career. My background is in exercise science and a masters in biology. I’ve switched paths and am currently accepted into a MSW and would want to gain licensure as a LCSW after. The only downfall is this doesn’t give me the ability to do testing. I don’t mind getting my doctorate but I have no desire to do research.
What would be a good path towards this goal? Also, would I benefit getting into a PhD or PsyD program if I continue and get my MSW or will it not matter?
At this point I’m not willing to pay the price for the MSW if it really won’t make my chances better. Any advice would be helpful!

Over Memorial Day weekend, I caught my (27M) girlfriend (28F) cheating on me. I have a lot on my mind so this is going to be a long one... apologies in advance. I want to talk about the night it all went down, the days since, and life going forward.
Context:
I have been with my (likely soon to be ex) girlfriend for nearly 8 years. We met in college at a party and never looked back. Our relationship was never the most exciting or passionate, but we loved each other.
I will be the first to admit I was not a perfect partner. I struggled with alcohol and we both smoked a fair bit of marijuana through college and our early 20s. I also struggled greatly with depression and anxiety. Despite these issues, I always held down a job and paid the bills. We also rarely fought.
I have made great strides in my life to put these issues behind me. I am completely sober and have worked very hard to become the best future husband and father I can be for our family.
Over the years we built a life together. We both graduated college, moved to the big city, and began our careers. We have 2 dogs (luckily no kids) and live in a nice house in a nice suburb that we split rent on. Our lives are integrated. She is a part of my family and I am a part of hers. We have lived together for years and have shared expenses.
We are not engaged yet but I have had a ring for several months now. I had not proposed because I felt there were cracks in our relationship that I wanted to work on before taking that next step. I had tried to have conversations about these issues but was never met with any meaningful dialogue or action.
"D-day":
I think the story of my D-day actually start a couple weeks before it actually happened. One day before work, I had asked my GF (I'll call her J) if she could please clean her dishes in the sink and clean up her pile of laundry in the bathroom. No demands or anything, just "please, I'd appreciate it". J blew up at me. "Do you know how long you were a mess and I put up with it??". I was hurt but at this point I needed to leave for work so I said we need to talk later and headed out the door. I gathered my thoughts during the day and came home a little early from work. We sat down and I laid out the following points:
1. Please stop using the past against me. I know I wasn't perfect but I've worked very hard to become a better person. I cannot be in a relationship where my partner will hold my darkest days over my head to win an argument.
2. J works the nightshift and I have struggled with this in the past. We don't see each other very often as our schedules are completely opposite. She was open to changing to the day shift in the past but recently has hardened her stance. Recently, she has been sleeping a LOT on her days off. I understand nightshift is brutal on one's sleep schedule but it was getting to the point where she would only be awake 4-6 hours on her days off. These few hours she was awake she would lay on the couch and watch TV. It made having a relationship difficult, and it also meant her share of house duties was falling behind (leaving her dishes in the sink, her clothes all over the place, etc).
3. Sex. Our sex life has never been great. I have been open about my desire to improve things, have worked on myself to be an attractive partner, and have tried to discuss her wants and needs as well. There was never any progress.
During this conversation, I asked for her thoughts and feelings on each topic. I desperately wanted an actual dialogue but she was giving me nothing. Ultimately, she said she needed time to think about what I said. Since the conversation, I had not seen her hardly seen her at all. She had been gone almost a week on a hiking trip with some co-workers that had been planned for a while. Then because of work there was another week of not really seeing each other.
Friday night, J asks if I want to go to a birthday dinner for a family friend on Saturday. I had plans that required me to be up early on Sunday, so I said probably not as I knew she would want to stay and hang out late with them. She swore she would not as she had work on Sunday. I only half believed her, but agreed to go because I knew it'd make her happy.
Towards the end of dinner I go to the restroom and when I come back, what always happens happened. "Would you be ok if I actually went out? I won't be out much later" She asked in front of the entire group so I said "sure, you can do what you want" A few minutes later off to the side, I let her know I was upset that she went back on her word but she was un-phased. She promised she wouldn't be out very late and I believed her as the group was primarily mid-30s people with young kids. One of the other people at the birthday dinner assured me they would give her a ride home.
I drove home alone and the anger built. I typed out a long text about how I was hurt that she didn't come home with me like she said she would, but ultimately deleted it before sending. I didn't want to needlessly make her night worse and told myself we would talk in the morning. I go to bed.
2AM I wake up to go pee. She isn't there. I check my phone and she hasn't texted me at all either. We share locations with each other so I check and it's not loading so I am getting a bit worried for her safety at this point.
I call her and she picks up "Hello?" "Hey J where are you??" "Oh I decided to sleep over at family friend's house" This alone wasn't concerning as the family friends were a married couple with young children. We have known them for years and it was not unusual for her to spend the night there after going out with them.
At this point my concern quickly turns back to anger because not only did she lie to me again about coming home early, she didn't even text me to let me know her plans changed. I told J to get an Uber and come home, we need to talk. She was annoyed and let me know it but I didn't care. She told me she would order an Uber.
Nearly 30 minutes had passed and I had not heard from her. I check her location again to see if she's on her way. Unlike before, it does load this time. Not only was she not on the way back, she was at a house I didn't recognize. I call her back "Hey I thought you said you were ordering an Uber and coming home? Also where are you? Your location is showing you at some house I've never seen".
She sticks to her story. She is at family friend's. She has no idea why her location is showing the other house, because she is definitely at family friend's. I'm uneasy at this point but still haven't jumped to any conclusions. Maybe it was a glitch. Seemed to be pretty far away from where she was claiming to be for a glitch and it also hadn't moved at all in a while... but whatever, anything is possible I suppose.
I am asking her why she keeps lying to me. Lied about not going out in the first place, lied about how long she'd be gone, and lied about calling an Uber 30 minutes ago. She says the Uber is coming in 4 minutes and that she will call me when it picks her up because she doesn't want to argue with me in front of family friends.
I watch her location, expecting it to jump and correct itself once she starts moving. Instead, it moves exactly as if she was picked up in an Uber from that house. Whatever, she is on her way.
I go downstairs and wait for her to arrive. Once she does I ask what she did tonight. "I went to the bar and then to family friends". I ask her what she was doing at family friends. "Just talking. You know I stay there sometimes what's the big deal?". I ask what on earth they were talking until 2:30 in the morning. It just didn't make sense, they're a mid-30s married couple with young kids and full time jobs. Staying awake this late just to talk?
"Well we were talking about you for one" "Me? What about me" "For starters your psychotic behavior tonight."
I was mad sure but my behavior had been far from "psychotic". I never raised my voice and never accused her of anything. I demanded she come home sure but I felt I was justified in that.
From here she continues to say they talked about the discussion from 2 weeks ago. How I "attacked her" and "piled on her for no reason". I was shocked. I thought I had handled that conversation a couple weeks ago very maturely. I was actually proud of myself for taking time to gather my thoughts so that I could calmly lay them out when I got home. At this point however, I was questioning myself.
Did I dog pile her for no reason? Was the way I approached it an "attack"? My only thought was maybe it felt one sided because she refused to engage in any discussion. I asked why she could talk to other people about our relationship but not me.
It would never become clear however as she said she was done talking and was going to bed. I begged her to give me something, anything. I didn't care if her response was in the form of yelling at me. I just needed SOMETHING.
As she's walking up the stairs I ask her to explain why her location was at that house. The story was the same. She didn't know, she was at family friends house. I told her I want to believe her but I know what I saw with my own eyes. It just didn't make sense. I would have believed anything that plausibly put her at that house. "I was at family friends and that's that. If you don't believe me, the we have MUCH bigger problems"
That was that. I did trust her and so I accepted it and went up to join her in bed. There was a little voice in the back of my mind that knew what I saw but she wouldn't lie, she definitely wouldn't cheat.
As I am about to fall asleep, I sit up suddenly and say "J I have an idea" *half asleep* "what?" "Show me your Uber receipts. That will prove you're telling the truth, any small doubts I have will be gone and we can just move on from this. Now she seems to be completely asleep (almost certainly faking it looking back). I grab her phone from under her pillow and unlock it.
On the screen is a text thread to a guy I'll call Jake. There were only 2 messages. First from earlier in the evening "It's J". The kind of message you send when someone puts their number in your phone and you text them so they have your number now. Then one she forgot to send "Hey sorry about that... I made it home ok".
Even at this point, my naïve ass did not jump to cheating. I truly assumed it was probably someone who was also at the dinner and stayed the night at family friends. But then I saw the Uber receipt. It had picked her up from the house her location showed her at.
"J WAKE UP. YOU WERE AT THAT HOUSE. WHAT IS GOING ON? WHAT HAPPENED?"
"It's what it looks like"
I asked how could she do this to me? Why would she do this to me? Nothing. Not a single sentence that could be considered a thoughtful response. Despite my demands to know what happened that night, she, as usual, gave me nothing. "It's over. You threw away an 8 year relationship. We were supposed to be together forever. You were supposed to be the mother of my children." Only after those words "It's over" did she show any remorse.
The very little information I did get out of her was:
-This was the first time
-I caught her before anything actually happened
I'm not sure I believe either. It also doesn't really matter to me. Interestingly, about a month prior she told me she had HPV. She assured me that monogamous people can get it. Based on the research I did, it seemed possible, so I didn't think much of it. Now I wonder...
The next few hours were an unproductive loop of various iterations of "How could you" and "I'm sorry I'll do anything to make it up".
Eventually it was 6am and I still had those plans that brought me home early the night before. A 7am tee time. So I left.
It was actually a blessing but I had already had pretty much a full day of plans with some friends. First was golf, then some time at the shooting range with another friend who was going to show me the ropes. These are close friends and I told them everything. They listened to me ramble all day and spent as much time as I needed.
Once I knew J had left for work, I decided it was time to go back home. I had been up since 2am and I was exhausted. I don't fall asleep until midnight. Awake for about 22 hours on the worst day of my life.
The Aftermath:
Honestly... not much happened after. I hurt. It is a deep, constant ache. It was not overwhelming pain like hearing a family member had died. No... just a constant, deep, ache.
I reached out to some more friends who have all been incredibly supportive. I am truly blessed to have the support system I do.
The people I really want to talk to, but haven't had the courage to call yet are my parents. I can't explain why, but I feel almost embarrassed. I also know that once I tell them, the relationship is 100% over with J. They will never see her the same, and she'll know it. I can't live with that tension my whole life.
While I am 99.9% sure this relationship is over, it's hard to say 100%. She was in my life for 8 years. It means a fundamental change to my life presently, and the entire future I had planned.
Work has been hard. I haven't gotten a lot done this week. I've been distracting myself by talking to my co-workers. Today though... I was the only one in the office. Seems everyone else happened to be working from home.
It was not a good day. I have been in my head replaying the events of the weekend and spiraling. Until this point I was weirdly ok. I think it's the first time I've been alone since it happened so all the feelings are coming out.
Going Forward:
I'm not sure what the future holds. I have a few short term plans:
1. STD test
2. Therapy
3. Talk to my parents and likely make a trip home
I also need to talk to J. While I repeatedly said it was over the night it all went down, I think it still needs to be made official. I have not seen J since that night. After work Sunday and Monday night, she has been home. I don't think she's left the house. However, I've been spending as much time away as possible and the little bit I am home, she is in the guest bedroom. I have not had the strength or desire to talk to her.
What I'm most scared of it my living situation and the dogs. While one dog is clearly mine and one is clearly hers, there's a part of me that worries she may do something crazy. I don't know what she's capable of anymore.
We are locked into this lease until February. I have re-read the lease and it seems were pretty much stuck. She has family in town she could stay with but I've got nowhere to go. While it wouldn't ruin me, it would certainly be financially painful if she stopped paying her half of the rent. Best case scenario seems to be we live as roommates and stay out of each other's way for 8 months... A pretty bleak best case scenario.
Once we do separate, there's going to be the challenge of divvying up the stuff. We own a lot of nice furniture together. That furniture probably wouldn't fit well into the apartments we'll likely have to move back into after this. It's all just so unclear at this point.
Conclusion:
If you've made it this far, thank you for listening. Just writing this was very cathartic. I am open to hearing advice on how I should proceed. Nothing in my life has prepared me for something like this.

