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Need help for dealing with parents - started with a vaccination battle and has progressed. Am I an asshole?

2023.05.30 23:28 Heavy-Conflict-4656 Need help for dealing with parents - started with a vaccination battle and has progressed. Am I an asshole?

Hi all, I need a reality check with a stressful situation.
Background:
- Wife was pregant with our second child and has since given birth four months ago
- First child was born three years ago with a congenital heart defect, which required a few surgeries and hospital stays, but thankfully healthy now
While my wife was pregant with our first child, we requested my parents get vaccinated for whooping cough as per every doctor's recommendation. My mom is not quite a full-blown antivaxxer, but pretty close. I suspect she is getting a healthy dose of misinformation from Facebook. My mom, and in turn my dad, refused to get vaccinated. Ultimately, given they were quarantining for COVID at the time, decided to not force the issue and allow them into the bubble for visits.
When we were expecting our second, we again requested, and now that no one is COVID quarantining, mandated that they get a whooping cough vaccination. This caused my mom to go into hysterics, rant and rave at me about how she can't believe I'm bringing this up again, and go as far as to say I should consider herself dead to me and she'll never see her grandchildren again (followed by hanging up the phone).
My dad started out as a bit more rational and said he didn't care either way, but he's going to choose solidarity with my mom over this issue. Which is funny because they both hate each other and have a very toxic marriage. He's also a MAGA nutjob who has anger issues. Regardless, I made my request for vaccination clear. I've never said they cannot visit their first grandchild, but if they didn't get a vaccine for whooping cough, they could not visit my second child.
I've sent to them plenty of materials from the CDC, other doctors, etc. on the need to get this vaccination if around newborns. They refuse to read it and pass it off as me being unreasonable and not properly calibrating risk. I've stood my ground and rationally explained all the reasons I would hope they do this for my family, including:
- I've already had one sick child with months of hospital stays; I really wanted this go-round to be easier on the family and not risk any unncessary illnesses.
- I've put myself on the line for them previously, including all of their grocery orders during the height of the pandemic. I feel like they are not paying it forward to me.
- I've exlained "tail risk" to them, and while probability of catching and spreading whooping cough is low, it's not non-zero and potentially has a fatal implication for a newborn.
- I've offered to pay if the vaccines cost money and make their appointments.
- Their refusal in the past caused marital discord for my sister who requested this same thing when she was pregnant. Ultimately, my sister caved and dropped the request given my parents' refusal. My other sister is an antivaxxer and has done nothing but stoke the fire.
My parents told me what an ungrateful son I am, and they can't believe I turned out this way. My dad, in a chance encounter at the grocery store, proceeded to tell me I was "fucking stupid" over and over again. I asked if they had a legitimate medical reason, but the only explanation I've gotten is that they are older and don't want to put anymore chemicals into their bodies. My dad went as far as to say my mom has been in hysterics the past month and that I'm killing her. He actually said I'm driving her to the grave. They've said I'm oppressing them, cheating them out of seeing their grandchildren, and not to come crying to their funerals, and then went as far as to say they wish me a peaceful rest of my life and don't bother responding.
To me, this is completely irrational and hurtful. No parent should talk to their child in this way. I concluded by saying that if roles were reversed, and my daughters come to me in 25 years to ask the same request of me, my only response would be "When and where do I get the vaccine?". I can't understand how my parents choose this battle. My mom, in particular, has always been selfish and spiteful and this just takes the cake. The more I've reflected, the more I've come to understand just how toxic some of her past behavior towards me has been.
We've fought off and on prior to my second daughter being born, and it even resulted in kicking my parents out of my house when they visited because they said "they would do anything for me." This infuriated me and I shot back - "except get a vaccine." It led to a big blowup and I said they had to go because my dad was yelling and cursing in front of my child.
Now that my second daughter is 4 months old and has had her second whooping cough vaccine, I've tried to extend an olive branch to my parents. They refuse to have anything to do with me unless I apologize to them. My dad proceeded to call me fucking stupid again, and my mom won't even look at me and tells me how much she's been grieving these past few months. She's a spiteful, selfish old italian woman and has been my entire life. She will never be able to move on off this. Both said they're going to die from the stress.
I refused to apologize, told them they both needed therapy, defended my behavior again, and said I'm willing to move past it for the sake of my children having a relationship with them - but I will never forgive them and will never apologize. I said this battle extends far beyond just a vaccine request now but includes their attitudes towards me.
I'm sure I've not been a perfect son, but I've been loyal and tried to be helpful my whole life to them. Am I being an asshole here and how should I try to mend this going forward?
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2023.05.30 23:27 brody_boi podcast story

Funny (hopefully) storytime: So a few years back I went to catch a bus, this was around covid where (in my area) you had to give bus drivers the right amount of change because they couldn't give you cashback. The bus came and I didn't have enough time to count all my money, so my 14/15 year old self looked at the bus driver in the eye(who looked young also) and gave him the money while saying 'I think that's enough, sorry I don't know how to count.'
I don't think words can explain the embarrassment that I felt after that. He just looked at me as he saw I gave him the exact right amount...and I had to awkwardly sit on the bus for 10mins after saying to practically everbody, that I couldn't count (at the age of 14/15).
Hopefully this makes a funny story...
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2023.05.30 23:26 vexyuh Recommendations/help please

I’ve been having issues with my setup recently, cutting out and not sounding as loud as I felt it did. Can almost guarantee I blew one as is freely pushed with no odd noises as the other almost catches on plastic is how I’d describe it. If they’re not blown please enlighten me but I’m sure I fucked up lol.
Really looking for recommendations for replacement subs. Was hoping to stay around the same power level and the box seems nice to me. Sounded good till it didn’t. Just need a new pair of subs, and was hoping to upgrade as obviously I was playing it past it’s “capacity” I guess.
I have the p1-2x12 Rockford Fosgate box with their r2-500x1. I was curious whether I should get the p2-12’s from Rockford since it goes with the rest of the setup, or I’ve seen others recommend other brands of subs. Is that okay to do? Or would it even sound good? Just an idiot looking for help, thank you!
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2023.05.30 23:25 Content-Pack6102 ADHD Diagnosis @ McMaster

Hey guys! I needed some assistance on a process I've never gone through before.
So long story short (I don't mean to self diagnosis), I think I have ADHD.
Over my entirety of my highschool and undergraduate career, I've felt like I had something off with me but kept pushing it off because I've been able to deal with it and be successful. However, in university it's been really hard to manage it and I feel like it's gotten worse - which is affecting my grades.
I find it really difficult to focus, and my mind will jump from one thing to another - causing me to constantly be stressed and get nothing done. Even right now - I should be working on a final assignment due tonight (that I haven't started) and studying for an orgo midterm for Thursday but here I am writing this post. I also have this problem where I make a really detailed plan for when I'm going to get what done, but when the time comes to do it I just cannot make myself do it. I delay tasks and even when I put my phone away to study I find other ways to distract myself. When I'm talking to someone, I tend to finish their sentences off and sometimes cut them off while they're talking. Then I immediately catch myself and apologize - yet do it again. I'm also very awkward when I talk to new people but extremely talkative with people I'm close to like my boyfriend. The last few days I haven't been able to get any work done because I just can't put my mind to it. In highschool, I noticed that I would make small mistakes which is why I struggled with math-based courses (and failed stats 2b03 lmao). ANOTHER BIG THING is that I HAVE TO study alone. Even if I study in a library - if there's noise or anything moving in my front/peripheral focus I immediately lose focus.
I also have highs and lows in which some days I can wake up early, shower, get ready and get a lot of stuff done in a day. Then randomly (like today) I can't get out of bed until 3pm.
This constant cycle is SO stressful and draining. I really want to start getting treatment for this, but I've heard that it's hard to get ADHD diagnosis - especially at Mac. I contacted SWC and they sent me a bunch of forms for me to fill out involving my teachers and parents. I don't know if I want to get my parents involved because they've seen how successful of a person I can be (highschool president and valedictorian) and I haven't really shown them this side of myself (that I get distracted fast, that I forget to do things, etc). I also have found ways to help my focus improve like using specific study music, studying at home with sunlight and space, and using a Google Calendar to make sure I don't forget any tasks to do. But it's still been really hard and I want to get medication or accommodations for it. I also struggle to finish midterms on time 😭😭.
If anyone knows what I should do, pls advise!! I want to get better <3 (eldest brown daughter + premed combo with ADHD is killing me)
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2023.05.30 23:24 Realistic_Ad3795 Trouble with SIXT Car Rental in CPH

Sorry that this is a bit of a negative experience with Copenhagen, but I'm needing some local help. (I did have a lovely time on a previous visit, though!)
I recently rented a vehicle out of SIXT at Copenhagen Airport. Our trip was mainly into Sweden, but stayed the night at the Clarion at the beginning and end and rented at the airport before heading over the bridge. TL;DR... they claimed I damaged the vehicle, and we did not. Here is the background:
My vehicle wasn't available when I went to pick-up, so they offered a larger size for the same price. The catch was that it wasn't clean because it was parked in their overflow lot. No problem for us. We're happy to take a larger car without it being clean.
So I go to pick it up and it is pretty messy. Mostly rain spots mixed with pollen. I give a quick walk-around, but can't see anything that doesn't blend in with the dirt.
We make the long drive to Kalmar, mostly on backroads via Ale's Stones and Glemingehus. Nothing but us, cows, horses, and fields of rapeseed as far as the eye can see. We park at our hotel, and leave it there for 4 days and nights. It is important to note that the space it is parked in doesn't have access to hit the corner which is claimed to have been done by me.
We then returned similarly on backroads until we got to Helsingborg and the main highway. Myself and two passengers are witnesses that nothing occurred.
I dropped it off after hours and left the keys in the drop box, so the inspection took place the next morning as we were boarding the plane home. They found some superficial scratches on the front right and want around $375USD for repairs. I bought the LWD which doesn't kick in until $5000 DKK, and I apparently misunderstood my credit card's coverage, so I'd be on the hook for this. Regardless, since I didn't damage the vehicle, this should be moot.
I've discussed with the SIXT team, and they simply keep repeating that I had to report the damage when I picked up. I told them I couldn't because it was filthy dirty. They won't respond to that part, and simply repeat the policy. I've asked to escalate, and the next person says the same thing. When I ask "How am I supposed to inspect the car when it is given to me in a dirty condition that hides scracthes?" the conversation stops. They simply won't answer that question.
I would love legal advice and/or help logging in to the Consumer Complaint website. It seems to require an ID only available to citizens, and an email to them resulted in a bot response with a FAQ that doesn't help me log in.
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2023.05.30 23:23 LiseEclaire [Leveling up the World] - Academy Arc - Chapter 756

