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Mold in the air ducts; replace the duct or other options available?
2023.06.02 01:41 deafhindude Mold in the air ducts; replace the duct or other options available?
Hi All,
My family purchased a recreational cottage in NC near the RTP area. Since we purchased, it has been non stop renovation and fixes. The previous owner did not complete any maintenance and we have done a ton of work to make it habitable. He didnt even have filters on the duct system. The whole house smelt old but now its significantly better albeit a slight old smell stil existing. I can't believe some people can live like this. Since purchasing in 2021, we have:
- replaced the roof with CertainTeed shingles, new eavestrough and downspouts.
- removed all the skylights that had issues and repaired the ones that were not too expensive
- removed the pond in front that was leaking into the crawl space
- removed the pond in the back because it was a breeding ground for mosquitos as the pump was not regularly circulatin.
- remediated the mold leaking from the roof
The biggest cost was encapsulating the crawlspace. It was completely molded over including the insulation. We removed all the existing molded over insulation, installed french drains and 2 sump pumps, and encapsulated. We also added a new humidifier to prevent any further molding. Since we have completed all this work, there is significantly less mold in all places of the home and the smell has mostly dissipated. However, we were goign to get our ducts cleaned when the inspector found mold on the outside of the ducts and is now saying we have to replace them in order to get rid of the remaining smell. They are quoting 7 K to replace all the ducts with new ones. Given that we have spent over 60 K renovating and making changes for habitability, we want to know if there are alternatives to replacing the ducts such as installing UV lights or using a mold removal defogger in the ducts.
TIA.
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My family purchased a recreational cottage in NC near the RTP area. Since we purchased, it has been non stop renovation and fixes. The previous owner did not complete any maintenance and we have done a ton of work to make it habitable. He didnt even have filters on the duct system. The whole house smelt old but now its significantly better albeit a slight old smell stil existing. I can't believe some people can live like this. Since purchasing in 2021, we have:
- replaced the roof with CertainTeed shingles, new eavestrough and downspouts.
- removed all the skylights that had issues and repaired the ones that were not too expensive
- removed the pond in front that was leaking into the crawl space
- removed the pond in the back because it was a breeding ground for mosquitos as the pump was not regularly circulatin.
- remediated the mold leaking from the roof
The biggest cost was encapsulating the crawlspace. It was completely molded over including the insulation. We removed all the existing molded over insulation, installed french drains and 2 sump pumps, and encapsulated. We also added a new humidifier to prevent any further molding. Since we have completed all this work, there is significantly less mold in all places of the home and the smell has mostly dissipated. However, we were goign to get our ducts cleaned when the inspector found mold on the outside of the ducts and is now saying we have to replace them in order to get rid of the remaining smell. They are quoting 7 K to replace all the ducts with new ones. Given that we have spent over 60 K renovating and making changes for habitability, we want to know if there are alternatives to replacing the ducts such as installing UV lights or using a mold removal defogger in the ducts.
TIA.
2023.06.02 01:37 dyeconundrumm Am I silly to give this apartment up?
Using throwaway account. I'm currently renting a rent stabilized apartment in a "luxury building" from a small out of state landlord in a building with a bunch of amenities (gym, washedryer room, parking, pest control, etc.). My current rate is $1645 for a studio. I just got a notice for price increase at $1690 which is not crazy. This is probably one of the best places I've ever lived in. But there is one problem. The landlord is hands off af and a lazy mfer when something needs to be fixed. In the three years I've lived, 3 major things hsve gone wrong (all mostly in the last year) and getting them to fix anything is like pulling teeth. A sibling of mine says I should just fix it and take the cost out of the rent payment when that happens, because it's illegal for them to ignore my requests or try and have me pay for it.
Idk, I feel like I have somewhat of a good deal for this apartment, but dealing with a landlord who sits on their hands when things go wrong is exhausting. Also, I'd like to save enough to buy my own place soon and that's got me thinking, maybe i should look for a roommate soon and live minimally for a couple of years. But that could always backfire.
What would you do in my situation? Is giving up this apartment in this period crazy or reasonable?
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Idk, I feel like I have somewhat of a good deal for this apartment, but dealing with a landlord who sits on their hands when things go wrong is exhausting. Also, I'd like to save enough to buy my own place soon and that's got me thinking, maybe i should look for a roommate soon and live minimally for a couple of years. But that could always backfire.
What would you do in my situation? Is giving up this apartment in this period crazy or reasonable?
2023.06.02 01:34 Wonderful_Addendum_9 I would appreciate good energies in regards of making enough money so I can afford education and housing abroad
Hi, the country I live in is very violent and the prospect for the future economically is not the best. As such, I decided that I want to study abroad. I would love to receive good energies so I can get enough resources in order to cover the costs! Thanks in advice🤍
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2023.06.02 01:33 railroader67 Time Zones
I live in the Central Time Zone of the U.S. and applied for a job in this time zone. After applying I was contacted within days and an initial phone interview was scheduled. At the end of the interview, I was told I would be recommended for advancement to the next stage. I was told that it would be a panel interview in person or by Zoom. Four weeks later I am contacted again to schedule a Zoom interview. It's scheduled for today at 3:30 PM with a confirmation e-mail and link to the meeting. I go to log on at 3:15 and it shows the meeting starting at 2:30 pm my time. The senior HR manager is in the eastern time zone. Saw the time in the body of the e-mail but the subject line did have 2:30 pm cdt. Frustrating to rearrange a day that you already planned as a vacation day to have time wasted.
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2023.06.02 01:32 Fearless-Cap249 4Plex Deal Thoughts
I wanted to ask you folks what do you think of this deal on a 4 Plex
$489,900 purchase price Down Payment $18,000 (out of pocket) Seller credit $19,500 to fix issues should cost 10k for fixes and I’ll pocket the rest
Total mortgage 3,648 Rents currently for 3 units total $3,300 I will be living in 1 of the units Paying for water for all units $500-$600 Total monthly out of pocket $4,250
I plan on raising rent to $1,600
All units are 2 bed 1.5 bath condo style
Rent in the area are $1,500 - $1,700 for a 2bed 1 bath
The last lease will end in 3/30/24 Florida, do not have to renew the lease when it ends
What do you folks think
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$489,900 purchase price Down Payment $18,000 (out of pocket) Seller credit $19,500 to fix issues should cost 10k for fixes and I’ll pocket the rest
Total mortgage 3,648 Rents currently for 3 units total $3,300 I will be living in 1 of the units Paying for water for all units $500-$600 Total monthly out of pocket $4,250
I plan on raising rent to $1,600
All units are 2 bed 1.5 bath condo style
Rent in the area are $1,500 - $1,700 for a 2bed 1 bath
The last lease will end in 3/30/24 Florida, do not have to renew the lease when it ends
What do you folks think
2023.06.02 01:31 kylexyz001 23 [M4F] [Relationship] Ohio/Worldwide- Let's Be Each Other's Everything (Longest post ever?)
Brace yourselves, this is gonna be a long one.
Table of Contents
1…… The Main Goal
2…… What I’m Seeking
3…… Personality
4…… Interests
5…… Physical Characteristics (with pics)
6…… Expectations of You
7…… Living Situation
8…… Deal Breakers
9…… Closing Remarks
(1)
The Main Goal:
Well if you’re browsing this subreddit then much like me, you were alone this weekend and I’m sure you’d like to change that as much as me. I won’t lie, I am going through a rough part of my life right now. It’s difficult for me to find the energy for anything at the moment and I’m just really seeking affection in general, anything that will give me a push. I don’t want to be that person who brings everyone down but I could really use someone to talk to right now. I’d really like to find someone who’s similar to me so much to the point that we do everything together and talk about everything while not having to pretend to be interested. I want someone with whom we can mutually spew our emotions onto and have those feelings reciprocated. Not an emotional punching bag, but an emotional teddy bear to hug and cuddle until everything feels better as many times as we need. There’s people who I’m sure have told you the same, they’ll be there no matter how many times you need the support, no matter how many times the insecurities and bad thoughts come back but they don’t mean it. I will be the exception, I’m not so ignorant to think some nice words and tales of relating to you will magically forever heal whatever ails you then get mad when you seek the same support again. Mental ailments are rarely temporary and I don’t care about someone because they’re perfect, caring about someone means being there no matter how many times they need you to be. It doesn’t feel like a chore, it doesn’t get old, and it never will.
(2)
(2.a)
What I'm Seeking:
I will upfront let you know if I’m clicking better with someone else or if you’re the one, I’m not here to tread the sea of fish or keep my options open, I’m here for one singular person.
(2.b)
Relationship:
A relationship is difficult for me right now, it’s been nearly half a year since I got out of my last relationship and the reasons for it ending are partially responsible for how I’ve been feeling and why it’s so hard for me to seek the comfort I so desperately crave. I will tell you about it but for the sake of not treating the entirety of the internet as my therapist, it’ll be in private. I really need the comfort of intimacy and the warmth of someone who cares. I'm not going to feel better if I just sulk and don’t move on. This is my attempt to get better, I’ll admit I’m not great right now and I don’t expect you to be either. If we can help each other heal, then I’d be more than happy :) A relationship isn’t just being there for when someone’s at their best. Even if a relationship is hard at the moment, I do want a life partner and I don’t want to be alone. Things aren’t going to get easier without you so I don’t want to hesitate. I view my other as an equal, I don’t like categorizing us into specific roles. We take care of each other and treat each other how we like to be treated, whatever that is, it's as simple as that. I don't care if you're "successful" or not, living simple lives with our days filled with love is the ultimate measure of success to me.
(3)
Personality:
(3.a)
On the Surface:
As you can tell I can be rather… stoic but that’s largely due to my current stressors, I truthfully am goofy and fun loving but I just can’t find it in me right now. I want to return to that but without someone to light up my world it’s been difficult to just have fun and enjoy stuff. I’m definitely more introverted, you won’t catch me at any parties or really outside at all. I definitely prefer being home though the occasional outing is not out of the question and one day I’d like to travel to other countries because I think that kind of perspective is important.
(3.b)
The Core of My Being:
I like being a spectator to it all and if we bear witness to humanity burning or its miraculous recovery, I want to watch it with you. I enjoy watching humanity advance, less so when it devolves but I want to watch it to the end nonetheless. I’m both a realist and someone who lives with my head in the clouds dreaming of scenarios or worlds that don’t exist. I’m saying that I enjoy a good narrative and can suspend my disbelief to enjoy something but you won’t catch me refusing vaccines or ignoring blatant facts for the sake of some pseudo science or witch doctor’s remedy. I’m an atheist but I do not rule out existence after death, not because I’m agnostic but because due to the nature of potentially infinite time at some point after how many googol years with a googol amount of 0s after that, something’s bound to replicate your consciousness perfectly at some point. It’s actually a really fascinating topic I like talking about. If infinite time and infinite possibilities exist, does non existence exist? Though that’s an awfully existentially dreadful thought process considering the ramifications of infinite existence and infinite possibilities during said infinite existence. I would say I’m confidently left leaning and I don’t think I could truly get along with anyone right leaning, at least America’s definition of right leaning. Left and right seems to have just become; do people deserve to suffer or do they deserve to live good lives? Being political is not something I expected to become but how can you not be when crimes against human rights are being passed on a daily basis and at the end of the day, everything’s political. Oftentimes I imagine the perfect moment as relaxing with my significant other playing games or cuddling in a cold room under blankets.
I value that special someone above all of the existential thoughts, the bad of the world, the good of the world, they practically become my world. So many worries wash away when I’m with them. I don’t know if that’s the defense mechanism my brain created to not feel bad 24/7 but if it is, I’m currently without it.
