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"OH. Ooooohhh. ..oh..."

2023.06.01 23:13 Wise_Focus_309 "OH. Ooooohhh. ..oh..."

You all have inspired me to relate a story from way back when I was a much younger man.
Setting: The mid 1990's, mid-sized city on the East Coast of the U.S.
I was a college student who normally wore the traditional late teen/early 20's male uniform of worn jeans, band t-shirt covered by plaid flannel, and Chuck Taylor All-Star high tops of varying colors.
I was enjoying my Sophomore year at my small college when I was tasked with an oral report in my current literature class. I knew the material, spoke often in class, and engaged well with the teacher and my classmates. Things were good.
I decided that for the presentation, I would actually put an effort into my appearance. I shaved that morning, put on the few dress clothes that I had brought from home, and even wore a tie. I thought that I cleaned up pretty well.
The presentation was well received, and I felt good about how everything went, so after class I decided to walk myself across the street to partake of a rented movie from the local Blockbuster video rental store.
*For those too young to remember, once upon a time you had to physically go to a store and choose a movie to watch, rent a VHS or DVD copy, and return it to the store when you were done.
*It was actually a really fun experience, and was even more fun when they started to rent video games as well.
*It also made you choose something you may not have chosen otherwise when your first choice was out.
*For further information on this topic, I recommend the film "Be Kind, Rewind," starring Mos Def (Yasiin Bey), Jack Black, and Danny Glover.
As I perused the store, I noticed that a couple of boxes were out of place, so I put them back in order as I decided what to watch that evening. An older woman turned to me and asked, "Excuse me young man, but I am taking care of my grandkids tonight and was wondering if this movie was appropriate?"
"Oh, 'Goonies?' That is a classic! There are a couple of scary parts for the younger kids, but it is nothing worse than what they would see in a cartoon. They should really like it." She thanked me and was on her way.
Another woman asked where the romantic comedies were, so I directed her to them. A man asked me my opinion of John Carpenter's "The Thing."
"Wow," I thought to myself. "My professional appearance must exude cinematic knowledge and expertise! People can't stop themselves from asking my opinion on film! Maybe I should put more of an effort in to dressing well."
As I approached the counter with my selection, I was brought out of my contemplation by the sight of the Blockbuster assistant manager behind the register.
He was wearing a blue button-down shirt, tan trousers, a brown leather belt and loafers, and a tie.
I was wearing a blue button-down shirt, tan trousers, a brown leather belt and loafers, and a tie.
The realization hit me. "OH. Ooooohhh. ..oh..."
TLDR: I thought that my professional appearance and vast knowledge of movies was attracting people to me for advice, when it turned out that I was just the moron who tried to impress his American Romanticism class by dressing like a Blockbuster employee.
As I have been on Reddit for a couple of months, I know that it is important to inform all of you that I am currently in therapy for this traumatic event and have been NC with Blockbuster for nearly 20 years!
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2023.06.01 23:08 Stock_End2255 What is this and what do I need to succeed?

What is this and what do I need to succeed?
Today was my grandma’s funeral, and in her honor (she stole several full plants from my college graduation), I proplifted a leaf and and couple nodes from this beautiful plant. I plan on putting this in water tonight and a damp paper towel for my flight home. What do I need to do when I get it home and what is it? (I think it is a pothos or a philodendron?!?)
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2023.06.01 22:56 Basic-Mud9670 Required to use herbicides?

I expressed the desire to have our landscaping company stop spraying all the biocides on our property, and he said that our city might require them to spray whether we want them to or not.
For reference, I'm the HOA president for a smallish town home community in Raleigh, NC (zone 7b).
Is this possibly a thing? And how would I go about verifying this one way or the other? Has anyone else ever dealt with this?
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2023.06.01 22:36 Simulate_Cake Unable to live a full life.

Does anyone else ever feel that they are unable to really live a full life? With deep, meaningful connections and long term friendships? I am only capable of maintaining a single relationship and seem to put it in front of everything else. I compartmentalize as I can and have occasional dinners with friends to catch up, but my relationship ends up coming first. I am so afraid of rejection and have an anxious attachment, so I do not know any other way to be. I have no family (NC for about a year) and have a few close-ish friends. I fear that I will never be able to live a full life. I stay isolated over fear of people. I have a very hard time trusting, and view socialization as work. Does anyone have any experience with this or advice on how to work on deepening my existing connections and letting go of any fears around letting new people in my life? I grew up with a nMom, eDad and borderline sister. As the youngest, I had to navigate adult conversations and conflicts. I always trusted my sister, but learned that she was the scapegoat that always tried to get my in trouble to even the score. I had to appease my mother at all costs. My eDad had no friends and would guilt trip me into staying home to hang out with him versus spending time with friends.
Long story short, I dealt with dysfunction from all fronts. I am desperate to live life differently and truly connect with others. If you have experience in doing so, please share tips.
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2023.06.01 22:20 Marthis09 Should I really just let my MIL talk and let everything she says go in one ear and out the other?

