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TLDR; I (32F) am trying to navigate mutual friendships after a very close friend (30F) that I’ve known for 5 years that is ghosting me and no longer talking to me because I expressed that I prefer her to not come to a brunch with another mutual friend (31F) that I’ve also known for about 5 years. I’m caught up in a trio of friends all in their early 30’s females that have been friends longer than I have been friends with them, and I feel now that one friend is ghosting me, I am not able to continue being close to the two others.
Hi all! Posting this to gain some perspective and see what others think are options/courses of action. I recently had a sort of falling out with a very close friend of mine and I’m figuring out the way forward since we have so many mutual friends.
Some background on the cause of the falling out:
I (30F) am a new mom. My baby was in the NICU the first few weeks of his life. I’ve finally been able to introduce him to people. I’ve been having him meet with close friends in my life one-on-one so he and them can interact/meet/bond. I’m an introverted person who prefers special moments like these to be one on one because groups overwhelm me, and my mental health also hasn’t been doing well postpartum for lots of reasons.
I recently was able to finally find a time where a good friend (let’s call her Sandy) and I were both able to meet up and have brunch, introduce my baby, etc. (it was planned about three weeks in advance because we are both so busy). She’s also someone i met through my husband’s mutual friends and she shared mutual friends with me, and I have been wanting to get to know her more because we often only hang out at group events and haven’t ever done just something with us.
A few days before the scheduled brunch, a mutual friend (Kelly) of ours found out that Sandy & I were getting brunch so she and her husband could meet my baby.
Kelly got included in the brunch plans. I don’t know what exactly the conversation was, I wasn’t involved. I was told by Sandy that Kelly asked to come, while Kelly told me Sandy invited her. I was a little irked b/c I was looking forward to this time with Sandy and having her meet baby for the first time. Kelly has already met my baby and she got a one on one meeting with him as everyone special in my life has.
Despite how I felt, I updated our brunch reservation to include Kelly and her boyfriend as well, texted them the details of when we were meeting, and didn’t think much of it. A day before the brunch, Kelly asked me via text: “I know Sandy invited me to join tomorrow. But I’m feeling like maybe you wanted it to be just you and Pam? Or am I reading too much into it. I don’t wanna impose if that’s what you wanted to do tomorrow.” (This is copy pasted from the exact text message sent, just the name was changed for privacy).
I responded: “Hey! Sandy and I planned this a little while back for her and (Sandy’s husband) to meet (baby) for the first time so I was looking forward to them having some one on one time, but it’s not a problem at all, we can do it another time and I’m excited to have a fun brunch with you!”
She never responded to that text and ended up not coming. I felt something was up because she tends to be someone that has a lot of FOMO so I texted her after the brunch and said that I missed her at the brunch. She didn’t respond, so 2 days later I texted “we good sis?” She didn’t respond again so I DM’d her a few days later. I said I hoped everything was okay b/c I haven’t heard from her. She responded with “gotcha.” And said that we could talk when she gets back from a trip she happened to be on at the time.
She has since not messaged me at all. I’m confused because she asked me if it was ok if she comes, so I answered honestly. I’m a people pleaser. she has repeatedly encouraged me to speak my truth and not be a people pleaser.
Another mutual friend of ours, Britney, told me that Kelly expected me say that it’s okay that she comes so it’s not awkward for her. If she had not asked, I honestly wouldn’t have said anything and let the brunch play out with her attending, but I thought b/c she was asking, she was truly wanting to know my real feelings about the situation. Our mutual friend said that I made her feel “not wanted.” I’m hurt that she’s ghosting me and it makes me feel very inadequate and not worthy of a conversation or check in. I’m working on affirming that I am worthy and that as a good close friend, she should be communicating any bad feelings with me rather than ghosting me.
Britney, Sandy, and Kelly are all childhood friends and I only recently got to know them in the past three years, and I’ve been very close with Britney because she’s close college friends with my husband and I naturally picked up a close friendship with Kelly. As I said before Sandy is someone I enjoy being with but I’m not as close to. As Britney explained to me, it’s normal that when one of them hangs out, all of them invite one another because they are all childhood friends. I pointed out that this wouldn’t work in the reverse - they invite each other to events they are at that include me, but I wouldn’t ever be invited to their hangouts as a trip because I’m not part of that “club.”
Now, our mutual friends have birthdays and other events coming up that I normally would be included in the planning of. I don’t feel I was unreasonable in speaking my truth and I’ve also reached out three times so in my view the ball is in her court. Since she’s ghosting me and not talking I’m now excluded from mutual friends events that she usually plans. I’m not sure how to move forward and navigate these other friendships I have because I know they’ve been friends with her longer and I don’t want to put anyone in the middle, especially since I’m not part of their childhood friend “club” persay. Any insight and perspective would be greatly appreciated!