Guys I need help, iam confused
Male 22 years old Hello guys first I want to apologize for this long text, also English is not my native language but I have something on my heart that bothers me a lot and I need answers...
I started texting occasionally (for 1 month) with this girl who I met on a dating app, first none of us took it seriously we sometimes answered to texts a few days later.... After a while we started texting more frequently and I asked her if she wanted to meet on the weekend, she told me she had already something planned (which was not sure) and that she will text me in the following days to tell me if she had time. A few days later she told me that she had time on afternoon, so we made plans and she told me if it started raining we could go to her flat (she lives alone) She said that she had no bad intentions she just did not want Rain to ruin our first date because I have an hour to drive there.
So I drove there on Saturday(without any expectations), I came 15 minutes late because of traffic, she was already in front of the door waiting for me. My heart immediately skipped a beat because she was very beautiful and I never had somebody keep so much eye contact (usually iam the one with very long eye contact) so we started walking had a very good chat and after one or two hours it started raining lightly so we got back to her flat, where we had very very deep talk, later we played some Mario kart on her bed. At this point I was very nervous because we were laying next to each other and having a lot of eye contact. After a while we stopped playing and she showed me her books at this point I have had build up the courage to finally kiss her. As already said I was extremely nervous because she was very attractive and I had never kissed a girl on the first date. So we made out for a while but I was actually way to nervous to bring a satisfying perfomance:)
But nonetheless we still cudled, during the cudling we also had a very good conversation before her girlfriend came to pick her up. She came a bit early which surprised us both why I had to leave earlier. While driving back i had extremely mixed feelings, she absolutely took away my breath but at the same time I felt very very uneasy about her (a bad stomach feeling) While I was driving home she apologized to me per whatsapp for the abrupt ending etc. She wanted to meet again the next day which kinda surprised me, during our date we alked about a big amusement in the region where we live. I had never gone there because I have a fear of heights but she was absolutely obsessed with it and she suggested we go there so we made plans. To cut it short I got sick in the evening and we couldn't go. On Sunday evening she texted me that she really enjoyed the time with me and that I was very cute but my shy and insecure type is something she is not into,which I understand so I explained her that iam not like that usually so she agreed to meet again
The weeknd was over and she asked on which weekdays I had time to meet? I told her I get off work earlier on Monday, she suggested we met at her flat and that she cooks for us both. She told me beforehand that she did not want to get intimate yet which was okey for me because I need time for that as well. So we met on Monday and drank a bit of wine and had very good deep talk again, she told me that she lost her virginity at 16 to her boyfriend who raped her and that she also got into therapy because of that. She also told me that she left her boyfriend 6 months ago because he was toxic and she was also very depressed afterwards. She asked me if I wanted to cuddle a bit, so we cudled and made out again, this time I was very sure of myself and she really enjoyed is as well, she gave compliments to my smell and my looks. She also got a bit touchy even tho she did not want to get intimate.
We ate something during which she asked me about my bad character traits and if i have ever got loud towards my mother, I answered (very honestly) that iam jealous and don't forgive easily and that I have also gotten loud with my mother. Afterwards we lay into bed again, she brought up the topic of what's gonna become of us? I answered her that I could imagine a serious relationship and that my main goal is always marriage (I knew she was very into career which is why I said it) she told me that she also could imagine a relationship with me as well, so we talked about marriage and family plans for a very long time, she asked me if I wanted to spend the night at her place what I rejected because I had work next morning and I did not want to drive for an hour in the morning.
I have to mention that she was always extremely kind and gave extreme amount of compliments which was very unusual for me
The next days we only texted and we also had no plans for meeting because she would spend the weekend at her parents place and would go to a party there. On Tuesday evening she texted me that she was unsure about a relationship because I had the same traits why she left her ex. I immediately answered and asked her which traits she meant and if she wanted to talk on the telephone about it, which she didn't answer that night. That was an common theme with her, she always answered late, even if I answered directly to her texts. She sometimes answered hours later without any excuse which I always found weird.
During this time I had trouble eating and sleeping because I was very obviously falling in love (my first time) she was always on my mind and also I had an very uneasy stomach.
We texted the next day and agreed to talk on the telephone but somehow she only found time around midnight even tho that topic bothered me a lot. I answered all her questions and assured her I would never get violent with her etc. But i was also very unsure about a relationship already, on Monday evening while we were cudling and having the conversation about a potential relationship I asked her if she talked with other people on the dating app, which she answered with yes, I asked her If one of the dudes on the app asked her for a date if she would meet with them and she also answered yes to that and reasoned that she is still single, which I found very weird and upsetting because we were just talking about a serious relationship? So I asked her about that on the telephone call and she told me that she likes having a backup in case things don't work out because that makes her feel better or something?
She actually deleted her dating app a few days later and told me that, that also made me very happy. The next days we texted normally and also made plans to meet on the next Monday which she claimed she was looking forward to. She canceled this meeting because she stayed with her parents a day longer to meet her grandmother. She already told me that her family has a lot of drama.... and apparently the meeting with her grandmother was extremely bad She wanted to meet and asked me on which days I had time, I told her that I could spend the night on Wednesday at her place or we could meet at Saturday. She told me that it would be better if I don't spend the night at her place yet because she doesn't know if she can control herself because she feels that secure and well next to me, even to she offered it the week before? On the same day she also texted me that she can't imagine herself in a relationship currently.
We agreed meeting on Saturday but the next day out of the blue she asked if I could spend the night at her place on Wednesday which made me jump out of bed in joy. So i agreed but the next day she sent me an voice message on what's app where she sounded like she was crying, she explained me that she felt very uneasy because of what happened with her grandmother (some drama she didn't want elobarte further on) and that she just want to stay in bed and stuff and that I couldn't spend the night at her place and apologized, I offered her to talk on the telephone to help her but she did not wanna bother me with her family drama?
The same night I get a call from her and we talked a bit, it was an extremely good conversation she was very sweet and we got along very well, also we made plans week for the weekend. She told me that she couldn't wait to see me...
On Thursday I was on a business trip where we also texted and we got well along very well, but since meeting her the first time I had this uneasy feeling that destroyed me from inside and especially on this day I kinda knew that things were coming towards an end. At 8 p.m I got a 2 minute long voice message and I already knew what was about to come. In the message she talked about what a good guy iam and how much she enjoyed the time with me but that she can't meet somebody which could lead to an relationship because she has commitment issues? She also apologized for breaking contact on whatsapp because apparently I don't deserve it I sent her an answer in which I explained that I also wanted to finish this the next time we met but I wanted to do it personally etc.
We talked it out and finished it like two grownups, the last thing she said that the world is small and maybe well meet again one day. We broke up in good terms.
The next days were weird for me, I thought about her all day and was empty inside. We had no contact at all expect that she liked my instagram story.
5 days later before going to sleep i saw that she followed new guys on Instagram(she only followed like 4 guys one of which was me before) which made me extremely jealous and i blocked her everywhere. The next day I got curious and decided to confront her(In a very humane way) if our relation meant her something which she answered with: yes otherwise I wouldnt treat you like that So I asked her why she already started following other guys on Instagram. She replied that these are only friends of her girlfriend and she already deleted them, and when I checked she really had deleted them, I apologized and she said that there is nothing to apologize. We talked about the last few days and she told me that she thought about me a lot...
Next Day she texted that it's not a good idea that I follow her on Instagram, I told her that I did not want to remove her from my life completely. She answered that she understands but doesn't want any contact at this moment I replied that I will respect that, she replied with a heart and blocked me everywhere When I checked with an fake acc her insta was deactivated. It has been deactivated for almost 3 weeks after last conversation
Guys sry for this long ass text and thank you for your patience. Writing this down helped me a lot, what is your opinion on what happened? I think she is not over her Ex-bf yet and just used me to waste her time and when it got serious she got cold feet...
What I forgot to mention, she has daddy-issues which she told me herself, because she didn't have a good relationship with him at all. Also she told me she likes do being degraded and used during sex? I really dodged a bullet