My husband invited MIL over and I’m in a panic. There’s so much about this woman and I don’t know if I can recap quickly. She neglected my husband through his life, financially abused him, and behaves like she is to be the wife. She says and does very rude things to me, including leaving me out of conversation by speaking another language and making racial remarks at my expense. But you know, it’s all subtle and obvious yet laced with whatever. It’s never so black and white. She also fakes and exaggerates illness. I think what freaks me out the most is the fact she does things she shouldn’t be doing. Editing to add she is very manipulative it’s like she doesn’t even talk to us like she wants a relationship, it’s all about making us believe a lie about the very dishonest way she lives her life. I feel like I’m expecting my mind to be read because it’s a lot where I’m trying to figure out how can I summarize my issue with her.
My husband is so upset with me. He feels I should just let it all go in one ear and out the other. He told me if my mom treated him the way his mom treats me that he’d just let her talk and let it in one ear and out the other, and told me to take it all with a grain of salt.
To me that’s like living a lie. I can’t just pretend something is something that it’s not. I just feel like he grew up with this and normalized it and I don’t think I should have to play along.
But on the other hand, she’s not a part of our life, isn’t told things, etc… but me making a big deal is like treating her as if she is. I don’t know if that makes sense but I can’t even fully believe that myself. She exists and we are not NC. Just LC.
But am I supposed to let it go? I’m letting my MIL come between my marriage. My husband and I don’t see her all that often. It’s been a year since she’s come to our home but she’s been complaining she hasn’t been here.
She obsesses over our house and wants to know everything. I told my husband it’s because she wants to be the wife. And it’s true, it’s the type of mother she is to her sons. She wants to be the wife. He got upset with this. He wants me to just let her be who she is. I told him then why can’t I be who I am and not tolerate it? I made him so angry with that.
For reference I’ve been married once before. To a mother enmeshed man. My husband is nothing like that, but my MIL is very similar. It’s hard going through this a second time. I just don’t have it in me to do this again. I used to go along with things but now I see things so clearly I just can’t do that anymore. I have to deal with this woman in my life again. My husband is different. He sees it. We do our own thing and live our own life, but he wants me to tolerate her. I know that’s the truth but I still have this feeling like she governs us, even though I know she has no say.
I suppose the tl;dr question here is: Am I just supposed to tolerate her for his sake? I need direction. If I’m supposed to do that I need to know it’s ok, that’s the place I’m in right now.
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2023.06.01 22:13 ADHDavidThoreau Should minors be allowed in Churches or at religious events?

tl;dr - title
I’m all for people’s rights to practice religion, but I’m of the opinion that children shouldn’t be allowed in churches.
Church isn’t a place for kids. They’re too young to understand the adult themes in the Bible and they’re often subject to abuse by church leaders. Give people the religious freedom to teach their kids religion at home, but bar minors from attending church activities outside of weddings and funerals. Kids are also not mature enough to make an informed decision about whether or not religion is right for them, and forcing your kid to go to congregation could amount to abuse. The risks are many and the benefits are few.
Is there an objectively strong argument to bar kids from church?
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2023.06.01 22:09 Queerursmear ISO baby bassinet/rocking chair

Hello! I work at a funeral home and I’m looking for a baby bassinet or rocking chair for infant funeral services. If anyone has one that they’re looking to get rid of please let me know, it’ll be going to a great cause for our families who have experienced devastating loss.
Thank you.
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2023.06.01 22:00 Mandminla Navigation route not highlighting upon reroute

Navigation route not highlighting upon reroute
I just got the new navigation update the other day, and now the blue highlighting of my route doesn’t update if there’s a reroute. For example, if I miss a turn, the directions will change to reroute me, but the originally highlighted route will stay highlighted. You can see this in the attached photo where I’ve missed a turn, am on a new route (light gray), but the original route is still highlighted in blue. As I noted, the turn by turn directions updated correctly, just not the blue highlighting. This worked before the update. Anyone else having this issue?
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2023.06.01 21:59 MaxAvery [Dreadgod] Max’s “Sure to please everyone” Definitive Cradle Ranking

I started my reread too early and I’ve been bouncing off the walls waiting for the final entry into the series. So I thought I’d recap on our shared journey and bring us all together in harmony.
Although we all know what happened to Harmony.
From the bottom up:

#11 Skysworn

It’s a little weird putting this last since it has one of my favorite openings in the series, but really just because it’s last doesn’t mean it’s bad. It does a good amount of work introducing stuff, we get the phoenix and redmoon, and the Akura clan, Mercy joins the gang, Ruby gets yoinked out, Oz’s Marble gets revealed, it’s not that stuff doesn’t happen, it’s just there’s no sense of purpose in the book. After the Jai Long fight, but after that the only real goal in the book is Yerin wanting to fight Redmoon hall, and then they don’t. All of our main characters are totally sidelined and we’re all sitting around waiting for ghostwater. Even though there’s great individual scenes, it just sort of meanders for the last two thirds of the book so number 11.
Best parts: Jai Daishou’s quest for revenge is seriously one of my favorite bits. Also Lindon just smashing the kid for the Kotai clan. After three books of Lindon hiding and fawning, seeing him go against someone on his own level for once is such a rewarding payoff. He needs a shell though.