Out there - Patreon (for all those curious or wanting to support :))
At the Beginning
Adventure Arc - Arc 2
Wilderness Arc - Arc 3
Academy Arc - Arc 4
Previously on Leveling up the World…
 
Nil used to say that even the greatest challenge became simple once the logic behind it was unraveled. At the time, the old echo was referring to awakening trials, but vortexes were surprisingly similar. Given enough resources and information, even life could be treated in the same fashion. Dallion had a while to go before reaching that level. The current vortex, though, was a different matter.
Creating potions wasn’t an easy experience. Aside from everything else, it required a good understanding of nymph magic methods and the ability to perform them. Thankfully, Dallion’s randomly esoteric interests had prepared him for such an eventuality.
After his protective layer of magic threads was complete, he approached the sea. Same as before, a dozen tendrils shot out in his direction. Summoning his thread splitter dagger, Dallion sliced the tips off, encasing the free elements in aether spheres of his own. That was another thing about magic—it always went towards those that were stronger. One careless move and even a high-level mage might have his magic stolen, by a creature, rival, or even the vortex environment itself. However, with enough skill and ingenuity, the opposite was also true.
One by one, the bubbles of captive magic were consumed, then released again, only this time forming an entirely new set of spells.
Swords? Onda asked. That’ll hardly work.
“Think of it as a meat grinder,” Dallion replied. All he needed was a makeshift drill to let him make his way through the sea. Having his own liquid spells fight the rest of the sea was only going to grant him a bit more time. Between that and the protective magic layer, it had to be enough.
No, I mean it won’t work. The moment you—
Let him learn his own mistakes, Harp interrupted. Her tone was calm, even pleasant, but it had the effect of lightning from a clear sky. It’s the only way he can progress.
“Thanks for the vote of confidence.” Dallion kept collecting magic threads for a few more minutes, then did another point attack. The start of a tunnel opened up on the sea’s surface. Quickly, Dallion threw all of his liquid spells inside, then followed. Same as before, the mass of the sea attempted to fill in the void, but this time it was hindered by the liquid wall of swords.
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VORTEX BREACH
Overall stability 99%
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Spells clashed against each other, filling the air with hundreds of purple rectangles. The damage was minuscule, and still a constant reminder of the eternal struggle between invader and realm. It was no wonder that mages were so cutthroat: there was only one thing certain upon entering a vortex: someone was going to absorb the other. The Academy’s main role was to teach novices how to survive.
Just like hunting, Dallion thought. On the other hand, he had never been the typical hunter. When it came to vortexes, there could be no offer of draw or surrender.
Twisting around, Dallion performed another point attack, drilling further into the sea. The number of rectangles doubled. Meanwhile, the size of the hold was reduced by half. The amount of spells Dallion had poured in—seemingly cast initially—was now wearing thin.
Maybe you should have spent a bit more time fathering threads, the armadil shield said.
“It’s all a formula.” Dallion did another point attack. “If the stability of the tunnel is decreased, I just need to go faster.”
All of his instincts shouted for him to split into instances, or at the very least create a few echoes to help in. His wisdom told him not to. All he had to do was remain calm. The emblems and artifacts he was wearing ensured that he’d be ejected from the vortex. Of course, there was never a guarantee. The higher the vortex level, the greater the danger it posed.
Summoning his hammer, Dallion did a double point attack, up and down, to keep the tunnel collapsing above him. He had gone so deep that the opening was the size of a coin.
“I told you it’ll work, Onda,” he said with a touch of glee. “It’s all logic and magic principles.”
No sooner had he said that than a mass of magic pierced through Dallion’s wall of spells, ending up in the tunnel. Believing his wall of swords to have been breached, Dallion unsummoned both his weapons and cast a new series of spells to plug the hole. That proved to be a mistake.
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MODERATE WOUND
Your health has been reduced by 20%
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What the heck? Dallion pulled back, summoning his harpsisword again.
Five feet away, the mass of magic had changed into a creature.
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VORTEX MINION
Species: AETHERCORN
Class: MAGIC
Health: 0% HP
Traits:
- BODY 20
- MIND 20
- PERCEPTION 20
- REACTION 20
- MAGIC 40
Skills:
- ATTACK
- GUARD
- SPELLCRAFT
- ENTANGLE (Species Unique)
- RAIN OF BLADES (Species Unique)
- CHARGE (Species Unique)
Weakness: HOOVES
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A unicorn? Dallion deflected the creature’s next attack with his weapon.
Looking at it, the minion was no different from a bladicorn, only created entirely out of threads of magic.
Tried to warn you, old man, Onda said from his realm. Vortexes adapt. You make a counter, they counter your counter.
Dallion was too busy fighting the creature to respond. Magic adaptability was well known. Having loose threads spontaneously create a creature, that was something new. No doubt there was some tome describing the theoretical process in vast detail. Seeing it in practice, though, was a lot.
Without wasting any time, Dallion flew down, then infused his harpsisword with spark, as he did an upward strike. Knowing what such a creature was capable of, his only course of action was to kill it as before it could start casting spells. The difficulty was not destroying his own spells in the process. For all the power of point and line attacks, they were going to do as much damage to Dallion’s own spells, resulting in him winning the encounter, but losing the overall fight.
The aethercorn quickly caught on, moving away and to the side of the tunnel. As long as it increased the distance and remained close to Dallion’s wall of blades, it would have the upper hand.
Sneaky bastard. Dallion cast several aether barriers.
Magic symbols covered the minion’s entire body. As they appeared, Dallion went through all the memorized spells in real time. Normally, he could tell easily what someone was casting once several of the major symbols had formed. In this case, the creature planned to create an aether explosion. In the real world, Dallion wouldn’t even bat an eye. Explosions were a lot less efficient against mages as one might think. Here, though, things were different; the minion wasn’t targeting him, but the wall of blades itself. If there were an explosion, the entire tunnel would collapse, leaving Dallion to rely on his “second skin”.
A new aether barrier appeared next to the aethecorn, then shoved it into the wall before the spell could be completed. The threads—representing aether blades in liquid form—mercilessly sliced into its body, causing the being to lose stability. The entire form burst like a popped balloon, spilling magic threads everywhere.
The moment Dallion saw that, he knew that his time was running out. Although inefficient, the vortex had found a way to breach his protective barrier. The only solution was to pass through the sea before the overall collapse.
Want a boost, boss? Lux asked. The firebird knew better than to assist uninvited.
“No!” Dallion said firmly, casting a new flight spell. “Return to my realm.”
Several more breaches occurred along the tunnel. Aethercorns emerged in front and behind Dallion. Some attacked him directly, others started casting spells to weaken the tunnel. At this point, dealing with them was an impossible task. Still, Dallion did several more point attacks, clearing out as many as possible. Unfortunately for him, that didn’t prove to be a lot. The minions were both fast and intelligent enough to keep to areas that were difficult to hit. Only the ones that attempted to outright block Dallion’s progress ended up being destroyed.
Gritting his teeth, Dallion started casting the flood spell. It was a move that verged to desperation, but the only thing that could help him right now. Within seconds, the portal emerged, then vanished behind Dallion. With a bit of luck, it was going to keep the minions occupied a bit longer.
Behind him, the top of the tunnel collapsed. The threads he had used to create his wall of swords was too thin to coat the entire space created by the point attacks. The purple sea splashed in, mixing with the water coming from Dallion’s portal.
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MODERATE WOUND
Your health has been reduced by 20%
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Another alicorn managed to stab Dallion’s leg with its horn as he flew by, effectively halving his health.
Leave the vortex, Harp said.
“I can do this.” Dallion had unsummoned the hammer, focusing on doing point attacks forward, while using his left hand to boost his speed. “I’m close to the end. I can feel it.”
You’re not ready for this vortex. You’re close, but you still aren’t there yet.
“I am.” Dallion insisted. It wasn’t that he had become complacent, but the last few months his progress had crawled to a stop. He might have learned a vast number of magic symbols and spells, but his magic trait remained at twenty-three. There was no way he was giving up a level four vortex, especially this one. “I am there,” he whispered.
Purple water kept seeping in. The top of the tunnel had completely collapsed. Spells created by vortex minions darted past him. Some even made contact, repelled by his protective layer of magic threads.
“Just a few seconds more,” Dallion said, more to himself than Harp.
He had been going through the sea for quite a while. As far as distance was concerned, it had to range in the dozens of miles, if not more. While space in any magic realm was an illusion, there was a limit to how much something could be stretched. Sooner or later, the sea had to come to an end.
“Ruby, create some wind,” he ordered.
Keeping firmly to Dallion’s shoulder, the shardfly flicked its wings, sending a flurry of wind slashes forward. This was by no means an elegant way to breach the tower, but as long as it worked Dallion had no intention of complaining.
Further and further down he went. His speed had increased to the point that he couldn’t see new aethercorns emerge. And yet, it all kept on going. It seemed that he had entered a bottomless pit. The sensation of doubt emerged. Was it a good move to keep persisting? If he quit now, would it all go to waste? There was no telling how long the vortex would remain. Maybe it would last for a few more hours. If he was lucky, it might appear again in another week or so.
No! Dallion told himself. If he couldn’t complete this, what chance did he stand against Grym and the traitorous battlemages? They had accumulated their magic for decades. If he didn’t take advantage of every opportunity presented to him, he might as well become a clerk at the Academy.
Point attacks kept pushing the tunnel further and further down until suddenly they didn’t. It only lasted a fraction of a second, but Dallion was able to catch it. The devastating amount of force had been effortlessly pushed to the sides, like water being poured on a mirror.
That was it—the end of the sea. Dallion had finally reached the solid barrier. At this point, he’d usually take the time to find a weakness, then slice through it and create a portal leading to the other side. With time being a luxury he didn’t have, Dallion resorted to the second best thing. Increasing the number of point attacks, he cast the magic depletion spell he had learned from Raven.
Lightning shot out in all directions, instantly ending Dallion’s flight spell as well as causing all magic threads to pull back.
“Shield!” Dallion summoned the armadil shield. “Cocoon me!” He performed one final point attack with his harpsisword.
The armadil shield expanded, becoming a metal sphere around Dallion. Half a second later, the impact tossed Dallion to the inside of it.
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MINOR WOUND
Your health has been reduced by 5%
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BREACH ENFORCER
(+2 Body)
Inertia and the force of will helped you breach into the tower’s core. You were lucky you didn’t go splat.
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The Scuu Paradox (a Space Opera Sci Fi)
The Cassandrian Theory (a Space Opera Sci Fi)
The Impeccable Adventure of the Reluctant Dungeon (Dungeon Core Adventure Comedy)
Uncharted Waters (An Urban Fantasy Detective Noir)
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2023.05.30 23:22 NinjaRadiographer John Wicks entire Timeline from Chapter 1 to Chapter 4 (updated) Part 1 of 2 (Chapters 1 and 2)

