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I’ve recently started a search for some new headphones for my PS5 and wanted to share my results as it has been tough to find a set that is comfortable and doesn’t cause pain.
TL:DR – Start with the Sony InZone H7 (or even the H3 or H9).
For some background, I have a child under 3 and recently became able to play a bit longer each day. I am averaging around 1 hour a day using launch Pulse3Ds. Maybe once every week or two, I will have a longer session of up to 3 or 4 hours. Prior to this, I was at about half that time. As my playtime has increased, I have found myself getting headaches and ear pain. Specifically, pain in front of each ear near my temples and my left ear gets raw from rubbing the inside of the headphones. It seems that my shorter sessions were not an issue, but these longer sessions have added up to me being unable to wear headphones for days at a time while I recover.
I also work from home and wear a HyperX Cloud Stinger headset during meetings. This equates to around 4 or 5 hours a day of additional headphone time and I have not had this pair hurt or cause headaches.
Lastly, my rough head measurements are 23 inches around, 6 inches wide and my left ear (the one that rubs) sticks out around 2/3 of an inch.
Below are my thoughts on the headsets I’ve used in the order I tried them. I’ll try and cover what helped me land on a final set as it will hopefully help others with fit/pain issues. I am not covering sound quality much and will link to RTings for that. Given my head rejects most headphones, my focus is on comfort with sound quality and features being of much lower concern. My goal is to find the best headset I can that does not hurt me and will work wirelessly on my PS5 and possibly my Steam Deck (stretch goal). Sony Pulse 3D --Recommendation – I bought these at launch and would only buy them now if you are not sensitive to clamping pressure, have small-ish ears and do not want to buy anything of higher cost on this list. I sold my pair as these are what started this whole journey. --https://www.rtings.com/headphones/reviews/sony/pulse-3d-wireless --Spent - $100 + $30 for third party ear pads. --Type – Wireless Dongle --My Usage – Gaming, 1-2 hours a day with bursts of up to 4 hours. --Weight - .65 pounds --Clamping pressure – .9 pounds --Cup Friction – Some rubbing pain after long sessions. --Testing Duration – 2 Years --Thoughts – I powered through these for ~two years. This is the pair that caused me a lot of pain now that I have more gaming time. I thought the sound quality was fine at the price point, but the clamping pressure felt higher than .9 as the original and third-party ear cups were not soft enough. They also rubbed my ears and never loosened up. The top headband would also hurt my head if I moved around a lot during a session (getting food, water, etc). The original ear pads broke down and I replaced them about 4 months ago. These helped make them more comfortable, but the clamping pressure overpowered them. Lastly, I had to run a USB extension cable away from the console to plug the dongle in to as they would cut out randomly from some sort of interference otherwise. I do have a lot of electronics near the PS5, but most are powered off when I play and the only active WiFi thing is a Harmony Hub so I’m not sure what is causing the issue. The extension did solve the issue about 99.9% of the time. HyperX Cloud Stinger --Recommendation – I’ve owned these for a long time and would buy them if you have basic wired needs. I’m keeping my pair for Zoom use only. --https://www.rtings.com/headphones/reviews/hyperx/cloud-stinger --Spent - $30 --Type - Wired --My Usage – Zoom, 4-5 hours each workday. Experimented with them as an option for long term gaming. --Weight - .6 pounds --Clamping pressure – 1 pound (these are old, so this is probably less now) --Cup Friction – No rubbing pain. --Testing Duration – 1 Day --Thoughts – I bought these on a whim pre-child when I started playing PS4 games that needed a microphone. These worked fine for those rare cases. However, I would not recommend them for regular gaming use as there are many better wired options now. However, they are totally sufficient for zoom meetings as I don’t care about sound quality or the mic being excellent. The volume control on them is also handy for this use case as is the flip up mic. While it would be nice for them to be wireless, it’s not worth the money to replace them just for Zoom. They have not caused me any pain during long stints, and they have held up extremely well over the past 3 years that I have used them heavily for Zoom. Bose QuietComfort 35 II --Recommendation – I’ve owned these for years and I love them. Everyone with comfort issues should own a pair for anything other than gaming. I’m keeping them until they break and may stockpile a few depending on what Bose does with the QC line. Will use them as a backup set for gaming. --https://www.rtings.com/headphones/reviews/bose/quietcomfort-35-ii-qc35-ii-wireless-2018 --Spent - $350 --Type – Wireless Bluetooth --My Usage – Mainly travel and focused listening. Stints of up to 10 hours at a time on planes. Have been using them as a backup set for gaming on the PS5 while testing everything on this list. --Weight - .54 pounds --Clamping pressure – .69 pounds --Cup Friction – No rubbing pain. --Testing Duration – 3 Weeks --Thoughts – These are the first set of quality headphones I ever purchased. I used them mainly for travel and focused listening and did not realize how spoiled I was. These are extremely comfortable, and I think are part of the reason that I have such high needs for comfort in headphones. The only negative is the slight “underwater” pressure feeling you get when the ANC is on. However, they do work in a pinch for gaming and are extremely comfortable. If Bose ever makes a set for gaming that works over 2.4, they will have my money immediately. They are Bluetooth and thus need an adapter or something to hook into your system. I pipe the audio through a Taotronics Bluetooth adapter hooked into the headphone jack on my TV and it works ok. I’ve owned these since 2018. Aftershokz Trekz Air (Now called Shokz OpenRun Pro I think) --Recommendation – I’ve owned these for many years, and you should try a set of bone conducting headphones if you have not. I will always own a pair of this type of headset mainly for their versatility in providing audio when you don’t want to fully disconnect. I’m keeping these for other uses and maybe for the steam deck on rare occasions but they are not suited for regular gaming. --https://www.rtings.com/headphones/reviews/aftershokz/trekz-air-bone-conduction --Spent - $160 --Type – Wireless Bluetooth --My Usage – Cycling, walking the dogs, listening to things while watching the kid. Experimented with use on the Steam Deck and as a final solution for PS5, and they are meh. So basically, I will use them for listening to things where I still need to hear the world. --Weight - .06 pounds --Clamping pressure – .32 pounds --Cup Friction – N/A --Testing Duration – 1 Day --Thoughts – They will not blow you away with sound quality, but I do love them for cases where I want to listen to something but need awareness of the world. They are weird feeling if you are not used to them, but I find I use these the most in my daily life outside of my Stinger headset for Zoom meetings. They are great for walking the dog, cycling, or listening to a podcast while Paw Patrol is on. Seriously, try a pair if you never have. Not really an option for a gaming headset though. Steelseries Arctis Nova 7p --Recommendation – Would buy if you are not sensitive to clamping pressure. This seems to be the best set for the price of all that I tested, and I would have kept them if I could have solved the pain issue. Ended up returning them. --https://www.rtings.com/headphones/reviews/steelseries/arctis-nova-7-wireless-7-7p-7x --Spent - $140 --Type - Wireless --Usage – Gaming, 1-2 hours a day with bursts of up to 4 hours. --Weight - .72 pounds --Clamping pressure – 1 pound --Cup Friction – Rubbing pain after long sessions. --Testing Duration – 2 Weeks --Thoughts – I was hoping these were the holy grail that everyone said. The sound was excellent, and the unit was well built. The headband was comfortable however, my ears still rubbed a tad but more importantly, they caused a ton of pain on each temple after only 1 hour. This seems to be due to the clamping pressure and the design of the pads (and possibly my head shape). My wife experienced the same issue though. I suppose I could have put them on a box to stretch them out and reduce the clamping pressure, but I experimented with manually reducing the pressure while they were on, and they still hurt my temples. It seems the pad/clamping combo does not work for me, and I really don’t want to gamble on the box method and buying third party pads as that seems like a lot to ask to make them work when there are other options. Astro A50 2019 --Recommendation – Skip these. I was extremely unimpressed compared to the cheaper sets on this list. Also, mine came with the headband busted which seems common and crazy as these launched in 2019 and this should be solved by now. I returned them. --https://www.rtings.com/headphones/reviews/astro/a50-gen-4-wireless-2019 --Spent - $300 --Type – Wireless Dongle/Base --Usage – Gaming, 1-2 hours a day with bursts of up to 4 hours. --Weight - .8 pounds --Clamping pressure – 1.3 pounds --Cup Friction – Rubbing pain after short sessions. --Testing Duration – 2 Days --Thoughts – Man I wanted to love these. They seemed full of features and of a high-ish quality. However, the headband constantly popped out, the cups kept sliding up and down when I took them off and on, my ears rubbed quite a bit and the sound was