#10 Reaper

This is my Skysworn problem all over again. One of the best endings in the series, but it ends a book that kind of wanders around a bit. I don’t mind the dungeon crawl but it gets a little repetitive for me as they go room to room without really giving character payoffs. It’s good to see the evolution of the dynamic between Eithan and Lindon/Yerin, but that change happened over the last two books. Nothing really shifts in the group dynamic and all the accomplishments feel incidental. Lindon makes a big deal about not leaving anyone behind and then immediately is like “Psych!” But also everyone leaves in order to help out in the Valley and they don’t. In fact the whole war in the Sacred Valley feels pretty. . . .meaningless. Like did anything really happen there in the first place? And are we caring about Jai Long or not? It’s nice to see Yerin and Lindon relax for a bit and the Twin Stars sect is fun, but it feels like not quite the right amount of it to be totally satisfying.
Everyone just feels underused. Mercy has always been a few levels behind the gang but managed to contribute important emotional intelligence and insights, here she just feels wasted. Yerin gets some fine slashy slashy bits, but nothing really challenges her this book. Dross’s bits probably are more fun on audiobook, but these personalities kinda grate on me. Also knocked down some extra points for the lack of Fisher Gesha. Dreadgod’s Gesha is right, you have all this time off and a broken Dross and you don’t stop in for a chat? Even Lindon’s advancement feels a little weird with Reigan Shen just scattering out natural treasures for the ambience. Meh.
I actually had this ranked higher but while writing this I had to bring it down. There’s some cool fights, but it just feels like grinding for XP until the end. The Eithan/Shen showdown is great and again the ending is spectacular. But otherwise not as satisfying as the average book.
Best Parts: The Destroyer Has Come (YOU KIDDING ME!!!!!). Also “Let him kick you.”

#9 Unsouled

Unsouled usually gets ranked near the bottom for folks and I really wanted to rank it higher, but it’s hard to compete with the full gang. It’s definitely a book that I need to tell people they have to get past the halfway point, so I suppose that’s a point against it. But also what a great turn in the middle. Will does such a good job setting us up for the generic fantasy genre before going “Oh you thought these were the stakes? A Kid Who’s DifferentTM needs to impress the schools in the Sacred Valley? F*** those stakes. The WORLD IS SO MUCH BIGGER” And honestly the ways he absolutely massacres those tropes are so good. When he joins heaven’s glory and they set him up with rivals that do not matter and months long objectives we never even bother with. The series would not work if we didn’t spend this time with the Unsouled Lindon and watching an actual interesting protagonist cheat to win and beat up kids and grovel his way to survival. It also does such a good job introducing us to the theme of there’s always a bigger pond. It helps make each step of the journey feel that much bigger and more awe inspiring because in this book Will made us feel like these hillbilly antics were actually powerful and impressive feats of the sacred arts. Great intro, lots of good character stuff, bottom of the ranks. Also looking back at it, how did a bunch of jades kill a sage?
Best Parts: Lindon in the Ancestor’s Tomb watches Elder Whitehall enter and look around for traps and feels his first bit of pride in the series. It’s a small moment but it sticks with me. Also Yerin when she enters and is all “The Disciple greets her master.” Also them robbing the lesser treasure hall.

#8 Soulsmith

7 and 8 flip flop a lot for me depending on my mood. Soulsmith is going here today because I think it takes the longest to get going. Besides that though there’s a lot to love in this one. Eithan and Gesha get really terrific, cinematic introductions and there’s a great sense of pacing and stakes in this one. Everything feels tough for the ol’ baby-head man and we get to see both the strengths and limitations of his scheming. Kral/Jai Long are also a really nice set of complex, relatable antagonists. I always appreciate how Will will let you get to know the bad guys and see them as the heroes of their own stories (but just messed up enough to cheer their deaths). Despite the slow start this book is always better than I remember and has a lot of heart in it. It is funny on this read seeing how Ethan is at the beginning. We think about how much Cradle changed him, but really it was Yerin and Lindon. That’s really fun storytelling.
Best Parts: Lindon advancing vs the Sandviper kid advancing sequence is something I always think about when I look back at the series.

