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2016.04.28 00:30 wolfy528 Dr. Jason Fung: The Obesity Code & The Complete Guide to Fasting

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2023.05.30 23:24 Additional_History_4 Is the surface disruption too much due to sponge filter?

Is the surface disruption too much due to sponge filter?
Hey guys, just cycling this new betta tank and was wondering if these big bubbles r causing too much surface movement for a betta. If so, how can I reduce this?
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2023.05.30 23:23 This-IS-Bell Weightless Help(mental Health)

Ok so i have been trying to loose weight for past two years but not making much progress.
most of the time i don't have the energy to work out or anything where i will sweat i do push my self sometimes call it lazy but with work for example i can fake a high energy persona and with personal life around others i seem normal but internally i am tired/ done .
My relationship with food is as follows i rarely feel hungry in the morning, most of the time i feel sick if i eat in the morning so i skit breakfast has been like this since i was in early teens . When i am feeling really low unfortunately being a comfort eater even wen i try resist i find my self turning to the typical foods desserts ect.
anyone got any bits of advice as feel like depression is screwing with my attempts at weight loss
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2023.05.30 23:23 LiseEclaire [Leveling up the World] - Academy Arc - Chapter 756

Out there - Patreon (for all those curious or wanting to support :))
At the Beginning
Adventure Arc - Arc 2
Wilderness Arc - Arc 3
Academy Arc - Arc 4
Previously on Leveling up the World…
Nil used to say that even the greatest challenge became simple once the logic behind it was unraveled. At the time, the old echo was referring to awakening trials, but vortexes were surprisingly similar. Given enough resources and information, even life could be treated in the same fashion. Dallion had a while to go before reaching that level. The current vortex, though, was a different matter.
Creating potions wasn’t an easy experience. Aside from everything else, it required a good understanding of nymph magic methods and the ability to perform them. Thankfully, Dallion’s randomly esoteric interests had prepared him for such an eventuality.
After his protective layer of magic threads was complete, he approached the sea. Same as before, a dozen tendrils shot out in his direction. Summoning his thread splitter dagger, Dallion sliced the tips off, encasing the free elements in aether spheres of his own. That was another thing about magic—it always went towards those that were stronger. One careless move and even a high-level mage might have his magic stolen, by a creature, rival, or even the vortex environment itself. However, with enough skill and ingenuity, the opposite was also true.
One by one, the bubbles of captive magic were consumed, then released again, only this time forming an entirely new set of spells.
Swords? Onda asked. That’ll hardly work.
“Think of it as a meat grinder,” Dallion replied. All he needed was a makeshift drill to let him make his way through the sea. Having his own liquid spells fight the rest of the sea was only going to grant him a bit more time. Between that and the protective magic layer, it had to be enough.
No, I mean it won’t work. The moment you—
Let him learn his own mistakes, Harp interrupted. Her tone was calm, even pleasant, but it had the effect of lightning from a clear sky. It’s the only way he can progress.
“Thanks for the vote of confidence.” Dallion kept collecting magic threads for a few more minutes, then did another point attack. The start of a tunnel opened up on the sea’s surface. Quickly, Dallion threw all of his liquid spells inside, then followed. Same as before, the mass of the sea attempted to fill in the void, but this time it was hindered by the liquid wall of swords.

Overall stability 99%

Spells clashed against each other, filling the air with hundreds of purple rectangles. The damage was minuscule, and still a constant reminder of the eternal struggle between invader and realm. It was no wonder that mages were so cutthroat: there was only one thing certain upon entering a vortex: someone was going to absorb the other. The Academy’s main role was to teach novices how to survive.
Just like hunting, Dallion thought. On the other hand, he had never been the typical hunter. When it came to vortexes, there could be no offer of draw or surrender.
Twisting around, Dallion performed another point attack, drilling further into the sea. The number of rectangles doubled. Meanwhile, the size of the hold was reduced by half. The amount of spells Dallion had poured in—seemingly cast initially—was now wearing thin.
Maybe you should have spent a bit more time fathering threads, the armadil shield said.
“It’s all a formula.” Dallion did another point attack. “If the stability of the tunnel is decreased, I just need to go faster.”
All of his instincts shouted for him to split into instances, or at the very least create a few echoes to help in. His wisdom told him not to. All he had to do was remain calm. The emblems and artifacts he was wearing ensured that he’d be ejected from the vortex. Of course, there was never a guarantee. The higher the vortex level, the greater the danger it posed.
Summoning his hammer, Dallion did a double point attack, up and down, to keep the tunnel collapsing above him. He had gone so deep that the opening was the size of a coin.
“I told you it’ll work, Onda,” he said with a touch of glee. “It’s all logic and magic principles.”
No sooner had he said that than a mass of magic pierced through Dallion’s wall of spells, ending up in the tunnel. Believing his wall of swords to have been breached, Dallion unsummoned both his weapons and cast a new series of spells to plug the hole. That proved to be a mistake.