not particularly better than the Nova 7ps. Overall, I was thoroughly unimpressed by their price point and comfort. Lastly, the pads were a bit rough and had a weird smell to them that would probably go away but was noticeable from 2 feet away and was nauseating. Obviously, these were a huge letdown. Logitech Pro X Wireless --Recommendation – Probably skip these as they have a white noise hiss and clamping pressure issues. It’s sad as they sounded good, and I really liked the build. I returned these. --https://www.rtings.com/headphones/reviews/logitech/g-pro-x-wireless-lightspeed-gaming-headset --Spent - $180 --Type – Wireless Dongle --Usage – Gaming, 1-2 hours a day with bursts of up to 4 hours. --Weight – .83 pounds --Clamping pressure – 1.1 pounds --Cup Friction – The white noise prevented a long session, but no rubbing pain after the short session. --Testing Duration – 1 Day --Thoughts – The build of these really impressed me when I took them out of the box. They felt sturdy and solid when moving it around. However, they hiss when turned on, which is crazy as these launched in like 2019. Apparently not everyone can hear it, but I can and it’s a common complaint for people who can still hear in that range. I tried updating the firmware sliding the volume around on them, the PS5, etc., and they just hiss. It’s like a light white noise that you can barely hear when it’s quiet. They also put a lot of pressure under my cheek bone after around 30 minutes. I’m not sure if that would be solved with some tweaking or using the second set of pads they came with as the headache inducing hiss was enough to send these back. Sony InZone H7 --Recommendation – These were my final pick after a couple of weeks of testing. The sound was a little less full than I would like, but it’s not noticeable unless directly compared to other headsets. I also felt the surround sound was better than most and these are really light and comfortable for a long time. I’d start here if you have similar issues to me. --https://www.rtings.com/headphones/reviews/sony/inzone-h7-wireless --Spent - $200 --Type – Wireless Dongle --Usage – Gaming, 1-2 hours a day with bursts of up to 4 hours. --Weight – .71 pounds --Clamping pressure – .8 pounds --Cup Friction – No rubbing pain. --Testing Duration – 3 Weeks --Thoughts – I really did not want to like these at first as they look like shooting headphones and feel cheap. Also, you cannot adjust the EQ on the PS5. However, these are extremely light and comfortable, and the spatial audio is good. I’m not sure that they are worth $200 compared to some of the others on the list, but these were the only pair that worked well over long sessions for me. The Barracuda Xs were close, but those were a little uncomfortable at first but that faded away in long sessions. The thing that sold these were the slight edge in comfort and the dual audio with Bluetooth. Astro A30 --Recommendation – These a worth a try if you do not mind a rubbery material on the headband and earpads and have a head/ears in the medium/small range. I personally found the material bothersome, and the headband hurt the top of my head. Returned them. --https://www.rtings.com/headphones/reviews/astro/a30-wireless --Spent - $230 --Type – Wireless Dongle --Usage – Gaming, 1-2 hours a day with bursts of up to 4 hours. --Weight – .76 pounds --Clamping pressure – .9 pounds --Cup Friction – No rubbing pain. --Testing Duration – 3 Days --Thoughts – At first, the material on the pads seemed neat. It felt nice in my hands but the second I put them on, I hated it. The ear cup openings were a smidge too small for me but did not hurt when wearing them. The sound profile was decent, but the headband ended up hurting me after a long session. If the cups were a tad bigger and the material on them was different, I think they would have worked and not caused me head pain. Razer Barracuda X 2022 --Recommendation – These were my #2 choice. I really did like these to solve my comfort issues, but there was some random interference and very slight comfort issues during the first 10 minutes of wear that made me send them back. If it weren’t for that, I may have kept them as they are the cheapest set with a low clamping pressure. --https://www.rtings.com/headphones/reviews/razebarracuda-x-wireless-2021 --Spent - $100 --Type – Wireless Dongle --Usage – Gaming, 1-2 hours a day with bursts of up to 4 hours. --Weight – .59 pounds --Clamping pressure – .8 pounds --Cup Friction – No rubbing pain. --Testing Duration – 3 Weeks --Thoughts – This is a tough one. They were comfortable for long wear, but they caused interference with my controller and would cut out rarely even with the dongle on a long extension cord away from my entertainment center. I found these to sound slightly better than my #1 pick (H7s), but the Bluetooth was not active while playing and they could not have the EQ adjusted. It was by a slim margin that these went back. Razer Kaira Pro PlayStation Edition --Recommendation – They have a good all-around feature set, and I would try them only if you have a medium/small head and ears and are interested in the haptics as I don’t think the clamping would be an issue on a smaller head or maybe on someone with a different head shape. I sent these back but wished I didn’t have to. --https://www.rtings.com/headphones/reviews/razekaira-pro-wireless-for-xbox (They didn’t have the PS5 specific review) --Spent - $200 --Type – Wireless Dongle --Usage – Gaming, 1-2 hours a day with bursts of up to 4 hours. --Weight – .73 pounds --Clamping pressure – 1 pound --Cup Friction – Rubbing pain after short sessions. --Testing Duration – 2 Days --Thoughts – I really liked the idea of these with the haptic feedback, but it ended up just feeling like extra bass shake. I suspect I would have disliked it of long sessions and turned it off immediately. They put too much pressure on the front of my ears and caused pain and made them feel clogged. They also made my ears hot and both ears scrapped a bit. However, the feature set, like being able to swap sound profiles with a button, was great as was the sound. HyperX Cloud Alpha --Recommendation – Hello white noise my old friend. While not as bad as the Logitech Pro X, it was still enough to make these a no if you can hear it. If you cannot hear it, and are sensitive to clamping, these are a great option. Since HyperX has no fix for the white noise, I returned them. --https://www.rtings.com/headphones/reviews/hyperx/cloud-alpha --Spent - $200 --Type – Wireless Dongle --Usage – Gaming, 1-2 hours a day with bursts of up to 4 hours. --Weight – .7 pounds --Clamping pressure – .9 pounds --Cup Friction – The white noise prevented a long session, but no rubbing pain after the short session. --Testing Duration – 1 Day --Thoughts – I thought I would hate these as they looked really ‘gamer’, but the build quality was pretty good. I liked the sound profile, and they were comfortable. I would say that these would have been a front runner if not my final pick were it not for the white noise. It was just enough that I knew it would cause a headache, which is unfortunate as the cups and headband did not cause any pain. So, if you cannot hear the white noise and are sensitive to clamping, consider these. Razer Kraken v3 Pro --Recommendation – Basically the same as the Kaira. I was hoping that these would feel better as I like the Kiara, but no luck. --https://www.rtings.com/headphones/reviews/razekraken-v3-pro-wireless --Spent - $180 --Type – Wireless Dongle --Usage – Gaming, 1-2 hours a day with bursts of up to 4 hours. --Weight – .8 pounds --Clamping pressure – 1 pound --Cup Friction – No rubbing pain. --Testing Duration – 2 Days --Thoughts – I really liked the Kaira ones and was hoping these would feel different. Like the Kaira, they put too much pressure on the front of my ears and caused pain and made them feel clogged. They also made my ears hot, but it didn’t scrape like the Kairas. Razer BlackShark V2 Pro --Recommendation – I tried these as I liked all the other Razer models other than their comfort issues. These also caused a lot of ear pain after about 20 minutes, so I sent them back. They were one of my favorites if you ignore the pain part. --https://www.rtings.com/headphones/reviews/razeblackshark-v2-pro-wireless --Spent - $130 --Type – Wireless Dongle --Usage – Gaming, 1-2 hours a day with bursts of up to 4 hours. --Weight – .72 pounds --Clamping pressure – 1 pound --Cup Friction – Rubbing pain after short sessions. --Testing Duration – 2 Days --Thoughts – Again, the Razer headsets seem to have clicked with me other than the comfort issues. I ordered this one on a whim to see if it would be better than the others, but the wire cup mountings made them less adjustable, and I think are what caused the pain so quickly. I thought these were well rounded and was a bit sad that the pain hit so early. Razer Barracuda Pro --Recommendation – Since the lower end Barracuda X was a finalist for me, I threw a stab at these despite the higher clamping force. Sadly, the clamping force was an issue, and they made my ears hot. I returned them. --https://www.rtings.com/headphones/reviews/razebarracuda-pro-wireless --Spent - $250 --Type – Wireless Dongle --Usage – Gaming, 1-2 hours a day with bursts of up to 4 hours. --Weight – .75 pounds --Clamping pressure – 1.1 pounds --Cup Friction – Rubbing pain on both ears. This was the only set to have that on both. --Testing Duration – 2 Days --Thoughts – It’s strange that these are so different from the 2022 X lower range model. I understand they have different drivers and features, but you wouldn’t think they would feel like a totally different line. However, they do and given the shallow cups and that they cause clamping pain and made my ear hot after only 30 minutes, these were a big disappointment.