I've never felt like a woman. Especially when it comes to my height. I was predicted to be 155cm (5'1) At 13 I noticed that I'm still 4'9 (145cm) and I was really uncomfortable about the fact that I couldn't even reach 150cm (4'11). Because for me and for most of the people in the world the "adult women height" start at least at 150cm+ But I wasn't. Since I was 11 I was begging my parents to take me to a doctor to get hgh . But they had nothing to say except for "you know that we're short, you'll probably grow taller" As you can see i didn't. My boobs are flat, I'm still an A cup (I'm closer to B but still not B) At 14 FINALLY after nagging to my mom about me not growing at all they took me to an endocrinologist We talked with the doctor about my height It wasn't so much time ago but I remember it so well "I don't think you'll grow that much I'm sorry..." "How much do I have left? Do I at least have 2-3cm left?" (For all fairness 2-3 wasn't enough either but I was being realistic) Then I saw the doctor using a calculator I saw 1.46 on the calculator ( I was 1.45 at the moment) And I stopped talking out of shock and disappointment. I was waiting YEARS for an opportunity to grow at least a couple centimeters Only to find out I have only one left I started crying quietly "I see that you're really disappointed and I'm so sorry but there's nothing I can do" I switched to another language and asked my parents when are we going to leave My mom said that we still can't, but if I want to I can go out I stormed out of the room and I called the only friend I had at the moment which was my brother. We moved away (and again my mom didn't give a shit about the way it impacted me) and I Lost most of my friends. I started crying on the phone and I told him "I have only 1cm left" He couldn't really do anything he just said that he's sorry Then my parents got out of the room and I was furious. My mom KNEW that I wasn't growing And I begged her to get me checked And she remembered to do that only when I was 14 after almost 3 years Her way of "comforting" is even worse "You don't need to be taller you need to get a man who actually loves you and your height" No. I don't need male validation to love my height. I need my height to be in the Normal range so I wouldn't be embarrassed about it everytime I go outside It's like getting 89/100 on a test It's a good grade but it's not 90. Same with my height There isn't a big difference between 146 and 150 But 150 isn't that embarrassing as 146 I'll never forgive my mom for ignoring the fact that I literally came home crying everyday, saying that I want to be at least 155 like I was supposed to be and instead of supporting me she was yelling at me saying there's nothing she Could do. Now y'all are probably wondering "how's that related to not feeling like a woman?" Here's how. When you can't even pass 150cm your height is usually associated with child height Which makes sense bc 146cm is an average height for a fkn 10 year old I'm still an A cup The only curve in my body is my huge thighs Which comes from my pear- door figure (literally a door just with ginormous and horrendous thighs. Bc my waist is compressed and even if it will be slim it will look wide) I'm built like a child I know I'm not an adult woman I'm just a teen but I look more like a preteen And my body won't change much anymore bc I got ny period when I was 11 Basically what I'm saying is that my proportions especially my height are too off to be considered normal for an adult woman I see all the girls around me wearing cool y2k flare jeans I can't. Why? Because if I'll sew them they won't be flare anymore. My height is putting me through hell and I'm praying to god everyday that I'll at least reach 150cm Knowing that the chances of it actually happening are really low. I would come to my cat's grave and ask him to send my request to god Whenever somebody would show any romantic interest in me, I would get uncomfortable even if I felt the same way I don't know how to explain this but I feel like I don't deserve to be treated like a teen girl/ adult woman (in the future) because of my off proportions, so I don't deserve romantic affection too , I deserve to be treated like a little girl. I tried to wear more feminine clothes, style my hair more often, wear makeup, nothing helped. Whenever somebody refers to me as "woman" instead of a girl I get so mad My mom said yesterday as joke "she's such a lazy woman" I came to her room and asked her (for the 5th time) not to call me a woman and she thinks it's not such a big deal so she just laughed and said "ok then notawoman please pick up the trash" I can't accept myself and the fact that I'm not a preteen anymore And all that is just because I can't reach 150CM Before the tall women of reddit come to attack me I never said that being a tall woman isn't a struggle I totally get it. I know what it's like to be sticking out in public because you're like 15cm+ shorter than all of your friends.
I'm sorry for my shitty grammar English isn't ny first language I don't think someone will actually read this but if you do Thank you. The only thing that does make me feel better that I ended up being 147cm and not 146 like the doctor said