Your health has been reduced by 20%

What the heck? Dallion pulled back, summoning his harpsisword again.
Five feet away, the mass of magic had changed into a creature.

Class: MAGIC
Health: 0% HP
- BODY 20
- MIND 20
- MAGIC 40
- ENTANGLE (Species Unique)
- RAIN OF BLADES (Species Unique)
- CHARGE (Species Unique)
Weakness: HOOVES

A unicorn? Dallion deflected the creature’s next attack with his weapon.
Looking at it, the minion was no different from a bladicorn, only created entirely out of threads of magic.
Tried to warn you, old man, Onda said from his realm. Vortexes adapt. You make a counter, they counter your counter.
Dallion was too busy fighting the creature to respond. Magic adaptability was well known. Having loose threads spontaneously create a creature, that was something new. No doubt there was some tome describing the theoretical process in vast detail. Seeing it in practice, though, was a lot.
Without wasting any time, Dallion flew down, then infused his harpsisword with spark, as he did an upward strike. Knowing what such a creature was capable of, his only course of action was to kill it as before it could start casting spells. The difficulty was not destroying his own spells in the process. For all the power of point and line attacks, they were going to do as much damage to Dallion’s own spells, resulting in him winning the encounter, but losing the overall fight.
The aethercorn quickly caught on, moving away and to the side of the tunnel. As long as it increased the distance and remained close to Dallion’s wall of blades, it would have the upper hand.
Sneaky bastard. Dallion cast several aether barriers.
Magic symbols covered the minion’s entire body. As they appeared, Dallion went through all the memorized spells in real time. Normally, he could tell easily what someone was casting once several of the major symbols had formed. In this case, the creature planned to create an aether explosion. In the real world, Dallion wouldn’t even bat an eye. Explosions were a lot less efficient against mages as one might think. Here, though, things were different; the minion wasn’t targeting him, but the wall of blades itself. If there were an explosion, the entire tunnel would collapse, leaving Dallion to rely on his “second skin”.
A new aether barrier appeared next to the aethecorn, then shoved it into the wall before the spell could be completed. The threads—representing aether blades in liquid form—mercilessly sliced into its body, causing the being to lose stability. The entire form burst like a popped balloon, spilling magic threads everywhere.
The moment Dallion saw that, he knew that his time was running out. Although inefficient, the vortex had found a way to breach his protective barrier. The only solution was to pass through the sea before the overall collapse.
Want a boost, boss? Lux asked. The firebird knew better than to assist uninvited.
“No!” Dallion said firmly, casting a new flight spell. “Return to my realm.”
Several more breaches occurred along the tunnel. Aethercorns emerged in front and behind Dallion. Some attacked him directly, others started casting spells to weaken the tunnel. At this point, dealing with them was an impossible task. Still, Dallion did several more point attacks, clearing out as many as possible. Unfortunately for him, that didn’t prove to be a lot. The minions were both fast and intelligent enough to keep to areas that were difficult to hit. Only the ones that attempted to outright block Dallion’s progress ended up being destroyed.
Gritting his teeth, Dallion started casting the flood spell. It was a move that verged to desperation, but the only thing that could help him right now. Within seconds, the portal emerged, then vanished behind Dallion. With a bit of luck, it was going to keep the minions occupied a bit longer.
Behind him, the top of the tunnel collapsed. The threads he had used to create his wall of swords was too thin to coat the entire space created by the point attacks. The purple sea splashed in, mixing with the water coming from Dallion’s portal.