If you regularly pick up the phone in nearly all mdickie games sometimes a person gives you warnings that you’re in a test/game. I haven’t heard many theories but the few I have suggest it’s mdickie himself trying to warn us it’s pointless we are just a test on the other hand people say its the original god who made Jesus in The You Testament. To be honest I have no clue the best we can do is wait for more hints. It’s very strange so any questions just comment I’ll try to respond with the most accurate stuff.

After growing up in an overly relaxed household with a SAHM who never had a routine/pretty minimal responsibilities, it has been really hard to construct that for myself as a young adult. I was always different and had a harder time with a lot of things and was frequently experiencing what I now know is burnout, but I never had anyone take it seriously or help me.
I hate to blame my parents, but it’s hard to create something as an adult that most build gradually over time as kids/teens. I’m in my early 20s now and within the past couple of years, I’ve really buckled down on myself. My life went to shambles as a teen and I was relatively far behind most of my peers from 16-20. I didn’t have a license, barely graduated high school, and would quit almost every job in less than 6 months. It bothered me because I knew exactly what I needed to do to better myself, but the execution was so difficult/foreign to me. People would be so condescending and rude about it and I felt like a lot of their “advice” was just plain judgment and disgust. Realizing that I am on the spectrum has been huge for me, too. I always thought I was just defective and would spend my whole life feeling lesser than.
In a lot of peoples eyes, my life for someone who is in their early 20s is not that great, but considering my past, I’m amazed that I got this far (getting my license, being at a job that’s above minim wage for over a year etc). I never thought i was capable of “getting/keeping my shit together,” but I really really stuck with my goals and I’m doing much better.
Just wondering if anyone can relate to having to pick up the pieces and learn these skills as an adult.

Gotten back into cycling recently after quite the hiatus. It just lost it magic one day, but I since have recovered mentally and I am really enjoying the sport again.
Last yr I only done 800 miles and 50 miles for my biggest ride! Before that about the same, the year before that I was super fit and doing 140 mile rides in the hills with my buddies no problem.
Anyway I've now been back into it for the last 3 wks and have covered 300 miles. 35 today with a couple of hills which were no problem - I'm just nowhere near as fast as I was, but it is definitely all starting to come back to me.
The thing I haven't gotten back to is group rides, something which I am really missing the social aspect of. I have the opportunity to go out on a ride which is probably just shy of 100mi this Sunday to an area I'd love to visit, involving a couple of long (1200-1500ft) climbs. I am seriously considering turning up, but I am wondering if I am biting off more than I can chew and that it could be a recipe for disaster.
WWYD in my circumstance? take it easy and go on their shorter rides for now, or just pack fuck loads of sugar and carbs in my jersey and get on with it on that ride?

We need to stop telling people to never give up. Hope has been nothing but a cruel thing that tortures me everyday, because it is what drives me towards my suffering. While it may be admirable to keep fighting even while the entire world’s against you, what many people call my greatest strength is also my greatest weakness.
Some people are unable to elude suffering, and society needs to understand that people have the right to alleviate themselves of that. People are so quick to put blame on the victim, when they fail to consider the fact that the person’s illness, physical or mental,cannot be treated, the person lives in terrible conditions of any kind and combination, or maybe just the fact that destiny could hate the individual and send plague after plague to torture them and make it so that they are powerless to change their fate. The fact that our society is so obsessed with keeping people from committing suicide disturbs me, because we would rather subject people to hell for as long as possible due to our fear of our own grief. It’s selfish as fuck.
Stop the lie of “it gets better.” For some of us, it fucking doesn’t. I was already in one of the worst positions of my life a month ago. Heartbreak, destroyed future, had to part with the only people I truly cared about, and had no choice but to be all alone. I wanted to kill myself, because I’d already invested so much effort into improving my life and topping this unto the weight of all my previous suffering made it unbearable. But I didn’t quit. I picked myself back up, held a finger to the sky, and prepared myself to go to war with the world again. I deluded myself into thinking I’m the confident, resilient gangster I had to be to survive, and held unto my near impossible childhood dream of becoming a pro athlete. I promised to dedicate everything towards achieving it, and I kept my word on that promise by going to lengths few others went to. I kept myself alive by believing things would get better.
Did they? They did get better…for god. Because he’d finally defeated me. I’d already lost almost everything at that point, over the course of my life. And now…I’d lost what little I had left to lose. Lost my dream. Lost my job. Lost my home. Still alone. Barely surviving. All because of something way out of my, or anyone’s, control. Even if I prepared, did what I could to survive, and pray the emergency would just come and go, I still lost everything. I thought things couldn’t get worse but dealing with the weight of all of my life’s suffering while also having spent the past month, no, week, doing heavy, manual labor everyday to make my home livable again, running out of basic needs, without power or water, and with no one, not even the government, to help me…it’s driving me insane. My life is so broken I can’t even kill myself, as in physically. I have no reliable method of finishing the job. Had I killed myself last month, I’d have spared myself from what feels like an eternity of suffering. What did my sister, the only person I have left who I thought could really be a “parent” to me but abandoned and replaced me when I needed her most, tell me the last time I felt suicidal?
“It gets better. I promise.”
Why the fuck do we lie to people like this? Maybe for some people it does. But I’ve been living my whole life not just believing, but acting on, this lie that things get better. I’ve spent so much of my life, my heart, my energy trying to make life end up as I believe it should, fighting fate because it wants the worst for me. Few people understand what that’s like. On one hand, I feel grateful that they don’t, because the final blow that’s landed is really making everything crack. But on the other, I’m also envious, because I feel even more tortured being so alone in these conditions.
Let people give up. Give the people the right to peace. Some of us have been fighting a war for our entire lives, with victory ever disappearing, but our psyche torturing us into continuing to fight. Being a naturally resilient person who is unable to give up while simultaneously understanding that giving up and dying is your only path to peace is an unbearably painful internal dilemma to deal with. You feel compelled to keep fighting for what matters to you because of something inside you that drives you, but continuing to do so also makes you go insane from suffering. You also cannot just lay down and accept what happens, because if you do so, fate will absolutely enslave, torture, and ruin you. You constantly feel the temptation to pull the trigger, but your desire to see the life you want for yourself, your desire to believe strongly in your resilience and personal values, and your immense guilt towards the prospect of accepting defeat make you unable to do so. Driving you more and more insane in a cycle.
God has a plan for everyone. Some go to heaven, some he sends to hell, and for a select, special few, hell is already on Earth for them.

Little background on my bartending experience before going into the conundrum at hand — picking between 2 bartending gigs.
I used to work at this local Japanese spot in a smaller city, and hosts there also needed to bartend for server’s tickets, or the servers would come behind the bar and make their own drinks. It was never just, like, a solo bartender behind the bar. It was always a host who bartends or server who bartends, and, well, I was both a host and server. I was always quick on my feet since this place was always understaffed, and yeah, I’d make drinks. But also, just to be upfront, it was a real rundown place so a lot of it was just simple 2-ingredient cocktails, literally liquor and mixer. That’s it. Then I continued to serve in a bigger city. I’ve served at high-volume restaurants with a pretty mid bar program that’s made for high-volume. I’ve served as a cocktail server at a craft bar with more of a high-end bar program. You get the gist. The background base knowledge is there, but nowhere near in-depth.