So, I had quite a few messages from people asking when I was going to update this to include chapter 4 and finally it was released on download in the UK (29th) so I could finally watch it and get around to it because I haven’t seen it until now. I’ve kept the original timeline here because I’m quite happy with it and I’m just adding on Chapter 4. I will add someone messaged me that during chapter 3 when the assassins are getting the kill order to kill John there’s a brief shot of an assassin’s phone saying the date was December. I’m happy to go with this because I think the first 3 films are set around October-November time but we see no x-mas stuff anywhere in chapter 1 to 3 so its debateable if you want to call this an x-mas film like Die Hard. Also, I watched an interview with the director this morning and he states that he thinks the first 3 films are about a week and a half but wasn’t certain which I feel gives my timeline some authenticity and accuracy.
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P.s Ive had to break this down into two parts because the character limit is 40,000 characters and ive gone well over that
Warning Major Major spoilers for these films are here because I detail out the plot as I go.
A couple of assumptions are made. Fights scenes are probably longer than we seen on screen and often because of the pacing of the film we don’t need to see John get from point A to B. Conversations also probably took longer than we see if they are walking from area to area and discussing things. Location distances also take time to get to and from places and I don’t know where locations in New York and around the world are so I’ve made a lot up at a best sort of guess. Sometimes I’ve used what I think when there’s no real reference in the film to how long something took for instance for the time of day, I’ve looked at the skyline in the background and estimated what time of day it is judging by how much sunlight there is. Basically, I’ve guestimated a lot. Chapter 4 was a lot harder as they kept moving countries and places and its probably longer than I’ve made it. Also, some of the fight scenes are longer than the time they actually show in the film (6 minute fight is 13minutes in the film) so take everything with a pinch of salt.
TLDR: The films start in the mid-late autumn judging by the scenes that we see.
John Wick 1 starts on Monday Day 1 at 6am and ends Saturday Day 6 at 3.45am (6 Days).
John Wick Chapter 2 starts on Monday Day 8 at 10pm and ends Friday Day 13 at 5pm (5 Days).
John Wick Chapter 3 starts on Friday Day 13 at 5pm and ends Sunday Day 22 at 7.05am (9 Days).
John Wick Chapter 4 starts on Monday Day 205 at 7.20 pm (6 months later) and ends unofficially on Thursday Day 221 at 6.11am (when John passes out (16 days)) and officially at Thursday Day 228 12.00pm (23 Days).
John does have periods of down time and rest so it’s safe to assume he goes to the toilet in that time and maybe brushes his teeth once in a while
The first Film starts on a Monday. Not because there’s any reference to days of the week in the films (there wasn’t that I could find) but because, in my opinion, nothing good ever happens on a Monday.
John Wick Chapter 1
Monday Day 1 6am.
· John in his bathroom and has a flash back of his wife’s illness and death (assumption is made that this has happened over the past 6 months or so).
· Funeral of his wife. Marcus arrives “Just checking up on an old friend”.
· Wake at Johns house.
· People leave say 8-9pm ish
· Daisy the Dog is delivered and John reads Helens letter.
· John and Daisy got to bed at 10.54pm (clock on the bed).
Tuesday Day 2 6am.
· John wakes at 6am.
· Get the paper and the dog goes to the toilet, coffee and breakfast.
· Gets in car
· Getting petrol (assumption its about an hour after they’ve left prob around 8am) and meets the Russians arrive. Losef meets John “I love dogs”, “Beautiful car how much?”, “Not for sale.” “Not this bitch”. Victor arrives “You have a good day sir”.
· John leaves for the airfield- Crazy driving trying to/not to kill himself.
· Next scene is evening (don’t have time base upon previous night) in bed so assumption was that he went to be around 11pm.
Wednesday Day 3 Early am.
· Dog wakes John early am.
· John goes downstairs – Russians attack john, smash his stuff and kill the dog “Sleep tight bitch”.
· John wakes probably an hour or so later and cradles the dog.
· John buries the dog early am (judging by the skyline)
· 6.19am the alarm gets turned off.
· Angry cleaning with flash backs.
· Russians take Johns car to Aureilo’s garage (assumption is made that its around 8am and that it takes at least an hou maybe 2 to get there. Seeing as they stole it before 5am I assume that they took it for a joy ride and did doughnuts for a while first). “I want new vin numbers and new papers”- “Where did you get that car?” (John most likely still cleaning at this time) “Get it out of my shop” “We own you” Aureilo slaps Losef “Viggo not going to like this”.
· 5pm deduced from John leaving in car in next scene it’s probably taken all day to clean up and then he had to get the bus. John arrives at Aureilos garage after taking the bus “Is it here?”, “It was.”, “Losef Tarasov nicked it.”, “Viggo’s son?”, “I need a ride.”.
· John leaves in borrowed car around 6pm.
· Evening, not long after, Aureilo gets a call from Viggo (skyline time of day deduction) “I heard you struck my son. May I ask why?”
· Viggo to Avi “Have you seen my son?”.
· About 7.30pm Losef arrives (most likely he spent all day stashing the car with his uncle from John Wick 2 and hanging out).
· Viggo beats Losef. “What did I do” “That fucking nobody was John Wick” Explanation of the Bogey man and killing 3 men with a pencil.
· At the same time John is at home and goes into the basement with a sledgehammer smashes the floor and gets his equipment.
· 30 mins later Viggo gets his phone book and calls John. John hangs up.
· Viggo tasks a crew.
· John has a shower and suits up.
· Viggo sits by the fire.
· Juging by the light its 10pm ish when the kill crew arrives. (This doesn’t quite work because the house exterior shot is quite bright but when the crew arrives its dark night).
· The crew attack John and John kills the crew (due to films cuts to keep the action it probably takes about 20 minutes. Time enough for a noise complaint to be made).
· Jimmy the police officer arrives at 10.30 “Evening John”, “Noise complaint”, “You working again John?”.
· John goes downstairs and makes a dinner reservation for 12 (the amount of people he’s killed not the time).
· Assumption is made that it’s 1 hour for Charlie and the clean up crew to arrive at about 11.30.
· Assumption it takes 2 hours to clean the house of blood and bodies.
Thursday Day 4 1.30am
· Clean up crew leave about 1.30am.
· Viggo is still in front of the fire and is informed of the failure of the kill crew. The contract is put on Johns head for $2Million (the light in the room shot is bright he’s prob been there all night debating if he should put out the contract)
· Assumption is 6am John loads bags into car and drives to the Continental.
· Judging by the light its around 8am Viggo arrives at Marcus’s house whilst he’s cutting veg and juicing. “Would you kill John Wick for $2 million?”.
· Marcus cleans and polishes his guns after Viggo leaves.
· John arrives at the Continental at 8.30am (assumption).
· Perkins greets John. Concierge (Charon) “I have you for 2 nights sir”.
· Cuts to evening say 8pm assumption is John had some sleep.
· John looks at video of his wife and then goes downstairs to the bar and sees Winston “Johnathan as I recall wern’t you the one tasked to doll out the beating?”.
· (At the same time) Viggo learns that John is at the Continental “We have a contact there who is willing to take him out for us”.
· John is still talking to Winston. “Have a drink and relax…for now.”.
· John goes to the bar “It’s been 5 with change”. (Length of time John’s been a free man and Viggo has been in serious business learned).
· John gets Losef’s location with his drink “Compliments of the house”.
· John leaves the bar at 8.15 (assumption all this took 15 mins)
· John goes upstairs and suits up and we learn Losef is being guarded in a nightclub.
· John arrives at the nightclub. I’m assuming that it took an hour to suit up and 45 minutes to get to the club therefore its around 10pm-10.15 pm.
· John gets the drop on Francis the big bouncer that’s lost weight and gets inside.
· John kills Victor and lots of people in the spar area.
· John makes his way upstairs and enters the pool area where Losef is. This is most likely on the top floor. The way the films cuts means it probably took 30-45 mins to get up there and find him its about 11pm.
· John kills lots of people.
· Losef runs onto the dancefloor.
· John kills lots of people on the dancefloor, atrium and balcony.
· Losef escapes in a car driven by Gregori.
· John leaves with a phone call to Losef. (the fights probably took 30 mins so its around 11.30pm.
Friday Day 5 12.15am.
· John arrives back at the Continental 45 minutes later at 12.15am. “Is the doctor in?”.
· Assumption is the Doctor took 20 minutes to arrives and 30 minutes patching up John the time is probably around 1.05am
· Marcus arrives on the roof opposite and gets John in his sights.
· John tries to sleep.
· Perkins enters the room.
· Marcus shoots the pillow warning John.
· Perkins and John fight “Viggos giving me $4 million to break hotel rules”. The phone rings as the concierge rings.
· John beats Perkins and answers the phone (noise complaint).
· Marcus leaves.
· Perkins tries to crawl away. Pekins tells John about the Little Russia Church front.
· Harry holds up John “Catch and release”.
· Cut to Morning of Day 5. Bright light indicates its around 9am. John is at the Church who takes the pills for fully mobility, then kills lots of people and destroys the vault stash using the priest (probably takes about 30minutes).
· John leaves and then goes to a roof top to wait.
· No indication of how long until Viggo arrives I assume its an hour so the time is 10.30.
· Viggo arrives and kill the priest. Perkins escapes and kills Harry at around the same time).
· John attacks Viggo as he leaves the church.
· John Wick kills a lot of people
· John gets hit by a car, knocked out and captured by Viggo and wakes up tied to a chair in the church. The fight was about 10 minutes he’s been unconscious about 20 minutes so the time is 11pm “Yeah I’m thinking I’m back”.
· Marcus has already arrived (no idea when) and shoots the thugs chocking John. John escapes, kills other thug, frees his hands, runs out, chases down Viggos car killing thug driving it.
· Viggo gives up his son and pull the contract on John. (whole thing probably took 5 minutes).
· Cut to Losef in a Brooklyn safehouse. Not knowing where John actually is let’s say it took him an hour to go straight there so the time when John arrives is 12.05.
· Judging by the fact that explosives are set and it takes time to get into position its probably 12.45
· John kills guard and snipes Gregori playing COD at 12.45pm
· John snipers lots of people.
· John kills guard watching Losef.
· John kill Losef at 1.00pm
· Viggo finds out Losef is dead probably 30 mins later at around 1.30pm “Make the arrangements”.
· Cut to John checking out of the Continental (It’s only been 1 night). Prob took him an hour to be there and an hour to clean up and pack however when he leaves its getting dark so he probably fixed himself up and rested for a while and so the time is around 5pm.
· John gets a new car and meets Marcus around 5.30-6pm “How many times do I have to save your ass?”.
· Perkins watches them and turns Marcus in (assumed but likely).
· Cut to night so 8pm ish. Marcus walks home and Viggo and his thugs surround him.
· John driving home gets aphonecall on his mobile from Viggo. Shows scene of Viggo having bruised knuckles from beating Marcus so assume 1 hour has passed (9pm).
· Marcus tries to escape. Perkins wounds him and Viggo kills him so Marcus dies around 9.15pm “Well played old friend”.
· John turns the car around and Viggo leaves “Fuel the chopper”.
· 45 mnutes-1 hour later John arrives at Marcus’s house (10.15pm).
· Concierge calls Perkins who watches John arrives.
· John finds Marcus.
· John leaves (not shown and Perkins leaves)
· Perkins arrives (no time reference so assume 30 mins) to meet the concierge and has her membership to the Continental revoked at 10.45pm. Clean up crew arrives.
· Couple of minutes must have passed. Ohn is called by Winston to tell him where Viggo is.
· John drives like a nutcase and crashes into Viggo at docks probably 45 minutes away so it’s 11.30.
· John kills many people with his car and guns.
· Viggo tres to kill John with his car and the stands waiting for him. “No more guns John. No more Bullets”.
· John kills Viggo 5 minutes later. The whole fight from his car arriving to Viggo dying was about 30 minutes so the time is 00.05am on Day 6.
Saturday Day 6 00.05am
· John kills Viggo at 00.05am “Be seeing you John.”.
· John gets up and leaves taking Viggos cars.
· Opening scene of John crashing into the vets. John is unconscious. He could have been out for a while so im assuming 3 hours because it’s still night.
· John breaks into vets and treats himself (probably 30 minutes).
· John rescues his dog (another 10 minutes).
· John leaves and walks home with his new dog at 3.45am on Saturday Day 6 since his wife’s funeral.
John Wick Chapter 2
John Wick Chapter 2 starts with him chasing down a motor cyclist whilst he looking for his car. We know that this film is a direct continuation of the first film so we can assume that a little time has passed for him to heal, bond with the dog and make investigations into where his car is (this is probably because he’s not the type to stop for anything judging by the first film). Assuming that he took a day to rest and make investigations its probably been 2 days since the end of John Wick so we start on Monday Day 8 since his wife’s funeral at 10 pm because its night in the opening scene and it all fits nicely with the idea that the first film is a week long.
Monday Day 8 10pm
· John chases down biker in Aureilo’s borrowed car. (We never actually see what became of it in the first film because he gets a new car due to “Last nights unpleasantness” with Perkins in the first film as he checks out. Probably takes about 30 minutes.
· John hits the biker, takes the gold card and heads to Abrams Warehouse. He arrives say 30 minutes later.
· “My fucking nephew killed a dog and stole a car”. John arrives, kills thugs and looks for his car (30 mins).
· John calls Abram “You have my car”.
· John finds the car and takes it back.
· John uses his car to try and escape and kill people.
· John kills lots of people (approx. 30 minutes has passed).
· John makes peace with abram at 00.00am.
· John leaves and takes his car.
Tuesday Day 9 7.30am
· Johns car is wrecked and he gets home in the morning. Judging by the light I’d say early morning. We know he lives about 2 hours from the city so assuming it took 7 hours and 30 mins (shown in a later scene) to get home because his car was barely crawling up the driveway (being a man of focus he was getting that car back).
· John goes and cleans up. The clock on his table says 7.30am. Showers and sleeps.
· Next scene is Aureilo arriving to pick up Johns car. I’m assuming its mid to late afternoon around 4.30pm. John is playing with his dog and we have a continuity error here because in John Wick 1 the dog was a puppy and here it is clearly an older dog but ‘Im choosing to ignore this because movie land reasons.
· Cut to next scene. John cleans up his suit and sorts out the basement from the first film. He makes cement and it probably takes him 3 hours so time is 8pm.
· Santino arrives at 8pm (its night out). Coffee and conversation about markers (probably 20 minutes).
· Santino leaves and blows up Johns house.
· John sees his house burn at 8.30.
· Cut to fire engine still fighting the fire so say the response time ect is about 30 mins later. Jimmy the cop is here “Gas leak?”.
· John leaves with the dog and walks off.
Wednesday Day 10 9am.
· John arrives at the continental early morning (looks around 9am so he walked for 12 hours as busses probably aren’t running and he’s a man of focus). “How good to see you again so soon Mr Wick”.
· John meets with Winston and converse about Santino D’antonio and the marker.
· 10 minutes later John boards the dog with Charon the concierge. John leaves for the national gallery.
· Probably 30 minutes to the gallery he gets frisked and meets Santino.
· They talk about the job for 10 minutes “My hands”.
· John leaves and travels to his deposit box “59.035” say another 30 minutes to get there.
· He suits up (another 30 minutes) “happy hunting Mr Wick”.
· Next scene hes in Rome so assuming an hour to the airport. Google tells me New York to Rome direct is an 8 hours and 15 minutes flight and an hour to the continental of Rome meaning total travel time is 10 hours and 15minutes because he had no delays or hold ups and everything happened perfectly because its movieland and therefore assuming every part of his trip was flawless. Rome is 6 hours behind New York (thanks to google again) so John arrives at his destination at 2.25 pm Rome time which fits with the film.
Wednesday Day 10 8.25pm USA, 2.25pm Rome.
· John is observed by Ayres the mute woman arriving at the Continental. “Welcome to the Continental of Rome”.
· He meets the manager “are you here for the pope?”.
· Next scene John is getting supplies and equipment. He must have checked in so I assume its an hour later.
· Suit, Guns and catacomb plans must have taken some time, Rush suit could have taken an hour to measure and 4 hours to make, Guns must have taken an hour along with the catacombs “Mr Wick do enjoy your party”.
· Ayres watches John leave 3 hours later.
· John suits up that night say 8pm Rome time (Which is Thursday Day 11 2am USA time)
· John enters the catacombs and takes about an hour and 30 mins to reach his target whilst leaving his weapons around.
· Gianna enjoys her party and meets Mr Riconi and then leaves to freshen her makeup.
· 10.30 Rome John meets Gianna in the bathroom. They talk for 10 minutes and she slits her wrists. John shoots her and leaves.
· John bumps into Cassian “You working?” they shoot each other and John runs.
· John kills a lot of people escaping.
· Cassian find Gianna.
· John gets to catacombs and meets Ayres “Loose ends?”.
· John kills a lot of people It takes about 30 minutes for John to escape the catacombs from killing Gianna.
· Cassian tries to run John over. They fight and crash through the window of the Continental. They wernt far from it so its assumed Joh had been walking for 20 minutes and they were fighting for 10 mins. Hey crash through about 11.40pm Rome which again fits with the film.
· In the bar they talk for about 5 minutes. Cassian leaves and Ayres is there as John goes to bed “Not if I see you first”.
· Its about 00.00am when Santino phones. John hangs up on him. Santino calls the exchange and puts a bounty on John. John phones the desk and says he’ll check out in the morning. So all this makes the time Thursday Day 11 0.005 am Rome and Thursday Day 11 6 am USA. The text messages go out at this time because they would have done it then and there was no delay despite this being shown in a later scene.
· Next scene is early AM assumed around 6am because that’s when John usually gets up so its Thursday Day 11 6am Rome and 12pm USA. John sorts his stuff and is escorted out by the manager “May you have a safe journey Mr Wick”.
· It takes 10 hours and 15 minutes to get back to New York making it 10.15pm. Cassian is seen in New York so it’s assumed he got the contract text and headed to the airport straightaway to beat John back knowing he wouldn’t be able to get him in Rome.
Thursday Day 11 10.15pm.
· Santino completes the marker book “you stabbed the devil in the back”.
· John walks through Chinatown and the train station, kills lots of people (some with a pencil) and finally faces Cassian on the tube where he stabs him in the Aorta as a professional courtesy. Judging by how beat up he is and how many people he faced it probably took him 2 and a half hours.
Friday Day 12 00.45am
· John escapes 2 assassins at the train station and gets taken by the homeless man to the Bowery King.
· Its early am say around 7 am when John wakes up. Hes had medicine and has been patched up so therefore its Friday Day 12 7am. John and the king talk for an Hourish “$7 million Dollars gets you 7 rounds”.
· John leaves for Santinos coronation.
· John arrives at the NYM meausum Mirror art exhibit . No way to judge it so im guessing it took 3 hours having traveled by tunnels and sewer making it about 11am.
· Santino sees john.
· John kills lots of people probably takes about an hour.
· Santino escapes and runs to the continental John kill Ayres at 12.00pm
· John follows Santino to the Continental which probably took an hour to get to as Santino was eating and waiting for John.
· John arrives at the hotel and kills Santino at 1pm whilst eating lunch “What have you done?”.
· John leaves, collects his dog and goes home.
· The next scene is a bit difficult to place John sits in his ruined house looking at his wifes necklace and its raining. He could have walked for 12 hours but its more likely (as he’s in the next part of the scene) that the concierge took him and waited for a call. This doesn’t quite fit as the conversation about the dog staying with him implys that he had just arrived but im assuming that john was mute the whole way there in the car. “Would you be so enclined”.
· They travel back 2 hours (2 hours there 2 hours back) which makes it exactly 5pm when they reach Winston.
· Theres a continuity error here as John Wick 3 starts at 5pm but Winstons watch clearly shows 4pm in this scene I imagine his battery has died an hour before is all I can think of.
· Wick and Winston talk and John gets a marker and the starts running “I’ll kill them all”.
· Here ends John Wick Chapter 2 Friday Day 13 at 5pm.
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2023.05.30 23:20 meltedbeans23 Does anyone else get deathly afraid of irregularities now??