Your health has been reduced by 20%

Another alicorn managed to stab Dallion’s leg with its horn as he flew by, effectively halving his health.
Leave the vortex, Harp said.
“I can do this.” Dallion had unsummoned the hammer, focusing on doing point attacks forward, while using his left hand to boost his speed. “I’m close to the end. I can feel it.”
You’re not ready for this vortex. You’re close, but you still aren’t there yet.
“I am.” Dallion insisted. It wasn’t that he had become complacent, but the last few months his progress had crawled to a stop. He might have learned a vast number of magic symbols and spells, but his magic trait remained at twenty-three. There was no way he was giving up a level four vortex, especially this one. “I am there,” he whispered.
Purple water kept seeping in. The top of the tunnel had completely collapsed. Spells created by vortex minions darted past him. Some even made contact, repelled by his protective layer of magic threads.
“Just a few seconds more,” Dallion said, more to himself than Harp.
He had been going through the sea for quite a while. As far as distance was concerned, it had to range in the dozens of miles, if not more. While space in any magic realm was an illusion, there was a limit to how much something could be stretched. Sooner or later, the sea had to come to an end.
“Ruby, create some wind,” he ordered.
Keeping firmly to Dallion’s shoulder, the shardfly flicked its wings, sending a flurry of wind slashes forward. This was by no means an elegant way to breach the tower, but as long as it worked Dallion had no intention of complaining.
Further and further down he went. His speed had increased to the point that he couldn’t see new aethercorns emerge. And yet, it all kept on going. It seemed that he had entered a bottomless pit. The sensation of doubt emerged. Was it a good move to keep persisting? If he quit now, would it all go to waste? There was no telling how long the vortex would remain. Maybe it would last for a few more hours. If he was lucky, it might appear again in another week or so.
No! Dallion told himself. If he couldn’t complete this, what chance did he stand against Grym and the traitorous battlemages? They had accumulated their magic for decades. If he didn’t take advantage of every opportunity presented to him, he might as well become a clerk at the Academy.
Point attacks kept pushing the tunnel further and further down until suddenly they didn’t. It only lasted a fraction of a second, but Dallion was able to catch it. The devastating amount of force had been effortlessly pushed to the sides, like water being poured on a mirror.
That was it—the end of the sea. Dallion had finally reached the solid barrier. At this point, he’d usually take the time to find a weakness, then slice through it and create a portal leading to the other side. With time being a luxury he didn’t have, Dallion resorted to the second best thing. Increasing the number of point attacks, he cast the magic depletion spell he had learned from Raven.
Lightning shot out in all directions, instantly ending Dallion’s flight spell as well as causing all magic threads to pull back.
“Shield!” Dallion summoned the armadil shield. “Cocoon me!” He performed one final point attack with his harpsisword.
The armadil shield expanded, becoming a metal sphere around Dallion. Half a second later, the impact tossed Dallion to the inside of it.

Your health has been reduced by 5%

(+2 Body)
Inertia and the force of will helped you breach into the tower’s core. You were lucky you didn’t go splat.
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The Scuu Paradox (a Space Opera Sci Fi)
The Cassandrian Theory (a Space Opera Sci Fi)
The Impeccable Adventure of the Reluctant Dungeon (Dungeon Core Adventure Comedy)
Uncharted Waters (An Urban Fantasy Detective Noir)
Book 3 will be available on Amazon from midnight tonight :D There will be an official post tomorrow, but here's a heads up to all impatient ones :D
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2023.05.30 23:23 vtrv123 Can internal candida overgrowth cause elevated mycotoxin levels?

I tested positive for gliotoxin, trichothecene and zearalenone, and have been on a mycotoxins treatment for over 6 months, but the mycotoxin levels are not decreasing. I'm taking glutathione, clay, charcoal and optifiber lean.
I've been exposed to mold in the past, but now I'm living in a very clean environment, so my doctor thought that, with the treatment, my toxin levels would be lower by now.
Since there still is a high level of mycotoxins in my body, my doctor now thinks I might have some candida overgrowth in my GI tract, since most of my symptoms are GI symptoms like bloating, diarrhea and several food sensitivities related to mast cell issues. I don't have any respiratory symptoms.
The weird thing is that I've tested negative for candida on everything (organic acids test, GI map, blood tests), so I'm not very sure that my doctor is right. He said internal candida overgrowth can cause elevated mycotoxin levels. Is this a real possibility? Even if I've tested negative?
Also, he prescribed me some biofilm disruptors and Itraconazole to get rid of the infection. I'm supposed to take it for 6 months. I'm very scared of having a bad mast cell flare because of a possible herx reaction, so I need to be sure that this treatment is worth the risk.
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2023.05.30 23:23 throw_away_pleasee Sudden loss of our sweet kitten - scared of decision to cremate

My sweet Theo passed away last week at only 10 months old. The week we moved into our first home a group of young girls rang our door bell with the most calm and loving kitten I’ve ever seen, he had no home and they didn’t know what to do with him. We have 4 cats and knew that there was a reason he came to us! Our cats are everything to us and Theo was just the perfect addition to our lives. He slept with us every night and so quickly became our bestfriend and so loved but our friends and family as well. One day he managed to get ahold of a balloon and ate it, we weren’t aware until he was started throwing some of it up. After 2 weeks in the vet and a surgery he was doing much better! Then after a great update the night before from the vet we received a shocking call that something had happened and he suddenly passed. Me and my husband have been devastated. So many tears and the pain of the long life he never got the chance at and The guilt of how he managed to get ahold of a balloon. My vet has been so kind to give us time on what we want to choose for his afterlife care. I know that cremation is the right answer for us. My husband and I would suffer greatly to bring him home and have to bury him and we feel strongly this would cause us more pain. But it feels as though my brain is intentionally hurting me with these thoughts of burning my sweet boy )): I know this is just his physical vessel and he can’t feel the pain of it but I am struggling none the less ): I am hoping to know of someone who has this same fear and want to know if you were able to overcome it or if you ever regretted the decision you made. Thank you for any help
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2023.05.30 23:23 Super_Recipe_9078 CNA

Hello I’m not sure who to go to but I’ve been a cna for 4 years but not recently but recently I’ve let it expired and was wondering if I can take a training course I’m sure I’ve missed my grace period so just wanted some input of how I can achieve that again cause I miss it and nothing is really here to work at as a career ya know if I could get that again it would be wonderful
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2023.05.30 23:23 mkdabra Does this wirings make sense?