#7 Dreadgod

This book slaps. Everyone gets a good amount of spotlight time and the Silent King is a great villain (RIP). On this reread I don’t mind the Jai Long death as much, but I still would’ve liked a scene with Kelsa and Jai Chen afterwards. This end to Jai Long arc kind of makes me wonder about the amount of time we’ve spent on his redemption arc, but if someone has to pay the piper, I’m glad it wasn’t little blue. The rest of the crew really gets to shine even with Eithan off world. The dynamics that have grown over the course of the series are really humming by this point and it’s nice to see different pairings. The heists are fun and the Redmoon Hall stuff is great. So why isn’t this higher on the list? Well Mercy feels a little too much damsel in distress. Once the Silent King is dead, the rest of the book feels a little lower stakes. Even with all the monarchs against the gang it doesn’t feel like there’s too much danger in that last fight. Also again needs more Fisher Gesha. \
Best Parts: That silent king battle is so good. Also the dreadnought city stuff is good. Basically anything to do with the Silent King. “Pew pew”

#6 Uncrowned

Just a few years after the Seven Year Festival Lindon takes the competition stage again. Imagine what he could do to the foundation level Sacred Valley 10 year olds now. These Tournament arcs are always a super fun part of Shonen Animes. And it is a great time the whole way through. Do characters learn things and change? Not so much. But does it have a scene where Lindon absolutely wrecks the Akura Clan’s top underlords? Absolutely. The book does such a good job building up Sophanaroth as the tournament’s boogeyman. That last Yerin/Lindon fight is everything. It’s a break from the serious work of the other books which is why it’s out of the top five, but man I could read the heck out of it.
Best Parts: Anything with Akura Fury, that opening scene with Lindon being tested followed by Yerin vs Eithan.
Odd Part: Sort of feel like this book’s emphasis on Yerin sensing the Way and Lindon not being able to is less misdirection and more…just kinda weird. Like…did Will change his mind? Coulda set Lindon up a little bit and would have made the beginning of Wintersteel feel a little more natural. But eh, no biggie.

#5 Ghostwater

Okay, okay, put away your pitchforks. I know this is a #1 for a lot of people. I get it. I’m not going to tell you that you’re wrong. But the thing I love about the series is the great interplay between the characters and they’re all separated here. As a Lindon solo-quest it’s terrific: He does steroids, he does homework, he hangs out in a library, and he goes fishing. It’s great.
My main complaints: Harmony as a villain is a little flat. Every book in this series does a great job setting up the antagonists as fully realized characters, but here Ekeri gets that spotlight and Harmony is just sort of brooding ominously in the distance. Mercy and Yerin spend most of the book on the sidelines hiding. The Endless sword stuff we get with Yerin is nice, but it would’ve been nice to have them bond a little more.
So I know you’re wondering “Hey, Max, if you have so many complaints why is it ranked so high?” and the answer is simple: DROSSSSSSS BAAAAAAAAABY. We also have Fisher Gesha blasting emissaries out of the sky.
More importantly we see Lindon pushed against the ropes and for the first time relying on his own strength and ability to get out of it. Will had such great self-control in letting Lindon be terrible and weak for so long before he gets his legs under him and we get to see him level up not just through pounding the juice, but through his own hard work and ingenuity. It’s such a satisfying chapter in Lindon’s story.
Best part: ARE YOU KIDDING ME? I think I put my book down and screamed.

#4 Bloodline

When I first read this book it was mid-pandemic and I hated it. Well, “Hate” might be a strong word but it was tough to get through. Now with a little distance I can recognize that I felt that way because Will did such an amazing job capturing so much of the mood of going home and dealing with folks not taking the whole thing seriously. Look I don’t want to make the comment thread political here, so sub out whatever thing you hate about going home that’s it. On this reread I just had to respect Will for the way he wove it into iteration 110. I think everyone had an idea of what it would be like for Lindon to go home and I don’t think anyone totally expected what we got.
There’s clear stakes, a huge pressing danger, really keen emotional cuts, and the book just felt completely unpredictable. We got to see Ziel and Mercy fight off some of their personal demons and we got to see Lindon really deal with failure in a deeply personal way. The writing in this book is some of the best in the series and it really drove home the sense of scale seeing places that loomed so large in Unsouled looking so dismal and small in this book. A lot of heart in this one, brah.
Best Part: “No. This is the path of the White Fox.”

#3 Underlord

This is probably the cleanest bit of storytelling in the series. Yerin needs to advance or die and the Yerdon (Lirin?) dynamic finally gets a chance to develop. This book just has a lot of heart and emotional weight and a great buy-in. I feel pretty bad for our Seishen kingdom antagonists in this one, which I think means Will did a good job in setting up their rivalry. Although the gang is often in mortal peril, it never feels as dangerous as it does here. I think Yerin’s character has really evolved in this book and seeing her vulnerable without losing her identity, that’s tough to do. Seeing Lindon really find his post-ghostwater swagger is also great to watch. Everyone really feels well developed here. We’re at peak Mercy, and her advancement in this book is the most compelling part of her arc so far. I think that this is also a really important Eithan book. I feel like it is the first book where he starts engaging with the team as friends rather than pawns in his celestial chess game. He’s warm and human and has some really funny bits. Orthos’s departure gets me every time too. The twist with the Akura team selections got me so good when I first read it. I have nothing bad to say about it. Premium Cradle.
Best Parts: Lindon opening his void-key in the vault. Eithan discovering Dross. And it’s a small moment but Charity losing her concentration as the gang runs into the portal during her speech is so good.