this might be a little TMI
Every-time i feel a small pain i get terrified its all my bad choices catching up to me, when really its just a cramp.
Two nights ago i woke up with the desperate need to piss, and when i was half asleep i noticed how my pee was fucking dark yellow?? Which is weird considering i drink 50 oz of water a day, but then again, that morning before i did forget to drink the whole 50 OZ and i probably got more like 30 oz.
So when it was morning i decided to cut out any sugary drinks and i ate normal because i was freaked out from last night, and when i went to the bathroom again my piss was literally fucking clear??
This happened again last night and this morning, its either clear or dark yellow. I asked a friend about it and they suggested it could be liver failure due to bulimia, which COMPLETELY freaked me out, until i went to the bathroom again and it was normal??
Basically what I’m asking is anyone else scared of the smallest changes?? I’m terrified my kidneys are failing, even though i feel fine and everything’s okay again. I completely freak out when something hurts- like;
my stomach hurts?? OMG ITS RUPTURED, THIS IS THE END.
Throat sore?? I SCRATCHED IT WITH MY NAIL AND ITS INFECTED AND IM GONNA DIE.
haven’t pooped? IM GONNA PUSH TOO HARD NEXT TIME AND DIE ON THE TOILET LIKE ELVIS..
Bleh, whatever. Its been a day. If anyone knows what could be happening to me, please tell me 🙏
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2023.05.30 23:20 Realistic_Ad3795 Trouble with SIXT Rental Agency at CPH =(