i graduated high school about a week ago. it was an ok public school, not perfect but i cherish it. i've always been a pretty high-performing student and i finished about top 3% of my class out of nearly 400 other seniors, although i wouldn't say i learned too much (especially during sophomore year where i was fully at home because of covid. i barely remember anything that i learned back then). outside of academics, i was running this little satire page themed around the school and i dabbled in a bunch of shit. but, i never took a step back to even think about what i want to do with my life, because i found it too scary to even think about it when i could stay in the temporary comfort of not doing anything about it, instead drowning myself with the time-consuming workload of my challenging academics and my aimless extracurricular activities. and so i did and inevitably the end came. now the structure in my life is gone, the biggest distraction i had is gone. the little rigor i had to wake up early is gone and now my sleep schedule is starting to drift again. now that i dont have any bullshit work to do or extracurriculars to worry about, the pressure is on to figure out my life. but instead of actually properly researching things i currently keep numbing myself with distractions: videogames, youtube, half-assed music production... the numbing works until i go to bed and remember that i'm slowly wasting my life by not doing anything about things and then my stomach fills with anxiety. either that or during the day, my family will ask me questions about college, whether ive looked for more scholarships, whether ive done x or y important thing i should be doing. sometimes it'll escalate and my dad will confront me, rightfully, about how i havent done anything and he'll order me to do the things that i probably should be doing, like researching majors and nearby college costs. right now im not doing that, im fully aware. the only reason i'm not numbing myself right now is because i saw a video for one of those self-improvement channels on my recommended, got scared by it and scrolled away from it (because it looked like one of those videos that would address the issues i'm struggling with right now), then forced myself to find it and watch it and push past the fear not that long ago. like literally less than an hour ago.
my memory isn't very clear but leading up to August (you know, the month where most college applications open) last year, i was pretty damn scared because it felt like i should try things out and apply but i didnt know anything. and i should have researched things about the process and assessed myself to figure out what majors to look at, but i never did out of sheer fear. i was just completely paralyzed because of how scared i was at this whole situation. that and, like i mentioned, my coursework and extracurriculars distracted me too. i was even more scared in October when the federal application for student aid opened — so scared that i didn't even try to fill it out until a few months ago.
i'm sorry for that huge wall of text. my question is now: how do i figure out my life? rather, how do i figure out what i want to do with my life after high school? after applying to some (but not that many) scholarships (most of which i applied for last minute because the guilt of not applying was crushing me), ive been offered a bunch of money for my nearby community college. it's not that much — $5.7k — the college's website states the average cost of attendance for a full-time student attending the fall and spring terms last year was nearly $16k, but i don't know if that includes whatever financial aid they offer the students based on need.
aside from that, probably the biggest hurdle is i don't even know what i want to major in. i don't know what i want to do, or what i want my life to look like in the future. i don't think i even know what my values are in the first place to even answer all the common questions that have popped up in my desperate google searches of how to figure out what to do after high school. my indecision led to me being so paralyzed by fear during college app season that i didnt apply, except for one last-minute application that got cancelled because i didnt truly know if i wanted to go to that university anyway. i could list a bunch of things i've done but i don't know if i'm good at them or if i enjoy them:

1. i'm pretty decent at video editing, having done it since i was way younger. i've edited gameplay videos, put together footage and put graphics on top of it (for my satire page), and i recall making one video — it was this mock infomercial — where i had to make a basic prop, get footage of it, make graphics for it, get my friends to voice act in it and edit everything together. i was satisfied with the result and i think it's the best video out of all of the videos i made for my satire page. it wasn't even a video in the traditional form of all the other videos i made for it, which consisted of just footage with graphics on top and satirical text about the story.
2. music. i love listening to music (although i suspect it might as well be another way for me to procrastinate) and for a long time i've used DAWs like fl studio, ableton and renoise to make some. i made a bunch of stuff throughout middle school and high school, and i even made an album. i composed a track for a state-level contest and i won the highest award. but, not only do i not feel like a career in music is a stable one, i don't think my music is that great. im stuck in this loop of having a thousand plugins and instruments and only making short loops and never touching them again. the last thing i did was make a drum loop that i was proud of because i learned how to mix the drums then added some instruments then made a reference track out of it just so i can listen to it outside of software.
3. ive worked a lot with things relating to image manipulation. i use photoshop a lot. ive used it to make all sorts of things: mock posters, logos, collages, cutouts of artworks, etc. i've worked also with illustrator and some other software. i recall that one project i did for school was a fake medicine product, where i designed the packaging in illustrator (which took forever but i was very proud of because of how it all looked in the end) then printed it out and folded it into a box.
4. i've done several things regarding videogames. namely i reverse engineered this one game i really liked, after having learned a lot about it (mainly from speedrunning and just playing a lot and researching it despite it being obscure) and i made some mods for it where i replaced the sounds and textures with my own. then i made this custom debug menu for the game where all i had to do was use a tool that allowed me to write my own code (C#) and i could just inject it directly into the game. and the last thing i did was i managed to reverse engineer the game back into an Unity project file (yes it's a Unity game) and i exported it to Android and i was going to make an Android port but haven't made progress because i dont know how to program mobile controls.

i just don't know what it means that i do these things, though. does it mean i should pursue careers relating to these things? i don't know if i enjoy video editing; i was gonna participate in a contest where we had to edit a music video together using the raw footage of it but i was demotivated, but i don't know if i was just demotivated or if im genuinely just not cut out for it. i dont even know what the jobs are like and i dont know how to find that out.
i don't know if i want to do music, like i said because music seems so unstable if it were my only source of income. but i genuinely don't think i'm that good. should i pursue something if i'm not that good at it? how do i assess myself?
about the game, i don't think programming is my thing either. i dont know what it is, i just don't know if i could handle more complex stuff, because what i did for the game was pretty straightforward; i just programmed an UI using a GUI system that Unity comes with, then I learned how to add buttons and stuff to it to manipulate the ingame variables and other stuff. if i want to learn how to make mobile controls for an Android port of the game, that'd take actual programming, and i tried to look it all up and i was so overwhelmed that i dont know if i can do it. maybe i can, but it'd take a while.
tldr: i never thought about what i wanted to do after high school and now that high school is over i could either not think about it and keep wasting my life away or try to think about it, but i don't know where to start since i never tried to truly find myself. how do i assess the things i've done and decide what i could do with them, whether i should go to college, if i should go anytime soon.

I have spent the last few years planning and trying to start a business. It's in the food industry, with a brick and mortar cafe along with retail sales of prepared food and beverage. Anybody in this industry knows how much work and preparation it takes to start up - concept, business plan, sourcing product from vendors/producers, funding/financing, lease or purchase of a space, licensing and approval from numerous agencies, depts and local government, buildout of the space, staffing, website and ad/marketing development, and so much more. It's basically become my whole life and I've been doing it all on top of my regular full-time job.
At first I was dealing with pandemic-related setbacks. I waited that out and focused on getting everything lined up so I was ready to hit the ground running when things became possible. Then I spent months working on a concept which hit a game-over roadblock only a month before opening day (it was related to the location and out of my control). It took me six months to secure a new location and then I've spent the last 6 months developing this new version of the business, only to hit yet another major roadblock, once again relating to the location. I am devastated (and frankly very angry) about the circumstances, especially because it could take months or even a year to secure another location (commercial real estate in my area is limited, especially for food production needs and it's an extremely competitive industry).
Meanwhile, I have wanted a family my whole life. Ideally, 2-4 children (I know that's a big range but we all know it depends on factors like physical capability, family and partner dynamics, finances, etc that have to be figured out over time). I was previously married in my 20's and experienced infertility, which has now been medically resolved. I divorced that man because he became abusive and was a chronic cheater - basically my life is way better without him and I finally became free to pursue my goals and dreams like starting a business.
Since that divorce, I had one serious relationship for a year and a half (he broke up with me), and then my current relationship for a year and a half so far. We are super happy together, see this as permanent and have plans on starting a family as soon as we're ready. We had one unplanned pregnancy already, which we would have happily kept but unfortunately I experienced a miscarriage. The doctors told me there's no reason to believe I would miscarry again and that I can expect a healthy pregnancy in the future. However, it does cause me worry, especially when combined with my age and previous history of infertility. I feel like the sooner we can start trying, the better in terms of healthy pregnancy outcomes. It doesn't help that my partner is 41. We are both feeling the ticking clock!
When I first met my partner, I was already committed to my business concept, and he was very supportive. Now that I've experienced two rounds of failure and no clear path forward with it, I am starting to feel so hopeless. We had discussed reasonable timelines regarding having a family - I could start my business, have a year or two to dedicate to it and hopefully get it off the ground before we could start trying to conceive. The thought of putting off trying for a baby for potentially 2-3 more years feels utterly abysmal. And I am afraid it will create resentment in my partner who is more than ready for a family.
I feel stuck in a lose-lose scenario. Everyone in my life is telling me that once I have children, starting this type of business will be very unlikely. But putting off having children to pursue something that isn't even a guarantee to begin let alone succeed, and then have that potentially affect our chances of getting pregnant due to age, is far more depressing. I have two dreams and right now neither of them feel close to being realized. What should I do?