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If animals could talk, which species do you think would be the most annoying?

What do you think?

It applies to shit talk about appearances too

It’s funny because you actually think I believe what you tell me. What’s not funny is how distorted your perception is becoming when the lie becomes a part of your sense of truth.
Well in reality there’s no point in keeping the facade going. It’s exciting to you both I’m sure, but how will you cope when you discover I knew awhile ago. I found strength from the realization that I am not a deceptive and selfish person like the two of you.
I wish you both were on a path of love. But you’re not. You’re on a path of selfishness and pride.
Hope your falls will not break you to badly.

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In one episode she mentions to Bojack that she’s not allowed to see her son. I was wondering if anyone else caught that and wondered about it too.

My account was deactivated (with no warning or text or email) I just couldn't log on. I'm wondering if this is a glitch? They're saying the reasoning is "fraud" because I took too long on an order (there's been dangerous weather where I live lately, I took a coastal route to avoid the freeway in dangerous conditions is all I can think they would be talking about? But like I'm not going to risk my life on the freeway in 45mph wind and rain to get someone a fkn sandwhich, I got there in a reasonable amount of time anyways) Or possibly because I've been asking for months for them to update my profile pic so customers wouldn't think I was a different person because my hair is black in profile pic and blonde now and they haven't done it so maybe I was reported for that? or possibly because I sent uber screenshots of how they paid me incorrectly by like 40$ and they didn't even correct it? I'm frustrated. Im disabled and this is the only job I've been able to hold, I could go on another app but I've been on UberEats for years and have a 97 score.
Long story short, I dont know what I could have possibly done that's fraud, besides their vague "you took too long on an order". Do I have a chance getting my account reactivated? I was counting on the income and I'm now having to wait like 14 days for my case to be reviewed and no income and medication and bills to pay for.

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I probably sound like a broken record here on the whole Pentagon / DARPA bug, but I'm beginning to think the Devs just don't give a sh*t. I mean how long did it take to fix the original 'breach' bug ? Is DARPA going to take just as long ?
I mean you would think that if you knew you had a problem with this whole mission you wouldn't, I don't know, make it a part of the damn League challenge or make it part of the daily mission requirement,....... I know, call me crazy.
I got on today, loaded up the projects and was like, well f*ck........
Seriously.
Between the lag / getting dumped / bugged missions, is Ubisoft 'trying' to kill off the remaining player base so they can dump the servers and move on?
I'm invested in this franchise, paid good money for both games and supported the seasons, but it annoys the hell out of me that the response is start a new character and 'maybe' that will work...... (Hint: it didn't)
Uhm, how about fix the game that I paid you for?
Sorry, just had to vent.