(3.c)
Insecurities:
I talk of philosophy and politics here but really I spend most of my time just playing games, watching stuff, and trying to not be sleep deprived. I’m also nowhere near as well spoken, heck sometimes I feel like my speech is broken. I won’t claim to be something I’m not, I sit at home while I complain about the world doing nothing about it wishing I had someone here with me. I’m not noble nor do I really want to be, I have morals I uphold but much like most other hypocrites I acknowledge that my comfortable life is built on the suffering of others without doing anything about it. Why? My sleep problems? Am I depressed? Is that why I have no energy to do anything? Do I just think nothing I could do could help? I can’t nail it down myself, maybe it’s a mix of everything, maybe I’m just a bad person. I have always told myself that if I had wealth I would help people but if I get that kind of wealth will I just become a wealth hoarder who tries to justify my riches as something I earned rather than something given to me through incredibly lucky circumstances? If I do help people is it because I’m a good person or out of guilt? Will I die alone? I feel like I drive everyone away with my clinginess, I get paranoid often and need reassurance often. It’s something I want to work on, something I’ve been trying to work on. Hearing that someone cares about me just never gets old. I value self awareness even if it’s painful.
(3.d)
Socializing:
I’m definitely a socially anxious/awkward mess, especially around strangers. I do feel a large amount of anxiety in public, people can’t tell by looking at my face since I kind of go stone faced in an attempt to block everything out but yeah you’ll notice that if we go out in public. Growing up my pediatrician said I was probably autistic, never got a formal diagnosis so that’s just great. But yeah that explains why I can’t make eye contact with people, I kinda just stare at the ground and avoid their gaze at all costs. A lot of these social struggles go away to a great degree once I know you for a bit but yeah I apologize for how terrible I am at socializing at first. Don’t let my social struggles fool you though, I love cuddling and being close with my person.
(3.e)
Sexuality:
I am a heterosexual male, though I’m not very masculine like at all. I may even be a bit feminine sometimes. Not that I believe any activity or manner of acting belongs to a gender but I don’t know how else to describe it. I’m definitely super affectionate and love it when my partner is too. I am open to dating demi people but I do have a libido so I don't think asexual would work out.
(4)
Interests:
(4.a)
Video Games:
As stated before, I do spend a lot of my time playing video games. It’s been hard lately with me having no energy but I really do want to play more games and have a good time playing them with you! I primarily play on PC though I do have a switch. I’m primarily into platform fighters, roguelikes, open world, survival, and sandbox games. As for single player story games, I enjoy watching them through twitch or youtube but for the most part I don’t play them myself. I’d watch you play them though!
Here’s a list of games we can play:
-Minecraft (Java)
-Risk of Rain 2
-Gunfire Reborn
-Roboquest
-7 Days to Die
-Phasmophobia
-Rust
-Unturned
-Bloons TD 6
-Platform fighters: Super Smash Bros. Melee, Slap City, Multiversus, Flash Party, Fraymakers
Whatever you want to play I’ll give it a shot! I will say that League bores me to death but I’ll play it for you :) I try to avoid MMOs, not because I don’t like them but because of how addicted I can get to them. I enjoy learning games in-depth so MMOs can be a fast track to addiction.
I recently got Kerbal Space Program 2 and ehhh not really worth it right now but hopefully later it will be? I’m super excited for Tears of the Kingdom! In the far off future I’m excited for Rivals of Aether 2 which is a platform fighter releasing in 2024, let me know of your most anticipated releases and I’ll see if I could play them with you!
Also I never got into FPS games but I could totally see myself playing like CoD with you or Escape From Tarkov. Any FPS really, I’m down.
I am a fan of Pokemon but with how things have been lately I don’t know how long that will last. Pixelmon is a common Pokemon mod I play for Minecraft if you want to play that! Also if I say I want to play something with you I mean it but there are often times when no matter how much I want to I'm just drained and can do little more than lay in bed so please don't think I'm making an excuse.
(4.b)
Science:
I really enjoy keeping up with the latest advances in pretty much everything, it could be biology, technology, astronomy, anything! I love seeing progression and I love talking about it! Really I could go on and on about what I’m obsessing about that day. I particularly love technology, ask me for my laptop specs I dare you. When I was little I always wanted to be a scientist of any kind but then insomnia and fear of college stuff hit me like a truck aaaand that’s the end of that dream.
(4.c)
Anime:
You got me, I like anime but I’d like to think my tastes are benign.
Here’s some of my favorites I can list from the top of my head:
- To Your Eternity
- Vinland Saga
- Spice and Wolf
- Re:Zero
- Mob Psycho
- Dr. Stone
- Attack on Titan
- Spy x Family
- My Hero Academia
- Ranking of Kings
- Demon Slayer
Okay I can go on and on but I will say I don’t like pointless fan service and the spamming of cliche anime moments. I mostly enjoy action and anything well animated if it doesn’t have a potato story. Heck Demon Slayer could be my top 3 out of season 2’s animation alone. I don’t watch slice of life often or romance but I would with you!
(4.d)
Misc:
I’m not going to go on and on about the tiniest little things when the main ones are covered but I’ll watch pretty much any show with you and anything really. I like random youtube videos that explain some kind of lore or mystery, sometimes mini documentaries too.
As for food I looove sushi and I’m a sucker for fast food. Okay and candy, definitely candy.
I used to play tennis but haven’t really had the opportunity nor friends to play it with and I’m way too socially anxious to seek it out. Also I will say that when we move to something like discord I type waaaay more casually. I’m not going to expect long paragraphs back and forth like we’re writing English papers for each other, I do enjoy long conversations but seriously don’t worry about having to put the utmost effort into every response, I just like making good first impressions I guess.
(5)
(5.a)
My Physical Characteristics:
I’m 5’8 (172cm), 128 pounds (58kg), with curly brown hair and blue eyes. I like keeping my hair long in the winter and cutting it in the summer. I’m pretty slim in general so if you’re looking for someone large, that’s not me. I don’t work out but my work is pretty physical so at least I’m not totally inactive. I don’t have the urge to work out or gain muscle but I do want to maintain my slim figure so if I start losing control of that I’ll work out. I like to keep my face shaved because I don’t think I look good with a beard/mustache so if you’re into those I apologize. I have an average amount of body hair? I’d prefer to be completely shaved but it’s easy to lose motivation with that battle, if you prefer shaved then I’d have no problem complying. Anyways here’s what I look like: https://imgur.com/a/MZZgf2t
(5.b)
My Physical Preferences:
Having physical preferences makes me feel shallow, if I could make myself not have them I would but unfortunately that’s now how that works. I don’t care if you’re shorter or taller than me and I don’t care if you weigh more or less than me. All I ask is that you’re slim-average weight. I would never ask for someone to be something I’m not. I don’t care about tattoos or piercings.**(6)Expectations of You (Relationship Only):**I am not looking for someone “exciting” or someone to “keep me on my toes” I’m not looking for someone to cater to my every whim or anything like that. I don’t care if you’re “boring” or if you aren’t “successful”. I know it’s a common thing for people to not want a “boring” relationship and to seek something argumentative or something with constant challenges but I just want to be with you. During the exciting times, the boring times, and everything in-between, all of it will be great with you! Maybe we do argue sometimes or maybe there will be challenges but that will never be something I purposefully seek out and I don’t want that to be something you seek out either. I will not play tricks on you and I will not play mind games, I expect the same from you. We all have personal measures of success we may or may not have lived up to but what I care about most is our commitment to each other. If we have each other we can get through tough times, near the ends of our lives I want us to look back and feel that this life together was worth more than anything. That’s not saying I want us to be haphazard, I don’t want us to make poor decisions for the sake of yolo and I want us to always be rational, especially with each other. I want you to be someone I can trust to make decisions and weigh the options with a level head, I’ll try my best to live up to the same for you. Most of all I want empathy, understanding, someone to feel the utmost comfort and trust in.
(7)
Living Situation:
Currently my life is pretty relaxed, I work 3 times a week as a night shift stocker. I currently live in a 2 bedroom apartment with my roommate but we’re looking to move into someplace larger by the end of the year if everything works out. The internet is weirdly great for Ohio too like I have fiber and later this year we’re supposed to be getting dedicated fiber so that’s neat. I’m not attached to Ohio so the ultimate goal living location wise is probably moving to a country that won’t send you into a lifetime of dealing with the repercussions from one medical emergency.
(8)
Deal Breakers:
Might as well make this simple and make it a list.
- Anti-vaxxers
- Unironically believing astrology
- Right wingers
- Hard drugs (occasional 420 and alcohol is fine, may even join you)
- Wanting children, there was a time when I was younger when I wanted children but with the state of the word that’s a definite no and I feel like I wouldn’t be able to handle the stress. I’d love a stress free life with as much time with you as possible.
- Homophobic
- Transphobic
- Racist
- Super Religious
- Don’t be a bigot and don’t deny facts.
(9)
Closing Remarks:
Well you made it, I was thinking that finding someone I’d be willing to put a lifetime of effort into at least required this much effort. If I think of anything more I’ll update the post. Also about timezones, it really doesn’t matter where in the world you are. I don’t have a sleep schedule and I have most of the week off from work so it really doesn’t matter.
I request that in your response you do put effort into it, it doesn’t have to be anywhere near as long as this but at least enough so I know that you read this and enough about you so I know why you saw potential compatibility. I will seriously read all of it and respond the best I can. I do also request a pic included in your response (sfw please) or one soon after we start talking to prove identity, I’ll send identity proving pics too. As long as this post is up, you can send a reply!
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Table of Contents
1…… The Main Goal
2…… What I’m Seeking
3…… Personality
4…… Interests
5…… Physical Characteristics (with pics)
6…… Expectations of You
7…… Living Situation
8…… Deal Breakers
9…… Closing Remarks
(1)
The Main Goal:
Well if you’re browsing this subreddit then much like me, you were alone this weekend and I’m sure you’d like to change that as much as me. I won’t lie, I am going through a rough part of my life right now. It’s difficult for me to find the energy for anything at the moment and I’m just really seeking affection in general, anything that will give me a push. I don’t want to be that person who brings everyone down but I could really use someone to talk to right now. I’d really like to find someone who’s similar to me so much to the point that we do everything together and talk about everything while not having to pretend to be interested. I want someone with whom we can mutually spew our emotions onto and have those feelings reciprocated. Not an emotional punching bag, but an emotional teddy bear to hug and cuddle until everything feels better as many times as we need. There’s people who I’m sure have told you the same, they’ll be there no matter how many times you need the support, no matter how many times the insecurities and bad thoughts come back but they don’t mean it. I will be the exception, I’m not so ignorant to think some nice words and tales of relating to you will magically forever heal whatever ails you then get mad when you seek the same support again. Mental ailments are rarely temporary and I don’t care about someone because they’re perfect, caring about someone means being there no matter how many times they need you to be. It doesn’t feel like a chore, it doesn’t get old, and it never will.
(2)
(2.a)
What I'm Seeking:
I will upfront let you know if I’m clicking better with someone else or if you’re the one, I’m not here to tread the sea of fish or keep my options open, I’m here for one singular person.
(2.b)
Relationship:
A relationship is difficult for me right now, it’s been nearly half a year since I got out of my last relationship and the reasons for it ending are partially responsible for how I’ve been feeling and why it’s so hard for me to seek the comfort I so desperately crave. I will tell you about it but for the sake of not treating the entirety of the internet as my therapist, it’ll be in private. I really need the comfort of intimacy and the warmth of someone who cares. I'm not going to feel better if I just sulk and don’t move on. This is my attempt to get better, I’ll admit I’m not great right now and I don’t expect you to be either. If we can help each other heal, then I’d be more than happy :) A relationship isn’t just being there for when someone’s at their best. Even if a relationship is hard at the moment, I do want a life partner and I don’t want to be alone. Things aren’t going to get easier without you so I don’t want to hesitate. I view my other as an equal, I don’t like categorizing us into specific roles. We take care of each other and treat each other how we like to be treated, whatever that is, it's as simple as that. I don't care if you're "successful" or not, living simple lives with our days filled with love is the ultimate measure of success to me.