I am 30M - living in USA 6'0 - 200IB
Treated for UTI on May 17, 2023 with single 3G packet of Fosfomycin - felt better for 3/4 days but by the time I returned to redo my urinalysis (5/6 Days) the urge to urinate frequently returned.
Redid the urinalysis and culture - everything came back clear but I feel like my symptoms are creeping up again.
Is 5/6 days after administering a single dose of antibiotics enough of a window to get an accurate Urinalysis and Urine Culture?
Personally I don't think so but I'm also not a doctor.
Any information would be helpful

I recently started a singleplayer campaign with a feel cool realism mods like neurotrauma, barotraumatic, dynamiceruopa, hazardous reactos, real sonar etc. Its been fantastic so far, i even found this guy called artie dolittle which has amazingly low skills so i took him in the crew. i couldnt afford to leave him about doing things on his own because my reactor would ofter get low condition and he would just stand there and get radiation poisoning.
At some point during the campaign i learned how to maintain the reactor so i let dolittle do general repairs, he would get zapped and burnt here and there by i was too busy running the sub to go check up on him, i figured the burn injuries where mild and he would eventually get better on his own.
I just reached a station and suddenly i see that dolittle has some concerning symptons on him, shortness of breath, fever, first degree burns at 70%, when i use the scanner it gets even worse, 30% gangrene, and organ damage increasing. If i dont do anything he dies withing minutes of organ failure (all organs).
So i ve tried saving him, i put him on medical drapes, i put a mask and surgeon clothing on my doctor and put artie on a medical bed. ive tried putting antibiotic ointment on the wounds and bandage it, but it does nothing and the gangrene and organ failure advance regardless.
Ive tried amputating both arms but the organ failure continues regardless, tried giving him manna, blood transfusion, everything, but he still dies... i dont want to lose him because i feel guilty of my negligence which caused this, any neurotrauma doctors have any clue as to how to save dolittle?
Screenshot of his symptons: https://imgur.com/a/sV9RwfL
TLDR: Artie Dolittle is dying of gangrene because of burns from fixing random shit with skill 5 on elec and mechanic, need help saving him. please.

(Hi QQmains. I did some serious digging to see if its worth it to pull for SW for an eventual mono quantum team. There was so little info out there that I actually think it will be worthwhile to post in the main sub too, so feel free to point out any errors you see so I can clean it up before posting there. I feel like Qingque should especially enjoy having a debuffer since she gives herself so many buffs already, so thats why I really dug into SW, plus being quantum makes SW a nice forever compaion for QQ. So enjoy and feel free to give feedback. I'm sure my formatting will end up terrible).
​
So with silver wolf banner coming up, I wanted to see how worthwhile she is for actually boosting damage. Obviously silver wolf is invaluable in difficult fights if it means the difference between being able to break enemies or not being able to break them (high MoC relies heavily on breaking to stop enemy super attacks).
But the elephant in the room is: you could just bring a team that is the right element to break. If so, is SW worthless? Is SW still on par with or better than another buffer or debuffer support that you could bring if we ignore her adding a weakness and 20% elemental resist shred? I decided to find out through the power of math!
Here's a quick table of contents if you want to see something specific: 1. Defense Shred, the one stat with exponential scaling 2. A quick rundown on defense shred options 3. Comparing SW to her competition 4. Quantum set for non-quantum hypercarries?!?! 5. The TL;DR to boost your damage through the roof.
​

1. Defense Shred, the one stat with exponential scaling

As I'm sure you have heard, stats have diminishing returns. Actually that is complicated enough it will get a whole dedicated post from me about it, but needless to say, the TL;DR is that you want to spread your stats around, and not go too far into one stat bucket. Since everyone gets attack, damage, and crit from light cones, traces, and relics, defense shred is a nice all around multiplier. But interestingly enough, the closer you get to 100% defense shred, the better each point of defense shred gets!
If you look at the Defense Shred Calculations image, you can see that in a normal endgame scenario, we are level 80 vs a level 90 enemy, and all of our damage is reduced by 53%. All your hard work, half of it just disappears. And all enemies, from bosses to weaklings, have this at level 90 (except warp trotters which are even tankier!).
The first 10% defense shred you get increases your overall damage by 5.3%, but each 10% after that gives more and more, until the final 10% of defense shred (going to a full 100% defense shred), gives a 21% overall damage boost. This means a little defense shred isn't great, you need to stack it! Interestingly, if we are allowed to blow past 100% defense shred, things get a little crazy. So crazy that I have to assume that defense shred will be capped at 100%. But resist shred can go past 100% (and with no penalty like in genshin), so we will have to see once SW is out and we have enough defense shred in the game to acually go past 100%. A full 100% defense shred gives a whopping 110% overall damage boost! But how feasable is that?
​

1. Here are out limited defense shred options: - Pela ultimate, ~40% defense shred - Pela technique, 20% defense shred (For 2 turns only, will only be helpful ultra lategame when we 2 turn Moc...does it reapply each wave like welts technique does?) -Resolution Shines Like Pearls of Sweat, the Light Novel Title of light cones, gives 12-16% defense shred. As a standard 4 star light cone, we will all end up with S5 in a year or so, most likely. -Silver Wolf, ???% defense shred, we only know CBT values, so I will just assume 54% overall defense shred to get a nice even number with S5 RSLPOS light cone. -Quantum relic 4 piece set, gives 10-20% defense ignore. This stacks additively just like defense shred, the only difference is that it only works on whoever is wearing it, unlike defense shred. Fun fact on the fine print of the set bonus: the 10% defense ignore is unconditional. And the 20% defense ignore is on quantum weak enemies, NOT on quantum outgoing damage. So your ice or electric or fire units can get the full 20%. If only there was some character who could make all enemies weak to quantum...

So currently, with Pela trace lvl 12, and her technique, and RSLPOS S5, and a carry holding the quantum set against a quantum weak enemy, we have 98% defense shred. But only for 2 turns. SW can get up to 90% by herself, actually less than pela and only on a single target! But with no 2 turn restriction. Also, SW has a 13% resist shred to whatever element her skill activates, and that is on top of the 20% resist shred that comes with adding a weakness (and I'm not calculating that 20% here since I want to look at worst case for SW).
OK, so we know that defense shred adds a ton of damage (roughly double), but there is an opportunity cost! SW, or pela for that matter, will be replacing a buffing unit most likely. So, lets look into how much a harmony unit increases your hypercarrys damage, vs our defense and resist shred units.
​

1. Comparing SW to her competition

In my image "damage increase of buffers and debuffers", I have to make quite a few assumptions. For damage, I use the formula of attack*dmg*critdmg*def*resist*vuln*toughness. I looked at what different e0 5 star hypercarries can look like with all their traces, solid (not perfect) gear, buffed states activated, and good light cones (multiple superimposition 4 stars, or FTP 5 stars). Obviously every character has slightly different stats, and will have different gear. But I averaged things out to having a 200% increase in attack (slightly less than 200% att%, plus the flat attack), 200% in all DMG bonuses, 100% net crit damage [you won't crit every time but you can average out what the damage will be when accounting for crit %, and this is a somewhat balanced and reasonable value, obviouly yanqing will be higher]. Then I assumed no defense or resist shred (seele is an outlier there), and no vulnerability (welt trace), and no toughness bar modifies (you lost 10% damage if they aren't broken). But stats like vulnerability and toughness modifier are irrelevant to this since their values will be the same regardless of which units are picked, I only put them in to show I wasn't forgetting about them. My one small number fudge was I didnt subtrace out the flat damage value before adding the attack mulitpliers of the harmony units (since I don't have an exact number, I'm using a 200% green number compared to your base attack), so me adding the harmony attack% to the full number and not 80% of it actually makes the harmony units look a tiny bit stronger than they actually should. The big missing info that I can't easily calculate here: how much value is speed from asta, extra turn from bronya, or extra energy from tingyun? On the flip side, how much value is the slow from silver wolf, the break from silver wolf and pela and asta, or the damage increase that other teammates get from the AOE buffs/debuffs vs. the single target of some skills like tingyun ult. These are all addittional factors that you have to keep in mind when looking at this chart, the numbers do NOT give an easy "this unit is 10% better than this unit no matter what", it can only look at the dimension of damage of a hit. You need full sims for that, and I haven't seen any for teams and gear like I'm doing here, so this will have to do for now. And keep in mind, this is assuming that the enemy is already weak (and this 0% reduction from resistance), so SW is being considered only in her worst case scenario (but I do give the 13% resist shred, so it assumes she occasionally uses her skill). ALSO, this assumes 100% uptime on everything, when in reality it is much easier to keep a 2 turn debuff active than a 1 or 2 turn buff (seele turns go brrr), especially if you have bronya blasting through your carrys turns.
If you took a look, you will see that, unsurprisingly, in a lightly geared situation, bronya sits supreme without even accounting for her turn acceleration. But when you really start to stack up the best light cones and situations, Pela and SW really start to pull their own weight. The difference between a plain pela ultimate and a defense shred stacking pela team is HUGE, and something I wish was more widely explained (rather than the usual "I think pela is underrated but I'm not sure how". The extra defense shred over SW even beats out the 13% resist shred boost that SW can bring.
The last 2 lines are really the big news that blew me away. I figured that most lategame teams will have 2 support slots, and only 1 dedicated tank/healer, since we won't be 20 levels under and will have max gear. And looking at the damage multiplier values, a single hypercarry getting a huge boost will be better than 2 carries getting a small boost (and fighting for skill points). So we see that stacking harmony units really has diminishing returns, since they keep adding to the same buckets, mostly attack and damage (and for my example I used bronyas signature so that damage boost could stack, in reality dance dance dance would be run on one of them). So combining 2 harmony units isn't a huge force multiplier, especially if they both also focus on speed (which also has diminishing returns, though not calculated here). Also, I didn't even consider stacking debuffers together, since each alone could almost get 100% defense shred, running both would be a complete waste. But mixing SW and bronya, we see HUGE results. pela and tingyun together also show a similar increase. Since the harmony and nihility hit different buckets, they really multiply off of each other, way more than 2 harmony units do.