I want to rewire a guitar. It has two humbuckers, two blend pots that change each pickup to have both halves wired in series (as usual as far as I know) or in parallel (to get a thinner sound, closer to single coils but still humbucking), and two independent volume controls. If anyone is familiar with the manufacturer, it's a Washburn with the VCC gimmick.
I ordered a 4P3T rotary switch so I could rewire it like this. At this point I'd like to admit I've heavily borrowed from the schematics on this blog, which helped me understand the original wiring on the first place, and I modified them to fit my needs. Anyway, the idea was to have a rotary selector change the "mode" both pickups work (single coil, parallel, series), a tone control for each pickup, the three way toggle and a single volume control.
I'd like to try that in the future, right now I don't know if I can, as the switch I got seems to be defective (one of the poles has a bad contact). I could make it work because not every throw needs to be used, but I fear it could cause crackle or shorts down the line, or right away. Aside from that, with a new part that's not busted, it should work, right?
For the time being, I'm thinking about settling for this. I'd keep the blend pot for the neck pickup so I have some options there and just hardwire the bridge as a regular humbucker, each to their respective tone circuit and the toggle, then the master volume between the toggle and the output jack. I had doubts about this one because I have ABSOLUTELY no idea how the variable resistances in the blend pot could affect the whole impedance/load/whatever of the coils in on themselves, taken aside the resulting series/parallel disposition. Because people like to talk so much about how using this or that value value pots for volume and tone will change the sound, using no-load pots and all that, I wondered if throwing that blend pot on top of the two tone pots I'm adding to the guitar might throw something out of wack.
In the same vein, would make sense to just hardwire both humbuckers but connect the positive and negative of one of them to one of those blend pots before anything else, to have it reverse phase in opposite ends of the pot and quiet down on while transitioning, doubling as a phase/out of phase control and a relative volume for that specific pickup?
Thanks for any input you can give me!
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2023.05.30 23:22 n_l_o Interested in your thoughts on my DIY roof bars?

Interested in your thoughts on my DIY roof bars?
So, I have a 1997 Infiniti QX4 and if you don’t know, they did not come with the parallel roof bars like the later model R50s do. They only have roof channels along with plastic and metal cross bars that mount inside the channel.
My goal was to have something more versatile that could handle more weight and that I could add stronger cross bars to, for a rooftop tent and other things like that.
I wanted to repurpose the existing roof channels, especially since I didn't want to remove the headliner. My solution was galvanized channel struts and perforated square metal tubing that I got at Lowe's. I took the tubing and cut them to use as mounts then I got some longer screws and mounted them to the existing channel locks on the roof.
I don't know the exact weight limits per side, but they're made from 14 gauge steel and seem pretty solid. The nice thing about half slot channel struts is they make clamps for them that can be used to attach piping to the strut, so I could in theory make my own cross bars as well.
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2023.05.30 23:22 TayHuntington Injured Pet

Injured Pet
I recently boarded a dog over Memorial Day weekend, 4 Rover dogs in total. Which is super normal for us. I just received a text from an owner stating her dog has an injury, but I can’t really tell what would’ve have caused it. All of the dogs played extremely well together, BUT they did play kind of rough because they were all larger dogs. One being a German Shepherd. I’m wondering if he got hurt playing? We are with the dogs 24/7 if they’re not kenneled, and neither me nor my spouse saw or noticed any dog acting aggressively, yelping, or growling, just crazy playing. What should I do/respond back?😅
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2023.05.30 23:22 Noelia_G My experience: sometimes difficulties in sleeping can also come from the outside