(3)
Personality:
(3.a)
On the Surface:
As you can tell I can be rather… stoic but that’s largely due to my current stressors, I truthfully am goofy and fun loving but I just can’t find it in me right now. I want to return to that but without someone to light up my world it’s been difficult to just have fun and enjoy stuff. I’m definitely more introverted, you won’t catch me at any parties or really outside at all. I definitely prefer being home though the occasional outing is not out of the question and one day I’d like to travel to other countries because I think that kind of perspective is important.
(3.b)
The Core of My Being:
I like being a spectator to it all and if we bear witness to humanity burning or its miraculous recovery, I want to watch it with you. I enjoy watching humanity advance, less so when it devolves but I want to watch it to the end nonetheless. I’m both a realist and someone who lives with my head in the clouds dreaming of scenarios or worlds that don’t exist. I’m saying that I enjoy a good narrative and can suspend my disbelief to enjoy something but you won’t catch me refusing vaccines or ignoring blatant facts for the sake of some pseudo science or witch doctor’s remedy. I’m an atheist but I do not rule out existence after death, not because I’m agnostic but because due to the nature of potentially infinite time at some point after how many googol years with a googol amount of 0s after that, something’s bound to replicate your consciousness perfectly at some point. It’s actually a really fascinating topic I like talking about. If infinite time and infinite possibilities exist, does non existence exist? Though that’s an awfully existentially dreadful thought process considering the ramifications of infinite existence and infinite possibilities during said infinite existence. I would say I’m confidently left leaning and I don’t think I could truly get along with anyone right leaning, at least America’s definition of right leaning. Left and right seems to have just become; do people deserve to suffer or do they deserve to live good lives? Being political is not something I expected to become but how can you not be when crimes against human rights are being passed on a daily basis and at the end of the day, everything’s political. Oftentimes I imagine the perfect moment as relaxing with my significant other playing games or cuddling in a cold room under blankets.
I value that special someone above all of the existential thoughts, the bad of the world, the good of the world, they practically become my world. So many worries wash away when I’m with them. I don’t know if that’s the defense mechanism my brain created to not feel bad 24/7 but if it is, I’m currently without it.
(3.c)
Insecurities:
I talk of philosophy and politics here but really I spend most of my time just playing games, watching stuff, and trying to not be sleep deprived. I’m also nowhere near as well spoken, heck sometimes I feel like my speech is broken. I won’t claim to be something I’m not, I sit at home while I complain about the world doing nothing about it wishing I had someone here with me. I’m not noble nor do I really want to be, I have morals I uphold but much like most other hypocrites I acknowledge that my comfortable life is built on the suffering of others without doing anything about it. Why? My sleep problems? Am I depressed? Is that why I have no energy to do anything? Do I just think nothing I could do could help? I can’t nail it down myself, maybe it’s a mix of everything, maybe I’m just a bad person. I have always told myself that if I had wealth I would help people but if I get that kind of wealth will I just become a wealth hoarder who tries to justify my riches as something I earned rather than something given to me through incredibly lucky circumstances? If I do help people is it because I’m a good person or out of guilt? Will I die alone? I feel like I drive everyone away with my clinginess, I get paranoid often and need reassurance often. It’s something I want to work on, something I’ve been trying to work on. Hearing that someone cares about me just never gets old. I value self awareness even if it’s painful.
(3.d)
Socializing:
I’m definitely a socially anxious/awkward mess, especially around strangers. I do feel a large amount of anxiety in public, people can’t tell by looking at my face since I kind of go stone faced in an attempt to block everything out but yeah you’ll notice that if we go out in public. Growing up my pediatrician said I was probably autistic, never got a formal diagnosis so that’s just great. But yeah that explains why I can’t make eye contact with people, I kinda just stare at the ground and avoid their gaze at all costs. A lot of these social struggles go away to a great degree once I know you for a bit but yeah I apologize for how terrible I am at socializing at first. Don’t let my social struggles fool you though, I love cuddling and being close with my person.
(3.e)
Sexuality:
I am a heterosexual male, though I’m not very masculine like at all. I may even be a bit feminine sometimes. Not that I believe any activity or manner of acting belongs to a gender but I don’t know how else to describe it. I’m definitely super affectionate and love it when my partner is too. I am open to dating demi people but I do have a libido so I don't think asexual would work out.
(4)
Interests:
(4.a)
Video Games:
As stated before, I do spend a lot of my time playing video games. It’s been hard lately with me having no energy but I really do want to play more games and have a good time playing them with you! I primarily play on PC though I do have a switch. I’m primarily into platform fighters, roguelikes, open world, survival, and sandbox games. As for single player story games, I enjoy watching them through twitch or youtube but for the most part I don’t play them myself. I’d watch you play them though!
Here’s a list of games we can play:
-Minecraft (Java)
-Risk of Rain 2
-Gunfire Reborn
-Roboquest
-7 Days to Die
-Phasmophobia
-Rust
-Unturned
-Bloons TD 6
-Platform fighters: Super Smash Bros. Melee, Slap City, Multiversus, Flash Party, Fraymakers
Whatever you want to play I’ll give it a shot! I will say that League bores me to death but I’ll play it for you :) I try to avoid MMOs, not because I don’t like them but because of how addicted I can get to them. I enjoy learning games in-depth so MMOs can be a fast track to addiction.
I recently got Kerbal Space Program 2 and ehhh not really worth it right now but hopefully later it will be? I’m super excited for Tears of the Kingdom! In the far off future I’m excited for Rivals of Aether 2 which is a platform fighter releasing in 2024, let me know of your most anticipated releases and I’ll see if I could play them with you!
Also I never got into FPS games but I could totally see myself playing like CoD with you or Escape From Tarkov. Any FPS really, I’m down.
I am a fan of Pokemon but with how things have been lately I don’t know how long that will last. Pixelmon is a common Pokemon mod I play for Minecraft if you want to play that! Also if I say I want to play something with you I mean it but there are often times when no matter how much I want to I'm just drained and can do little more than lay in bed so please don't think I'm making an excuse.
(4.b)
Science:
I really enjoy keeping up with the latest advances in pretty much everything, it could be biology, technology, astronomy, anything! I love seeing progression and I love talking about it! Really I could go on and on about what I’m obsessing about that day. I particularly love technology, ask me for my laptop specs I dare you. When I was little I always wanted to be a scientist of any kind but then insomnia and fear of college stuff hit me like a truck aaaand that’s the end of that dream.
(4.c)
Anime:
You got me, I like anime but I’d like to think my tastes are benign.
Here’s some of my favorites I can list from the top of my head:
- To Your Eternity
- Vinland Saga
- Spice and Wolf
- Re:Zero
- Mob Psycho
- Dr. Stone
- Attack on Titan
- Spy x Family
- My Hero Academia
- Ranking of Kings
- Demon Slayer
Okay I can go on and on but I will say I don’t like pointless fan service and the spamming of cliche anime moments. I mostly enjoy action and anything well animated if it doesn’t have a potato story. Heck Demon Slayer could be my top 3 out of season 2’s animation alone. I don’t watch slice of life often or romance but I would with you!
(4.d)
Misc:
I’m not going to go on and on about the tiniest little things when the main ones are covered but I’ll watch pretty much any show with you and anything really. I like random youtube videos that explain some kind of lore or mystery, sometimes mini documentaries too.
As for food I looove sushi and I’m a sucker for fast food. Okay and candy, definitely candy.
I used to play tennis but haven’t really had the opportunity nor friends to play it with and I’m way too socially anxious to seek it out. Also I will say that when we move to something like discord I type waaaay more casually. I’m not going to expect long paragraphs back and forth like we’re writing English papers for each other, I do enjoy long conversations but seriously don’t worry about having to put the utmost effort into every response, I just like making good first impressions I guess.
(5)
(5.a)
My Physical Characteristics:
I’m 5’8 (172cm), 128 pounds (58kg), with curly brown hair and blue eyes. I like keeping my hair long in the winter and cutting it in the summer. I’m pretty slim in general so if you’re looking for someone large, that’s not me. I don’t work out but my work is pretty physical so at least I’m not totally inactive. I don’t have the urge to work out or gain muscle but I do want to maintain my slim figure so if I start losing control of that I’ll work out. I like to keep my face shaved because I don’t think I look good with a beard/mustache so if you’re into those I apologize. I have an average amount of body hair? I’d prefer to be completely shaved but it’s easy to lose motivation with that battle, if you prefer shaved then I’d have no problem complying. Anyways here’s what I look like: https://imgur.com/a/MZZgf2t
(5.b)
My Physical Preferences:
Having physical preferences makes me feel shallow, if I could make myself not have them I would but unfortunately that’s now how that works. I don’t care if you’re shorter or taller than me and I don’t care if you weigh more or less than me. All I ask is that you’re slim-average weight. I would never ask for someone to be something I’m not. I don’t care about tattoos or piercings.**(6)Expectations of You (Relationship Only):**I am not looking for someone “exciting” or someone to “keep me on my toes” I’m not looking for someone to cater to my every whim or anything like that. I don’t care if you’re “boring” or if you aren’t “successful”. I know it’s a common thing for people to not want a “boring” relationship and to seek something argumentative or something with constant challenges but I just want to be with you. During the exciting times, the boring times, and everything in-between, all of it will be great with you! Maybe we do argue sometimes or maybe there will be challenges but that will never be something I purposefully seek out and I don’t want that to be something you seek out either. I will not play tricks on you and I will not play mind games, I expect the same from you. We all have personal measures of success we may or may not have lived up to but what I care about most is our commitment to each other. If we have each other we can get through tough times, near the ends of our lives I want us to look back and feel that this life together was worth more than anything. That’s not saying I want us to be haphazard, I don’t want us to make poor decisions for the sake of yolo and I want us to always be rational, especially with each other. I want you to be someone I can trust to make decisions and weigh the options with a level head, I’ll try my best to live up to the same for you. Most of all I want empathy, understanding, someone to feel the utmost comfort and trust in.
(7)
Living Situation:
Currently my life is pretty relaxed, I work 3 times a week as a night shift stocker. I currently live in a 2 bedroom apartment with my roommate but we’re looking to move into someplace larger by the end of the year if everything works out. The internet is weirdly great for Ohio too like I have fiber and later this year we’re supposed to be getting dedicated fiber so that’s neat. I’m not attached to Ohio so the ultimate goal living location wise is probably moving to a country that won’t send you into a lifetime of dealing with the repercussions from one medical emergency.
(8)
Deal Breakers:
Might as well make this simple and make it a list.
- Anti-vaxxers
- Unironically believing astrology
- Right wingers
- Hard drugs (occasional 420 and alcohol is fine, may even join you)
- Wanting children, there was a time when I was younger when I wanted children but with the state of the word that’s a definite no and I feel like I wouldn’t be able to handle the stress. I’d love a stress free life with as much time with you as possible.
- Homophobic
- Transphobic
- Racist
- Super Religious
- Don’t be a bigot and don’t deny facts.
(9)
Closing Remarks:
Well you made it, I was thinking that finding someone I’d be willing to put a lifetime of effort into at least required this much effort. If I think of anything more I’ll update the post. Also about timezones, it really doesn’t matter where in the world you are. I don’t have a sleep schedule and I have most of the week off from work so it really doesn’t matter.
I request that in your response you do put effort into it, it doesn’t have to be anywhere near as long as this but at least enough so I know that you read this and enough about you so I know why you saw potential compatibility. I will seriously read all of it and respond the best I can. I do also request a pic included in your response (sfw please) or one soon after we start talking to prove identity, I’ll send identity proving pics too. As long as this post is up, you can send a reply!
2023.06.02 01:30 kylexyz001 23 [M4F] Ohio/Worldwide- Let's Be Each Other's Everything (Longest post ever?)
Brace yourselves, this is gonna be a long one.