Anyhow, now I am fully bartending at a casual hotel bar. Not a huge or even a stellar bar program — but it does the job. I’ve been practicing my free pours, and pouring with jiggers. I’ve gotten fairly accurate. I am not really happy with the bar program here, or the management. To exemplify… I’ve had to do runs to the liquor store because management forgets to order liquors and mixers and cordials, pretty much every week. They also had me make up my own menus because they never have the liquors required for the corporate menu. They would supply me with 10 glasses at a time. I told them we’ve been out of flute glasses since March, & up to now we still don’t have any.
Sooo, with all the lack of support from management, I decided to shoot my shot and I applied to tons of other hotel bars and craft bars in my area. Long story short, I landed it in two different hotel bars.
First, is a hotel bar AND full-fledged restaurant. Amazing bar program. Top of the top. Nebbiolo, blabla, you get the gist. $75 entrees. Huuuuge space for a hotel restaurant. They also told me they marketed towards locals and tourists that may not even be staying at the hotel — and I could tell. Felt like a stand-alone restaurant, really. Their offer is 7.50 per hour in a 2.15 state, and I asked for part-time, which they said they can work out 3-4 breakfast/lunch shifts at either their lounge bar downstairs, or pool bar upstairs. If I wanted to do full-time, they said they can work that out as well.
Listing my concerns here: intimidating bar program (it’s a biiiig huuuge selection of bourbons, some wines I’ve never tried nor heard of, everything is done with jiggers and I’m working on that but still scary, I feel like I’m too slow but I know that jiggers are better, I just gotta get used to it), less hourly compensation (super important for a hotel bar, since sometimes the volume is pretty low compared to a restaurant, however like I said this place looks promising in terms of guest volume)
Listing my pros here: intimidating material but it would push me, definitely know that even if I make less hourly, I’d make more in tips, there’s table service from actual servers so they tip out the bar
Second, is another hotel, with a very intimate lounge bar downstairs, and an open rooftop bar on their top floor. It’s a much smaller hotel room count — about 50 suites compared to the 300 rooms at the first hotel — but the price point of each suite is similar to the first hotel. So… ranges of 300-400 slow season, 700-800 busy season. Same type of higher-end clientele. Their bar program is pretty solid for a very new hotel too. Their offer is 12.00 per hour, and I asked for part-time/full-time, they said part time would be about 2-3 nights, full time would be 4-5 nights, either rooftop or lounge.
Listing my concerns here: lower guest volume (director mentioned that they’re not focused on marketing to locals or other tourists, they’re definitely focusing on the hotel’s clientele), smaller food menu so less chance of a big check
Listing my pros here: lower guest volume may enable me to master accuracy over speed first, which I think is much more important to learn before going fast, smaller food menu would encourage a focus on alcohol with guests, it’d also enable me to learn more about wines and spirits (their wine selection is pretty good too, lots of old world wines there), seems like from what the director mentioned, all their new bartender hires (they just opened their bars) are entry-level, and I have more experience than most of them, which is a little bit less intimidating than the first hotel.
Sorry for the word vomit. But from experienced bartenders, I would really love some guidance as a newbie. Heeeeelp. Which one should I take?

So, dated my ex (37F) for from September-ish 2021 into Feb of 2022. Things were great but she carried heavy baggage from health issues and previous relationships. I was instantly enamored by her. Conversation flowed, interests are in line with one-another and we genuinely loves spending time together. We had taken a break due to her baggage once in November of 2021 for a few days. In February of 2022 she cut it off right before my birthday which was a tough pill to swallow, but I spent that time from then on searching, on my own, for happiness, healing and paths through life. I've found a good bit of serenity and internal peace as well as self love on the way. I had gone into the relationship with her with some baggage on my end with my father passing and the stress of keeping my mother emotionally stable, starting a company, and in general being a 'worrier' for so long.
Fast forward through that year to now. I'm in a much better head-space, have learned a lot about self love and found peace in my life! Ayo! I used our breakup as a means to get myself better.
About two months ago she asked if we could meet up as friends which I agreed to. She was coming to me for advice on her life situation, getting her life on the track she wants, and starting a new career. I was nervous to see her, wondering if I would break down or say something dumb, but it was like two friends meeting up. After spending the evening talking over a few drinks on my end and sushi all-around, we went our separate ways but kept texting; again, only as friends. I did establish a hard-fast rule that I wasn't willing to discuss relationships she or I may have been in or could be in, I felt because I still have feelings for her it wouldn't be right for me to offer my skewed view.
I did not make that part known to her, but instead politely said that I'm not the right person for that sort of advice. She accepted that proverbial line in the sand, which made me happy and feel great for honoring and respecting myself enough to do that.
A couple weeks after we met up, she is texting me about a guy who she only ever intended to be friends with is trying to manipulate her into a relationship. I tell her I'm sorry that's happening to her, to follow her heart and, unfortunately, I'm not the right person to ask for advice in this situation because my track records with relationships are not the best as a joke to try and lighten the situation.
As I send that I get a text that says "I honest to god want to be with you, but I don't know, I feel like I shouldn't be in a relationship."
So when I read that I suggest we talk in person so nothing is misconstrued via text. She agrees, but is starting her new career so it will be a couple days. I joke that "Well, that's ok! It will give us both time to think and you may even realize you want to take that back." I get an immediate reply "Nope. It's been thought about a lot. I mean what I said."
So, we meet up at my place. Small talk, joking around, and I finally crack the glass and ask "So... What are we supposed to do now that this new information is out there?" and I explain why I've been hesitant to give her any relationship advice. She listens and understands then says "Maybe we can take things slow and see where it goes." I agree, we relax on the couch and she takes off after we cook some dinner together.
That was a month ago, and we've been spending a good bit of the weekends together, and a weeknight here and there. However, when we're together on the weekends, she's been saying things like "We should do a saltwater tank together!" or on the conversation of a dog I was looking at but didn't get because I'm never home, "If we were living together I'd love to adopt or rescue." I figure it's innocuous playful chat - I'm not trying to push the envelope and fall head over heels immediately.
I guess it wouldn't be out of pocket to say that there is a lot of cuddling, holding hands and sharing a bed, but we've both held off on physical intimacy. But she has mentioned she wants to get back on birth control sooner rather than later.
But, last night as I'm at her place, we're cooking together and while I can't remember what I said she said "Oh yeah, practice for when I move in," followed by a noticeable pause, then, "With myself." We joke it off and continue the night.
Right after dinner, brushing my teeth she pops in the bathroom for a floss pick and there's a birth control box in there that is expired. She quickly says "It's not what you think, it was right after we broke up, see the expiration date?" and she shows me. Yup. Checks out. She says she was nervous cause she was late right after we broke up and I joked "Well I mean I guess it worked out cause if you were pregnant that would have been an angry phone call to me, huh?" and she replies "I wouldn't of been mad, you know I've always wanted kids. But I'd have been scared shitless!" and I laugh. We joke, lay down, cuddle up and we crash out because I have to be up at 5am and she has to be up at 5:30am.
So I guess my question is - am I now the one moving too slow? Are these hints to pick up the pace on my end? Or is she testing the waters to see if I'll move too fast? I genuinely fell for this woman the moment I met her, and even though my year of self reflection and soul searching put me in a much better place, mentally and physically there was not one single day I did not think of her or miss her.
TL;DR My ex and I are trying things out again now that we're both in a better place and she outlined taking it slow, but is saying things that seem to be hinting that I should pick up the pace. I'm comfortable responding either by picking up the pace or staying in my current lane. But to me it seems like she has a mixed signal of what this moving slow may be. Does it appear that I'm handling this correctly and most important to me RESPECTFULLY?

Whenever a blood moon occurs, nothing seems to happen near me. Is it because I skip the cutscene? I know it’s supposed to bring out stronger monsters, but I just see some red rise up from the ground for a minute then the sky goes normal.