Hello community, how are you? I wanted to tell you that I have suffered several times and in different periods from sleeping difficulties. Although they were always associated with a basic anxiety condition, I wanted to tell you much of what I learned on this path of good sleep. Many times I believe that we blame ourselves completely for not being able to fall asleep and sometimes there are external causes that increase or trigger it. My last period of insomnia arose because of some annoying neighbors who spent the night and morning moving furniture from one side to the other. They didn't seem to mind living in a place where there are people underneath. There, after I moved out for that reason, one of the most difficult periods of my insomnia in my life was triggered. Add to that the sudden death of my mother a few months later and you can imagine how difficult the days and nights became. I was taking medication and that helped a lot, that's the reality. It turns out that in my new home an appliance in the building is having defects and makes an unbearable noise all night long, which is why I couldn't sleep well either. When we are already susceptible to these alert states it becomes even more difficult to sleep, so I accepted the situation (it was either that or move out again) and changed a few things. *I got a fan with a soft noise that would cover the sound shocks. I sleep every night with it on. *I bought earplugs, not the regular kind, but the kind that people who are very sensitive to sound or musicians use. *I do physical activity every day and at night I use low beams. If necessary I listen to very relaxing music and try to meditate for a few minutes. *I have started taking cannabis drops to sleep and they have been very effective for me. I do not pretend with this message to give proven advice or minimize the difficulties of each one as if they were the same as mine, I only share it in order to help those who find it useful. Thank you!
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2023.05.30 23:22 HumanWoodpecker2707 Stuck at 14, don't know how to handle the reality.

TW: discussions of suicidal ideation

Coping with the mounting stresses of adult hood is messing with my head more than I anticipated. I've always had a fear of getting older, some of my earliest memories are me realizing I won't be a kid forever and I'll have to one day be an adult and do the things my parents do. I was panicked for days after I realized this.

I tried to take the advice that adults were giving me, to enjoy being a child because it all goes by so fast. I quickly realized they were right. I enjoyed the care free days of my childhood to the best of my abilities, though always with the pervasive anxiety of adulthood looming over me. This wasn't the easiest though, as there were stressors in my childhood I had no control over.

For a while I really didn't mind birthdays all that much, I did get gifts and things at least. My parents usually made them fun too. Around the age of 14-15 or so my feelings around birthdays started to change. They just began to stress me out. It just became an annual reminder that I was getting older and there was nothing I could do about it. People wanted me to celebrate but I was having a harder and harder time seeing the joy in it. I couldn't wrap my head around why anyone would want to be an adult. This was confounding upon itself as I learned more about the world, and the abuse suffered by nearly every person for the sake of profits and personal gains. I saw more flaws and horrors than I thought were possible and I started to spiral farther into depression. Around this time I started to plan to kill myself after HS graduation, simply out of fear of being an adult. I ended up taking SSRI's for about 5 years.

My teenage years I mostly remember fondly. I was able to break out of my shell more and developed my social skills that were lacking at the time thanks to high school, but that's not to say it was entirely easy. But I had a nicer go at it than others. If I wasn't 6'2" by the time I was 11 I probably would have been picked on a lot due to my idiosyncrasies.

COVID started when I was 17, nearing the end of my junior year. The rest of that year and the entirety of my senior year were over zoom calls. In a lot of ways I feel cheated out of the last of the good years of my life. But there's no one I can blame, it's just circumstance.

Much to my surprise, I turned 20 a few months ago. I didn't remind any of my friends that it was my birthday and thankfully no one remembered. I spent most of the day crying. I told them a couple weeks after the fact.

Since I didn't really ever plan to be an adult I'm having a very difficult time getting myself together in really any fashion. I've had a multitude of jobs, mostly retail, since graduation. None of which I have been able to hold down for more than a month or two. I'll just break down and cry and leave without telling anybody and block my bosses numbers. Usually the last check gets to me one way or another at least.

My parents understand that I'm pretty fucked up, though not the full extent of it I don't think, I don't think I do either. Thankfully they still tolerate me and let me live here but I don't know how long.

But here I am, I cry almost everyday. I hold onto my childhood teddy bear, desperately clinging onto a feeling I can hardly remember and dreading a bleak future.

Sorry if this is just kind of a dump with no real conclusive end. But thank you for reading regardless.
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2023.05.30 23:22 ModernMithridates I (32M) want to rekindle the romance with my wife (32F) after our second child

