Currently I am working as a senior developer and maintain some of my personal projects and habits. Let me know if you have any suggestions to improve or any other opinions. I have following setup:
Notion: For my personal OKRs and notes collections. Google calendar: for day planning Todoist: For tasks Raindrop: for bookmarking and web highlights Highlight & note: for my android tab and phone for quick inapp highlights or notes ReadEra: for ebooks/ novels reading on tablet VsCode: code editor Concepts: for rough idea sketch on tablet

Hey everybody,
I was looking for any tips on studying for the 04 Residential Service specialty exam. I work in Washington State and am close to 4000 hours. My J-man told me to go for it. (More pay and good practice for when I eventually take my 01 test.)

I'm having to, possibly, part with alot of stuff in a kind of fast timeframe (faster then I'm emotionally ready or comfortable and honestly doubt I'll be to handle . I had worked with a therapist on a more safer less emotionally upsetting step by step way of parting with stuff in a safe way that didn't have me in a panic and shutting down emotionally but it would take upto a week or more to part with one or more item. Slow yes but my therapist said this was the best way for me that wouldn't tripper off anything or lead to me hidden stuff and lying when ask if I parted with said agreed item to part with . But this choice or time frame isn't mine) . And it's already causeing me to panic quite a bit, and already thinking of where/now I can hid stuff and I know that isn't okay and i don't want to undo all the hard work and progress I've made with how I'm dealing and manging my hoarding.
So I'm wondering if a memory scrap book would be a good idea to take away the sudden lose of having to part with the items
What I'm thinking. I take photo of everything I need/have to part with, stick the photos in the scrap book, so even if I know longer have said item I'll still have the photo of it. I really think something like that will help me but I'm just also wondering. Has anyone ever used/made a memory scrap book?. Did it help, thought on them?

As I gained more focus, I thought it was a regular night terror until I looked down and saw the cacoon of web encasing my body.

Currently I’m a IT Service Desk Analyst at a university at the age of 20 and I have been offered to do a mentoring program with our Digital ops team (web & software dev team).
For the next 6 months I will be spending a couple hours a week with that team and doing the following;
-attending weekly meetings -attending the weekly sprints -working close with the team lead and learning what they do on the day to day base. -understand and learn how to use azure dev ops. - and a bit more XD
I want to set goals for myself so I don’t waste this opportunity.
Any recommendations on what I should try and achieve or let my mentor know? Cheers in advance :)

I recently installed LED bulbs in my passing lights and headlight for my 2004 Kawasaki Vulcan Classic 1600. I first installed the passing light bulbs and they worked fine. After I installed the headlight bulb, the passing lights are now super dim. any ideas on how to fix this?

I want to study in hermany because I admire the work and study system, so I'm from the us so far the only thing I know is that I need a certain level of german, iK there are courses in english I could apply to but perfecting german is also a mayor benefit I see from studying in Germany, so besides the language do you have any aptitude test? Let's say I'm a B+ student in the us how do I apply that to german standards? Also I took collage level classes could i apply it in the us and no longer have to study a that course/class, and finally I took areospace enginierring class in the us, I want to study that in germany could I use that to get into a good university?

Hello, I would love if anyone had any good info on speakers they have heard or follow their work. I have been charged with finding speakers for a conference for RDs and would love to hear from the community who they have heard, who they have loved, or who they would love to hear from. Only requirement is nutrition based and will qualify for a CEU.
If there are any speakers out there, time to shamelessly self promote either here or in my DMs.

What's going on?

A recent Reddit policy change threatens to kill many beloved third-party mobile apps, making a great many quality-of-life features not seen in the official mobile app permanently inaccessible to users.
On May 31, 2023, Reddit announced they were raising the price to make calls to their API from being free to a level that will kill every third party app on Reddit, from Apollo to Reddit is Fun to Narwhal to BaconReader.
Even if you're not a mobile user and don't use any of those apps, this is a step toward killing other ways of customizing Reddit, such as Reddit Enhancement Suite or the use of the old.reddit.com desktop interface .
This isn't only a problem on the user level: many subreddit moderators depend on tools only available outside the official app to keep their communities on-topic and spam-free.

What's the plan?