1. Quantum 4 piece set: So IF looking at the info above, you decide to run a nihility unit, the quantum 4 piece set is probably BiS for your hypercarry. If you are running SW, it is a 15% overall damage increase (OVERALL!) on non quantum weak enemies, and over 30% on quantum weak enemies. And as we know, if you are running mono ice, you might get unlucky and implant quantum, or they might already be quantum weak. And that is a solid bonus effect. No current set is anywhere close to 30% overall damage increase, miles away from it.
   
2. TL;DR
   

I think with this information, going forward I personally will use one harmony and one nihility unit as my 2 hypercarry supports, instead of 2 harmony units. I will definitly try to have one harmony unit that boosts speed though (either by the speed stat or by letting you use your damaging ultimate faster).
For the nihility unit, you really want to use Resolution light cone, it really even crushes stuff like unique multipliers (vulnerability), or break effect (since that can be gotten on gear). And I will start farming the quantum set for my carries, as that even further boosts what the resolution cone gives on defense shred.
Pela vs. Silver Wolf is still a huge question mark. If teams need SW to add a weakness, she is invaluable. But if the enemy is already weak, Pela perfoms close enough (and better for 2 turns) making the SW pull questionable, well unless you need both for 2 different teams! In my opinion, SW will be excellent for mono quantum teams, and still completely solid if you want to run a triple element team, as she still is a huge force multiplier when combined with a strong harmony unit.
Thank you for reading, and I hope all this information can help the meta pullers out there decide if SW is worth it or not. And that it will get all you Pela havers to start gearing her up!

Not sure if this fits here, as I don’t drink anymore, but I thought you all would appreciate my experience with DTs.
I saw a few comments and posts about experiences with Delirium Tremens and thought I’d share my own experience. I share this as a tale of caution to anyone on the fence of medical detox. If you’re unsure, just go to the doctor.
My experience was around 4 years ago, but I remember much of it vividly. It’s hard to have an absolute timeline of how things went down, but I’ll just provide a brief overviews of how things went as I remember them.
I had been drinking heavily for about 5 years at this point, with one 2-month break about a year prior to this experience (that had been made possible by a medical detox). I was 23 when this happened. I stopped drinking cold turkey as I didn’t want to tell anyone around me how much I had began drinking again (people knew I was off the wagon, but not to the extent). I’m honestly not sure exactly how much I was drinking, but it was easily over 40 drinks a day (and sometimes MUCH more, when coupled with cocaine especially).
The first couple days included the normal sensation of fear, anxiety, sweating, etc.. that comes with detox. Also the shaking. My entire body was vibrating - my eyebrows, lips, arms, legs, all shook uncontrollably. This eventually subsided. Many of the negative detox feelings kinda went away. I started feeling better. I actually went to the gym! The first sign of things being amiss? They were playing dubstep style music at the gym, which was unusual for the local ymca (spoiler: they weren’t playing dubstep). I then noticed when driving home that if I turned the dial on my radio to 0 volume, the song “Sleep Now In The Fire,” by Rage Against the Machine played. When I got home, I noticed all the fans in my house were playing classical music, various symphonies by Beethoven, Mozart, Bach, and so on.
Things began to ramp up from here. I started seeing people coming into my house, but I couldn’t understand why these strangers were here. I could talk to them, smell them, shake their hands. A bunch of gangsters appeared in my backyard and were threatening to enter my home and kill my family. Luckily, my friend set a bomb attached to the fan in my room that sat on my window sill. This caused them to think twice before entering. Soon enough, I found myself alone in my room with the door shut and people were banging on my door. The police were outside telling me I had to come out. I KNEW they had backup outside. Hundreds of officers stood outside my room with their guns drawn, helicopters swirled overhead shouting for me to leave my room. My mother begged me to open the door. Finally, I open the door and it’s just my hallway. I return to bed and my girlfriend is with me.
My girlfriend clearly knows something is going on, but I haven’t come clean yet (at least, I don’t think I have). She urges me to sleep, but a goat-demon at the edge of my bed keeps running his hands over my body and pulling on my legs. Eventually, I tell my gf we need to move into the living room. We start trying to sleep on the couch, but soon I realize the living room is filled with tiny toy-like horror creatures. Spiders, bugs, misshapen dolls, goblins, they all are crawling across the floor and walls and slowly moving towards my girlfriend and I on the couch. That’s when I notice that a lamp-demon has been pouring kerosine on my gf and I. Right as he flicks the match towards our soaked bodies, I grab my gf and jump off the couch. At this point she is pretty freaked out. The lamp-demon turns towards us and starts shooting balls of fire at us. I grab my gfs hand and yank us out of the way. I begin dragging her around the house as bats continue bombarding us with fireballs. Finally, my friend who lives with me hears the commotion and comes downstairs. He flicks the lights on and all the hallucinations subside. I’m back to reality for a moment. I tell them what was happening. They both tell me I need to sleep.
Things continue to escalate. Eventually I realize I’m on the set filming an upcoming Transformers movie. I’m an extra and my role is to hide behind this bush and hold the dog near me tightly to my body as a large dam ahead of us will break and water will come rushing out. I keep missing the cue and eventually the scene is shut down because of my mistakes. I return home and 3 girls from the set appear at my house. They demand payment for the $1800 they should have been paid for my ruined scene. I chase the girls out and they all proceed to hide around my house and backyard. At one point I’m climbing through my neighbors bushes as one of the girls taunts me onwards. My neighbor comes out and asks WTF I’m doing. My friend appears and explains to the neighbor he’s going to take me inside. My friend again tells me I need to sleep.
Next, I’m on another movie set. This time we’re filming for a new Star Trek movie. I’m on a conveyor belt that slowly leads to a pool of boiling lava. I asks the other actors if the lava is real and they tell me it is. We maybe acting, but we’re really going to die. I freak out, but I can’t move. I’m glued to the conveyor belt. Right as I fall from the conveyor belt towards the lava, the door to my room opens and my brother enters. I return to reality for a moment. When did my brother get here? I’m back in my room. He tells me to sleep.
Continued in comments because it’s too long!

Xzanium made their first entrance to a Kebble Sub in 2018 being added to throwaway_the_fourth's edefinition (gen 3). In a few short years, the self proclaimed 23 year old INTJ from India would prove to have one of the biggest impacts on the kebbleverse than any one person save Kebble himself. Over 28 subs have been confirmed to be by their design and some say the true number is over 50.
Like many kebble mods, Xzanium is no stranger to sub drama. They're notorious for proclaiming a goal to create 10,000 kebble subs and are known to have attempted recruiting programmers and mods to help reach that goal. One commenter said there was a vote underway to ban them from edefinition for eugenics speech but left the sub first. They've been the target of complaints on TheseFuckingAccounts with accusations varying from 'they created surveys to sell user data', to 'they invite so many members from anime and MBTI subs as a dating ploy'. A thread on AskReddit singled him out as having old connections to EKOA cult. Though according to the timing and wording of the recruitment post it appears to be a discord server recruiting the same type of people they find to join kebble subs. Their post history and subs that have published which subs users are invited from indicate interests in atheism, MBTI (INTJ,INTP), anime, NSFW anime, universities, dating, technology, and history. Several subs were created under the guise of being a private Kebble sub but were later opened to the public without warning and revealed to be part of a plot to recruit cult members.

Timeline:

2018
Oct 2018:

• xzanium first activity
• xzanium added to edefinition

2019-2020?