Posting this to provide more insight on the topic:
Firstly, it must be understood that in science, a theory is a rigorously tested statement of general principles that explains observable and recorded aspects of the world. A scientific theory therefore describes a higher level of understanding that ties "facts" together. A scientific theory stands until proven wrong -- it is never proven correct. The Darwinian theory of evolution has withstood the test of time and thousands of scientific experiments; nothing has disproved it since Darwin first proposed it more than 150 years ago.
Secondly, Darwin's evolution is not a theory about the origin of life. It is a theory to explain how species change over time. Contrary to what many people think. The theory proposes evolutionary patterns through different mechanisms in action, one of them being natural selection. In fact, one of the first sketches that Darwin made in his notebook (which he used as a draft before publishing his theory while he was board on The Beagle) was of a tree with several branches, suggesting that there lie connections between phenotypic traits of organisms.
Eventhough science and religion have been at each other's throats since the beginning of time, there lies very little actual points of contention between evolution and most common religions.
With that being said, I want to quote some evidence. In the Origin of Species, Charles Darwin famously proposed what we may now call the Universal Common Ancestry (UCA) hypothesis: "I should infer from analogy that probably all the organic beings which have ever lived on this earth have descended from some one primordial form, into which life was first breathed". While our religious context quotes that life was created through a single creation, you must remember that Darwin's theory wasn't centered around how life begin but how it evolved through history.
To quote religious text, here is a verse from the Quran: قُلۡ سِيرُواْ فِي ٱلۡأَرۡضِ فَٱنظُرُواْ كَيۡفَ بَدَأَ ٱلۡخَلۡقَۚ ثُمَّ ٱللَّهُ يُنشِئُ ٱلنَّشۡأَةَ ٱلۡأٓخِرَةَۚ إِنَّ ٱللَّهَ عَلَىٰ كُلِّ شَيۡءٖ قَدِيرٞ (Surah Ankabut Ayat 20 (29:20) Say, [O Muhammad], “Travel through the land and observe how He began creation. Then Allah will produce the final creation. Indeed Allah, over all things, is competent.” (Sahih international)
tafseer source linked here: https://myislam.org/surah-ankabut/ayat-20/ However the general idea in this ayah is that there lies encouragement in exploring different theories that propose how Allah began creation. Perhaps(and this being strictly my personal opinion with no religious context) this brings you closer to Allah and His creations, at least for me it does.
In conclusion there is no reason why there should exist "sides" in this debate and you having to pick either. And then again, anything is a debate if you want it to be. With that being said, please note that I'm not an expert in this topic and am still in the process of learning more hence some flaws in this explanation may exist.

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Its day 6 and I dont know if this is typical but I do feel as though my stress levels have decreased and my problems don’t seem like an emergency or that feeling of doom.
However, I don’t know if its because I’ve generally just been down lately but I don’t really feel excited for anything. I kind of feel emotionless/unmotivated and don’t feel like doing anything. Im usually excited for upcoming plans and seeing friends and now I kind of feel like canceling. Ive read people’s experiences about their emotions being muted and im scared this is happening/going to happen. Im thinking I go to my friends plans and see how I am while Im there? i havent really seen my friends in a while besides my family so maybe my mood would shift when Im with them.
Im on 25 mg and talking with my doctor in a month to see how I feel. Im also worried about having to take them forever and have heard a lot of horror stories of people coming off them which makes me nervous to up the dosage if my doctor recommends it.

hi there,
i was wondering of anyone else is the same or has some advice.
i'm 21 and have been questioning my sexuality since i was about 14 and my gender since about 17. i know it's good to take your time and that but i feel like i've been questioning for too long and just want to know.
i am fine with the fact that i'm romantically attracted to different genders. though idk about sexuality as i have no feelings and no experience and don't know if i'm ace, scared of sex, trauma or just don't feel that due to depression or something physically wrong with me.
with gender i have a lot of dysphoria (mostly top) which honestly i dont know how to live with this anymore (it genuinely makes me suicidal) and i hate my name as its too feminine and ive always disliked it. i am certain i want top surgery but i don't know if im trans male or non binary. i'm also worried this is all just body image issues and i'm actually just a girl who just hates my boobs, my name, being called a woman girl lady etc. and looking like a girl.
i have refered myself to the gender identity clinic but idk if they can even help me when i'm this unsure and it would take years until i can even access help due to waiting lists. and i need help now not in years to come, like i said top surgery is something that would really help elevate dysphoria whatever my identity is and dysphoria is completely unbearable at the moment. to the point where ive considered cutting them off myself (i know this wouldn't work out well which is stopping me from trying but i think about it all the time)
a few close friends use they them pronouns for me but i'm too scared to ask people i'm not close with to use any other pronouns except she/her. i think i'd be happier with he him pronouns as well as they them but I look like a girl (which i hate but am also too scared to change as i'd have to be out or people would make assumptions and im terrified of people knowing)
i just worry that I'm going to spend the rest of my life uncertain and be too scared to make any changes or ask people to call me things and that's just a life i can't live. i just want to be able to know who i am and be able to freely live as myself without it being mocked or ridiculed or seen as some kind of "woke" political statement (i've seen a lot of people arguing that trans and non binary doesn't exist and that makes me feel scared and like i can never express myself the way i would feel comfortable or use the pronouns i want)
i'm sorry this is a bit all over the place. i would really appreciate some advice or to feel less alone if anyone else feels the same way
also put a trigger warning just in case as i mentioned suicidal ideation and self harm (diy top surgery thoughts)