On June 12th, many subreddits will be going dark to protest this policy. Some will return after 48 hours: others will go away permanently unless the issue is adequately addressed, since many moderators aren't able to put in the work they do with the poor tools available through the official app. This isn't something any of us do lightly: we do what we do because we love Reddit, and we truly believe this change will make it impossible to keep doing what we love.
The two-day blackout isn't the goal, and it isn't the end. Should things reach the 14th with no sign of Reddit choosing to fix what they've broken, we'll use the community and buzz we've built between then and now as a tool for further action.
What can you do?

1. Complain. Message the mods of /reddit.com, who are the admins of the site: message reddit: submit a support request: comment in relevant threads on /reddit, such as this one, leave a negative review on their official iOS or Android app- and sign your username in support to this post.
   
2. Spread the word. Rabble-rouse on related subreddits. Meme it up, make it spicy. Bitch about it to your cat. Suggest anyone you know who moderates a subreddit join us at our sister sub at /ModCoord- but please don't pester mods you don't know by simply spamming their modmail.
   
3. Boycott and spread the word...to Reddit's competition! Stay off Reddit entirely on June 12th through the 13th- instead, take to your favorite non-Reddit platform of choice and make some noise in support!
   
4. Don't be a jerk. As upsetting this may be, threats, profanity and vandalism will be worse than useless in getting people on our side. Please make every effort to be as restrained, polite, reasonable and law-abiding as possible.
   

Hello reddit, Yesterday I replaced a ceiling fan with a regular light fixture. After installing the new one I turned the breaker back on and everything worked properly. The switch did what it was supposed to. Today after I got home from work I noticed that the switches and/or light fixtures no longer work. Is the problem that there were two white and two black wires up there for the ceiling fan/light combo? The fuse is not popped so I'm confused as to what's going on.

Hi all - just got my blood work back and my doctor is having me get tested for this gene. I don’t know if I have all the classic symptoms, but now I am reading some don’t have symptoms at all. Help! I am stressing!

Hi everyone, hope this all makes sense. Frankly I'm fed up with my neighbors and I'd love to just break my lease and get out of here, but unfortunately I renewed my lease right before all this started happening, so I think I'm pretty stuck. Just looking for some advice on how to continue bringing this up with my property manager.
It's quite a long story, but essentially, I'm living in a four-unit building with two upstairs and two downstairs units. Each is a two bed, one bath, ~850sqft. For my first year living here, everything was fine... neighbors were annoying, but other than occasional noise, it was manageable. So much so that I decided to renew my lease.... big mistake.
The neighbors that previously lived beside me in the other upstairs unit, moved into the downstairs one once it opened up. While they had barely been a nuisance before, something changed and it changed fast upon them swapping apartments. This was a family of (I believe) 5-- two parents and three children, the oldest of which is likely around 10 and the youngest is a toddler. Over the past few months, there has been a population boom within that apartment. As of now, I've counted at LEAST 6 adults, in addition to the children, that are somehow constant enough to have a significant presence in the complex, yet not constant enough for me to recognize them. This alone makes me wildly uncomfortable, as the new adults are big, grown men who speak little if any English, and I'm a small woman. I dread coming home at night (at all, really, but whatever) because they are often outside drinking, smoking, and gambling, and will watch me as I leave from my car to my door. There are so many of them in the apartment that at least one of the men sleeps in his car, parked directly next to mine. Which also makes me extremely uncomfortable.
Since moving below me, I have seen them in the patio (directly under my bedroom window) with all sorts of power tools and saws, and a handful of large planks that honestly could only be temporary walls being cut and installed. From inside, I have heard all of these tools being used as well. I let the property manager know about this immediately, as I was hoping to nip it in the bud and get it dealt with quickly. He let me know that he would speak to them about it, and the outright obvious construction stopped, but I did continue to hear noises from inside that were beyond the normal "drilling a shelf into a wall" sort of sounds.
I have also complained about them smoking around the property, and leaving cigarette butts everywhere. This was met with signs being posted in a few spots that it's a no smoking property, along with a city municipal code to back it up. I've got no idea if the tenants were spoken to about it, or if the signs were just put up to try and "fix" it without having to confront. I'm going to guess the later because while it has decreased very slightly, it certainly has not stopped.
The strange men have also decided that my parking lot is their space, so long as I'm not parked in it. (It's important to note that each unit has ONE assigned spot.) For example, today upon coming home from work, there was three of them in my spot, using it to.... give each other haircuts? And the carport reeked of weed. They "apologized" and then stood directly beside my car, watching me collect my things and get out. Again, super uncomfortable.
The children that live downstairs have hijacked the building's compost bin to use as ball storage in the patio. When I attempted to confront them about it, I did so through a letter, as I do not speak Spanish and they do not speak English. However they claimed to not know what I was talking about, and the bin "disappeared" from my view from the window..... until yesterday, when they left the gate open and I was able to see it hidden just under the awning.
Anyway. There's a lot more, but this post is getting really, really long.
TLDR: My neighbors are awful and I want out, but I'm scared to bring it up to the property manager.
I am wondering if anyone has any advice on how to continue to bring this up to the property manager. I honestly feel bad doing so, as contacting him every single time something happens would just be me blowing his phone up. I've been taking pictures and documenting everything in a spreadsheet with dates, times, and notes, just so that I have written account of all their behavior, but I'm unsure of how to share this information.
My biggest concern is being a nuisance and being seen as a snitch or something. Even though I know it is his job to deal with this sort of stuff, I'm having a lot of anxiety around the entire situation, especially since the first year I lived here, I had to contact him VERY few times, and it was always related to something within my own unit (like the heater not working). So to come out swinging with all these complaints feels..... wrong? I'm not exactly sure.
Really, all I want is for them to move out lol. And if they won't leave, I would be more than happy to-- but breaking my lease would mean continuing to pay rent on it *and* a new place, and I can't afford that. I live in Silicon Valley and I'm a teacher, hahaha. But I also can't afford to continue to dread coming home, lose sleep, feel unsafe in my own apartment, etc etc. all because of some inconsiderate aholes.
If you made it this far.... thanks for reading, and an extra thanks to anyone who can offer some advice. I'm getting desperate here lol.