• corillia created
• kivanell created
• hovias created
• spuriouswednesdays created
• ylonos created
• foleena created
• vinocles created
• derracus created
• xavacon created
• colliva created
• riosach created
• unyaki created
• kelatory created
• entakor created
• Nafioch created
• cianho created
• qanthos created
• hykrian created

2019

• edef created
• TheCalaisPlan created

Feb 2019:

• xelnerot first activity

2020

• edefine created
• ynolek created
• inxxmasterrace created
• zenigawa created
• siivox created
• Had cybertrinn create TheFlyingTree and transfer ownership due to too young account age

Apr 2020

• EKOA recruitment

Jun 2020

• xzanium last activity (suspended)

Jul 2020

• xelnerot last activity (suspended)

Aug 2020

• xzanium2 first activity

Sep 2020

• xzanium2 last activity (suspended)
• xzanium3 first and last activity (suspended)
• xzanium4 first and last activity (suspended)
• xzanium5 first and last activity (suspended)
• ninjapretend created

Dec 2020

• Shadow_Eruditia created

2021

• thespiralparlor created
• Gemini_Proxima created
• Gemini_Ultima created

Jan 2021

• falconrelevant created (https://i.imgur.com/fEMUdtu.png)
• SilentEquestrian created

Mar 2021

• xzanium7 created

Jun 2021

• TheSecretAlcove created

Nov 2021

• ninjapretend last activity

2022
May 2022

• falconrevenant created

2023
Jan 2023

• TheOrbitingTree created
• TheSkyPlant created

Feb 2023

• SilentEquestrian suspended
• FalconRelevant temp suspended
• falconresurgent first activity and suspended
• FalconRemniscent created and shadow banned
• NotFalconRemniscent created
• FalconRemembrant created

​

Alts:

• xelnerot (suspended)
• xzanium2 (suspended)
• xzanium3 (suspended)
• xzanium4 (suspended)
• xzanium5 (suspended)
• xzanium7
• ninjapretend
• Shadow_Eruditia
• FalconRelevant
• SilentEquestrian (suspended)
• falconrevenant
• FalconResplendent (suspended)
• falconresurgent (suspended)
• FalconRemniscent (shadow banned)
• NotFalconRemniscent
• FalconRemembrant
• NeutralCrystalline (suspended)
• Funny_Salt?

Bots:

• Twin_CloseBy (gemeni_proxima)
• Twin_FartherAway (gemeni_ultima )
• TheCalaisBot (TheCalaisPlan)
• Bloodtender (TheFlyingTree)
• TennisWithGrenades (TheFlyingTree)
• Ynolek_bot (ynolek)
• SpiralYEETer (TheSpiralParlor)
• Derracus_bot (Derracus)

​

Mod (public subs):

• INTx_core
• TheOrbitingTree
• CultOfSiesta
• SiblingsMoe
• weeb4weeb
• SummaOptima
• folktales_irl
• FanaticMaterialism
• materialist

​

Quotes:

I mean he's not a bad guy through and through like most believe, he has an intolerance for idiocy like the best of us, only his threshold is a hell of a lot lower, that's the issue. His superiority complex is very much present, he does genuinely believe he sits high above others in most aspects. You can tell its real because its not only his, big omnipotence esc acts, but in smaller ways like being disrespectful of people's time when replying (or not for that matter) to messages, or opting to "tell" rather than "ask" when he needs you to do something for him. The thing he doesn't realise is he is a pretty cool guy who is deserving of respect for the empires he has built on reddit, he's bloody good at what he does. The [REDACTED] is a great example of that, he used his skills and a bloody GOOD, wholesome, community came out of it. He's searching for praise, and attention and he could get it but he's uses all the wrong avenues. If he got down off his high horse once in a while and mingled with the pesants below he'd realise that he doesn't have to hold himself in such high regards they would do it for him lol

~Anonymous
​

A person may be smart, yet people are like animals, and animals need a strong hand.

~FalconRelevant
​

Am I a Worthy Heir to Kebble's Legacy?

~FalconRemembrant
​

Fun fact: I made u/FalconRemnsicent which got shadowbanned on arrival.

~NotFalconRemniscent
​

That's why I will spend years analyzing every aspect of a potential partners personality before I start a relationship. Don't wanna deal with breakups.

~ ninjapretend

I MADE ONE DATING THREAD!!!
ONE, JUST ONE!!!

~ xzanium7

I add 400-500 each week, and 450+ are always yeeted in the culling.

~ xzanium

Mostly it is something like:-
targetSub = "theCalaisPlan" subreddits = "intp+intj"

~ xzanium 2020

I'm trying to make a better version of edefinition, the sub that I was randomly added to.

~ xzanium 2020

EKOA is an organization I founded. I've put its recruitment copy-pasta here a few times.
INTP/INTJ.
Irreligious.
Likes science. Science is important.
Is weird and takes pride in it.
A smart person with lots of potential, who may or may not actually work to realize it. Eccentric in nature, this person makes you think that being a genius has its drawbacks.
Their sexual behaviour involves trying to find true love, they are uninterested or look down upon the concept of casual sex.
Is slightly narcissistic, with a bit of a superiority complex. Or was, and changed for some reason.

~ xzanium 2020
​

So yes, me and a few other people were involved in cultish behaviour, around this organization called EKOA. No that has nothing to do with this subreddit here. I've long moved past EKOA. It is history now.

~ xelnerot 2020
​

Yeah theCalaisPlan was the recruiting ground for EKOA.

~ xelnerot 2020
​

We mostly just talked about stuff and get pushed by our leader to recruit more. Eventually he abandoned it and then so did I.... Just what regular people talk about on discord servers, nothing special. Someone got a girlfriend, someone pirated a game, discuss the ethics of piracy, and all that.

~ xelnerot 2020
​

There are a lot of these communities, all with the same idea. Users are randomly invited in, given a numeric flair, and inactive users are removed every week. Some examples are : 118, redefinition, TheChosenFew etc. I was just like you all, invited into one of them, and now with my python skills, I seek to replicate the community, a thousand times over! So yes, that's why you're here. If you're not interested, there is the (leave) option near flair assignment in old reddit.

~ xelnerot 2020
​

No, I'm not doing anything with your info.

~ xelnerot 2020
​

I'm not lying. Yes I am creating a lot of these subs, but how is that related to all that business with Xzanium?

~ xelnerot 2020
​

That's because I'm using the scripts he gave me.

~ xelnerot 2020
​
Here is what I have been accused of, and here I tell you people the truth. ~ xelnerot 2020
​

Drama explained to those who aren't fully aware:
Xelnerot claims to have 70 of these type of subreddits, although it is not proven.
Xelnerot seems to have some sort of connection to other secret subreddits.
Xelnerot said he wants 10,000 of these subreddits. The post has since been removed, although another user from thesefuckingaccounts has claimed Xelnerot has said something similar.
Another user called u/Xzanium (who seems to be banned) may be connected to Xelnerot. Certain post similarities are present, especially their connections together.
Xelnerot does not deny that he had a connection with Xzanium, although he does deny that he is Xzanium.
Of Xzanium and Xelnerot are connected, it'd explain Xelnerot's connections to secretive subreddits.
Some are given the impression that surveys in this subreddit are a way to sell information to others, although this is extremely unlikely.
The name of the post the Ynolek bot posts has a concerning title. (The culling) This leads others to believe it is a cult.
Searching "Xzanium" on Reddit will result in similar things to this subreddit and other popular secret subreddits, along with certain connections to Xelnerot.
If Xzanium and Xelnerot are the same person, then Xelnerot is breaking ToS by evading a ban issued by Reddit moderators.
Also, Xelnerot seems to know about a secret subreddit with the name of corrila however searching "Xzanium" this subreddit will also come up, indicating their connection.
Basically, some of think it's shady and the motives are unknown

~ MrNonsenseYT 2020

I was in one of his original earlier groups (under the username Xzanium), and can probably answer some questions.
Basically he wanted to set up a group of people similar to himself, because he was terrible at making friends IRL, probably because he's (1) awful and (2) obsessed with IQ tests and MBTI, (3) a giant weeb, (4) overly preoccupied with finding a girlfriend as rational, high IQ, intx, and narcissistic as he claims to be. Then he decided to start an 'international club with chapters' surrounding introversion, anti-casual sex, and narcissism at colleges. Ask UAuckland, and they'll have stories.
He also had a weird thing with stalking MIT. Then he decided to create a dating app, and again desperately wanted to push it at MIT.
Then everyone was like "You're a creep, cut it out" and he was like "I don't even want to be friends with you guys anyways and I don't want to be liked in your stupid shiny clubhouse that I built myself specifically to make friends (who now think that I'm a POS)."
Then he really went off the fucking rails, and started pushing eugenics and making posts about how he doesn't respect any religion and how he is a feminist because he enjoys watching lesbian porn. Along the way he set up Xelnerot as an (exceptionally transparent) sockpuppet account.
Then he decided that even though everyone hated him there, if he made 10,000 of them, by the laws of probability he would have to get a gf or at least someone who actually liked him from one of them.
Then he got banned, and the sockpuppet took up the torch of making senseless subs (though the one all this went down on is now closed to him). Which brings us to the present day.
What questions specifically do you have?