Stopped at a gas station today off the 90 coming home from a road trip.
Across from me a young-ish couple ushered a pup out of their vehicle for a potty-break/walk. Onto hot asphalt. It was nearly 90. I’m sure the pavement exceeded 100+. They were attempting to attach the lead to the pups harness (for some reason this took an excessive amount of time, while they were laughing about having trouble over it). I visibility saw this dog playing “the floor is lava” with his/her paws on the super heated surface. Visibly uncomfortable and burning.
The owners did not care/notice. Despite bending down to make multiple attempts to attach the lead. Laughing at this poor dogs “dance”.
There was a strip of lawn not 3 feet next to their parking spot. The dog was small enough to carry to that area to attach.
I don’t normally like to assert myself in confrontations but this dog was clearly distressed. We’ve all wandered barefoot onto hot pavement. It’s not fun. I stepped out and tried to convey as politely as possible “hey your dogs paws are getting burned, you should pick him up to the grass quick!!”
I was called a b*tch and told mind my own business and to “get back in your car”
After we left, the owner was walking this dog on a sidewalk (granted it was ‘white’ concrete and likely less hot), not the grass…
It was a long day on the road. This upset me.
Please if you are a pet owner. Make sure your pet has adequate water, breaks for potty and leg stretching, and are attentive to their needs when it comes to heat or cold emergencies. Leaving your car to run into the store with 2 inches of window open IS NOT ENOUGH. If you have to do this, CAR ON WITH AC RUNNING. At least tie the lead to an outside pillar in shade for a short stop……
You wouldn’t do this to your own child. Don’t do it to your fur-baby.

What a thankless job it is to be a step parent at times. And I'm about at my wits end with dealing with a stepdaughter who cannot see beyond the mirror. Today, I literally just feel like I'm not even step dad, but "simp dad". I have a stepdaughter who just assumes I'm there to"do her bidding. Never mind my adult schedule and responsibilities. And certainly not even a "thank you for dropping whatever it was you were doing so you could drive to the school to pick me up and bring her home." Never mind the tedious distance/traffic/gas I'm driving so your needs are met. And when I complained to my wife about it, I get the "You're not the only one being singled out." Right, ok, so DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT. Just because the child secures straight A's as a freshman in high school does not give her carte blanch to step on everyone else around her so her needs are met.
Thanks for listening. Super frustrated and ready for the kid to depart for the summer to her bio dad's so she can drive him up the wall for a few months and let me have some peace.

Hi,
I wasn't paying attention to my inventory and I completed the Foraging Bundle exhibit. I was unable to collect any of the dropped rewards due to the full inventory. When I went back same day they were all gone. The fishing items I got stayed long enough for me to go back home to clear my inventory and pick them up, but not the museum items.
Is there any way I can reset it to get my rewards? I looked it up and I'm really interested in the foraging ring I should have gotten.
I also had a bug happen in Nel'vari. I had made like three machines and some mana crystals and it was 11:50pm so I wanted to quick dump my mana in to make more. So all the items went on the ground and none were put into my inventory. I can't remember if I had room or I just didn't stand there long enough because I was trying to be super fast.
By morning everything was gone. I assume this is a bug as I've had items I've collected I missed from previous days on the ground so I assumed the stuff would still be there. I still haven't gotten all the resources to make up for this.
I know I need to be more careful with my inventory but it was still all really disappointing.

I live in Queens, New York and just moved into a 4bd apartment 4 months ago. One of my 3 roommates is a hoarder and her small dog defecates often in the apartment and bites me and the other roommates. She has generally been a problem for the rest of us and we all want to move out due to her messiness and actions. Today she threatened to take me to court because I refused to accept rent payments from her in different chunks rather than one lump sum near the end of the month. I told her if she tried sending me any partial rent payments before the last week of the month then I would send it back. She told me than she would take that as me “gifting” her (what) and that I would be liable for any rent coming short..I told her that is ridiculous and have told our landlord about this. She then said her guarantor(her aunt) was an attorney and could take me to court.
I wanted to ask if this was legal and if I should be worried that this would hold up in court? Also if it was possible to break my lease due to the living conditions and her dog. Thanks

Brace yourselves, this is gonna be a long one.
Table of Contents
1…… The Main Goal
2…… What I’m Seeking
3…… Personality
4…… Interests
5…… Physical Characteristics (with pics)
6…… Expectations of You
7…… Living Situation
8…… Deal Breakers
9…… Closing Remarks
(1)
The Main Goal:
Well if you’re browsing this subreddit then much like me, you were alone this weekend and I’m sure you’d like to change that as much as me. I won’t lie, I am going through a rough part of my life right now. It’s difficult for me to find the energy for anything at the moment and I’m just really seeking affection in general, anything that will give me a push. I don’t want to be that person who brings everyone down but I could really use someone to talk to right now. I’d really like to find someone who’s similar to me so much to the point that we do everything together and talk about everything while not having to pretend to be interested. I want someone with whom we can mutually spew our emotions onto and have those feelings reciprocated. Not an emotional punching bag, but an emotional teddy bear to hug and cuddle until everything feels better as many times as we need. There’s people who I’m sure have told you the same, they’ll be there no matter how many times you need the support, no matter how many times the insecurities and bad thoughts come back but they don’t mean it. I will be the exception, I’m not so ignorant to think some nice words and tales of relating to you will magically forever heal whatever ails you then get mad when you seek the same support again. Mental ailments are rarely temporary and I don’t care about someone because they’re perfect, caring about someone means being there no matter how many times they need you to be. It doesn’t feel like a chore, it doesn’t get old, and it never will.
(2)
(2.a)
What I'm Seeking:
I will upfront let you know if I’m clicking better with someone else or if you’re the one, I’m not here to tread the sea of fish or keep my options open, I’m here for one singular person.
(2.b)
Relationship:
A relationship is difficult for me right now, it’s been nearly half a year since I got out of my last relationship and the reasons for it ending are partially responsible for how I’ve been feeling and why it’s so hard for me to seek the comfort I so desperately crave. I will tell you about it but for the sake of not treating the entirety of the internet as my therapist, it’ll be in private. I really need the comfort of intimacy and the warmth of someone who cares. I'm not going to feel better if I just sulk and don’t move on. This is my attempt to get better, I’ll admit I’m not great right now and I don’t expect you to be either. If we can help each other heal, then I’d be more than happy :) A relationship isn’t just being there for when someone’s at their best. Even if a relationship is hard at the moment, I do want a life partner and I don’t want to be alone. Things aren’t going to get easier without you so I don’t want to hesitate. I view my other as an equal, I don’t like categorizing us into specific roles. We take care of each other and treat each other how we like to be treated, whatever that is, it's as simple as that. I don't care if you're "successful" or not, living simple lives with our days filled with love is the ultimate measure of success to me.
(3)
Personality:
(3.a)
On the Surface:
As you can tell I can be rather… stoic but that’s largely due to my current stressors, I truthfully am goofy and fun loving but I just can’t find it in me right now. I want to return to that but without someone to light up my world it’s been difficult to just have fun and enjoy stuff. I’m definitely more introverted, you won’t catch me at any parties or really outside at all. I definitely prefer being home though the occasional outing is not out of the question and one day I’d like to travel to other countries because I think that kind of perspective is important.
(3.b)
The Core of My Being:
I like being a spectator to it all and if we bear witness to humanity burning or its miraculous recovery, I want to watch it with you. I enjoy watching humanity advance, less so when it devolves but I want to watch it to the end nonetheless. I’m both a realist and someone who lives with my head in the clouds dreaming of scenarios or worlds that don’t exist. I’m saying that I enjoy a good narrative and can suspend my disbelief to enjoy something but you won’t catch me refusing vaccines or ignoring blatant facts for the sake of some pseudo science or witch doctor’s remedy. I’m an atheist but I do not rule out existence after death, not because I’m agnostic but because due to the nature of potentially infinite time at some point after how many googol years with a googol amount of 0s after that, something’s bound to replicate your consciousness perfectly at some point. It’s actually a really fascinating topic I like talking about. If infinite time and infinite possibilities exist, does non existence exist? Though that’s an awfully existentially dreadful thought process considering the ramifications of infinite existence and infinite possibilities during said infinite existence. I would say I’m confidently left leaning and I don’t think I could truly get along with anyone right leaning, at least America’s definition of right leaning. Left and right seems to have just become; do people deserve to suffer or do they deserve to live good lives? Being political is not something I expected to become but how can you not be when crimes against human rights are being passed on a daily basis and at the end of the day, everything’s political. Oftentimes I imagine the perfect moment as relaxing with my significant other playing games or cuddling in a cold room under blankets.