Things have been pretty bad with my current boyfriend (M 27) as we have been fighting for the last few months due to differences in lifestyle. I have been dating my current boyfriend for a little more than a year, but he is ready to settle down soon within the next couple of years. He's wants the kids, the house, and the white pickets lifestyle. He has a good job that will help him achieve these life goals no issue! However, I(F23) do not find myself aligning with these goals. I am still finishing up my second degree and I am thinking about applying for grad school. Frankly kids and a house mortgage are the last thing on my mind. I asked him to wait until im around 30, but he said that we would be too old to raise children. He also saod he didnt want to take the risk that his kid comes out disabled since "older women who give birth are more likely to have kids with mental and physical disabilities". Since this argument, I have felt like my boyfriend has distance himself from me as he no longer opens my doors, kisses me (I am lucky if he gives me a kiss once a day now), or never wants to initiate sex. We go on months spurts without any sexual context which makes me feel unattractive and distance from my boyfriend. I try to bring this up, but he gets defensive as he's insecure he has a low sex drive. I don't know if he doesn't find me attractive or if he doesn't want to have sex simply because I don't want to be involved in the lifestyle he wants. Over the past months we have grew distant in our physical touch and communication and I have stopped trying to fix our relationship in the sake of not arguing and making him feel insecure. On top of this, he has stop calling me beautiful and stopped making an effort to make me feel valued in the relationship. He doesn't want to shower or cuddle with me in the morning, nor does he take me on dates. It's depressing and lonely. Currently I feel like I am stuck in a relationship with someone who doesn't value you me. I would leave but I am hesitant since we have shared finances and live together. I only have a part time job so I can go to university full time and only have enough for utilities and not full rent which my boyfriend pays. If I move out, I feel like I might be in financial limbo. This is where my two best friends come in:
I have been friends with Mave (F23) and Jace (26) for 5 years now and we have had a great friendship. They are a couple, but I never feel like the third wheel when I am with them. Over the years we have grown incredibly close and we really value each other. BEFORE, I got with my current boyfriend Mave told me she and Jace thought I was very beautiful and wanted to invited a third member in their bedroom. I was hesitant at first but she reassured me she could only participate in a threesome with someone she could fully trust. I told her to give me some time to think about it and I would get back to her. Several weeks later, the threesome ended up happening naturally at my house. It was one of the most amazing sexual experiences of my life. We all had a great time and participated in multiple rounds throughout the night. We grew closer, but never had sex again even though we all agreed we were open to the idea if the opportunity arises in the future.
Now (A year later) they have offered me a room at their place for cheap rent since they feel like my current boyfriend isn't the right fit for me. They made a comment that alluded that they were still for the idea of a threesome when I am single. Even though I haven't cheated, the idea of being able to live with my friends and being able to participate in an amazing sexual experience really appeals to me and I feel guilty for it. I also am feeling nervous about taking the offer because I do know that both of them like me and want to possibly explore a deeper sexual relationship with me and might want that too.
I'm unsure how to move about this and I am looking for advice. Should I try to work it out with my current boyfriend even though he seems uninterested in fixing our relationship or should I move in with my friends where I would feel safe to grow and experience myself sexually in a safe environment with people I trust. Thanks!