Sorry that this is a bit of a negative experience with Copenhagen, but I'm needing some local help. (I did have a lovely time on a previous visit, though!)
I recently rented a vehicle out of SIXT at Copenhagen Airport. Our trip was mainly into Sweden, but stayed the night at the Clarion at the beginning and end and rented at the airport before heading over the bridge. TL;DR... they claimed I damaged the vehicle, and we did not. Here is the background:
My vehicle wasn't available when I went to pick-up, so they offered a larger size for the same price. The catch was that it wasn't clean because it was parked in their overflow lot. No problem for us. We're happy to take a larger car without it being clean.
So I go to pick it up and it is pretty messy. Mostly rain spots mixed with pollen. I give a quick walk-around, but can't see anything that doesn't blend in with the dirt.
We make the long drive to Kalmar, mostly on backroads via Ale's Stones and Glemingehus. Nothing but us, cows, horses, and fields of rapeseed as far as the eye can see. We park at our hotel, and leave it there for 4 days and nights. It is important to note that the space it is parked in doesn't have access to hit the corner which is claimed to have been done by me.
We then returned similarly on backroads until we got to Helsingborg and the main highway. Myself and two passengers are witnesses that nothing occurred.
I dropped it off after hours and left the keys in the drop box, so the inspection took place the next morning as we were boarding the plane home. They found some superficial scratches on the front right and want around $375USD for repairs. I bought the LWD which doesn't kick in until $5000 DKK, and I apparently misunderstood my credit card's coverage, so I'd be on the hook for this. Regardless, since I didn't damage the vehicle, this should be moot.
I've discussed with the SIXT team, and they simply keep repeating that I had to report the damage when I picked up. I told them I couldn't because it was filthy dirty. They won't respond to that part, and simply repeat the policy. I've asked to escalate, and the next person says the same thing. When I ask "How am I supposed to inspect the car when it is given to me in a dirty condition that hides scracthes?" the conversation stops. They simply won't answer that question.
I would love legal advice and/or help logging in to the Consumer Complaint website. It seems to require an ID only available to citizens, and an email to them resulted in a bot response with a FAQ that doesn't help me log in.
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2023.05.30 23:18 XFragmentedSoulX 27M, 23 F. I’m still in love with my high school crush and it’s been 9 years.

I’m still in love with my high school crush and it’s been 9 years, in 2014 to be precise. Here’s the story from the beginning:
We had a class together, but he was a senior and I was a freshman. The class was all about communication, so for the whole entire class, we’d do nothing but talk, like a break.
(All of my friends, including the ones I hung out with during lunch time, were seniors and I was caught up with what prom means and a couple of other things I couldn’t have known if I didn’t met them.)
Anyways, I fell hard for him, blushing, stuttering, rarely speaking to him in public because my heart would beat faster. I’d talk a lot about him and how much I like him with my friends… the twist is, it was crystal clear he liked me back, but I missed the social cues. When sitting next to each other, he’d snap his fingers under the table and close to me, to get my attention.
There were various times where he’d look at me and then look at my privates… wayyy too many times. When he made jokes, I’d catch him laughing and blushing out of embarrassment all while glancing at me to see if I wasn’t noticing. He had a group of friends and at one time, they all came and abruptly sat with me. I noticed he’d wink a lot while looking at me. They were really suspicious, one of them acting as an intermediary (the only one in the group I’d feel comfortable speaking with) to spark up a conversation so she could get the ball rolling and then I could eventually speak with him (my crush).
Within this conversation, he said to the intermediary friend “I feel weird. When I'm in this room, I feel like... I don't know.... Different than being outside with other people... Do you understand me, (intermediary friend’s name)?" Then he raised an eyebrow as if pointing at me.
^ that’s just a snippet of the whole scenario that I wrote down in my notes app back in 2014, so this isn’t something I just came up with right now. I also wrote down what I’d first send him along with different interpretations of that first message, one being something like: “No matter what happens… I will always like you” … I would’ve thought “silly me” but now that’s proving to be true. (That experience happened AFTER the below 👇)
(This happened BEFORE the above) Learning his name, I found him on Facebook and sent him a friend request. He accepted. I went on to message him expressing my feelings for him and he appreciated it. My dummy self tried to be the interviewer, asking him questions about what his favourite movie, song, color, is… we spoke for a while… until he graduated. Months went by, maybe a year went by, and I decided, at around 16, to delete my whole entire Facebook account out of embarrassment for the stuff I had posted on my feed… a year or 2 went by and I played truth or dare with my cousin at a sleepover. I expressed that I still had feelings for him and she dared me to send him a friend request again on my new Facebook account. I did, but he didn’t accept.
Fast forward, 6-7 years later, and my feelings for him remain, very well knowing his whole personality might’ve changed, but despite that, there’s something about him that I love so much. I’m aware of everything that could go on, from the possibility of him being a relationship already, to the possibility of him not accepting my friend request again to maybe perhaps having the luck of reconnecting. I did notice he removed any form of information that would find it easier to find him on facebook (like the “goes to…”, “attended…”, “in a relationship” “works at…” etc.)… so it’d be kinda sus, confusing as to how I was able to find him. His at-that-time intermediary has an Instagram account.
I don’t know what to do since there’s no one I’ve met who’s ever made me feel that extreme attraction. I don’t know if he’s single or taken. (My friend suggested to create a fake account with a fake name and pose as a male friend who hasn’t spoken to him in a long time and just so happen to stumble across his profile. That’s clever until he clicks on it and finds out it’s a brand new account.) I grew up and was a senior, in his shoes, and even then, no one made me feel the same. I mean… went all the way to me having a dream of him on a romantic cruise date in 2014…. and… doing it with him. My subconscious wanted that… what were the chances he wanted that too.
(There were MANY MANY social cues that I missed that hinted he liked me back and I never found out because I didn’t pay attention to them. There were various opportunities where I could’ve spoken to him more or even privately, such as being the last one to enter a room and him holding the door for me. I could’ve used that opportunity to pull him aside. My thinking, I believe at that time, was that the more I ignored him, the harder he’d fall for me, but I let that thought play out till I lost him…)
TLDR: I had a high school crush in 2014 who I added on Facebook. We had small conversations in person, but I was too shy, and he was nervous (not a good combo). There were obvious social cues that I missed like snapping his fingers under the table to get my attention, winking at me numerous times and looking at my private part. There were also times I could’ve pulled him aside, like when I was the last person to enter a room and he was the one holding the door. I expressed my feelings to him through message and he appreciated it. I thought the more I ignore him, the more he’ll fall in love with me until I lost him (he graduated). 2 years later, I deleted my Facebook out of embarrassment. I created another account and added him again as a dare from my cousin. He didn’t accept. I noticed he removed statuses like work, education, relationship etc., making it harder for anyone to find him, but I managed to find him. Since then, 7 years from the dare, I still have feelings for him, I mean it went all the way to having a romantic dream in 2014 and doing it. I don’t know what to do, if I should friend request him again or message his at-that-time intermediary or who else knows what to do?
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2023.05.30 23:14 TheFairestCastle Addam Frey, Lord of the Crossing

Character Application

Timeline

Auxiliary Character Application

Auxiliary Character Timeline

Archetype NPCs

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2023.05.30 23:12 XFragmentedSoulX 27M, 23 F. I’m still in love with my high school crush and it’s been 9 years.