Table of Contents
1…… The Main Goal
2…… What I’m Seeking
3…… Personality
4…… Interests
5…… Physical Characteristics (with pics)
6…… Expectations of You
7…… Living Situation
8…… Deal Breakers
9…… Closing Remarks
(1)
The Main Goal:
Well if you’re browsing this subreddit then much like me, you were alone this weekend and I’m sure you’d like to change that as much as me. I won’t lie, I am going through a rough part of my life right now. It’s difficult for me to find the energy for anything at the moment and I’m just really seeking affection in general, anything that will give me a push. I don’t want to be that person who brings everyone down but I could really use someone to talk to right now. I’d really like to find someone who’s similar to me so much to the point that we do everything together and talk about everything while not having to pretend to be interested. I want someone with whom we can mutually spew our emotions onto and have those feelings reciprocated. Not an emotional punching bag, but an emotional teddy bear to hug and cuddle until everything feels better as many times as we need. There’s people who I’m sure have told you the same, they’ll be there no matter how many times you need the support, no matter how many times the insecurities and bad thoughts come back but they don’t mean it. I will be the exception, I’m not so ignorant to think some nice words and tales of relating to you will magically forever heal whatever ails you then get mad when you seek the same support again. Mental ailments are rarely temporary and I don’t care about someone because they’re perfect, caring about someone means being there no matter how many times they need you to be. It doesn’t feel like a chore, it doesn’t get old, and it never will.
(2)
(2.a)
What I'm Seeking:
I will upfront let you know if I’m clicking better with someone else or if you’re the one, I’m not here to tread the sea of fish or keep my options open, I’m here for one singular person.
(2.b)
Relationship:
A relationship is difficult for me right now, it’s been nearly half a year since I got out of my last relationship and the reasons for it ending are partially responsible for how I’ve been feeling and why it’s so hard for me to seek the comfort I so desperately crave. I will tell you about it but for the sake of not treating the entirety of the internet as my therapist, it’ll be in private. I really need the comfort of intimacy and the warmth of someone who cares. I'm not going to feel better if I just sulk and don’t move on. This is my attempt to get better, I’ll admit I’m not great right now and I don’t expect you to be either. If we can help each other heal, then I’d be more than happy :) A relationship isn’t just being there for when someone’s at their best. Even if a relationship is hard at the moment, I do want a life partner and I don’t want to be alone. Things aren’t going to get easier without you so I don’t want to hesitate. I view my other as an equal, I don’t like categorizing us into specific roles. We take care of each other and treat each other how we like to be treated, whatever that is, it's as simple as that. I don't care if you're "successful" or not, living simple lives with our days filled with love is the ultimate measure of success to me.
(3)
Personality:
(3.a)
On the Surface:
As you can tell I can be rather… stoic but that’s largely due to my current stressors, I truthfully am goofy and fun loving but I just can’t find it in me right now. I want to return to that but without someone to light up my world it’s been difficult to just have fun and enjoy stuff. I’m definitely more introverted, you won’t catch me at any parties or really outside at all. I definitely prefer being home though the occasional outing is not out of the question and one day I’d like to travel to other countries because I think that kind of perspective is important.
(3.b)
The Core of My Being:
I like being a spectator to it all and if we bear witness to humanity burning or its miraculous recovery, I want to watch it with you. I enjoy watching humanity advance, less so when it devolves but I want to watch it to the end nonetheless. I’m both a realist and someone who lives with my head in the clouds dreaming of scenarios or worlds that don’t exist. I’m saying that I enjoy a good narrative and can suspend my disbelief to enjoy something but you won’t catch me refusing vaccines or ignoring blatant facts for the sake of some pseudo science or witch doctor’s remedy. I’m an atheist but I do not rule out existence after death, not because I’m agnostic but because due to the nature of potentially infinite time at some point after how many googol years with a googol amount of 0s after that, something’s bound to replicate your consciousness perfectly at some point. It’s actually a really fascinating topic I like talking about. If infinite time and infinite possibilities exist, does non existence exist? Though that’s an awfully existentially dreadful thought process considering the ramifications of infinite existence and infinite possibilities during said infinite existence. I would say I’m confidently left leaning and I don’t think I could truly get along with anyone right leaning, at least America’s definition of right leaning. Left and right seems to have just become; do people deserve to suffer or do they deserve to live good lives? Being political is not something I expected to become but how can you not be when crimes against human rights are being passed on a daily basis and at the end of the day, everything’s political. Oftentimes I imagine the perfect moment as relaxing with my significant other playing games or cuddling in a cold room under blankets.
I value that special someone above all of the existential thoughts, the bad of the world, the good of the world, they practically become my world. So many worries wash away when I’m with them. I don’t know if that’s the defense mechanism my brain created to not feel bad 24/7 but if it is, I’m currently without it.
(3.c)
Insecurities:
I talk of philosophy and politics here but really I spend most of my time just playing games, watching stuff, and trying to not be sleep deprived. I’m also nowhere near as well spoken, heck sometimes I feel like my speech is broken. I won’t claim to be something I’m not, I sit at home while I complain about the world doing nothing about it wishing I had someone here with me. I’m not noble nor do I really want to be, I have morals I uphold but much like most other hypocrites I acknowledge that my comfortable life is built on the suffering of others without doing anything about it. Why? My sleep problems? Am I depressed? Is that why I have no energy to do anything? Do I just think nothing I could do could help? I can’t nail it down myself, maybe it’s a mix of everything, maybe I’m just a bad person. I have always told myself that if I had wealth I would help people but if I get that kind of wealth will I just become a wealth hoarder who tries to justify my riches as something I earned rather than something given to me through incredibly lucky circumstances? If I do help people is it because I’m a good person or out of guilt? Will I die alone? I feel like I drive everyone away with my clinginess, I get paranoid often and need reassurance often. It’s something I want to work on, something I’ve been trying to work on. Hearing that someone cares about me just never gets old. I value self awareness even if it’s painful.
(3.d)
Socializing:
I’m definitely a socially anxious/awkward mess, especially around strangers. I do feel a large amount of anxiety in public, people can’t tell by looking at my face since I kind of go stone faced in an attempt to block everything out but yeah you’ll notice that if we go out in public. Growing up my pediatrician said I was probably autistic, never got a formal diagnosis so that’s just great. But yeah that explains why I can’t make eye contact with people, I kinda just stare at the ground and avoid their gaze at all costs. A lot of these social struggles go away to a great degree once I know you for a bit but yeah I apologize for how terrible I am at socializing at first. Don’t let my social struggles fool you though, I love cuddling and being close with my person.
(3.e)
Sexuality:
I am a heterosexual male, though I’m not very masculine like at all. I may even be a bit feminine sometimes. Not that I believe any activity or manner of acting belongs to a gender but I don’t know how else to describe it. I’m definitely super affectionate and love it when my partner is too. I am open to dating demi people but I do have a libido so I don't think asexual would work out.
(4)
Interests:
(4.a)
Video Games:
As stated before, I do spend a lot of my time playing video games. It’s been hard lately with me having no energy but I really do want to play more games and have a good time playing them with you! I primarily play on PC though I do have a switch. I’m primarily into platform fighters, roguelikes, open world, survival, and sandbox games. As for single player story games, I enjoy watching them through twitch or youtube but for the most part I don’t play them myself. I’d watch you play them though!
Here’s a list of games we can play:
-Minecraft (Java)
-Risk of Rain 2
-Gunfire Reborn
-Roboquest
-7 Days to Die
-Phasmophobia
-Rust
-Unturned
-Bloons TD 6
-Platform fighters: Super Smash Bros. Melee, Slap City, Multiversus, Flash Party, Fraymakers
Whatever you want to play I’ll give it a shot! I will say that League bores me to death but I’ll play it for you :) I try to avoid MMOs, not because I don’t like them but because of how addicted I can get to them. I enjoy learning games in-depth so MMOs can be a fast track to addiction.
I recently got Kerbal Space Program 2 and ehhh not really worth it right now but hopefully later it will be? I’m super excited for Tears of the Kingdom! In the far off future I’m excited for Rivals of Aether 2 which is a platform fighter releasing in 2024, let me know of your most anticipated releases and I’ll see if I could play them with you!
Also I never got into FPS games but I could totally see myself playing like CoD with you or Escape From Tarkov. Any FPS really, I’m down.
I am a fan of Pokemon but with how things have been lately I don’t know how long that will last. Pixelmon is a common Pokemon mod I play for Minecraft if you want to play that! Also if I say I want to play something with you I mean it but there are often times when no matter how much I want to I'm just drained and can do little more than lay in bed so please don't think I'm making an excuse.
(4.b)
Science:
I really enjoy keeping up with the latest advances in pretty much everything, it could be biology, technology, astronomy, anything! I love seeing progression and I love talking about it! Really I could go on and on about what I’m obsessing about that day. I particularly love technology, ask me for my laptop specs I dare you. When I was little I always wanted to be a scientist of any kind but then insomnia and fear of college stuff hit me like a truck aaaand that’s the end of that dream.
(4.c)
Anime:
You got me, I like anime but I’d like to think my tastes are benign.
Here’s some of my favorites I can list from the top of my head:
- To Your Eternity
- Vinland Saga
- Spice and Wolf
- Re:Zero
- Mob Psycho
- Dr. Stone
- Attack on Titan
- Spy x Family
- My Hero Academia
- Ranking of Kings
- Demon Slayer
Okay I can go on and on but I will say I don’t like pointless fan service and the spamming of cliche anime moments. I mostly enjoy action and anything well animated if it doesn’t have a potato story. Heck Demon Slayer could be my top 3 out of season 2’s animation alone. I don’t watch slice of life often or romance but I would with you!
(4.d)
Misc:
I’m not going to go on and on about the tiniest little things when the main ones are covered but I’ll watch pretty much any show with you and anything really. I like random youtube videos that explain some kind of lore or mystery, sometimes mini documentaries too.
As for food I looove sushi and I’m a sucker for fast food. Okay and candy, definitely candy.
I used to play tennis but haven’t really had the opportunity nor friends to play it with and I’m way too socially anxious to seek it out. Also I will say that when we move to something like discord I type waaaay more casually. I’m not going to expect long paragraphs back and forth like we’re writing English papers for each other, I do enjoy long conversations but seriously don’t worry about having to put the utmost effort into every response, I just like making good first impressions I guess.
(5)
(5.a)
My Physical Characteristics:
I’m 5’8 (172cm), 128 pounds (58kg), with curly brown hair and blue eyes. I like keeping my hair long in the winter and cutting it in the summer. I’m pretty slim in general so if you’re looking for someone large, that’s not me. I don’t work out but my work is pretty physical so at least I’m not totally inactive. I don’t have the urge to work out or gain muscle but I do want to maintain my slim figure so if I start losing control of that I’ll work out. I like to keep my face shaved because I don’t think I look good with a beard/mustache so if you’re into those I apologize. I have an average amount of body hair? I’d prefer to be completely shaved but it’s easy to lose motivation with that battle, if you prefer shaved then I’d have no problem complying. Anyways here’s what I look like: https://imgur.com/a/MZZgf2t
(5.b)
My Physical Preferences:
Having physical preferences makes me feel shallow, if I could make myself not have them I would but unfortunately that’s now how that works. I don’t care if you’re shorter or taller than me and I don’t care if you weigh more or less than me. All I ask is that you’re slim-average weight. I would never ask for someone to be something I’m not. I don’t care about tattoos or piercings.**(6)Expectations of You (Relationship Only):**I am not looking for someone “exciting” or someone to “keep me on my toes” I’m not looking for someone to cater to my every whim or anything like that. I don’t care if you’re “boring” or if you aren’t “successful”. I know it’s a common thing for people to not want a “boring” relationship and to seek something argumentative or something with constant challenges but I just want to be with you. During the exciting times, the boring times, and everything in-between, all of it will be great with you! Maybe we do argue sometimes or maybe there will be challenges but that will never be something I purposefully seek out and I don’t want that to be something you seek out either. I will not play tricks on you and I will not play mind games, I expect the same from you. We all have personal measures of success we may or may not have lived up to but what I care about most is our commitment to each other. If we have each other we can get through tough times, near the ends of our lives I want us to look back and feel that this life together was worth more than anything. That’s not saying I want us to be haphazard, I don’t want us to make poor decisions for the sake of yolo and I want us to always be rational, especially with each other. I want you to be someone I can trust to make decisions and weigh the options with a level head, I’ll try my best to live up to the same for you. Most of all I want empathy, understanding, someone to feel the utmost comfort and trust in.