I did a question and I got it right but idk how. So this may be a dumb question but, for Herdy-Weinberg equation. When does one use the p + q = 1 and when does one use p² + 2pq + q² = 1?
The question was about homozygous recessive frequency and they used the first equation and disproved the 2nd one. But I don’t understand how the second one can’t work either. (UW question from evolution and genetics)

My parents split when I was 8 and my brother Harrison was 5. My mom didn’t want to share custody. She’s explained her reasons to me, but I still don’t fully understand her perspective. The point is I’ve lived with my dad and my mom visits us occasionally, but I haven’t had any real contact with Harrison since he was a kindergartener. In our bi-monthly phone calls, mom has always insisted that everything was fine.
Well, for the first time, mom brought Harrison to visit me and my dad, and it became obvious to me and my dad that everything had not been fine for the past 8 years. Harrison is severely attached to video games. If he’s asked to get off the video games or something else he doesn’t like, he’ll scream at my mom and show her the finger. He failed most of his classes this year because he barely turned in any of his homework.
Harrison’s school made an offer to my mom that if Harrison did summer school (it would be all online without any meeting, so basically entirely at Harrison’s pace) then they would pass him and he would be able to graduate from 8th grade to high school in August. The issue is that my mom says she can’t force Harrison to do his schoolwork. She also said that she can’t handle Harrison anymore in general because he’s a big kid and is still growing.
My mom said she wants “poor Harrison” to live with me and my dad for the summer so that my dad can hopefully get Harrison to start listening to her. My dad told her he doesn’t want to. Harrison may be my brother but I also don’t want him living with us. I don’t want to have to suddenly share my room with Harrison, or not be able to have friends over anymore because Harrison will be screaming and throwing fits. Plus, my dad works full-time and I’d probably be the one having to hover over Harrison and fight with him over doing his schoolwork.
During a phone call a few days ago, my mom begged me to try and change my dad’s mind because she says that I am the only one who would be able to convince him. I told my mom that I love her, but that Harrison is a mess that she made and therefore she is the one who has to deal with him. I don’t want my summer ruined by having to basically be Harrison’s babysitter and deal with him throwing fits 24/7. Also, Harrison is a big kid but he’s still 13. She could just sell his video games and block all non-school related sites on his computer and there’s literally nothing he’d be able to do about it lol.
I talked about this to my best friend Trystan. But Trystan said he sympathizes a lot with my mom because he also has a brother like Harrison (except Trystan’s has a diagnosed mental disorder and his issues aren’t because of the way he’s been parented.) Trystan said that just removing the video games isn’t as easy as I’m making it out to be. And that putting up with Trystan’s fits 24/7 is what my mom’s done for the past 8 years. So I could at least give up one summer out of love to try and help her. AITA?

Hi all, i'm having trouble in Ranked (team games - I mostly only play with my brother). I mostly float around Gold 3, still relatively new to the game (about a month in) but so far i've loved the game. I used to play AOE1 and 2 when it first came out and now we're in our 30s playing it all over again. Between juggling work, marriage (no kids), and learning the game I feel like we've hit a stonewall at Gold 3 and (sometimes hitting plat but quickly dropping).
I do much better playing as French but its so commonly picked I feel like once you hit Gold 3/Plat level everyone knows what to expect and how to play against them. So i decided to give Rus a try - Loved the civilization. I have the most fun with Rus but always get my ass handed to me. My in-game name is BAMBOORICE and we lose most of the games I play as Rus but win a majority when I play as French.
But I love playing with Rus.
I'm not sure if my in-game history is blocked (lots of our opponent were doing this so I decided to do it too - if it is i'll make it public once I finish work). But any tips on how to play Rus against aggressive civs that rush all-in in Feudal (I get so caught up in 2-3 scouts bounty hunting that sometimes it feels like i'm upside down by the time I hit Feudal)?
Or better yet, how to be aggressive with Rus from Feudal? Is there an optimal build order?