I’m still in love with my high school crush and it’s been 9 years.
I’m still in love with my high school crush and it’s been 9 years, in 2014 to be precise. Here’s the story from the beginning:
We had a class together, but he was a senior and I was a freshman. The class was all about communication, so for the whole entire class, we’d do nothing but talk, like a break.
(All of my friends, including the ones I hung out with during lunch time, were seniors and I was caught up with what prom means and a couple of other things I couldn’t have known if I didn’t met them.)
Anyways, I fell hard for him, blushing, stuttering, rarely speaking to him in public because my heart would beat faster. I’d talk a lot about him and how much I like him with my friends… the twist is, it was crystal clear he liked me back, but I missed the social cues. When sitting next to each other, he’d snap his fingers under the table and close to me, to get my attention.
There were various times where he’d look at me and then look at my privates… wayyy too many times. When he made jokes, I’d catch him laughing and blushing out of embarrassment all while glancing at me to see if I wasn’t noticing. He had a group of friends and at one time, they all came and abruptly sat with me. I noticed he’d wink a lot while looking at me. They were really suspicious, one of them acting as an intermediary (the only one in the group I’d feel comfortable speaking with) to spark up a conversation so she could get the ball rolling and then I could eventually speak with him (my crush).
Within this conversation, he said to the intermediary friend “I feel weird. When I'm in this room, I feel like... I don't know.... Different than being outside with other people... Do you understand me, (intermediary friend’s name)?" Then he raised an eyebrow as if pointing at me.
^ that’s just a snippet of the whole scenario that I wrote down in my notes app back in 2014, so this isn’t something I just came up with right now. I also wrote down what I’d first send him along with different interpretations of that first message, one being something like: “No matter what happens… I will always like you” … I would’ve thought “silly me” but now that’s proving to be true. (That experience happened AFTER the below 👇)
(This happened BEFORE the above) Learning his name, I found him on Facebook and sent him a friend request. He accepted. I went on to message him expressing my feelings for him and he appreciated it. My dummy self tried to be the interviewer, asking him questions about what his favourite movie, song, color, is… we spoke for a while… until he graduated. Months went by, maybe a year went by, and I decided, at around 16, to delete my whole entire Facebook account out of embarrassment for the stuff I had posted on my feed… a year or 2 went by and I played truth or dare with my cousin at a sleepover. I expressed that I still had feelings for him and she dared me to send him a friend request again on my new Facebook account. I did, but he didn’t accept.
Fast forward, 6-7 years later, and my feelings for him remain, very well knowing his whole personality might’ve changed, but despite that, there’s something about him that I love so much. I’m aware of everything that could go on, from the possibility of him being a relationship already, to the possibility of him not accepting my friend request again to maybe perhaps having the luck of reconnecting. I did notice he removed any form of information that would find it easier to find him on facebook (like the “goes to…”, “attended…”, “in a relationship” “works at…” etc.)… so it’d be kinda sus, confusing as to how I was able to find him. His at-that-time intermediary has an Instagram account.
I don’t know what to do since there’s no one I’ve met who’s ever made me feel that extreme attraction. I don’t know if he’s single or taken. (My friend suggested to create a fake account with a fake name and pose as a male friend who hasn’t spoken to him in a long time and just so happen to stumble across his profile. That’s clever until he clicks on it and finds out it’s a brand new account.) I grew up and was a senior, in his shoes, and even then, no one made me feel the same. I mean… went all the way to me having a dream of him on a romantic cruise date in 2014…. and… doing it with him. My subconscious wanted that… what were the chances he wanted that too.
(There were MANY MANY social cues that I missed that hinted he liked me back and I never found out because I didn’t pay attention to them. There were various opportunities where I could’ve spoken to him more or even privately, such as being the last one to enter a room and him holding the door for me. I could’ve used that opportunity to pull him aside. My thinking, I believe at that time, was that the more I ignored him, the harder he’d fall for me, but I let that thought play out till I lost him…)
Ages: 23, and around 27 Female and male
TLDR: I had a high school crush in 2014 who I added on Facebook. We had small conversations in person, but I was too shy, and he was nervous (not a good combo). There were obvious social cues that I missed like snapping his fingers under the table to get my attention, winking at me numerous times and looking at my private part. There were also times I could’ve pulled him aside, like when I was the last person to enter a room and he was the one holding the door. I expressed my feelings to him through message and he appreciated it. I thought the more I ignore him, the more he’ll fall in love with me until I lost him (he graduated). 2 year later, I deleted my Facebook out of embarrassment. I created another account and added him again as a dare from my cousin. He didn’t accept. I noticed he removed statuses like work, education, relationship etc., making it harder for anyone to find him, but I managed to find him. Since then, 7 years from the dare, I still have feelings for him, I mean it went all the way to having a romantic dream in 2014 and doing it. I don’t know what to do, if I should friend request him again or message his at-that-time intermediary or who else knows what to do?
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2023.05.30 23:11 ledoodlebuns How to Catch Employers Attention

hey all, this is a little unorthodox but I’m hitting a wall and looking for support. I’m a job developer looking for companies/employers who are looking to hire for the clients I support. where I work (not a staffing agency) I’m able to offer financial incentives and other awesome features but I find that employers/companies are either dodging my calls or appear interested yet after we meet they ghost me. on the chance that they do offer postings for people to apply, they never get passed the interview process. any tips on how to retain employecommunity partners attention?
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2023.05.30 23:06 mirro_shka I have a couple of "good acquaintances" in my life whose company I enjoy for their energy/charisma/personality etc, however I feel that there is no reciprocal interest and I am being kind of used by them for I am an empathic and supportive listener.

For example they say "hey, let's catch up and speak", we talk, and after a 50 minutes long conversation I end up knowing about everything that is going on in their lives and they barely got any updates on me. To make matters worse, they don't even tell me things to seek advice which would make more sense. It's just a non stop flow of whatever bothers them at that moment. I will not avoid responding to questions about myself and my life when asked (I also kind of expect that to happen in both directions in any one on one relationship), at the same time I would definitely feel uncomfortable interrupting them and forcefully direct our conversation elsewhere (whether about smth that is going on with me or more general topics, shared interests etc).
I would love an advice on how would be best to handle this situation. One option I consider is just stop talking to them at all using some polite random excuse. Another one is to try to be open and communicate my feelings/confront in way, but I'm not sure what to say to them... (people won't change anyways even if I comment? There is no point to complain that someone is not interested in me, because my words won't create that emotional involvement?) I want to be honest but I don't feel it would lead to anything.
Ps. I thankfully do have good friends that are not like that at all, but I guess I would like to have more people in my circle, which made me seek this kind of advice in the first place and not just walk away from them without a second thought.
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2023.05.30 23:04 HercHuntsdirty My (24F) Girlfriend Ended 6 Year Relationship With Me (26M) - I Don’t Understand (Advice/Guidance Needed)