(7)
Living Situation:
Currently my life is pretty relaxed, I work 3 times a week as a night shift stocker. I currently live in a 2 bedroom apartment with my roommate but we’re looking to move into someplace larger by the end of the year if everything works out. The internet is weirdly great for Ohio too like I have fiber and later this year we’re supposed to be getting dedicated fiber so that’s neat. I’m not attached to Ohio so the ultimate goal living location wise is probably moving to a country that won’t send you into a lifetime of dealing with the repercussions from one medical emergency.
(8)
Deal Breakers:
Might as well make this simple and make it a list.
- Anti-vaxxers
- Unironically believing astrology
- Right wingers
- Hard drugs (occasional 420 and alcohol is fine, may even join you)
- Wanting children, there was a time when I was younger when I wanted children but with the state of the word that’s a definite no and I feel like I wouldn’t be able to handle the stress. I’d love a stress free life with as much time with you as possible.
- Homophobic
- Transphobic
- Racist
- Super Religious
- Don’t be a bigot and don’t deny facts.
(9)
Closing Remarks:
Well you made it, I was thinking that finding someone I’d be willing to put a lifetime of effort into at least required this much effort. If I think of anything more I’ll update the post. Also about timezones, it really doesn’t matter where in the world you are. I don’t have a sleep schedule and I have most of the week off from work so it really doesn’t matter.
I request that in your response you do put effort into it, it doesn’t have to be anywhere near as long as this but at least enough so I know that you read this and enough about you so I know why you saw potential compatibility. I will seriously read all of it and respond the best I can. I do also request a pic included in your response (sfw please) or one soon after we start talking to prove identity, I’ll send identity proving pics too. As long as this post is up, you can send a reply!
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Table of Contents
1…… The Main Goal
2…… What I’m Seeking
3…… Personality
4…… Interests
5…… Physical Characteristics (with pics)
6…… Expectations of You
7…… Living Situation
8…… Deal Breakers
9…… Closing Remarks
(1)
The Main Goal:
Well if you’re browsing this subreddit then much like me, you were alone this weekend and I’m sure you’d like to change that as much as me. I won’t lie, I am going through a rough part of my life right now. It’s difficult for me to find the energy for anything at the moment and I’m just really seeking affection in general, anything that will give me a push. I don’t want to be that person who brings everyone down but I could really use someone to talk to right now. I’d really like to find someone who’s similar to me so much to the point that we do everything together and talk about everything while not having to pretend to be interested. I want someone with whom we can mutually spew our emotions onto and have those feelings reciprocated. Not an emotional punching bag, but an emotional teddy bear to hug and cuddle until everything feels better as many times as we need. There’s people who I’m sure have told you the same, they’ll be there no matter how many times you need the support, no matter how many times the insecurities and bad thoughts come back but they don’t mean it. I will be the exception, I’m not so ignorant to think some nice words and tales of relating to you will magically forever heal whatever ails you then get mad when you seek the same support again. Mental ailments are rarely temporary and I don’t care about someone because they’re perfect, caring about someone means being there no matter how many times they need you to be. It doesn’t feel like a chore, it doesn’t get old, and it never will.
(2)
(2.a)
What I'm Seeking:
I will upfront let you know if I’m clicking better with someone else or if you’re the one, I’m not here to tread the sea of fish or keep my options open, I’m here for one singular person.
(2.b)
Relationship:
A relationship is difficult for me right now, it’s been nearly half a year since I got out of my last relationship and the reasons for it ending are partially responsible for how I’ve been feeling and why it’s so hard for me to seek the comfort I so desperately crave. I will tell you about it but for the sake of not treating the entirety of the internet as my therapist, it’ll be in private. I really need the comfort of intimacy and the warmth of someone who cares. I'm not going to feel better if I just sulk and don’t move on. This is my attempt to get better, I’ll admit I’m not great right now and I don’t expect you to be either. If we can help each other heal, then I’d be more than happy :) A relationship isn’t just being there for when someone’s at their best. Even if a relationship is hard at the moment, I do want a life partner and I don’t want to be alone. Things aren’t going to get easier without you so I don’t want to hesitate. I view my other as an equal, I don’t like categorizing us into specific roles. We take care of each other and treat each other how we like to be treated, whatever that is, it's as simple as that. I don't care if you're "successful" or not, living simple lives with our days filled with love is the ultimate measure of success to me.
(3)
Personality:
(3.a)
On the Surface:
As you can tell I can be rather… stoic but that’s largely due to my current stressors, I truthfully am goofy and fun loving but I just can’t find it in me right now. I want to return to that but without someone to light up my world it’s been difficult to just have fun and enjoy stuff. I’m definitely more introverted, you won’t catch me at any parties or really outside at all. I definitely prefer being home though the occasional outing is not out of the question and one day I’d like to travel to other countries because I think that kind of perspective is important.
(3.b)
The Core of My Being:
I like being a spectator to it all and if we bear witness to humanity burning or its miraculous recovery, I want to watch it with you. I enjoy watching humanity advance, less so when it devolves but I want to watch it to the end nonetheless. I’m both a realist and someone who lives with my head in the clouds dreaming of scenarios or worlds that don’t exist. I’m saying that I enjoy a good narrative and can suspend my disbelief to enjoy something but you won’t catch me refusing vaccines or ignoring blatant facts for the sake of some pseudo science or witch doctor’s remedy. I’m an atheist but I do not rule out existence after death, not because I’m agnostic but because due to the nature of potentially infinite time at some point after how many googol years with a googol amount of 0s after that, something’s bound to replicate your consciousness perfectly at some point. It’s actually a really fascinating topic I like talking about. If infinite time and infinite possibilities exist, does non existence exist? Though that’s an awfully existentially dreadful thought process considering the ramifications of infinite existence and infinite possibilities during said infinite existence. I would say I’m confidently left leaning and I don’t think I could truly get along with anyone right leaning, at least America’s definition of right leaning. Left and right seems to have just become; do people deserve to suffer or do they deserve to live good lives? Being political is not something I expected to become but how can you not be when crimes against human rights are being passed on a daily basis and at the end of the day, everything’s political. Oftentimes I imagine the perfect moment as relaxing with my significant other playing games or cuddling in a cold room under blankets.
I value that special someone above all of the existential thoughts, the bad of the world, the good of the world, they practically become my world. So many worries wash away when I’m with them. I don’t know if that’s the defense mechanism my brain created to not feel bad 24/7 but if it is, I’m currently without it.
(3.c)
Insecurities:
I talk of philosophy and politics here but really I spend most of my time just playing games, watching stuff, and trying to not be sleep deprived. I’m also nowhere near as well spoken, heck sometimes I feel like my speech is broken. I won’t claim to be something I’m not, I sit at home while I complain about the world doing nothing about it wishing I had someone here with me. I’m not noble nor do I really want to be, I have morals I uphold but much like most other hypocrites I acknowledge that my comfortable life is built on the suffering of others without doing anything about it. Why? My sleep problems? Am I depressed? Is that why I have no energy to do anything? Do I just think nothing I could do could help? I can’t nail it down myself, maybe it’s a mix of everything, maybe I’m just a bad person. I have always told myself that if I had wealth I would help people but if I get that kind of wealth will I just become a wealth hoarder who tries to justify my riches as something I earned rather than something given to me through incredibly lucky circumstances? If I do help people is it because I’m a good person or out of guilt? Will I die alone? I feel like I drive everyone away with my clinginess, I get paranoid often and need reassurance often. It’s something I want to work on, something I’ve been trying to work on. Hearing that someone cares about me just never gets old. I value self awareness even if it’s painful.
(3.d)
Socializing:
I’m definitely a socially anxious/awkward mess, especially around strangers. I do feel a large amount of anxiety in public, people can’t tell by looking at my face since I kind of go stone faced in an attempt to block everything out but yeah you’ll notice that if we go out in public. Growing up my pediatrician said I was probably autistic, never got a formal diagnosis so that’s just great. But yeah that explains why I can’t make eye contact with people, I kinda just stare at the ground and avoid their gaze at all costs. A lot of these social struggles go away to a great degree once I know you for a bit but yeah I apologize for how terrible I am at socializing at first. Don’t let my social struggles fool you though, I love cuddling and being close with my person.
(3.e)
Sexuality:
I am a heterosexual male, though I’m not very masculine like at all. I may even be a bit feminine sometimes. Not that I believe any activity or manner of acting belongs to a gender but I don’t know how else to describe it. I’m definitely super affectionate and love it when my partner is too. I am open to dating demi people but I do have a libido so I don't think asexual would work out.
(4)
Interests:
(4.a)
Video Games:
As stated before, I do spend a lot of my time playing video games. It’s been hard lately with me having no energy but I really do want to play more games and have a good time playing them with you! I primarily play on PC though I do have a switch. I’m primarily into platform fighters, roguelikes, open world, survival, and sandbox games. As for single player story games, I enjoy watching them through twitch or youtube but for the most part I don’t play them myself. I’d watch you play them though!
Here’s a list of games we can play:
-Minecraft (Java)
-Risk of Rain 2
-Gunfire Reborn
-Roboquest
-7 Days to Die
-Phasmophobia
-Rust
-Unturned
-Bloons TD 6
-Platform fighters: Super Smash Bros. Melee, Slap City, Multiversus, Flash Party, Fraymakers
Whatever you want to play I’ll give it a shot! I will say that League bores me to death but I’ll play it for you :) I try to avoid MMOs, not because I don’t like them but because of how addicted I can get to them. I enjoy learning games in-depth so MMOs can be a fast track to addiction.
I recently got Kerbal Space Program 2 and ehhh not really worth it right now but hopefully later it will be? I’m super excited for Tears of the Kingdom! In the far off future I’m excited for Rivals of Aether 2 which is a platform fighter releasing in 2024, let me know of your most anticipated releases and I’ll see if I could play them with you!
Also I never got into FPS games but I could totally see myself playing like CoD with you or Escape From Tarkov. Any FPS really, I’m down.
I am a fan of Pokemon but with how things have been lately I don’t know how long that will last. Pixelmon is a common Pokemon mod I play for Minecraft if you want to play that! Also if I say I want to play something with you I mean it but there are often times when no matter how much I want to I'm just drained and can do little more than lay in bed so please don't think I'm making an excuse.
(4.b)
Science:
I really enjoy keeping up with the latest advances in pretty much everything, it could be biology, technology, astronomy, anything! I love seeing progression and I love talking about it! Really I could go on and on about what I’m obsessing about that day. I particularly love technology, ask me for my laptop specs I dare you. When I was little I always wanted to be a scientist of any kind but then insomnia and fear of college stuff hit me like a truck aaaand that’s the end of that dream.
(4.c)
Anime:
You got me, I like anime but I’d like to think my tastes are benign.
Here’s some of my favorites I can list from the top of my head:
- To Your Eternity
- Vinland Saga
- Spice and Wolf
- Re:Zero
- Mob Psycho
- Dr. Stone
- Attack on Titan
- Spy x Family
- My Hero Academia
- Ranking of Kings
- Demon Slayer
Okay I can go on and on but I will say I don’t like pointless fan service and the spamming of cliche anime moments. I mostly enjoy action and anything well animated if it doesn’t have a potato story. Heck Demon Slayer could be my top 3 out of season 2’s animation alone. I don’t watch slice of life often or romance but I would with you!