20M, started Fin 4/28/22 after noticing diffuse thinning around my scalp. Took 1mg Fin ED for 8 months and it seemed like it wasn’t working at all. I got 0 sides and didn’t notice any improvement or maintenance on Fin. I only had continued diffuse thinning and now slight recession. Switched to .5mg Dut ED in the beginning of this year and my hair is at an all time low. I again have 0 sides but it almost seems like these medications don’t have an impact on me at all. I feel like having sides can actually be good in some cases because you know the medication is doing something. It’s been almost 6 Months now on DUT and I have only regressed. Starting to think I’m an antiandrogen non responder. Anyone have similar experience or advice to offer? I feel helpless I just watch my hair continue to fall out daily.

My twin girls are 10 year old and they have a serious passion for writing. It’s the thing I will actually have to pull them away from. (reading not as much) I’m in Princeton NJ area, I’ve gotten them a tutor, although she hasn’t been the most reliable in scheduling but she’s very good and the girls really like working with her. Would anyone have any advice on what else I can do to help in their development as writers? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

So I am on free brew to unlock all the drinks and then replay the game for the 100% ending and 2 drinks are not working, Berry-Blue Hibiscus Pie and Five Stars. Every website I've looked at has the same ingredients, Hibiscus + Honey + Mint and Green Tea + Honey + Milk. I've even switched up the secondaries and third ones but instead I get Honey Mint Hibiscus and Honey Milk Green Tea. Does anyone know what I'm doing wrong?

Black hair, dark brown eyes, brown skin.
Darker lips and darker nipples.
Am I attractive enough?
Height at 5’2, weight at 135 pounds; 36 inch bust, 27 inch
waist, 38 inch hips.
Am I skinny enough? Curvy enough?
Stretch marks run along a tummy, waist, and back.
Three surgical scars.
A dimpled bottom and a star shaped belly button.
Breasts that were once round and full of milk now
only give a few drops.
Am I sexy enough?
A body that experienced childbirth twice.
Am I tight enough?
A warm smile, a polite hello, expressive eyes.
Am I approachable enough?
Lace and chiffon blouses, high waist pants,
perfectly done makeup and coiffed hair.
Am I presentable enough?
Why am I not enough?

I am very curious about this subject and how it relates to pwBPD, but I rarely see it discussed here. I think it's profound though because object constancy is a reason I believe I stayed in my relationship for so long (10 years)
It's funny, but before I knew about BPD, my ex-wife would often joke to myself and friends "Object permanence is new to me!" And when I think about that in hindsight, it kind of makes my skin crawl.
During my marriage I remember thinking my wife lacked "emotional object permanence" which is basically what object constancy is. And I think object constancy is a reason I stayed as long as I did.
I think my ex had "quiet" uBPD. And when she was in the room with me? I think she really was afraid of losing me and truly cared for me (in her own twisted way).
The problem was - on an emotional level - she completely forgot I existed when we were not in the same room together. And for my part, how can you know how someone behaves when you're not in the room with them? It's like the Heisenberg uncertainty principle: to observes is to inherently interfere.
As an example, we started couple's counseling about 7 years into our marriage. On maybe the 12th session, I told her it made me really stressed when she would be out late on work nights (often until 1 or 2 am) and I didn't know where she was (usually drinking with random men). She replied, "I'm sorry! I honestly didn't know you felt that way."
Of course, it was a ridiculous response from her since that was largely the reason we were there.
But when she said it in the moment? I think she actually, truly meant it. And it was (in a way) passive gaslighting. It was really as if she was feeling it for the first time. So I would reason inside, "Oh... I guess I didn't explain myself well enough the 1000 times before? Maybe it's my fault?" Because at the time - since she was "quiet" - there were no angry outburst (just lots of crying).
In that same session, she made a vow to message me when she was going to be home late. It was a tearful vow. Our marital counselor was impressed with us. I left that session on a note of hope.
Three nights later? She was out until 4 am. No message from her or word until she got home. I was real during marriage counseling; I didn't exist when I was just an abstract thought at home.
What's your experience with this?