#2: Blackflame

The dragon advances. I remember the exact moment in this series when I started being a Cradle ambassador and forcing all my friends to read these books. It was Sandviper Kral’s funeral scene. It was here where I really understood how deeply Will understood the conventions in this genre and how good he is at flipping them on their heads. I was cheering on the book two villain after ten pages. This book beginning to end reinforces how unusually good this series is and how good Will is at letting any character have the spotlight. You could make the case that this is anyone’s book:
In other books Yerin might check the box as “Tough girl character” but here she has genuine pathos and real protagonist issues to work through. Learning to let go of her master and forge her on path ahead? Yaaaaaas (uncrowned) queen.
Jai Long could have been a scary forgettable MCU villain, but he really has agency and purpose and reading it from his perspective you kinda get it. Now has the ancestor’s spear and is going to finally restore his honor and capture the avatar destroy the Jai Clan only to be caught by Jai Daishou and forced into his service? Compelling af.
Little Blue could have just been an amorphous little blob in a terrarium the whole series, but in this book she…gets tiny little legs and stuff.
But really it’s an Eithan book. In other stories he’s just Master Roshi, the wacky comic relief mentor figure, but this legitimately is his story. The main conflict is his political war with the Jai Clan and the real climax is his fight against Jai Daishou. Yes he’s a big goofy trickster, but we see the cracks in his armor through his dynamic (and unexpected vulnerability) around Cassius. We get to see him sweat a little. We get little flashes of the person he becomes over the series. In Will’s blog, he talks about how this story started as a little short about the Janitor who is the embodiment of death, and you can see how much he loves writing this guy come across in this book. It’s also just cool and fun throughout. Plus it has a majestic turtle in it.
Best Parts: “I’ll tell your Remnant.”

#1 Wintersteel

I will fight you all day about this. ALL the character dynamics are dialed up to 11 in this one. We get the best development in Yerin and Lindon’s relationship, Eithan and Yerin and Lindon’s relationship, Mercy and Malice’s relationship, Mercy and Lindon’s dynamic, Yerin and Ruby’s dynamic. Just every strand on the spiderweb of human connection is vibing real hard. Because we’re closer to the end of the tournament and penance is hanging over the results the competition feels higher stakes, we have a dreadgod stirring, big political webs, dates! Everything.
I have a friend reading this right now and she’s texting me every 2 hours with an all caps: “THIS IS ABOUT POINTS” or “HOLY SH*T EITHAN’S FIGHT!!!!” Every two hours. And she’s right to do so.
It’s just hit after hit of stuff you didn’t know you needed. Everything is paying off, Yerin’s blood shadow, Eithan’s self-control, Lindon’s hunger.
I can’t. I can’t even.
Best Parts: Eithan vs Sha Miara, “I wanted to see the look on your face,” “I’m going to punch a hole in the sky,” the Points Sage, Ruby petting the bunny. Heck this whole book is the best part.
Anyway, since this is about points, upvote before you completely blast me in the comments.
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2023.06.01 21:51 chuckndrews Self Inflicted Isolation

I struggle with my emotions and relationships, more than the romantic kind. I strain them with expectations and lack of control. Usually kept to myself though. It lives in me. Dis Satisfaction. I moved from my hometown in NC to the middle of the desert in AZ subconsciously to torture myself. Last time i went home to visit i couldnt wait to get away from my friends who i couldnt get away from before i moved. I cant deal with people anymore. I cant even deal with myself. Everywhere i look in society im filled with disgust and hatred towards the lies these people believe. So ill save myself the trouble and not interact with anybody. This has blown up in my face because the person im living with is my grandfather. And hes getting the backside of my lonely depression cycle. I smoke more weed than im worth(figure of speech), ive deduced its not the cause as ive gone without many times to test this theory. By all means, in societys eyes im great, im a fully certified refrigeration/Hvac technician working for a federal contractor. Im very well off in comparison to anybody ive ever associated with. And thats all ive got. I cannot deal with myself or my emotions. I consider suicide daily however ive been down that road and woke up next to my mom in a hospital bed, twice, i realized i cant do that to my mom, especially after watching my best friends mom lose her son. So i figure im probably stuck here for the long game.
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2023.06.01 21:44 bizarrotaro My mom purchased a headstone and plot of land for her and my dad when they pass and now the funeral home is saying it’ll cost $20k more than we agreed