I value that special someone above all of the existential thoughts, the bad of the world, the good of the world, they practically become my world. So many worries wash away when I’m with them. I don’t know if that’s the defense mechanism my brain created to not feel bad 24/7 but if it is, I’m currently without it.
(3.c)
Insecurities:
I talk of philosophy and politics here but really I spend most of my time just playing games, watching stuff, and trying to not be sleep deprived. I’m also nowhere near as well spoken, heck sometimes I feel like my speech is broken. I won’t claim to be something I’m not, I sit at home while I complain about the world doing nothing about it wishing I had someone here with me. I’m not noble nor do I really want to be, I have morals I uphold but much like most other hypocrites I acknowledge that my comfortable life is built on the suffering of others without doing anything about it. Why? My sleep problems? Am I depressed? Is that why I have no energy to do anything? Do I just think nothing I could do could help? I can’t nail it down myself, maybe it’s a mix of everything, maybe I’m just a bad person. I have always told myself that if I had wealth I would help people but if I get that kind of wealth will I just become a wealth hoarder who tries to justify my riches as something I earned rather than something given to me through incredibly lucky circumstances? If I do help people is it because I’m a good person or out of guilt? Will I die alone? I feel like I drive everyone away with my clinginess, I get paranoid often and need reassurance often. It’s something I want to work on, something I’ve been trying to work on. Hearing that someone cares about me just never gets old. I value self awareness even if it’s painful.
(3.d)
Socializing:
I’m definitely a socially anxious/awkward mess, especially around strangers. I do feel a large amount of anxiety in public, people can’t tell by looking at my face since I kind of go stone faced in an attempt to block everything out but yeah you’ll notice that if we go out in public. Growing up my pediatrician said I was probably autistic, never got a formal diagnosis so that’s just great. But yeah that explains why I can’t make eye contact with people, I kinda just stare at the ground and avoid their gaze at all costs. A lot of these social struggles go away to a great degree once I know you for a bit but yeah I apologize for how terrible I am at socializing at first. Don’t let my social struggles fool you though, I love cuddling and being close with my person.
(3.e)
Sexuality:
I am a heterosexual male, though I’m not very masculine like at all. I may even be a bit feminine sometimes. Not that I believe any activity or manner of acting belongs to a gender but I don’t know how else to describe it. I’m definitely super affectionate and love it when my partner is too. I am open to dating demi people but I do have a libido so I don't think asexual would work out.
(4)
Interests:
(4.a)
Video Games:
As stated before, I do spend a lot of my time playing video games. It’s been hard lately with me having no energy but I really do want to play more games and have a good time playing them with you! I primarily play on PC though I do have a switch. I’m primarily into platform fighters, roguelikes, open world, survival, and sandbox games. As for single player story games, I enjoy watching them through twitch or youtube but for the most part I don’t play them myself. I’d watch you play them though!
Here’s a list of games we can play:
-Minecraft (Java)
-Risk of Rain 2
-Gunfire Reborn
-Roboquest
-7 Days to Die
-Phasmophobia
-Rust
-Unturned
-Bloons TD 6
-Platform fighters: Super Smash Bros. Melee, Slap City, Multiversus, Flash Party, Fraymakers
Whatever you want to play I’ll give it a shot! I will say that League bores me to death but I’ll play it for you :) I try to avoid MMOs, not because I don’t like them but because of how addicted I can get to them. I enjoy learning games in-depth so MMOs can be a fast track to addiction.
I recently got Kerbal Space Program 2 and ehhh not really worth it right now but hopefully later it will be? I’m super excited for Tears of the Kingdom! In the far off future I’m excited for Rivals of Aether 2 which is a platform fighter releasing in 2024, let me know of your most anticipated releases and I’ll see if I could play them with you!
Also I never got into FPS games but I could totally see myself playing like CoD with you or Escape From Tarkov. Any FPS really, I’m down.
I am a fan of Pokemon but with how things have been lately I don’t know how long that will last. Pixelmon is a common Pokemon mod I play for Minecraft if you want to play that! Also if I say I want to play something with you I mean it but there are often times when no matter how much I want to I'm just drained and can do little more than lay in bed so please don't think I'm making an excuse.
(4.b)
Science:
I really enjoy keeping up with the latest advances in pretty much everything, it could be biology, technology, astronomy, anything! I love seeing progression and I love talking about it! Really I could go on and on about what I’m obsessing about that day. I particularly love technology, ask me for my laptop specs I dare you. When I was little I always wanted to be a scientist of any kind but then insomnia and fear of college stuff hit me like a truck aaaand that’s the end of that dream.
(4.c)
Anime:
You got me, I like anime but I’d like to think my tastes are benign.
Here’s some of my favorites I can list from the top of my head:
- To Your Eternity
- Vinland Saga
- Spice and Wolf
- Re:Zero
- Mob Psycho
- Dr. Stone
- Attack on Titan
- Spy x Family
- My Hero Academia
- Ranking of Kings
- Demon Slayer
Okay I can go on and on but I will say I don’t like pointless fan service and the spamming of cliche anime moments. I mostly enjoy action and anything well animated if it doesn’t have a potato story. Heck Demon Slayer could be my top 3 out of season 2’s animation alone. I don’t watch slice of life often or romance but I would with you!
(4.d)
Misc:
I’m not going to go on and on about the tiniest little things when the main ones are covered but I’ll watch pretty much any show with you and anything really. I like random youtube videos that explain some kind of lore or mystery, sometimes mini documentaries too.
As for food I looove sushi and I’m a sucker for fast food. Okay and candy, definitely candy.
I used to play tennis but haven’t really had the opportunity nor friends to play it with and I’m way too socially anxious to seek it out. Also I will say that when we move to something like discord I type waaaay more casually. I’m not going to expect long paragraphs back and forth like we’re writing English papers for each other, I do enjoy long conversations but seriously don’t worry about having to put the utmost effort into every response, I just like making good first impressions I guess.
(5)
(5.a)
My Physical Characteristics:
I’m 5’8 (172cm), 128 pounds (58kg), with curly brown hair and blue eyes. I like keeping my hair long in the winter and cutting it in the summer. I’m pretty slim in general so if you’re looking for someone large, that’s not me. I don’t work out but my work is pretty physical so at least I’m not totally inactive. I don’t have the urge to work out or gain muscle but I do want to maintain my slim figure so if I start losing control of that I’ll work out. I like to keep my face shaved because I don’t think I look good with a beard/mustache so if you’re into those I apologize. I have an average amount of body hair? I’d prefer to be completely shaved but it’s easy to lose motivation with that battle, if you prefer shaved then I’d have no problem complying. Anyways here’s what I look like: https://imgur.com/a/MZZgf2t
(5.b)
My Physical Preferences:
Having physical preferences makes me feel shallow, if I could make myself not have them I would but unfortunately that’s now how that works. I don’t care if you’re shorter or taller than me and I don’t care if you weigh more or less than me. All I ask is that you’re slim-average weight. I would never ask for someone to be something I’m not. I don’t care about tattoos or piercings.**(6)Expectations of You (Relationship Only):**I am not looking for someone “exciting” or someone to “keep me on my toes” I’m not looking for someone to cater to my every whim or anything like that. I don’t care if you’re “boring” or if you aren’t “successful”. I know it’s a common thing for people to not want a “boring” relationship and to seek something argumentative or something with constant challenges but I just want to be with you. During the exciting times, the boring times, and everything in-between, all of it will be great with you! Maybe we do argue sometimes or maybe there will be challenges but that will never be something I purposefully seek out and I don’t want that to be something you seek out either. I will not play tricks on you and I will not play mind games, I expect the same from you. We all have personal measures of success we may or may not have lived up to but what I care about most is our commitment to each other. If we have each other we can get through tough times, near the ends of our lives I want us to look back and feel that this life together was worth more than anything. That’s not saying I want us to be haphazard, I don’t want us to make poor decisions for the sake of yolo and I want us to always be rational, especially with each other. I want you to be someone I can trust to make decisions and weigh the options with a level head, I’ll try my best to live up to the same for you. Most of all I want empathy, understanding, someone to feel the utmost comfort and trust in.