(4.d)
Misc:
I’m not going to go on and on about the tiniest little things when the main ones are covered but I’ll watch pretty much any show with you and anything really. I like random youtube videos that explain some kind of lore or mystery, sometimes mini documentaries too.
As for food I looove sushi and I’m a sucker for fast food. Okay and candy, definitely candy.
I used to play tennis but haven’t really had the opportunity nor friends to play it with and I’m way too socially anxious to seek it out. Also I will say that when we move to something like discord I type waaaay more casually. I’m not going to expect long paragraphs back and forth like we’re writing English papers for each other, I do enjoy long conversations but seriously don’t worry about having to put the utmost effort into every response, I just like making good first impressions I guess.
(5)
(5.a)
My Physical Characteristics:
I’m 5’8 (172cm), 128 pounds (58kg), with curly brown hair and blue eyes. I like keeping my hair long in the winter and cutting it in the summer. I’m pretty slim in general so if you’re looking for someone large, that’s not me. I don’t work out but my work is pretty physical so at least I’m not totally inactive. I don’t have the urge to work out or gain muscle but I do want to maintain my slim figure so if I start losing control of that I’ll work out. I like to keep my face shaved because I don’t think I look good with a beard/mustache so if you’re into those I apologize. I have an average amount of body hair? I’d prefer to be completely shaved but it’s easy to lose motivation with that battle, if you prefer shaved then I’d have no problem complying. Anyways here’s what I look like: https://imgur.com/a/MZZgf2t
(5.b)
My Physical Preferences:
Having physical preferences makes me feel shallow, if I could make myself not have them I would but unfortunately that’s now how that works. I don’t care if you’re shorter or taller than me and I don’t care if you weigh more or less than me. All I ask is that you’re slim-average weight. I would never ask for someone to be something I’m not. I don’t care about tattoos or piercings.**(6)Expectations of You (Relationship Only):**I am not looking for someone “exciting” or someone to “keep me on my toes” I’m not looking for someone to cater to my every whim or anything like that. I don’t care if you’re “boring” or if you aren’t “successful”. I know it’s a common thing for people to not want a “boring” relationship and to seek something argumentative or something with constant challenges but I just want to be with you. During the exciting times, the boring times, and everything in-between, all of it will be great with you! Maybe we do argue sometimes or maybe there will be challenges but that will never be something I purposefully seek out and I don’t want that to be something you seek out either. I will not play tricks on you and I will not play mind games, I expect the same from you. We all have personal measures of success we may or may not have lived up to but what I care about most is our commitment to each other. If we have each other we can get through tough times, near the ends of our lives I want us to look back and feel that this life together was worth more than anything. That’s not saying I want us to be haphazard, I don’t want us to make poor decisions for the sake of yolo and I want us to always be rational, especially with each other. I want you to be someone I can trust to make decisions and weigh the options with a level head, I’ll try my best to live up to the same for you. Most of all I want empathy, understanding, someone to feel the utmost comfort and trust in.
(7)
Living Situation:
Currently my life is pretty relaxed, I work 3 times a week as a night shift stocker. I currently live in a 2 bedroom apartment with my roommate but we’re looking to move into someplace larger by the end of the year if everything works out. The internet is weirdly great for Ohio too like I have fiber and later this year we’re supposed to be getting dedicated fiber so that’s neat. I’m not attached to Ohio so the ultimate goal living location wise is probably moving to a country that won’t send you into a lifetime of dealing with the repercussions from one medical emergency.
(8)
Deal Breakers:
Might as well make this simple and make it a list.
- Anti-vaxxers
- Unironically believing astrology
- Right wingers
- Hard drugs (occasional 420 and alcohol is fine, may even join you)
- Wanting children, there was a time when I was younger when I wanted children but with the state of the word that’s a definite no and I feel like I wouldn’t be able to handle the stress. I’d love a stress free life with as much time with you as possible.
- Homophobic
- Transphobic
- Racist
- Super Religious
- Don’t be a bigot and don’t deny facts.
(9)
Closing Remarks:
Well you made it, I was thinking that finding someone I’d be willing to put a lifetime of effort into at least required this much effort. If I think of anything more I’ll update the post. Also about timezones, it really doesn’t matter where in the world you are. I don’t have a sleep schedule and I have most of the week off from work so it really doesn’t matter.
I request that in your response you do put effort into it, it doesn’t have to be anywhere near as long as this but at least enough so I know that you read this and enough about you so I know why you saw potential compatibility. I will seriously read all of it and respond the best I can. I do also request a pic included in your response (sfw please) or one soon after we start talking to prove identity, I’ll send identity proving pics too. As long as this post is up, you can send a reply!
2023.06.02 01:24 Kannley_ 4 ton vs 5 ton
I am quoting out systems for my house and the quotes have been split between installing a 4 ton or a 5 ton. My house is a little over 3000sqft including an unfinished basement that we plan to finish in the near future. We live in Kansas City and like to keep the house fairly cool; around 68. Opinions on what size unit you think would be best? Would a 5 ton unit increase our electricity costs? TYIA
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2023.06.02 01:22 StuckinHades269 Need help paring down items in storage.
So I will try to keep this as brief as possible and if I've left anything out that needs clarification, please feel free to ask.
A year ago I bought a house that needed extensive renovations. Unfortunately life threw me a curve ball and I couldn't finish the remodel.
In 2021 both my grandma and my sister passed away and I ended up with most of their stuff on top of my own which was overwhelming. I had to move out of the rental house I was in after I bought the house and managed to cull a large portion of the stuff by packing up what I wanted and selling/donating the rest. I initially put the stuff I wanted to keep in storage, but it was costing $200.00 a month. I ended up moving it all into a room in my unfinished house to save some money. Last week I got a phone call asking if I would be willing to sell the house. We close on the 16th of June. I don't know what to do with my stuff stored in the house. Over half of it is family heirloom stuff that I don't want to get rid of and it would break my mom's heart if I did. I can't bring the stuff to where I am living now, my mom can't take it and I can't afford to pay for a large storage unit again. I might be able to swing paying for a smaller unit, but I had months to prepare before, now I have weeks. I feel frozen and don't even know where to start. I'm sure there are some obvious answers I'm overlooking, but I am so stressed right now. The clock is ticking and I could use some advice.
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A year ago I bought a house that needed extensive renovations. Unfortunately life threw me a curve ball and I couldn't finish the remodel.
In 2021 both my grandma and my sister passed away and I ended up with most of their stuff on top of my own which was overwhelming. I had to move out of the rental house I was in after I bought the house and managed to cull a large portion of the stuff by packing up what I wanted and selling/donating the rest. I initially put the stuff I wanted to keep in storage, but it was costing $200.00 a month. I ended up moving it all into a room in my unfinished house to save some money. Last week I got a phone call asking if I would be willing to sell the house. We close on the 16th of June. I don't know what to do with my stuff stored in the house. Over half of it is family heirloom stuff that I don't want to get rid of and it would break my mom's heart if I did. I can't bring the stuff to where I am living now, my mom can't take it and I can't afford to pay for a large storage unit again. I might be able to swing paying for a smaller unit, but I had months to prepare before, now I have weeks. I feel frozen and don't even know where to start. I'm sure there are some obvious answers I'm overlooking, but I am so stressed right now. The clock is ticking and I could use some advice.
2023.06.02 01:20 St1xGreN Opinions on my loadout (I like Halloween, even when it’s not that time of year)
 | Cosmetics: Hollowed Head Gourd Grin The Bitter Taste of Defeat and Lime (paint) Gruesome Gourd (Spy) submitted by St1xGreN to TF2fashionadvice [link] [comments] In total it costs around $24 or where I live £19 |
2023.06.02 01:18 xantilc111 Are DIY audio cables worth it?
I am rather new to live audio and am considering purchasing some XLRs for personal use outside of work. I live in a small apartment with limited workspace and would like to be as economical as possible. I also want to continue to develop my skills in live audio.
In short, is making my own cables work the upfront cost and time?
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In short, is making my own cables work the upfront cost and time?
2023.06.02 01:17 kdog-1 Business Legal Question
My business went into a partnership with another individual, to develop products. The verbal agreement was we would assist in product development, pay for utilities and rent of the space, use our machines for assisting in development of products. In return he would provide machines that we could utilize, and exclusive manufacturing rights to product developed in our business. However, we have invested a lot of resources, into the overhead for his projects, yet have seen no return. It is now becoming a liability for my business to keep maintaining this relationship, due to the large space overhead. However, I have found that his machines are now valuable to my business. Since he has cost my company so much monetarily I think it is only fair that I take ownership of the machines. They are in fact in my business establishment, then end the relationship entirely. Is this possible to take ownership? I live in the state of Florida.
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2023.06.02 01:17 Fallenshadow114 Fiance medical delay
Hello everyone.
I'm honestly not looking for any advise, I think I just need an outlet to speak. My fiances K1 journey was almost done. We finally could see the light at the end. We started making unofficial plans for our wedding day. Started discussing the first few things we wanted to do, foods to eat, places to visit. In theory, we had just a few weeks left.
Or so we thought.
Rewind to this past Monday, the medical exam. Everything should be fine, she's incredibly healthy, does have any medical issues. However. About a year ago she got TB while living in SG. She went through the 6 months long treatment. Went back and forth, test after test until she was finally cleared. All this information was provided to the doctor, along with proof. We didn't think it would be an issue.
We were very wrong.
Turns out a clean test from any institution other than the US contracted one, does not count. They refused the results and have scheduled a TB test mid-July. With the understanding that the results can take 2 months due to "high test volume". I get it. TB is no joke, and they want to be sure. But when you spend months and months waiting for any bit of info, just to make it all the way to the end for nothing. It's rough. The medical center is horribly understaffed, with lines out the door of people waiting just to get in. This set back is costing us another 2 - 4 months. Which, in the grand scheme of things is not long. But it adds up quickly. Why couldn't they do the test while she was there? Why are they booked almost two months out? Why does the government make it so dang hard to come here legally. For those who are law abiding, and doing the right thing, should they not make things easier?
I'm just rambling. I'm upset. I'm angry. But most of all my heart breaks for my fiance who thinks this is all her fault. Those of you in similar or worse situations, I feel for you.
That's all I have to say.
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I'm honestly not looking for any advise, I think I just need an outlet to speak. My fiances K1 journey was almost done. We finally could see the light at the end. We started making unofficial plans for our wedding day. Started discussing the first few things we wanted to do, foods to eat, places to visit. In theory, we had just a few weeks left.
Or so we thought.
Rewind to this past Monday, the medical exam. Everything should be fine, she's incredibly healthy, does have any medical issues. However. About a year ago she got TB while living in SG. She went through the 6 months long treatment. Went back and forth, test after test until she was finally cleared. All this information was provided to the doctor, along with proof. We didn't think it would be an issue.
We were very wrong.
Turns out a clean test from any institution other than the US contracted one, does not count. They refused the results and have scheduled a TB test mid-July. With the understanding that the results can take 2 months due to "high test volume". I get it. TB is no joke, and they want to be sure. But when you spend months and months waiting for any bit of info, just to make it all the way to the end for nothing. It's rough. The medical center is horribly understaffed, with lines out the door of people waiting just to get in. This set back is costing us another 2 - 4 months. Which, in the grand scheme of things is not long. But it adds up quickly. Why couldn't they do the test while she was there? Why are they booked almost two months out? Why does the government make it so dang hard to come here legally. For those who are law abiding, and doing the right thing, should they not make things easier?
I'm just rambling. I'm upset. I'm angry. But most of all my heart breaks for my fiance who thinks this is all her fault. Those of you in similar or worse situations, I feel for you.
That's all I have to say.