Hello, first time poster not sure if this is the right place to post this. Last week my mom and I went to the cemetery to start financing for a headstone/ plot of land for when my parents pass. We originally chose this place because it’s where my brother and my grandma is buried. My family is not well off at all so we were looking for a nice cheap one. They’re opting for cremation. We take a look around and my mom finds one she likes and for a price that’s reasonable. The lady offered it to us for $36k. My mom signed the contract and gave them the 10% down payment. Now they’re saying they made a mistake and it’s actually $56k. Is there anything we can do to keep it the price they originally offered? The contracts been signed, first payments been made. We’re all pretty upset she sprung this as soon as we agreed on this plot of land. We can’t afford the extra $20k. Do we need to give it up? Can we keep it? Please help us, thank you 🙏🏼
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2023.06.01 21:38 SocalComedian7777 I (27F) am struggling to leave when I know it’s what’s best for me. I’ve never broken someone’s heart or been the one to leave but I feel like he broke my heart with his (29M) words and actions for the past 7 years.

I’m a 27F and I’ve been with the same partner for 7 years. We dated for six and he proposed last April. We’ve moved from state to state together, have really good careers and animals together. We have my cat who I had before we met one another, our 6 year old dog we got quickly after dating and another dog who is 5 we adopted when he was 1. I need advice because I am stuck, I have an inner voice telling me to leave, move away, start over because I deserve the love I am giving myself, I love myself so much and know despite the chaos that I am an amazing phenomenal inspirational person with so much love to give, as is he, he can be gentle and caring and loving but lately since the end of 2022 everything has sucked. It’s been horrible. We live 2,000 plus miles from where we’re from and I had two sudden deaths in the past 9 months the most recent this February of my 27 year old cousin who lost her battle to depression, these two deaths of my grandma and cousin had me going back to be with family, he couldn’t come he said because of work even though I asked him to. This lead to arguments, frustrations, etc. However, going home gave me a sense of peace, to see my family, my aging grandfather, my mom, so many of the people who made me, me. I started Zoloft after my grandma died in October of 2022, I always wanted to try it especially since being diagnosed with depression and anxiety at 12. However it took me until I was 26 to try medicine. It helps so much, I feel lighter, more care free, courageous, I stand up for myself I feel my whole self. However he thinks opposite he thinks Zoloft makes me loopy and insane and like I need more professional help like “checking myself in” all because he doesn’t like that I flourish despite him bringing me down. He constantly brings me down when I spend time with anyone but him, for example he asked me after 7 years together on the week I got back from my cousins funeral if I wanted to break up because I went to see a family friend for dinner who knew my cousin, instead of being sincere and warm during this time of chaos he shoved words down my throat of being selfish and not enough, even when he knew I’ve had my own thoughts of hurting myself in the past he continued to say things like “well I can’t be with someone with suicidal thoughts”, the comments go on and on and I can’t stand them, I do my best to not argue back because it’s exhausting and it hurts so bad. So anyways, we almost hang things up in March, but he says he’ll work on himself and I agree to sign another lease with him (a larger 2 bed apartment to see if space helps) and he agrees that we both seek therapy. Then, I take a solo trip to Europe to figure myself out, I felt amazing, free, young, alive, no one to judge my hobbies and life, no one to critique me and all my flaws. I come back and of course before and after that trip he made me feel like the biggest POS for taking that solo trip, fast forward to now: he goes to therapy and I recently started and have two therapists and have remained on my Zoloft. Recently, he’s been angry because I spend a few nights per month with my friends, I told him yesterday that this week Friday night I was going to help a friend pack and get dinner because she’s moving 5 hours away, he thinks it’s a terrible idea to leave him alone on a Friday night even when I asked him to come along despite not really knowing her, he declined but continued to go on about how weird my friends are, etc. This was all while driving to get milkshakes and when we got to the restaurant I had it and said “just admit your mad because you don’t have friends” he said that this language was “fuck you for life” language and told me things like “you’re so crazy you need mental help, fuck you forever, that was so fucked up, I hope therapy makes me realize I should leave you, you’re so selfish, you only care about yourself, etc.” I said “I’m sorry that I said that but it’s frustrating that when you and your friends hang out I say nothing, don’t get an invite and your with them til 4 in the morning” he just kept yelling. We came home. Silence. It’s what I excel at because I just go into silent mode to protect my inner peace. He can’t stand it. I end up trying to sleep in the guest room alone but he enters after I am crying myself to sleep and tries to touch my arm and be cuddly, i then come back to our bedroom because it was too hot and he follows. This morning comes and he wants to talk to me and act like everything is fine but I’m just trying to figure out my next move, how do I live without one of my dogs? Does it get better?
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2023.06.01 21:31 roballen488 Chihuahua with ITP