(7)
Living Situation:
Currently my life is pretty relaxed, I work 3 times a week as a night shift stocker. I currently live in a 2 bedroom apartment with my roommate but we’re looking to move into someplace larger by the end of the year if everything works out. The internet is weirdly great for Ohio too like I have fiber and later this year we’re supposed to be getting dedicated fiber so that’s neat. I’m not attached to Ohio so the ultimate goal living location wise is probably moving to a country that won’t send you into a lifetime of dealing with the repercussions from one medical emergency.
(8)
Deal Breakers:
Might as well make this simple and make it a list.
- Anti-vaxxers
- Unironically believing astrology
- Right wingers
- Hard drugs (occasional 420 and alcohol is fine, may even join you)
- Wanting children, there was a time when I was younger when I wanted children but with the state of the word that’s a definite no and I feel like I wouldn’t be able to handle the stress. I’d love a stress free life with as much time with you as possible.
- Homophobic
- Transphobic
- Racist
- Super Religious
- Don’t be a bigot and don’t deny facts.
(9)
Closing Remarks:
Well you made it, I was thinking that finding someone I’d be willing to put a lifetime of effort into at least required this much effort. If I think of anything more I’ll update the post. Also about timezones, it really doesn’t matter where in the world you are. I don’t have a sleep schedule and I have most of the week off from work so it really doesn’t matter.
I request that in your response you do put effort into it, it doesn’t have to be anywhere near as long as this but at least enough so I know that you read this and enough about you so I know why you saw potential compatibility. I will seriously read all of it and respond the best I can. I do also request a pic included in your response (sfw please) or one soon after we start talking to prove identity, I’ll send identity proving pics too. As long as this post is up, you can send a reply!

Brace yourselves, this is gonna be a long one.
Table of Contents
1…… The Main Goal
2…… What I’m Seeking
3…… Personality
4…… Interests
5…… Physical Characteristics (with pics)
6…… Expectations of You
7…… Living Situation
8…… Deal Breakers
9…… Closing Remarks
(1)
The Main Goal:
Well if you’re browsing this subreddit then much like me, you were alone this weekend and I’m sure you’d like to change that as much as me. I won’t lie, I am going through a rough part of my life right now. It’s difficult for me to find the energy for anything at the moment and I’m just really seeking affection in general, anything that will give me a push. I don’t want to be that person who brings everyone down but I could really use someone to talk to right now. I’d really like to find someone who’s similar to me so much to the point that we do everything together and talk about everything while not having to pretend to be interested. I want someone with whom we can mutually spew our emotions onto and have those feelings reciprocated. Not an emotional punching bag, but an emotional teddy bear to hug and cuddle until everything feels better as many times as we need. There’s people who I’m sure have told you the same, they’ll be there no matter how many times you need the support, no matter how many times the insecurities and bad thoughts come back but they don’t mean it. I will be the exception, I’m not so ignorant to think some nice words and tales of relating to you will magically forever heal whatever ails you then get mad when you seek the same support again. Mental ailments are rarely temporary and I don’t care about someone because they’re perfect, caring about someone means being there no matter how many times they need you to be. It doesn’t feel like a chore, it doesn’t get old, and it never will.
(2)
(2.a)
What I'm Seeking:
I will upfront let you know if I’m clicking better with someone else or if you’re the one, I’m not here to tread the sea of fish or keep my options open, I’m here for one singular person.
(2.b)
Relationship:
A relationship is difficult for me right now, it’s been nearly half a year since I got out of my last relationship and the reasons for it ending are partially responsible for how I’ve been feeling and why it’s so hard for me to seek the comfort I so desperately crave. I will tell you about it but for the sake of not treating the entirety of the internet as my therapist, it’ll be in private. I really need the comfort of intimacy and the warmth of someone who cares. I'm not going to feel better if I just sulk and don’t move on. This is my attempt to get better, I’ll admit I’m not great right now and I don’t expect you to be either. If we can help each other heal, then I’d be more than happy :) A relationship isn’t just being there for when someone’s at their best. Even if a relationship is hard at the moment, I do want a life partner and I don’t want to be alone. Things aren’t going to get easier without you so I don’t want to hesitate. I view my other as an equal, I don’t like categorizing us into specific roles. We take care of each other and treat each other how we like to be treated, whatever that is, it's as simple as that. I don't care if you're "successful" or not, living simple lives with our days filled with love is the ultimate measure of success to me.
(3)
Personality:
(3.a)
On the Surface:
As you can tell I can be rather… stoic but that’s largely due to my current stressors, I truthfully am goofy and fun loving but I just can’t find it in me right now. I want to return to that but without someone to light up my world it’s been difficult to just have fun and enjoy stuff. I’m definitely more introverted, you won’t catch me at any parties or really outside at all. I definitely prefer being home though the occasional outing is not out of the question and one day I’d like to travel to other countries because I think that kind of perspective is important.
(3.b)
The Core of My Being:
I like being a spectator to it all and if we bear witness to humanity burning or its miraculous recovery, I want to watch it with you. I enjoy watching humanity advance, less so when it devolves but I want to watch it to the end nonetheless. I’m both a realist and someone who lives with my head in the clouds dreaming of scenarios or worlds that don’t exist. I’m saying that I enjoy a good narrative and can suspend my disbelief to enjoy something but you won’t catch me refusing vaccines or ignoring blatant facts for the sake of some pseudo science or witch doctor’s remedy. I’m an atheist but I do not rule out existence after death, not because I’m agnostic but because due to the nature of potentially infinite time at some point after how many googol years with a googol amount of 0s after that, something’s bound to replicate your consciousness perfectly at some point. It’s actually a really fascinating topic I like talking about. If infinite time and infinite possibilities exist, does non existence exist? Though that’s an awfully existentially dreadful thought process considering the ramifications of infinite existence and infinite possibilities during said infinite existence. I would say I’m confidently left leaning and I don’t think I could truly get along with anyone right leaning, at least America’s definition of right leaning. Left and right seems to have just become; do people deserve to suffer or do they deserve to live good lives? Being political is not something I expected to become but how can you not be when crimes against human rights are being passed on a daily basis and at the end of the day, everything’s political. Oftentimes I imagine the perfect moment as relaxing with my significant other playing games or cuddling in a cold room under blankets.
I value that special someone above all of the existential thoughts, the bad of the world, the good of the world, they practically become my world. So many worries wash away when I’m with them. I don’t know if that’s the defense mechanism my brain created to not feel bad 24/7 but if it is, I’m currently without it.
(3.c)
Insecurities:
I talk of philosophy and politics here but really I spend most of my time just playing games, watching stuff, and trying to not be sleep deprived. I’m also nowhere near as well spoken, heck sometimes I feel like my speech is broken. I won’t claim to be something I’m not, I sit at home while I complain about the world doing nothing about it wishing I had someone here with me. I’m not noble nor do I really want to be, I have morals I uphold but much like most other hypocrites I acknowledge that my comfortable life is built on the suffering of others without doing anything about it. Why? My sleep problems? Am I depressed? Is that why I have no energy to do anything? Do I just think nothing I could do could help? I can’t nail it down myself, maybe it’s a mix of everything, maybe I’m just a bad person. I have always told myself that if I had wealth I would help people but if I get that kind of wealth will I just become a wealth hoarder who tries to justify my riches as something I earned rather than something given to me through incredibly lucky circumstances? If I do help people is it because I’m a good person or out of guilt? Will I die alone? I feel like I drive everyone away with my clinginess, I get paranoid often and need reassurance often. It’s something I want to work on, something I’ve been trying to work on. Hearing that someone cares about me just never gets old. I value self awareness even if it’s painful.