I (26M) was recently broken up with by my (24F) girlfriend of 6 years right after opening up to her about how I had been struggling a lot mentally recently. That's not necessarily the cause, but it happens to be a terrible coincidence.
Backstory to the unfortunate mental struggles:
About 10 weeks ago I had a very long night out and woke up extremely hungover. My brother met up with me that night in our parents car and ended up staying with us for a few drinks, so evidently he left the car.
Of course, I woke up and had a boatload of caffeine so I was already on edge a little bit. My brother was still asleep, so my mom asked me if I could quickly drive my dad to the car so he could take it home. No problem, I hopped in my car and drove there with my dad.
On the way home, completely unprovoked and no anxiety prior, I had an insane panic attack. I’ve never experienced anything like it before. I think I’ve only had one panic attack in my life, and for some reason it left me with a very small amount of social anxiety. During this attack, my hands and feet were completely numb and sweating. At first, I had literally no idea what was going on - I thought it was a legitimate health issue. I ended up taking a bit to drive home, but I made it.
Since then, I've just had heightened anxiety. I've had one other panic attack in the past and I eventually got over the lingering anxiety, so I knew it wasn't permanent.
Mental Health Backstory on her end:
To preface this, we both have anxiety/depression in our genetics unfortunately. In fact, her mom spent some time in the hospital when they were young because of how bad it got.
She also apparently had a ton of anxiety from work recently (she's a nurse, I'm in tech).
On my mothers side of the family, my mom, grandma and great grandma have struggled with anxiety their entire lives, some of them taking antidepressants.
Not fun genes for either of us to have, but we persevered!
Our Relationship:
This is what has been getting to me, our relationship was very healthy. We argued probably 2-3 times per year, we spent the majority of days together - as we lived only a 5 minute drive apart. We were both fully a part of each other's families. All of the normal relationship stuff, we were completely engulfed in it. We had also been looking at engagement rings for a bit and ALWAYS talked about our life together.
When I was about 19 before we were together, I used to drunkenly talk about her all of the time to my friends saying "if she ever gets out of the relationship with her boyfriend (at that time) she's the one I'm going for". When I was graduating high school, I went into her class on yearbook day, grabbed her yearbook and wrote my number in it. Long story short, she ended up single and within a month of that happening, we were together.
The "problems" we had over the years that were semi-recurring:
I didn't suggest enough of our plans. I explained to her a number of times that I'd happily go anywhere, I just don't tend to suggest ideas because sometimes she wanted to, other times she didn't. I've lived by the motto "happy wife, happy life" in that relationship, so I tended to go along with whatever she suggested.
We didn't take enough pictures together. I don't really like being in too many pictures and that bothered her.
We didn't travel together enough. This goes back to the anxiety, I hate flying and haven't done it in almost a decade. However, I have an appointment with my doctor in early July where I'm requesting some "emergencies only" anxiety medication to use for that exact scenario. Note - she went on a number of trips over the years with her closest friends. Furthermore, we had done weekend getaways via car together but those apparently don't count. To add, her friends are hopping on planes at least once per month to go somewhere, I think comparison became the thief of joy here.
I didn't tell her I loved her enough or hug her enough. This one is hard for me because I felt like I definitely told her I loved her a lot. She used to occasionally say "do you even love me", semi-joking but also serious, and I always told her of course I did and even though I may not say it a number of times a day, of course I do. I also did a TON of things for her to show how much I cared (ie. she very rarely had to make a lunch for work, I cooked for her almost every day and we don't even live together) The hugging thing is a bit different, as she's always been extremely affectionate and I never really have been. I truly think it comes down to how I was raised, affection just wasn't a huge part of my childhood. (note, that's not a problem for me or anything, I had incredible family/parents, it just wasn't as prominent as it was in her childhood)
I cared a lot about money and how we could set ourselves up to move out. She had taken 5 trips (two of them by train, three by plane) with her friends in the past year and after the 5th one I asked if she planned on slowing down so she could focus on tackling her student debt and so we could start saving to move out, have a wedding etc. Specifically, I wanted us to be in the position where we weren't renting a home, ESPECIALLY given how much money we were making combined. This part kind of confused me because she was the first one to suggest moving out, but when it came time to adjusting the lifestyle to prepare for it, she didn't like the idea. But, I did use it as a crutch for my anxiety to get out of things sometimes and I did open up to her about that. As an example though, I still went with her to the Gucci store and helped her pick out a very expensive purse to celebrate getting her first real nursing job after graduating. I don't feel that I cared about money (especially given the stage we were in in our lives) more than any of my buddies with girlfriends. I wanted us to be set up well for the coming stages of our lives; they were fast approaching. Furthermore, her friends are catching a plane every weekend and are living with their parents but pay cheque to pay cheque with no prospects of ever leaving unless it's renting
The Situation:
About 7-ish weeks ago, a few weeks after my panic attack, my girlfriend was very adamant that we needed to book a trip together. She said we hadn't been on a "real" trip during our relationship (by real, she means getting on a plane). We were sitting down in her bed on my laptop looking at destinations and flights, but I was incredibly anxious about the whole thing. As we were about to book, I broke down and was fully vulnerable to her for one of the first times in the 6 year relationship. I said that I just don't see myself getting onto a plane right now without some kind of medication to calm me down. On top of that, it would stress me out financially a bit, as I'm a full-time masters student and working full time. Plus, it was during my one-week semester break, so I honestly just wanted to relax.
From that day on, our relationship started going downhill. She said she felt extremely disappointed by the whole situation and she couldn't shake the feeling. We then started only hanging out maybe once per week and it was very bland when we did. A couple weeks after that incident, I slept over at her house and I could tell she was genuinely just not happy at that time.
Brief backstory - despite being 26, my mom still gives me a ton of flack if I sleep at her house. It was rare that I got away with it. But, I did it that night anyway because she always asked me to sleep over but I rarely wanted to have to deal with my mom. I thought it would help show her I'm really trying to get better. She also invited me over the following evening and I obviously went.
After that day, I don't think we saw each other for about 2 weeks. I texted her on a Friday evening and said I just don't feel like she wants to be with me anymore. She picked me up so we could talk, and explained that she felt very disappointed about how we were so close to booking the trip and ended up not doing it. She said she needed a break and I was fine with it, I understood where she was coming from.
During this time, I started seeing a therapist. I found one online who was one of the highest rated in my province and was also extremely experienced in marital/pre-marital counselling so I could tell her about the relationship issues I was having along with my anxiety.
Fast forward about 2 more weeks (last weekend) she texted me saying she was ready to talk and picked me up. She said it's probably best if we just end the relationship for the time being. She explained that she felt she had been disappointed a few times over the years and was bottling a lot of things up. She said she needed time to "find herself again" and didn't know if we would get back together at all in the future or not. Then, we sat there talking in her car for another 30 minutes like things were normal so it really threw me off.
I ended up texting her the next day and asked if I could pick her up because I was confused from the night prior since we talked so normally after the breakup conversation. We ended up talking again, sharing some tears and what not, but I kind of understood why she felt she needed to be alone for a bit, even though she didn't know if we would get back together or not. She said that people do this all of the time and sometimes they come back stronger, but if it was meant to be then we'll get back together. I also told her about how much help I'm getting and how I'm setting a goal to take a vacation when I finish my masters in November. She was noticeably happy and asked a lot about how I was talking to my therapist about improving as a person and a (what I thought was soon to be) fiancé. She asked for all of the details about what we talked about in regards to our relationship and was very happy that I was putting that much effort in.
A couple days ago is when she deleted are photos together, but it came right after she posted an Instagram story while out with a friend who has no stability whatsoever. This friend has been on and off with the same guy (who treats her terribly) for as long as we were together. Not to mention, she sleeps around a ton. I can't help but feel like some of this breakup is being influenced by her friends (specifically this one) wanting her to be single like they are out of jealousy or something. Or, they want her to be flying somewhere once a month with them with no plans for the future. My girlfriend has cried to me in the past because she had been brought to places she didn't want to be because her friend wanted to go for a guy. That friend has also been binge drinking several times weekly for years. The following night, her two friends posted a story of her incredibly drunk in the back of a car with her feet out of the window I'm sure in hopes that I would see it. We're grown ass adults, I can't help but feel like that's just not a cool thing to do to your friend in general? I don't care how drunk you are, in fact I expected her to have a night out with her friends and let loose but posting someone else like that is just insanely stupid to me! To put the icing on the cake, one of my long time buddies from high school decided to go for one of her friends and I gave him substantial warnings about her. Within a year, that relationship was completely over with and she was on to the next.
Neither of us were ever the type one to have one-night stands or get around, so I'm not concerned about anything like that during the breakup. If it happens it happens, but I won't be sleeping with anyone until I've put in all of my effort to saving everything we've built. She's only ever been with me and her ex, while I've had a handful more partners before her - but I've experienced enough in my 26 years to know that there was is only one woman for me.
After all of this, I still couldn't shake the feeling that I felt I was being abandoned during the one time in my entire life I've opened up to anyone and really wanted some support. I'm also just having a hard time processing why it happened and how I can salvage it.
I've texted her once per week since the breaks & breakup happened just telling her that I loved her and wished we were going to XYZ events coming up. I also always say in the message that "You don't have to respond or even read it, I just want you to know". I'm having a hard time deciding if I should continue giving her that weekly text or not, but I really do want her to know how much I care and thought we were a dream team.
I just can't help but feel like we had "problems" that were very fixable and were very minor compared to 99% of couples. Her two best friends have had 5+ boyfriends each in the time that we were together and countless one-night stands. Every time they would break up, I'd hear a story from my girlfriend about how terribly they were treated by these guys and we talked about how lucky we are to have each other. There was no forms of jealousy or self-consciousness between us either, neither of us were bothered when we went out alone with our respective friend groups. I also never for a second worried when she travelled with her friends that she'd cheat or something.
This wraps in with why I can't process the breakup. Aside from the few things we argued about here and there (few times a year) it was an incredibly healthy relationship. I had a great relationship with her friends (despite some of the things I've said about them above) and would often times opt to go out drinking with her group over my group of buddies. I acknowledged my shortcomings as a boyfriend (ie. the affection) with my therapist and she's giving me some help with it. Am I crazy for thinking 1. that I can fix what's happened and 2. Part of this breakup might just be her wanting to see how much I actually care?
Anyway, I might add to this if I remember more important points. I just needed to get some of this off my chest. If you've made it this far into my story, thanks for reading!
TL;DR - Our relationship was very healthy, we never argued, the breakup came essentially because I wasn’t ready to travel despite the fact that I’m actively getting help
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2023.05.30 23:04 jayatnjay Career break for a tired copywriter

Hey Gang. I work as a group copy supervisor at a pharma agency. I switch there 7 months ago after nearly 4 years at another agency. I hate this job, and I am completely burnt out. I feel like the stress of the last 5 years or so is catching up and I am slowing dying :). How bad would it look if i took a 3-4 month break. Like just quit and gave notice. I would use the 3-4 months to recharge and decide what I want to do. I am financially able to absorb this at the moment. Lets say i am drawn back to advertising, how bad would that look on my resume??
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2023.05.30 23:03 Random_Trinidadian REFUGEES (R.O.E. Saga)