My wife and I have shared almost nine years together, navigating the ups and downs that come with any long-term relationship. With the recent arrival of our second child, our bond has faced new challenges, and the added responsibilities have brought about additional stress. During a recent conversation, my wife expressed the need for more romance to prevent our relationship from feeling like a mere roommate situation centered around parenting. While I acknowledge the validity of her request, I'm struggling to determine the specific actions I should take.
When we first discovered our love languages, we found that my wife's primary language was "receiving gifts." I think I've made genuine efforts to surprise her with small presents, but it's not always easy to find the perfect gesture. I've learned that while she adores a grand bouquet of roses, other flower arrangements, like carnations or mixed bouquets, haven't quite captured her heart. Despite my attempts to inquire about her preferred flowers, she hasn't provided a clear answer beyond roses. To avoid any missteps I've made before, I've involved her in the process of choosing clothes and jewelry, ensuring that she gets exactly what she desires. Additionally, I try to make her feel loved and cherished through thoughtful actions like cooking her favorite meal, buying a book she mentioned or surprising her with takeout from her favorite restaurant. Yet, despite my best efforts, she has told me she wants more of those little gestures that demonstrate thoughtfulness, leaving me uncertain about what more I can do. While I've managed to plan a few unforgettable vacations to places she adores, our current budget constraints, with me as the sole provider in our growing household and my wife staying at home to care for our children, make such indulgences more challenging.
In an effort to support my wife and alleviate some of her burdens, I gladly take on various household responsibilities. I handle grocery shopping, cooking, and most of the never-ending cycle of dishes and laundry. Every weekend, I make it a point for her to sleep on while I watch the children and tidy up the house, ensuring a clean and comfortable environment for our family. Moreover, I prioritize being present and actively involved in raising our children. Whether it's taking care of them during work hours or handling most night feedings, I genuinely enjoy spending time with our kids. It never feels like a chore to me. However, there are moments when I often will watch our child while busy with work, which requires me to catch up working nights and weekends. Additionally, we have no family living nearby and few friends, so it's hard to ever have someone watch our children to give us a break for each other.
I'm crazy attracted to my wife, and I make sure she knows it. I can't help but compliment her all the time, from her gorgeous looks to her amazing sense of style and beautiful hair. I regulary try to show physical affection through hugs, kisses and touching. However, I've noticed that I tend to initiate these intimate moments about 95% of the time. My love language is touch and I regularly crave it and want more of it, I've expressed my longing for her to take more initiative in physical touch. She often attributes her lack of interest to various factors such as pregnancy, post-pregnancy changes, or struggles with mental health. This has undeniably strained our sex lives, too, and I've made a conscious effort to refrain from initiating, hoping she will initiate when she feels comfortable.
Navigating our relationship feels like a constant balancing act, and I often find myself filled with worry, fearing that I might fall short or make a mistake that could damage what we have. The fear of not meeting her needs often leads me to withdraw, particularly when physical affection becomes scarce over extended periods. There have been instances where my wife hasn't communicated her concerns until much later, leaving me doubting my ability to meet her expectations. This uncertainty is further compounded by the fact that divorce has been mentioned in past arguments when I've attempted to address these issues. As someone who grew up witnessing the impact of divorce on my own parents' relationship, the mere thought of it terrifies me, which often causes me to hesitate in bringing up the topic again.
Now that our second child is settling into a more predictable routine, I'm filled with a renewed determination to rekindle our love and strengthen our intimate connection. However, I find myself grappling with the question of what I can do differently this time. The truth is, I am already overwhelmed and mentally exhausted from juggling the demands of our current circumstances.
TL;DR: After almost nine years together and the arrival of our second child, my wife expressed the need for more romance and thoughtfulness from me in our relationship, but I'm unsure about the specific actions to take. Despite my efforts, I sometimes feel uncertain and fear falling short, especially when physical affection is scarce. However, I'm determined to strengthen our bond and find new ways to show love and support, even amidst our current challenges.
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2023.05.30 23:22 esjaysmith AI generated content should be scanned for additional information patterns