Sex/Neuter status:Spayed female
Breed:chihuahua mix
Body weight:13lb
History: No previous serious medical problems. General skin issues caused by yeast in ears and armpits.
Clinical signs: Profuse bleeding in vomit and diarrhea. Taken to emergency vet and clinically diagnosed with ITP. Her platelets count was under 2000 at her lowest. (Normal levels are around 200000+)
Duration: 2 days. She’s been recovering with immune-suppressant drugs and is now back home (thank God)
Your general location: NC
Links to test results, X-rays, vet reports etc: N/A
Hey everyone, our chihuahua Peanut was just diagnosed with ITP (auto-immune disorder that destroys platelets in blood). Our emergency vet said there was really no way to know what could have triggered this to start. She’s now on a regimen of immune suppressant drugs. I was just wondering if anyone had experience dealing with this condition long term and if you had any advice for me. Also if anyone has had experience with a relapse where platlet levels drop again after an initial recovery, I would love to hear how that went and what you think may have caused it (if anything). Thank you!
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2023.06.01 21:31 RelationshipSilly310 Weird electrical issues

I recently bought an 07 NC PRHT, and yesterday was my very first day driving it to work. On the way home, my check engine light came on and after further investigation, my brake lights do not work, as well as my trunk button (both in the vehicle and the key fob). I've checked the fuses for the brake lights and the trunk opener and they look good. The override button in the trunk has not been pushed, and the horn still works. What could possibly be happening? help!!
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2023.06.01 21:26 Sea-Reception-9657 TIL a funeral home in Michigan has a drive-thru. You can view the deceased through a window and pay your respects. There is also a registry book and a memorial box for dropping off cards

TIL a funeral home in Michigan has a drive-thru. You can view the deceased through a window and pay your respects. There is also a registry book and a memorial box for dropping off cards submitted by Sea-Reception-9657 to u/Sea-Reception-9657 [link] [comments]

2023.06.01 21:00 DiscoverDurham Things to Do in Durham this Weekend (Jun 1-4)

Check out our full Durham events calendar.
If you'd like to add an event to our calendar, submit an event here. Please check with the event organizers to see if events change due to weather. Have a great weekend!

June Featured Events

53rd Annual Bimbé Cultural Arts Festival at Rock Quarry Park
1776 at DPAC
PLAYlist Concert Series: Raíces, Rutas, y Ritmos at Durham Central Park

Venue Weekend Schedules

Events at The Carolina Theatre
Events at The Pinhook
Events at Motorco Music hall
Events at The Fruit
Live Music at Blue Note Grill
Events at Moon Dog Meadery
Live Music at Sharp 9 Gallery
Events at Arcana
Events at Rubies on Five Points
Events at Durty Bull Brewing Company
Live Comedy at Mettlesome
Events at Boxyard RTP
Events at Glass Jug Beer Lab in RTP
Events at Glass Jug Beer Lab in Downtown Durham

Local Sports

Durham Bulls Home Stand at the Durham Bulls Athletic Park
Running of the Bulls 8K at Historic Durham Athletic Park

Thursday, Jun 1

Thirsty Thursdays at Dashi
Vinyl Night with DJ Deckades at Gizmo Brew Works
Boulders & Brews Meetup at Triangle Rock Club - Durham
Trivia Night w/Big Slow Tom at Clouds Brewing Brightleaf Square

Friday, Jun 2

Tasting at Ten at Counter Culture Coffee
Garden Printing: Cyanotypes and Hammered Flower Prints on Fabric at Duke Campus Farm

Saturday, Jun 3

Durham Farmers’ Market at Durham Central Park
South Durham Farmers' Market at Greenwood Commons Shopping Center
parkrun Durham at Southern Boundaries Park
Hayti Walking History Tour at Hayti Heritage Center
Nasher Community Celebration at the Nasher Museum of Art
MAKRS Pop-up at Durham Central Park
Crafternoons at Gizmo Brew Works
Beaver Queen Pageant — Once Upon a Wetland... at Duke Park

Sunday, Jun 4

Al Strong Presents Jazz Brunch at Alley Twenty Six
Art-n-Soul Market at Mystic Farm & Distillery
Public Tour at Duke Chapel
Trivia at Navigator Beverage Co.