I remember that day .... The day the war between the Pyrian Collective and the Carjan Theocracy finally came to our home system.
Every since the Galactic Community collapsed, my people had been forced to retreat further and further into out own territory. Ceding colonies and star systems to one of the many war lords and micro empires which attempted to fill the void left behind after the collapse.
It was not like we could fight back or even defend these lost areas, my people were not known for our military might after all. Even though we did possess a fairly modern military, we were more known for our precious metals and jewelry makers. And besides, we did not see the need to invest in such a large military anyway. We always had allies who were willing to fight along side us.... But that was when the Galatic Community still existed.
After the Collapse, we found ourselves alone. Our former allies had long since left us and we were forced to fend for ourselves. At first were were able to, as we fought a few skirmishes here and there but nothing major. But as time past, resources soon became stretched and eventually, the Navy almost never left the home systems and the Guardsmen we're almost never deployed. The skirmishes had gradually eaten away at the navy and what remained did not have enough fuel or personnel to be deployed effectively.
But we were able to survive, even as news of the war between Collective and Theocracy began to reach us. But we could not have imagined in our wildest immiginations just how horrific the conflict would become. As we soon bagan to hear about battles that had taken place and the atrocities which had occured as a result.
Planets rendered lifeless, entire star systems being destroyed.... Weapons that could tear apart the very fabric of space.... Worse still, many of these world had actually refused to join either faction. But still found themselves caught in the middle.
Yet despite all this, our government still reassured us that the fighting would never reach out home system and that the Navy and Guardsmen we're still more than able to defend us. To this day, I still wonder if they even believed that...?
I knew my parents didn't, neither did many people within my race. I can still remember my father mother telling me that were were going on a trip. Saying they were going somewhere far away where we could start a new life and where no one could hurt us. In my youth, I could have never imagined just how serious the situation really was, or that we were actually fleeing our home.
It would not be until one cycle after, did my parents tell me the truth. The war had indeed been creeping towards our home system, but the government had not yet called for an evacuation of any kind until it was too late.
Just like many others, our home world of Vol'pina Prime was consumed by fire. As the Collective and the Theocracy fleets clashed, leaving no means for escape for this still trapped on the planet.
Were were now a speices now numbering less that a quarter of a million. Living on less than a dozen freighters and transports, as far as we knew, constantly on the move to say ahead of the conflict. Sometimes stopping at a star system to gather more resources, but never settling planet side. As we were constantly on the run from the war.
Eventually, the Refugee fleet made it all the way to the Human border. But that point, we had not stopped at a star system in almost three standard solar cycles. Many of the ships were now in the verge of over crowding, after a pair of older transports had to be abandoned. They were just too warn out to continue and there was no way to give them the proper repairs they needed.
But for some reasons, I guess out of desperation, the fleet captains decided to reach out to the one faction which had some how managed to remain neutral throughout the war.
It had been centuries since the humans had sealed themselves off from the rest of the Galaxy. But only a few decades since they were last heard from. According to the rumors, they had refused to join either side of the war but it it appeared that the conflict had not touched them. Or at least, not yet.
No one knew just what would happen if contact was made, or if the Humans would even allow us into their space. But I guess the fleet masters were hoping that the generosity this species were known for, had not vanished when the borders were initially closed.
I could remember when the Freighter's captain announced that the Humans had indeed responded and were going to come aboard. I could never forget just how happy my parents were when it was announced, nor could I forget the cheers that came from the rest of the ship.
But most of all, I could remember how I felt when I saw the humans when the came through the air lock. I have to admit, I was rather disappointed when I first saw them. After all the stories my mother and father told me, I expected them to be big and scary. Like they had been forged from the Fires of kili'San, but were casted out for scaring the gods themselves. But they looked rather friendly and quickly began to render aid to those aboard.
Thankfully, the humans did allow us into their space and after a few more weeks, we were settled on a planet deep inside their territory. A planet that was much like our former home was, with thick forest and acres upon acres of open fields that were prime for farming. But there was a catch...
The Humans who had helped us, said that in exchange for the planet, we could not communicate with anyone off world. Which included them as well. Apparently, they were well aware of the war and were afraid that if anyone were to find out they were taking in refugees, then it could lead to a potential crisis if millions began to cross into their space.
Despite some grumblings, our new leaders ultimately agreed to this stipulation and understood just why they were doing it. Before they left, the humans left us a number of items such as farming supplies, construction equipment and other various items. But before they left, they sent one final message....
"Make do with what you have and what we have given to you. When we are ready, we will return." And with that, my people once again found ourselves on our own ....
That was almost 50 cycles ago. Despite some hardships, my people began to thrive once again. The ships which had carried us for so long, were disassembled and used to create our new settlements. Nu'Hyro was still a far cry from what it's name sake had been on Vol'pina Prime, but it more or less became our new home.
We had created a society that mirrored what our civilization had once been, but we tried not to make the same mistakes as before. We were more in tune with nature and rather than subjugate, we learned to co-exist with the environment.
But despite our achievements, the Humans had yet to return with any kind of news. Maybe they did finally get caught up in the war between the Collective and the Theocracy? Or maybe they were helping another species that had come to them for help? I really can not say.
My parents are gone now, long becoming one with the Mother Creator. But we were able to rebuild our lives here on Nu'Hyro. My mother becoming a teacher, while my father becoming of of the first to join the Guardsmen Regiment when they were formed.
I started a family of my own, as I now live on a farm just outside Nu'Hyro with my life mate and our off spring. We have both made lives fir ourselves, but it just so strange to think that their will be entire generations of my people who will never get to see or know the wonders of our old home world.
Maybe one day the humans will return with news that the war was finally over. The Vol'pina Prime was not actually destroyed and there were more survivors we didn't know about. Survivors which had gone into hiding across the Galaxy, as they were not able to reach Human Space. I hope that day comes soon or at the very least, my children are alive when the humans do come back for us.
But until they do, I will wait and look up into the night sky. Hoping that the next shooting star or comet I see is actually a human ship finally returning to us ......
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2023.05.30 23:02 unshaken_and_stirred An Open Letter to Myself when my Egg Cracked (and anyone else who needs to hear this...)

So I have no idea how to start this so I'm just going to go right into it. You are about to embark on a wonderful journey, but there are things to know before you jump in, so I'd like to just write down a lot of the stuff I've learned since starting down this road myself:
Be prepared to have all sorts of new dysphoria as you start down this path, which is natural with the lifestyle changes and the practice and time passing, but it's also an opportunity to evaluate one of the most important questions as you go down this road:
What do you want?
There are a lot of people who are excellent resources out there and they do a lot of good for everyone but it's really easy to fall into the trap of thinking that you have to do things the way they did. Know that this journey is just as much yours as it is anyone else's who is going through it. You make your own path.
I would recommend taking every opportunity to write things down. Express your ideas and explore how you feel about whatever you may be struggling with at a given moment. If journaling helps you, great! If not, explore. This is all very complex and trying to just brute force your way through it might work for a bit but it will lead to problems eventually.
And for your sake, take your time. No matter how much any of us wish it, we can't just click our fingers or wake up a woman or make whatever other fantasy you've had happen. You are going to find that your body (and even your mind sometimes) will need a second to catch up. And that's okay. If it's taking your internal monologue some time to start using your correct pronouns, it's okay! You just need time and practice. A lot of us have spent decades practicing speaking to adhere to a certain sense of self, so it would be insane to think that that could all be undone in a matter of minutes.
Take consolation in the fact that with enough time, things will get better. You have to give yourself permission to be easy on yourself. If you choose to go down this path, you need to fully appreciate that it is for YOUR BENEFIT. Sabotaging yourself in the process is antithetical to the purpose.
Damn I didn't realize how much I wanted to say here, but I think I'll wrap up now lol. Anyways, if you are here, then you already have access to a wonderful community of individuals who share at least some parts of your experience. So don't be afraid to ask for support! We're all here for you!
With love,
Jeannie
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2023.05.30 23:00 drippingthighs what's your method of honing / fixing your jokes

after i write, i cant even tell if its funny sometimes because in my head all the connections are there but i wonder if someone else read it, theyd miss necessary info/connections.
so i wait until the next day to read it again. this helps me catch some jokes that are hard to understand.
there must be a more refined way. how do you guys do it?
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2023.05.30 23:00 A_Friendly_Eagle Some questions about Publix before interview. (Drug tests, shirt tucked policy, etc)

Hey there, I just had a few questions about interviewing at Publix.
Some info before the questions:
  1. I'm asking from Florida.
  2. I am a medical marijuana user. (Prescribed because I have Crohn's Disease)
  3. I have a colostomy bag as a result of my Crohn's.
  4. I am 26 years old and am applying for a part time position, so I would have time to study still.
  5. Even though I have Crohn's Disease, I work out regularly and am in great shape at the moment.
Questions:
  1. Are there any "ear-catching" words or statements I can drop during the interview that would make the hiring manager be keener on getting me as an employee?
  2. What drugs does Publix test for, and should I bring up my situation with Medical Marijuana during the interview process? (Assuming I would never be using it during working hours, I typically only ever use it around nighttime when I am at home and never bring it out in public)
  3. Since I have a colostomy bag, which I plan on bringing up during the interview, allow me an exception on any form of tucked in shirt policy? (The bag doesn't get in the way of working at all if shirt isn't tucked, but having to have my shirt tucked in would most likely cause quality of life issues).
Thats all the questions I can think of at the moment, any input would be very much appreciated, especially input from any Publix Managers that could tell me how they would respond to some of my questions if they had me in an interview.
Thank you!
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2023.05.30 22:56 Ambitious_Slice3291 I (Again) Want to Pay off Your Home Loans and Bridges/Inclines

SHE'S BACK! !!READ EVERYTHING!!
I've been doing this for quite a while to even start getting called "Oprah of ACNH"! (which I love by the way <3) Here's how the process goes for newcomers and those returning:
(RULES) -Comment down below your IGN and Island name AND amount of debt you have in bells. Please specify what the bells are for (ex: 1,000,000 bells for my house loan, or, 228,000 bells for my incline/bridge)
I will then dm you to have you share a dodo code with me!
IF your debt is for a bridge or Incline, please lead me to it so I'll pay it off.
I promise to try and get to everyone, NO AMOUNT OF DEBT IS TOO BIG!!
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2023.05.30 22:48 HereForAPPs F33 First Day Of Work After A Holiday Sucks

Hi again!
Finishing up work for the day and like the rest of the world I wish the holiday weekend hadn't ended. So I figured a chat would be a good pick-me-up to make the rest of my day a bit better!
Some of my interests are movies (love horror), board games, cooking, and travel. But I love hearing about what other people like so feel free to come with some topics for us to discuss!!
As a fairly frequent poster I hate the boring "Hi" "Hey" "Want to chat?" messages that flood my inbox, so I'll ignore anything like that. Instead please say something to catch my attention! I want someone who stands out from the crowd. If you need an idea, how about telling me how your weekend was and what you did?
I don't care about age or gender, just send a message if you're interested!
Thanks for reading!
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