~ u/FancyGaffer 2020
​
I am not Xzanium.2020

Every time I try to build my own house on Sims 4 it turns out boring and ugly. What are some easy ways to make your houses look better and more realistic?

Hi folks,
I have quite a few mods installed and one of them changes Hyperweave to Spacer Fabric. I have read through the descriptions of them all and I can't figure out which one makes this change.
I have no issue with it being renamed, but for some reason it doesn't change ALL the Hyperweave and the Spacer Fabric is not usable for anything (can't even select it for stockpile filter, doesn't exist).
Thanks!
Modlist:

Harmony http://steamcommunity.com/sharedfiles/filedetails/?id=2009463077 Better Log - Fix your errors with style http://steamcommunity.com/sharedfiles/filedetails/?id=2772559481 HugsLib http://steamcommunity.com/sharedfiles/filedetails/?id=818773962 Dubs Performance Analyzer http://steamcommunity.com/sharedfiles/filedetails/?id=2038874626 RimHUD http://steamcommunity.com/sharedfiles/filedetails/?id=1508850027 Vanilla Expanded Framework http://steamcommunity.com/sharedfiles/filedetails/?id=2023507013 ReGrowth: Core http://steamcommunity.com/sharedfiles/filedetails/?id=2260097569 Vanilla Plants Expanded http://steamcommunity.com/sharedfiles/filedetails/?id=2134308522 Vanilla Achievements Expanded http://steamcommunity.com/sharedfiles/filedetails/?id=2288125657 Vanilla Weapons Expanded http://steamcommunity.com/sharedfiles/filedetails/?id=1814383360 Vanilla Apparel Expanded http://steamcommunity.com/sharedfiles/filedetails/?id=1814987817 Vanilla Furniture Expanded http://steamcommunity.com/sharedfiles/filedetails/?id=1718190143 Vanilla Cooking Expanded http://steamcommunity.com/sharedfiles/filedetails/?id=2134308519 Vanilla Armour Expanded http://steamcommunity.com/sharedfiles/filedetails/?id=1814988282 Vanilla Furniture Expanded - Spacer Module http://steamcommunity.com/sharedfiles/filedetails/?id=2028381079 Vanilla Plants Expanded - More Plants http://steamcommunity.com/sharedfiles/filedetails/?id=2748889667 Vanilla Furniture Expanded - Production http://steamcommunity.com/sharedfiles/filedetails/?id=1880253632 Vanilla Furniture Expanded - Power http://steamcommunity.com/sharedfiles/filedetails/?id=2062943477 Vanilla Furniture Expanded - Medical Module http://steamcommunity.com/sharedfiles/filedetails/?id=1718191613 Vanilla Furniture Expanded - Architect http://steamcommunity.com/sharedfiles/filedetails/?id=2608762624 Vanilla Apparel Expanded — Accessories http://steamcommunity.com/sharedfiles/filedetails/?id=2521176396 Vanilla Animals Expanded http://steamcommunity.com/sharedfiles/filedetails/?id=2871933948 Vanilla Skills Expanded http://steamcommunity.com/sharedfiles/filedetails/?id=2854967442 Empire https://discord.gg/f3zFQqA Camera+ http://steamcommunity.com/sharedfiles/filedetails/?id=867467808 Wall Light http://steamcommunity.com/sharedfiles/filedetails/?id=1423699208 RimFridge Updated http://steamcommunity.com/sharedfiles/filedetails/?id=2878183338 Pick Up And Haul http://steamcommunity.com/sharedfiles/filedetails/?id=1279012058 MendAndRecycle http://steamcommunity.com/sharedfiles/filedetails/?id=735241897 Medical Tab http://steamcommunity.com/sharedfiles/filedetails/?id=715565817 Interaction Bubbles http://steamcommunity.com/sharedfiles/filedetails/?id=1516158345 Gear Up And Go http://steamcommunity.com/sharedfiles/filedetails/?id=1316142788 EdB Prepare Carefully http://steamcommunity.com/sharedfiles/filedetails/?id=735106432 Defensive Positions http://steamcommunity.com/sharedfiles/filedetails/?id=761219125 Common Sense http://steamcommunity.com/sharedfiles/filedetails/?id=1561769193 Colony Manager http://steamcommunity.com/sharedfiles/filedetails/?id=715565262 Blueprints http://steamcommunity.com/sharedfiles/filedetails/?id=708455313 Better Pawn Control http://steamcommunity.com/sharedfiles/filedetails/?id=1541460369 Backup Power http://steamcommunity.com/sharedfiles/filedetails/?id=2084493662 [SYR] Set Up Camp http://steamcommunity.com/sharedfiles/filedetails/?id=1470065926 CM Color Coded Mood Bar [1.1+] http://steamcommunity.com/sharedfiles/filedetails/?id=2006605356 Dubs Mint Menus http://steamcommunity.com/sharedfiles/filedetails/?id=1446523594 Better Workbench Management http://steamcommunity.com/sharedfiles/filedetails/?id=935982361 RPG Style Inventory http://steamcommunity.com/sharedfiles/filedetails/?id=1561221991 Vanilla Furniture Expanded - Security http://steamcommunity.com/sharedfiles/filedetails/?id=1845154007 Camping Stuff http://steamcommunity.com/sharedfiles/filedetails/?id=1523058989 Caravan Adventures http://steamcommunity.com/sharedfiles/filedetails/?id=2558957509 EPOE 1.4 (Expanded Prosthetics and Organ Engineering) http://steamcommunity.com/sharedfiles/filedetails/?id=2882712052 Simple sidearms http://steamcommunity.com/sharedfiles/filedetails/?id=927155256 EzOutfit http://steamcommunity.com/sharedfiles/filedetails/?id=2885961570 Research Tree http://steamcommunity.com/sharedfiles/filedetails/?id=2608058938 Turn It On and Off http://steamcommunity.com/sharedfiles/filedetails/?id=2007163386 Allow Tool http://steamcommunity.com/sharedfiles/filedetails/?id=761421485 Short Circuit Blues http://steamcommunity.com/sharedfiles/filedetails/?id=2322956181 RT Fuse http://steamcommunity.com/sharedfiles/filedetails/?id=728314182 [KV] No Max Bills http://steamcommunity.com/sharedfiles/filedetails/?id=1588831229 Categorized Bill Dropdown http://steamcommunity.com/sharedfiles/filedetails/?id=2625720098 Missing Fabrication Recipes http://steamcommunity.com/sharedfiles/filedetails/?id=2949467164 Remove Injuries http://steamcommunity.com/sharedfiles/filedetails/?id=2396463672 [RH2] Uncle Boris' - Brainwash Chair http://steamcommunity.com/sharedfiles/filedetails/?id=2885223720 Caravan Item Selection Enhanced http://steamcommunity.com/sharedfiles/filedetails/?id=2854310627 Defensive Machine Gun Turret Pack http://steamcommunity.com/sharedfiles/filedetails/?id=1688004964 Share The Load http://steamcommunity.com/sharedfiles/filedetails/?id=1356838246 Tranquilizer Turret (Continued) http://steamcommunity.com/sharedfiles/filedetails/?id=2938882156 [HRK] Vanilla Expanded Extra Embrasures http://steamcommunity.com/sharedfiles/filedetails/?id=2763411067 The Harvest http://steamcommunity.com/sharedfiles/filedetails/?id=2010799801 Compact Hediffs http://steamcommunity.com/sharedfiles/filedetails/?id=2031734067 Damage Indicators [1.4] http://steamcommunity.com/sharedfiles/filedetails/?id=2016331497 Labels on Floor http://steamcommunity.com/sharedfiles/filedetails/?id=1408863965 Expanded Roofing 1.4 http://steamcommunity.com/sharedfiles/filedetails/?id=2879451927 RimQuest (Continued) http://steamcommunity.com/sharedfiles/filedetails/?id=2263331727 MinifyEverything http://steamcommunity.com/sharedfiles/filedetails/?id=872762753 Home Mover http://steamcommunity.com/sharedfiles/filedetails/?id=2569949146 Numbers http://steamcommunity.com/sharedfiles/filedetails/?id=1414302321 Zombieland http://steamcommunity.com/sharedfiles/filedetails/?id=928376710 RocketMan - Performance Mod http://steamcommunity.com/sharedfiles/filedetails/?id=2479389928