Running Art Exhibits

upstART Gallery: A Jim Lee Project at Pop Box Gallery
Exhibit at 21c Museum Hotel
“Extra-Spectral” at the Durham Art Guild Truist Gallery
Donna Stubbs, Featured Artist at 5 Points Gallery
Chieko Murasugi & Renzo Ortega at Craven Allen Gallery
Spirit in the Land at the Nasher
Andy Warhol: You Look Good in Pictures at the Nasher
Art of Peru at the Nasher
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2023.06.01 20:44 yearofthecjc Funeral scenes

I think the franchise should incorporate a funeral scene. We’ve never got one and it’ll make a death hit home more. For example, when Derek died, Sidney was so heartbroken and wore his necklace for some years after. I think a funeral scene would make characters seem more human. Well, this has been my Ted Talk.
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2023.06.01 20:41 Indskyzls What poop is this? Charlotte,NC

What poop is this? Charlotte,NC
Found this type of poop in my fenced backyard. It's in 2 spots, opposite end of backyard. And after cleaning up reappears in same spots!! Moved to home in September and this is the first time it's starting to happen (May 2023). Any ideas? Not a dog because we don't have one/closed fence. Located Charlotte, NC, near woody area. Size of a fist. Thanks for any leads or recommendations on how to figure out what it is/prevent it from coming back. 🥵
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2023.06.01 20:39 spookycupcake666 Update about " know their body" MIL

figured I’d give an update regarding my MIL. I posted asking to reality test about 2 months ago. Here’s what has happened since:

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2023.06.01 20:34 madara789789 [US][SELLING]New Added! OOP Bokurano OURS, Flame of Recca, Gurren Lagann 1-6, Twin Spica, Ghosttalkers Daydream 1-6, GON, 7 Billion Needles, Happiness, Fairy Tail Complete and More!!!!

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Bokurano OURS 1-11 Complete $700 Shipped
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Gurren Lagann 1-6 Complete English Releases $400 Shipped
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Manga has minor yellowing from age.
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Fairy Tail 1-63 Complete $350 Shipped
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Manga has minor yellowing from age.
Was bought from Rightstuff, put on shelf and stayed there.
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Twin Spica 1-12 Complete $390 Shipped
All volumes are in very good to good condition with little to no wear.
Manga has yellowing from age.
Volume 11 has minor crease on bottom right of back cover.
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Ghosttalkers Daydream 1-6 Complete English Releases $95 Shipped
All volumes are in very good to good condition with little to no wear.
Manga has minor yellowing from age.
Link to pictures: https://imgur.com/a/e6XOVpd
GON Paradox Press Volumes 1-8 + Color Spectacular $100 Shipped
All Volumes are in fair condition for age (1996).
Volumes have wear and yellowing.
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7 Billion Needles 1-4 Complete $95 Shipped
All volumes are in very good to good condition with little to no wear.
Manga has minor yellowing from age.
Volume 4 has small water spot on back cover.
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Flame of Recca 1-33 Complete $640 Shipped
All volumes are in good condition with little wear.
Manga has some yellowing from age.
A few volumes have stamps on top (not sure why) there are no EX-Lib.
Vol 23 top spine has a little peeling.
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Dragon Knights 1-26 Complete $180 Shipped
All volumes are in Fair-Good condition with some wear and page yellowing.
Volume 18 has tear at bottom of spine.
Vol 26 is Ex-Lib but no inside markings or spine sticker. (has stamps on top and page side.)
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One Piece 1-3,9,24-77 $250 Shipped
All volumes are in good condition with little wear.
Manga has a little yellowing from age.
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Happiness 1-10 Complete $80 Shipped
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Scums Wish 1-3 $40 Shipped
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That Time I Got Reincarnated as A Slime 1-8 $58 Shipped
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Andromeda Stories 1-3 Complete $85 Shipped
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Manga has some yellowing from age.
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Black Butler 1-17 $95 Shipped
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Manga has a little yellowing from age.
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Brides Story 1&6 $22 Shipped
All volumes are in good condition with little wear.
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Jack Frost 1,2,8 $25 Shipped
All volumes are in Fair-Good condition with some wear and page yellowing.
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Arm of Kannon Volume 5 $20 Shipped
Volume is in good condition with some wear on corners.
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Buy All DVDs for $150 Shipped
Viper GTS, Angle Blade, Najica Blitz Tactics, Stange Love, Cool Devices V1, EL, RXXX, Private Sessions 2, Sacrilege Dub V1.
All dvds are like new with no scratches. Some cases are a little beat up.
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Trigun, Black Cat, One Week Friends (Sealed), Spiral (Sealed), Magical Play, Drawn Together S3 Uncensored, Stripperella S1 Uncensored, Mezzoforte, Saber Marionette JtoX Program Six, Those who hunt elves, My Bride is a Mermaid Part 1.
All dvds are like new with no scratches (besides trigun have some scratches). Some cases are a little beat up.
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2023.06.01 19:52 b0b0tempo Car Hits Funeral Home

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2023.06.01 19:23 spyder-baby Unexpected death in the family

I was just made aware of a death on my mom's side of the family, which was completely unexpected. I'm NC with both parents and I'm NC with that whole side of the family (I speak to all of my siblings), except 2 cousins. Well the death was one of the two cousins. I'm in shock and this was 100% accidental, I know he was clean in his 30s. Next week is going to be very hard with everything funeral related and I guess I'm looking for advice. It's going to be an overload of emotions in so many ways and I'm used to keeping them at bay.
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