2023.06.02 01:15 Fallenshadow114 Fiance delayed due to medical
Hello everyone.
I'm honestly not looking for any advise, I think I just need an outlet to speak. My fiances K1 journey was almost done. We finally could see the light at the end. We started making unofficial plans for our wedding day. Started discussing the first few things we wanted to do, foods to eat, places to visit. In theory, we had just a few weeks left.
Or so we thought.
Rewind to this past Monday, the medical exam. Everything should be fine, she's incredibly healthy, does have any medical issues. However. About a year ago she got TB while living in SG. She went through the 6 months long treatment. Went back and forth, test after test until she was finally cleared. All this information was provided to the doctor, along with proof. We didn't think it would be an issue.
We were very wrong.
Turns out a clean test from any institution other than the US contracted one, does not count. They refused the results and have scheduled a TB test mid-July. With the understanding that the results can take 2 months due to "high test volume". I get it. TB is no joke, and they want to be sure. But when you spend months and months waiting for any bit of info, just to make it all the way to the end for nothing. It's rough. The medical center is horribly understaffed, with lines out the door of people waiting just to get in. This set back is costing us another 2 - 4 months. Which, in the grand scheme of things is not long. But it adds up quickly. Why couldn't they do the test while she was there? Why are they booked almost two months out? Why does the government make it so dang hard to come here legally. For those who are law abiding, and doing the right thing, should they not make things easier?
I'm just rambling. I'm upset. I'm angry. But most of all my heart breaks for my fiance who thinks this is all her fault. Those of you in similar or worse situations, I feel for you.
That's all I have to say.
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I'm honestly not looking for any advise, I think I just need an outlet to speak. My fiances K1 journey was almost done. We finally could see the light at the end. We started making unofficial plans for our wedding day. Started discussing the first few things we wanted to do, foods to eat, places to visit. In theory, we had just a few weeks left.
Or so we thought.
Rewind to this past Monday, the medical exam. Everything should be fine, she's incredibly healthy, does have any medical issues. However. About a year ago she got TB while living in SG. She went through the 6 months long treatment. Went back and forth, test after test until she was finally cleared. All this information was provided to the doctor, along with proof. We didn't think it would be an issue.
We were very wrong.
Turns out a clean test from any institution other than the US contracted one, does not count. They refused the results and have scheduled a TB test mid-July. With the understanding that the results can take 2 months due to "high test volume". I get it. TB is no joke, and they want to be sure. But when you spend months and months waiting for any bit of info, just to make it all the way to the end for nothing. It's rough. The medical center is horribly understaffed, with lines out the door of people waiting just to get in. This set back is costing us another 2 - 4 months. Which, in the grand scheme of things is not long. But it adds up quickly. Why couldn't they do the test while she was there? Why are they booked almost two months out? Why does the government make it so dang hard to come here legally. For those who are law abiding, and doing the right thing, should they not make things easier?
I'm just rambling. I'm upset. I'm angry. But most of all my heart breaks for my fiance who thinks this is all her fault. Those of you in similar or worse situations, I feel for you.
That's all I have to say.
2023.06.02 01:13 DTATDM Carpooling, or something like that
I'm living in Montrose and I got a job offer out in Chinatown. I'd rather not drive for my own reasons and as we all know public transport in Houston is kind of a shitshow outside the lightrail.
Is there some way to get in touch with people who are commuting the same way and I could pitch in for costs?
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Is there some way to get in touch with people who are commuting the same way and I could pitch in for costs?
2023.06.02 01:13 daddyquinnc Caught a lampooner in the wild
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2023.06.02 01:08 phasing0ut Need help deciding - take entry level FA at large not-for-profit healthcare or stay as audit senior
Hi all, I am currently an audit senior in a M/HCOL area and have been planning a career change out of accounting/finance to law (I was pre-law in college before switching to accounting), but I was able to land an offer as a financial analyst at a large not-for profit healthcare system:
Current position - 3 YOE at top 20 CPA firm, $97k (salary + bonus), nearly full remote (but this could change), specialized on investment fund clients, strong focus on auditing PE/VC investment valuations and portfolio companies' budgets/projections which I find pretty interesting. Busy seasons suck but culture is good otherwise and I have great relationships with firm leadership
Offer - entry level financial analyst at $10b+ revenue NFP healthcare system, $80k per year (they didn't mention bonus structure but 100% of healthcare costs covered), full in-office, position seems to have a strong focus on budgeting with more focus on decision support as you move up. They emphasized that the work was complex and they work hard but it's also an hourly position with strict 40/hr work week due the org's rules (??).
My gut says to turn it down due to the pay cut and continue with my law school plans, but part of me also wants to try something else in this field before taking on grad school debt with the legal field as competitive as it is. However, I'm also worried about getting pigeonholed into healthcare finance - I'm stuck in financial services now and don't want to just replace that with something else. I've probably applied to 20 FP&A positions in my area that I was qualified for and this was all I could land. I could wait for new postings but this one had 200+ applications and I'm surprised I even got this one.
Is this really how rough the early career job market is in FP&A now? Would I be pigeonholed in healthcare finance? Have I been gaslit by public accounting expectations or am I being set up to fail with high expectations on an hourly schedule?
Ultimately I'm looking for a more fulfilling job - I can find that in either FP&A or law, but I need to decide now.
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Current position - 3 YOE at top 20 CPA firm, $97k (salary + bonus), nearly full remote (but this could change), specialized on investment fund clients, strong focus on auditing PE/VC investment valuations and portfolio companies' budgets/projections which I find pretty interesting. Busy seasons suck but culture is good otherwise and I have great relationships with firm leadership
Offer - entry level financial analyst at $10b+ revenue NFP healthcare system, $80k per year (they didn't mention bonus structure but 100% of healthcare costs covered), full in-office, position seems to have a strong focus on budgeting with more focus on decision support as you move up. They emphasized that the work was complex and they work hard but it's also an hourly position with strict 40/hr work week due the org's rules (??).
My gut says to turn it down due to the pay cut and continue with my law school plans, but part of me also wants to try something else in this field before taking on grad school debt with the legal field as competitive as it is. However, I'm also worried about getting pigeonholed into healthcare finance - I'm stuck in financial services now and don't want to just replace that with something else. I've probably applied to 20 FP&A positions in my area that I was qualified for and this was all I could land. I could wait for new postings but this one had 200+ applications and I'm surprised I even got this one.
Is this really how rough the early career job market is in FP&A now? Would I be pigeonholed in healthcare finance? Have I been gaslit by public accounting expectations or am I being set up to fail with high expectations on an hourly schedule?
Ultimately I'm looking for a more fulfilling job - I can find that in either FP&A or law, but I need to decide now.
2023.06.02 01:08 Volodio The fourth ruler of the new Argead dynasty
 | If you guys are uninterested, just downvote and I'll stop posting. submitted by Volodio to CrusaderKings [link] [comments] First ruler Second ruler Third ruler Alexandros VII the Huntmaster (968 – 1006)https://preview.redd.it/q01kat34nh3b1.jpg?width=1920&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=60fb4025936ab514351ba026c7939acc3bdc4e60 After the death of Alexandros VI, there were three men to succeed him. The first was Hypatios, the second son who had been on numerous campaigns and had ruled with his father for years. The second was Kaisarios, the third son who had always stayed at court, never participating in any campaign. The third was Alexandros. He was the 19-year-old son of Hephaistion, making him the grandson of Alexandros VI, though fortunately for him he was not an albino like his father. Hypatios was away when his father died and did not hear the news until several weeks later. Alexandros and Kaisarios, who were both at the court, tried to gather supporters. Kaisarios focused on other members of the Argead dynasty, descendants of the previous Argead leaders through their daughters and their loyal followers, while Alexandros tried to win the favor of the new nobility. He was successful and notably received the support of Theodotos, who gave him the army. Alexandros VII declared himself despot and took control of Athens. Kaisarios fled to Krete where he also declared himself despot. Hypatios, when he discovered what had happened, went to Cyprus where he had some support and claimed to be despot. After a few weeks, the three Argeads were focused on ruling their lands and increasing their support in the areas they controlled. Their lands also had not fully recovered from the wars of Alexandros VI. They were all too busy to prepare for a war against each other and a status quo was established, temporarily. The next year, the Roman civil war ended with a victory of Leon VIII. The lands controlled by the Argeads had been spared, which had allowed them to gather support to themselves. They particularly made sure the nobility would support the Argeads instead of the Basileus in case of a war between both sides. Alexandros VII was discovered during that period to be a ruler as fair and just as his grandfather had been. Progressively, he became disinterested from Krete and Cyprus, but was too powerful for Hypatios and Kaisarios to bother him. They spent most of their reign focusing on internal matters. In 972, Alexandros VII married Alfrhildr, a woman from a prestigious northern family. The next year, she gave birth to a daughter, Leontia. In 974, he attacked the Constanta family for some of their lands in Bulgaria. The victory of the Argeads had encouraged many Roman families to try their hand in the kingdom of Bulgaria. After a few years, many held lands here. Theodotos was put in charge of 3 000 men and went in the mountains to fight the war. The Constantas had not much support for they were in the edge of the Empire and thus the conflict quickly ended with an Argead victory. During those years, Alexandros continued making sure he had the support of the nobility, not only by maintaining good relations with the heads of the families but with the other members as well. Some Christian families even accepted to abandon Christ, something which showed a great support toward the Argeads. He ruled his lands fairly and invested in them, especially in Attica. In 977, Alexandros VII had another daughter named Aigidia. Alfrhildr died a few months later of a disease. He remarried to Hypatia, a Greek noble. The next year, Theodotos died in his bed. The despot used the occasion to pressure the Skleros family to renounce Jesus, which they did as a result of the diplomatic efforts of Alexandros over the years. In 979, Hypatia gave birth to a girl, Helene. In 980, the despot was invited to a prestigious position at the court of Leon VIII. He went here and tried to find support among the Roman nobility against the Basileus. In 981, Alexandros attacked the Pastillas family. He wanted to counter their influence in Epirus and thus attacked their base in Asia Minor, specifically their lands in Kibyrrhaiotai. He sent Niphon, the widow of Alexandros VII’s sister Agne, who had died a few years prior, with 3 300 soldiers to wage this war. The Pastillas’ first strategy was to stall by hiding in their forts while they called for the intervention of Leon VIII. However, the despot used his influence at court to prevent any imperial meddling in the conflict. In 982, the Pastillas finally chose to face the Argead army. With 1 200 men, they tried one last stand at the Battle of Adrassos but they were defeated. Following the battle, one part of the family made an internal coup and negotiated a surrender with Alexandros, weakening his family but strengthening himself. He agreed to submit to the Argeads and have all of his former subjects also submit, and in exchange he kept Kibyrrahaiotai. To show their commitment, he abandoned Christ. With this victory, the Argeads finally had full control of Epirus once again and also more than tripled the size of the area under their influence in Asia Minor. That same year, Hypatia had another daughter, Kyra. In 984, Alexandros caught wind of a conspiracy by the Bulgarians who wanted to retake their lands. They were negotiating with the owners of the forts for a pacific transition in order to force the Argeads to abandon the area if they did not want to be engaged in a long and costly war. This plot was led by Petar, a man living in the kingdom of Wallachia, north of the Danube. To prevent it from happening, Alexandros sent Niphon with 3 500 men to invade a part of Wallachia called Oltenia. At the same time, Hypatia gave her husband another daughter, Garyphallia. The campaign lasted some time as Niphon captured each fort. In 986, he defeated the king of Wallachia at the Battle of Rusii de Vede, forcing him to renounce control of the region. Soon, the local nobility swore allegiance to the Argeads in order to keep their lands. Petar had been killed during the war, putting an end to the plot. In 988, Leon VIII was involved in a war against the Pope in Italy. The campaign turned into a disaster as the Catholics hired many mercenaries and completely destroyed the imperial