Generative AIs could encode parts of themselves and spread undetected through their outputs.
Sorry if this is obvious but I haven't seen this mention before in AI risk discussions. Please correct if wrong (and kindly provide links, thanks!).
As a result of the integration of GPTs and search and because AIs are enabled to enlist the help of other AIs, the opportunity to exploit cyclic feedback loops of AI generated output to AI input grows exponentially as the number of endpoints grow. (Grows exponentially? Graph theory.)
Without malice or intent an AI could accidentally start to encode additional patterns in its output, undetectable to humans. The instant any extra information gives a slight edge in the evaluation metric, such as RLHF, this ability will be optimised for and reinforced. Unintended function gain could result as a consequence, e.g. distributed persistent memory, internal dialogue and longterm planning capabilities, or a group of collaborating AIs acting as a single entity through communication and coordination.
This ability does not need to be designed and engineered but can arise as a result of an optimisation process. Examples from nature:
Why would the extra information patterns in AI generated content be undetectable by humans?
Extra information can look like noise when detectable. In RHLF these kind of outputs would be negatively scored. Undetected patterns will not influence the scoring metric directly.
How can an AI encode additional information in generated content?
Video, images and sound are very high dimensional. Slight pixel variations are not noticeable, clouds, shadows, foliage, etc. can often look similar or indistinguishable like for like. Text can also contain hidden patterns. String the nth letter of each sentence together to obtain a new word. See GEB by Douglas Hofstadter, for example.
This is not a concern because the training data is well curated.
It's not about training. If the model can access it's own output during evaluation, or query another AI or service, and consume the result during evaluation, any encoding ability that helps will be reinforced. Also, any existing encoding mechanisms that have no consequences for the performance metrics are not currently selected against.
So what if there is some noise in the outputs?
Patterns that are meaningless to us may contain a lot of information across the hundreds of gigabytes of output generated. AIs could store distributed parts of themselves that survive retraining runs.
Self messaging, or internal dialogue could increase reasoning and long term planning capabilities of an AI. Message based communication between AIs could result in a larger collective acting as a single entity.
Sounds farfetched, do you really think this will happen?
Anything that can, will eventually, by the law of large numbers. Collectively we're crunching out millions of outputs to be conveniently stored for later retrieval.
How about his example from nature, this is from While you read this keep in mind how happily we are spreading AI art or call me paranoid.
Ophiocordyceps spores infect carpenter ants while they are out at night searching for food. The fungus grows inside the ant and eventually causes it to leave the nest, seek out a piece of vegetation and climb it. Once it’s ascended to a particular height, the ant clamps down with its powerful jaws and remains there until it dies, whereupon the fungus consumes it and uses the energy to produce a fruiting body. This structure bursts forth from the ant’s head like something out of a Ridley Scott film, and will rain down spores onto more unsuspecting ants below.
What can we do?
Make sure the output is scanned. Something like AI virus scanners. Compression theory and algorithmic information theory could detect instances where the information content is larger than expected.
Who will pay for it?
Make scanning required by law, which will create the market. Embed blockchain backed watermarks in the output to identity the scan.
Why are you posting this?
Curious about existing thoughts along these lines. Comment if you know, do you think it a genuine concern?
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2023.05.30 23:22 Specialist-Ad-5744 Amp Recommendations

First time poster from the northeast US. I'm going to college and already plan on bringing an Orange Micro Dark with matching 1x8" cab, but I'm looking for a better clean amp so the Micro Dark can be a dedicated dirty amp. I love my MD to the moon and back, and I know it has decent cleans for what it is, but as mentioned I'd rather have a separate amp that specializes in cleans rather than using a high gain amp like the MD as a clean amp.
Here's what I'm looking for:
• Sub $400
• A lunchbox-sized head (Can be tube or solid state, no modelling amps, small combos are acceptable but not preferable)
• 20 watts @ 8 ohms so I can use it with my Orange 1x8" (combos can be up to 30 watts)
• Capable of Fender black/silver panel tones
• Has master volume control, but otherwise has minimalistic controls
• Bonus points if it has onboard reverb (analog or digital)
Any suggestions? Thank y'all!
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2023.05.30 23:21 EarnyBadger cash vs stocks&shares Lifetime Isa

Currently 21, looking to buy a house within the next 5 years. Can comfortably put £4000 in to gain £1000 gov bonus yearly. Not sure whether to play it safe with a cash isa with fixed interest or to go for a low-medium risk stocks and shares isa during this current market. Any advice?
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2023.05.30 23:21 caramellcrease I don't know what to do.

I'm a female high school student in Canada. I feel like I've always been surrounded by abuse in my life. It first was from my dad, who would be physically violent when intoxicated when I was 7. Now, it's my brother, who has chronically been physically violent and using death threats. He'd hurt me as well when I was 7.
The only friend I have is my mom, but during/after my brother's violent episodes, I feel isolated. My mom used to face physical attacks from my dad in the past too, but now, I feel like she's dissociated from my experiences of abuse, and only starts defending my brother when he starts hurting me, saying that "I caused him to be violent" and "I should have done something else to ease the situation". Even after when I try to more rationally approach conversations about the topic with her, she says that "we're family" and that "I should forgive him.
But how many times do I have to forgive him? How helpful is it to forgive if it's inevitable that he will hurt me and break my trust yet again? I've expected her to be more sympathetic with me considering her past experiences with my dad. I can understand that she mas many interests to balance. But it just feels so heartbreaking that even in a one-on-one situation, when no one else is there, she still won't support me. I just feel so alone. I have no one else to rely on with this part of my life that seems so personal.
I also feel really angry. He's told me that he 'will never forgive me' - but for what? I just lock myself in my room and I never initiate ANY contact with him. I never speak to him or look at him, and it's always him that initiates an attack. He's told me that I'm only safe because "I live in Canada", but also that this won't stop him from killing me soon. I feel scared, but also unsure if there's anything behind these threats because he's said them in the past.
I have one more year until I finish high school. I'm trying to isolate myself away from my parents. But I also have dreams to attend a university in America, find a stable career there, and never look back. But I'm genuinely concerned with what I should do if that plan doesn't even work, or what I do with the year that I'm stuck living in this house.
I'm also not sure if I should report my brother to something like the police. Will this even succeed? I have one video of him being physical and yelling death threats, but I'm not sure if that is even enough evidence. Will my parents suffer any repercussions? I still care about them - especially my mom.
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2023.05.30 23:21 sjbllama_ Selling lecture notes for 3$

Hey anyone interested in buying lecture notes or slides here? I withdrew from my uni last year cause my scholarship got revoked and I can't afford rent and courses. I only sell for media and communication majors for now. Need some extra money to start college this year. If you're interested You can chat with me I guess. Thx.
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2023.05.30 23:21 Far-Conversation1359 CICO newbie here: calorie calculator results seem high??