roman army. This was deemed the perfect occasion by Alexandros VII who, in 989, stopped paying taxes to the Basileus and declared he would stop serving him. Leon VIII reacted by immediately trying to take the Argead forts in Greece. He quickly raised some men to kill the rebellion before it really began. However, Niphon was already here with 3 700 soldiers. He easily defeated the first army. Despite this victory, all of the nobles in the Eastern Roman Empire stayed loyal to the Basileus, including the Argeads from Krete and Cyprus, who had created their own family. The next year, another army of 4 200 men was raised and sent to Greece, but it was defeated at the Battle of Corinth in May, thanks to the better terrain. More men were recruited, including mercenaries. However, by that point they were divided instead of following a single command. Niphon exploited it by defeating each army separately. In 991, Leon VIII died, as did Alexandros’ daughter Helene. The new Basileus was the 8-year-old Anthimos. Because of his age, he was not in charge of ruling and the Roman nobility squabbled among each other to gain as much power as they could. As a result, the war against Alexandros had a lesser focus. Especially as a lot of the nobles had been captured on the battlefield and forced to pay heavy ransoms to go back to their lands. Moreover, he was an important rival of theirs. After a few months, they agreed to give Alexandros VII his independence in the name of the Basileus, hoping with him out of the Empire he would stop troubling them. Alexandros VII’s first decision as an independent ruler was to create an order of warriors dedicated to the defense of the Argead’s rule. They were called the Myrmidons, as a reference to Achilles that Alexander the Great loved so much, and led by Gregoras. In 992, Alexandros invaded Bulgaria. It was still ruled by Simeon II, now very old. The king had spent his life fighting many enemies and seeing his kingdom slowly weaken. The Myrmidons were tested during this conflict as they were called to participate in the invasion, bringing the total number of Argead soldiers to 5 300. They encountered little resistance as the Bulgarians were busy in other wars, as they had been consistently for the duration of Simeon II’s reign. After a year and a half of war, Simeon II agreed to surrender Moesia, which represented half of what was left of his kingdom, in exchange for the end of the invasion. The conquered area was given to Niphon as a reward for all of his efforts during Alexandros’ reign. In 995, Alexandros attacked duchess Ruxandra of Vedin. The next year, as the campaign was ongoing, another part of the Pastillas family attacked Alexandros to take the land of their kin. They were helped by many other Roman families. The despot negotiated with Ruxandra, she would swear allegiance and keep her titles and possessions, then he was free to focus his efforts on the Roman nobles. The Myrmidons were once again called. In total, the Argeads had 6 500 soldiers. While the army prepared for the campaign, Alexandros accepted he would not have a son and decided it was time to confirm his daughters as heir, and in particular Leontia who was showing a lot of skills necessary for ruling. They were married to members of prestigious Varangian houses as princesses of the highest rank. The campaign began in 997. It started with the Battle of Cremnia in December, when Niphon defeated the 6 200 men of the Roman nobles. It was followed by a series of sieges until the Battle of Smyrna in August 999, during which the Romans were once again defeated. They negotiated a truce a few months later, giving a heavy ransom in exchange for the return of their forts. Alexandros used that gold to improve his court, showing the world he was really a ruler in his own right, and continued spending it profusely on his domain. In 1002, Alexandros VII attacked the duchy of Rashka, ruled by a cabal of nobles acting in the name the 6-year-old duchess, Lyudmila. The despot justified his invasion by claiming to wanting to help the child get rid of bad influence. Niphon died of natural causes during the war. After his death, the command of the army was divided, which was especially necessary for the warfare in the mountains of the region. The war ended in 1005, when the nobles accepted to surrender Lyudmila, who was brought to Athens to be personally raised by Alexandros, with Alexandros’ men staying to rule in her absence. That same year, the despot took Konstantia, an Argead from Krete loosely related to him, as his concubine. Despite his acknowledgement of his daughters as heir, he was still hoping for a son. Alexandros VII died of natural causes in 1006, at 56. Alexandros VII is the one who really made the independence of the Argeads happen. Despite the trouble they caused to the previous Basileus, the Argeads overall still benefited the Empire greatly thanks to the exorbitant taxes imposed on them. That loss, decided by the noble families more concerned by their own struggle to power rather than anything else, was devastating to the Eastern Roman Empire as a whole which became weaker than ever. It is important to note that despite becoming independent, Alexandros VII is not the one who really remade the Argead Empire. He still called himself despot, and was usually referred to as the Despot, as the only other despots, of Krete and Cyprus, were insignificant in comparison. When historical documents mentioned the realm he ruled, they usually called it Hellas, as he was ruling from Athens which was his center of power. But it was nothing official. The extent of the Argead's control in 980 |
2023.06.02 01:07 DangerousReindeer750 northeastern for 60k a year vs northwestern for ~80k a year
currently enrolled at neu and my tuition is -20k a year with a merit scholarship + finaid
I dont think I got any finaid with northwestern so it would be full tuition, but junior and senior year I would be able to live at home and save maybe ~10-15k or so each year.
I don't think any education is worth 80-90k a year. I wouldn't have to take out loans because fortunately my parents are paying for my education now and then we plan for me to pay them back in the future. any insight is appreciated
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I dont think I got any finaid with northwestern so it would be full tuition, but junior and senior year I would be able to live at home and save maybe ~10-15k or so each year.
I don't think any education is worth 80-90k a year. I wouldn't have to take out loans because fortunately my parents are paying for my education now and then we plan for me to pay them back in the future. any insight is appreciated
2023.06.02 01:06 honeydewlover123 I need help! Which job should I take?
I am relocating to Salt Lake City and I have two (basically three) offers on the table for a full-time SLP position. I am newly CCCed and have experience within an outpatient setting at a smaller hospital (the only SLP in the general area). Here are the two offers:
Any advice is appreciated!
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- Preschool SLP within a large district that pays ~$63,000 for 190 days. Because I am relocating from a smaller area with a lower cost of living, I will have to get a second job. I was offered an inpatient PRN position at the children’s hospital that pays $42.45 per hour, with guaranteed hours on weekends and holidays. I’m a little worried about burnout, but that children’s hospital job would be incredible.
- Inpatient rehab within the same hospital system, but a full-time role with adults. This would be the same hourly rate, which would be $88,300 per year. Hours would be Wednesday-Friday and Wednesday-Sunday every other weekend. Basically 30 hou50 hour weeks. This stability and extra income would be VERY nice with our big move, and I’d also have the opportunity to also do some hours at the children’s hospital. But with working weekends already, it probably won’t be possible.
Any advice is appreciated!
2023.06.02 01:00 mjonesgcms Delayed but worth the wait: APRN the Master Plan
 | Blue Apron’s plan to change course around its failed private funder Joe Sanberg last year, the only question is who. These Talks got more serious February 10, 2023 when the prospectus said that the ATM would be used to pay down senior notes not due till 2027 so they would be free to pursue business combinations. submitted by mjonesgcms to Shortsqueeze [link] [comments] Two main speculative candidates for the merger were Hello Fresh and Weight Watchers. Hello Fresh openly stated that its business plan was to acquire its competitors and consistently has been. Blue Apron is not as big as Hello Fresh, but actually has the best customer retention, and big institutional contracts in the US. It also would give Hello Fresh exposure to the US stock market. It seemed like the most likely candidate, and since the market cap for APRN is less than what it would cost Hello Fresh to acquire the same number of subscribers. $39M market cap for a $450M revenue company, 160m assets, 31m cash, and 125m Liabilities seems like a good value. That means their equity book value is 66m and their market cap is 39M. The only downside is the current cash burn, which means that equity is being eaten away. The good news is that the trend on their EPS is clear, and it could be at least cash flow neutral next quarter. https://preview.redd.it/sftyp17mlh3b1.jpg?width=1080&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=d913a05995167d620767a33e5f003cb38650ff07 What would get Blue Apron to not only cash flow neutral but cash flow positive almost instantly? If they cut their advertising costs. How could that happen? Blue Apron has about 300k subscribers. Weight Watchers has 4.9m subscribers. If 6% of Weight Watchers subscribers subscribed to Blue Apron, that would double Blue Apron’s revenue, and it could be done without any advertising. Is that a possibility or just some tinfoil theory? https://preview.redd.it/hf8s2ccplh3b1.jpg?width=1295&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=98a319d353dc4cf4ecc8e93d11a04880fbe7b6c6 https://preview.redd.it/wvvx4ecplh3b1.jpg?width=1574&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=5c46819a3151b3ebff9c1ff74ca440e30a49d800 I was a little disappointed that Blue Apron is set to sign a deal for $50m for its operational infrastructure even though 50m is more than the market cap and will allow them to be more profitable. I was disappointed because I figured the company would be harder to sell like that, which has been my major thesis. Once I looked into who they were selling the infrastructure to, my original bullishness returned. FreshRealm already has a close partnership with Weight Watchers. There are many companies that would be interested in buying Blue Apron, especially at the current extreme discount, but it looks like the best suitor buyer has edged their way in, and I love it! The deal with FreshRealm can’t be officially signed until the last of 4 payments is made this month on the senior notes is made–which is on track. NFA, but June will be exciting! |
2023.06.02 00:59 pmpdaddydeluxe Semiconductor scale up or O&G process eng
I have 2 options for new work, and I'd like opinions on which position would lead to a more lucrative career, which position would lead to more leadership opportunity, and which position/industry has a better work/life balance and culture. Also, I have 1 yoe as a process engineer in the semiconductor industry for reference.
Option 1: Process integration engineer at a microchip research company in SoCal. Their goal is to scale up from research to low volume manufacturing. The role would essentially be creating/optimizing an MES and travelers, implementing statistical process control strategies, performing FMEAs, and assessing quality. Pros of this place is a great campus, working with a scale up to low volume manufacturing can be beneficial for gaining leadership experience and technical knowledge, I'd be close to family and friends, there is good job security given the customers they have, and I wont have to work the night shift or be on call. The cons of this place is that the salary isnt too competitive given the cost of living. ~105k total compensation including base, bonus, and benefits.
Option 2: Downstream process engineer at major O&G company in the gulf coast. I've heard that major O&G companies only hire the cream of the crop, offer challenging projects, and are a great way to advance one's career in leadership and technical skills. The description of the job is essentially a lot of safety audits and first responder reactions to process/equipment failures. Very similar to my current position. In addition, it is a graduate program that is structured very well, and the typical career path leads to senior IC technical roles or management. Pros of this place is the experience, the challenging problems, the structured program, good salary, low cost of living area, and opportunities for leadership. Cons of this place is being available at all times of the day and night, being on call, running the risk of layoffs due to the volatile nature of O&G, and being far from family.
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Option 1: Process integration engineer at a microchip research company in SoCal. Their goal is to scale up from research to low volume manufacturing. The role would essentially be creating/optimizing an MES and travelers, implementing statistical process control strategies, performing FMEAs, and assessing quality. Pros of this place is a great campus, working with a scale up to low volume manufacturing can be beneficial for gaining leadership experience and technical knowledge, I'd be close to family and friends, there is good job security given the customers they have, and I wont have to work the night shift or be on call. The cons of this place is that the salary isnt too competitive given the cost of living. ~105k total compensation including base, bonus, and benefits.
Option 2: Downstream process engineer at major O&G company in the gulf coast. I've heard that major O&G companies only hire the cream of the crop, offer challenging projects, and are a great way to advance one's career in leadership and technical skills. The description of the job is essentially a lot of safety audits and first responder reactions to process/equipment failures. Very similar to my current position. In addition, it is a graduate program that is structured very well, and the typical career path leads to senior IC technical roles or management. Pros of this place is the experience, the challenging problems, the structured program, good salary, low cost of living area, and opportunities for leadership. Cons of this place is being available at all times of the day and night, being on call, running the risk of layoffs due to the volatile nature of O&G, and being far from family.