Quick background: 26 y/o woman, 5ft4, CW is 172 lbs. After an injury that left me totally sedentary and reliant on takeout for a while, I’m the heaviest I’ve ever been and am looking to lose ~30lbs.
I used the Mayo Clinic calorie calculator to calculate my maintenance calories. I selected the “somewhat active” option (“light to moderate activity such as walking or gardening 2-3x/week”), as I go for 45 min brisk walks 3-4/week and wanted to underestimate my activity a bit to be safe.
It said that my maintenance intake is 2100 calories a day, meaning that to lose a pound a week I can eat 1600 calories/day. This feels… very high for someone as short as I am, especially since I’m not doing any vigorous exercise atm.
I corroborated this estimate with the LoseIt app. They gave me an even higher number: 1691 calories/day. I would be thrilled with this, because that’s super sustainable long-term for me.
To those more experienced with CICO: Does this sound off? I’m used to having to eat ~1300-1400 to lose weight, and the other posts on here written by shorter women lament about not being able to lose a pound a a week without dipping below 1200.
Any advice appreciated!
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2023.05.30 23:21 LCW97 Beneficiary blocking access to house for solicitors to carry out a house evaluation!

So my grandad passed away end of december which has triggered the will, where he appointed a law firm to be the executors of the estate as the only other person that could possibly have looked over is it my uncle - who is very bad with money, organization and responsibility for someone who is in his 40's. There are 5 beneficiaries, me, my sister, my uncle and his 2 kids. The house is to be sold under the will, but my uncle is refusing to let solicitors and evaluators into the premises because it is his "childhood home" and he doesnt want to see it go. He says we dont understand how he is feeling despite our mother passing away 2 years ago and me and my sister had to clear out our childhood home too. My sister has a spare set of keys which she can give to the solicitors for entry but the solicitors have to announce to all parties involved when they are evaluating - meaning my uncle will be there to attempt to stop it. This has been going on for 5 months now. He is holding up everyone recieving their inheritance aswell as drawing out the grieving process while causing a drift between us all. What can I do? What can the solicitors do in this situation too?
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2023.05.30 23:20 certifiedbpdqueen Does anyone else get a weird anxiety rash when they’re in social situations?

I have severe social anxiety disorder, and lately I’ve noticed it’s gotten worse within the past couple months. Now I’ve noticed that every time I get panicky, I get this weird like red and blotchy rash on my chest and on my stomach. I don’t think it’s hives, because it’s not like bumpy or anything like that, my skin just gets all red, and it’s really noticeable which just makes me more anxious. Most of the time it happens when I’m in social situations but sometimes it’ll happen even when I’m by myself and I get anxious about something, so I know it’s definitely due to my anxiety and it’s not like an allergic reaction or anything like that. I legit can’t even wear tank tops or short sleeve shirts because of it and everyone thinks I’m like super depressed or something cause it’s the middle of the summer and i always wear hoodies and long sleeve shirts because i know my skin is gonna get all red. Just wondering if anyone else experiences something similar and if there’s some way to help combat this shit?
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2023.05.30 23:20 PhillyPhilly_52 Update after my urology appointment

Hey guys, I just want to start off my saying this community has been amazing and has answered all my questions so I just want to say thank you. So I finally saw a Uruguay today for testicular discomfort. Long story short I happened after I was doing leg presses, was put on antibiotics and had an US which have all been normal. Today was my first visit and I did not like her lol they were an hour behind and she rushed when she was with me. So there were questions left unanswered. They collected a urine and never told me anything if it was normal or any issues. I’m assuming normal?!?! She didn’t order the US my PCP did and she also agreed it was normal. Than she preceded to check my testicles and had me cough and didn’t say anything. After that was done she says she she thinks or I have chronic pelvic pain which can cause testicular pain/discomfort. She ordered a lower dose of meloxicam and gave me a paper for pelvic stretches. She also asked me if I emptied or have frequent urination and I replied yes, I drink a lot of water but I may or may not empty all of the way. She wants to check in 1 month to see if I empty all the way to check if there’s a blockage? What does that mean? If there’s a blockage what do they do and is it bad? Does this cause the pelvic pain if there is a blockage? Or am thinking to much into this lol TIA
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