(3.d)
Socializing:
I’m definitely a socially anxious/awkward mess, especially around strangers. I do feel a large amount of anxiety in public, people can’t tell by looking at my face since I kind of go stone faced in an attempt to block everything out but yeah you’ll notice that if we go out in public. Growing up my pediatrician said I was probably autistic, never got a formal diagnosis so that’s just great. But yeah that explains why I can’t make eye contact with people, I kinda just stare at the ground and avoid their gaze at all costs. A lot of these social struggles go away to a great degree once I know you for a bit but yeah I apologize for how terrible I am at socializing at first. Don’t let my social struggles fool you though, I love cuddling and being close with my person.
(3.e)
Sexuality:
I am a heterosexual male, though I’m not very masculine like at all. I may even be a bit feminine sometimes. Not that I believe any activity or manner of acting belongs to a gender but I don’t know how else to describe it. I’m definitely super affectionate and love it when my partner is too. I am open to dating demi people but I do have a libido so I don't think asexual would work out.
(4)
Interests:
(4.a)
Video Games:
As stated before, I do spend a lot of my time playing video games. It’s been hard lately with me having no energy but I really do want to play more games and have a good time playing them with you! I primarily play on PC though I do have a switch. I’m primarily into platform fighters, roguelikes, open world, survival, and sandbox games. As for single player story games, I enjoy watching them through twitch or youtube but for the most part I don’t play them myself. I’d watch you play them though!
Here’s a list of games we can play:
-Minecraft (Java)
-Risk of Rain 2
-Gunfire Reborn
-Roboquest
-7 Days to Die
-Phasmophobia
-Rust
-Unturned
-Bloons TD 6
-Platform fighters: Super Smash Bros. Melee, Slap City, Multiversus, Flash Party, Fraymakers
Whatever you want to play I’ll give it a shot! I will say that League bores me to death but I’ll play it for you :) I try to avoid MMOs, not because I don’t like them but because of how addicted I can get to them. I enjoy learning games in-depth so MMOs can be a fast track to addiction.
I recently got Kerbal Space Program 2 and ehhh not really worth it right now but hopefully later it will be? I’m super excited for Tears of the Kingdom! In the far off future I’m excited for Rivals of Aether 2 which is a platform fighter releasing in 2024, let me know of your most anticipated releases and I’ll see if I could play them with you!
Also I never got into FPS games but I could totally see myself playing like CoD with you or Escape From Tarkov. Any FPS really, I’m down.
I am a fan of Pokemon but with how things have been lately I don’t know how long that will last. Pixelmon is a common Pokemon mod I play for Minecraft if you want to play that! Also if I say I want to play something with you I mean it but there are often times when no matter how much I want to I'm just drained and can do little more than lay in bed so please don't think I'm making an excuse.
(4.b)
Science:
I really enjoy keeping up with the latest advances in pretty much everything, it could be biology, technology, astronomy, anything! I love seeing progression and I love talking about it! Really I could go on and on about what I’m obsessing about that day. I particularly love technology, ask me for my laptop specs I dare you. When I was little I always wanted to be a scientist of any kind but then insomnia and fear of college stuff hit me like a truck aaaand that’s the end of that dream.
(4.c)
Anime:
You got me, I like anime but I’d like to think my tastes are benign.
Here’s some of my favorites I can list from the top of my head:
- To Your Eternity
- Vinland Saga
- Spice and Wolf
- Re:Zero
- Mob Psycho
- Dr. Stone
- Attack on Titan
- Spy x Family
- My Hero Academia
- Ranking of Kings
- Demon Slayer
Okay I can go on and on but I will say I don’t like pointless fan service and the spamming of cliche anime moments. I mostly enjoy action and anything well animated if it doesn’t have a potato story. Heck Demon Slayer could be my top 3 out of season 2’s animation alone. I don’t watch slice of life often or romance but I would with you!
(4.d)
Misc:
I’m not going to go on and on about the tiniest little things when the main ones are covered but I’ll watch pretty much any show with you and anything really. I like random youtube videos that explain some kind of lore or mystery, sometimes mini documentaries too.
As for food I looove sushi and I’m a sucker for fast food. Okay and candy, definitely candy.
I used to play tennis but haven’t really had the opportunity nor friends to play it with and I’m way too socially anxious to seek it out. Also I will say that when we move to something like discord I type waaaay more casually. I’m not going to expect long paragraphs back and forth like we’re writing English papers for each other, I do enjoy long conversations but seriously don’t worry about having to put the utmost effort into every response, I just like making good first impressions I guess.
(5)
(5.a)
My Physical Characteristics:
I’m 5’8 (172cm), 128 pounds (58kg), with curly brown hair and blue eyes. I like keeping my hair long in the winter and cutting it in the summer. I’m pretty slim in general so if you’re looking for someone large, that’s not me. I don’t work out but my work is pretty physical so at least I’m not totally inactive. I don’t have the urge to work out or gain muscle but I do want to maintain my slim figure so if I start losing control of that I’ll work out. I like to keep my face shaved because I don’t think I look good with a beard/mustache so if you’re into those I apologize. I have an average amount of body hair? I’d prefer to be completely shaved but it’s easy to lose motivation with that battle, if you prefer shaved then I’d have no problem complying. Anyways here’s what I look like: https://imgur.com/a/MZZgf2t
(5.b)
My Physical Preferences:
Having physical preferences makes me feel shallow, if I could make myself not have them I would but unfortunately that’s now how that works. I don’t care if you’re shorter or taller than me and I don’t care if you weigh more or less than me. All I ask is that you’re slim-average weight. I would never ask for someone to be something I’m not. I don’t care about tattoos or piercings.**(6)Expectations of You (Relationship Only):**I am not looking for someone “exciting” or someone to “keep me on my toes” I’m not looking for someone to cater to my every whim or anything like that. I don’t care if you’re “boring” or if you aren’t “successful”. I know it’s a common thing for people to not want a “boring” relationship and to seek something argumentative or something with constant challenges but I just want to be with you. During the exciting times, the boring times, and everything in-between, all of it will be great with you! Maybe we do argue sometimes or maybe there will be challenges but that will never be something I purposefully seek out and I don’t want that to be something you seek out either. I will not play tricks on you and I will not play mind games, I expect the same from you. We all have personal measures of success we may or may not have lived up to but what I care about most is our commitment to each other. If we have each other we can get through tough times, near the ends of our lives I want us to look back and feel that this life together was worth more than anything. That’s not saying I want us to be haphazard, I don’t want us to make poor decisions for the sake of yolo and I want us to always be rational, especially with each other. I want you to be someone I can trust to make decisions and weigh the options with a level head, I’ll try my best to live up to the same for you. Most of all I want empathy, understanding, someone to feel the utmost comfort and trust in.
(7)
Living Situation:
Currently my life is pretty relaxed, I work 3 times a week as a night shift stocker. I currently live in a 2 bedroom apartment with my roommate but we’re looking to move into someplace larger by the end of the year if everything works out. The internet is weirdly great for Ohio too like I have fiber and later this year we’re supposed to be getting dedicated fiber so that’s neat. I’m not attached to Ohio so the ultimate goal living location wise is probably moving to a country that won’t send you into a lifetime of dealing with the repercussions from one medical emergency.
(8)
Deal Breakers:
Might as well make this simple and make it a list.
- Anti-vaxxers
- Unironically believing astrology
- Right wingers
- Hard drugs (occasional 420 and alcohol is fine, may even join you)
- Wanting children, there was a time when I was younger when I wanted children but with the state of the word that’s a definite no and I feel like I wouldn’t be able to handle the stress. I’d love a stress free life with as much time with you as possible.
- Homophobic
- Transphobic
- Racist
- Super Religious
- Don’t be a bigot and don’t deny facts.
(9)
Closing Remarks:
Well you made it, I was thinking that finding someone I’d be willing to put a lifetime of effort into at least required this much effort. If I think of anything more I’ll update the post. Also about timezones, it really doesn’t matter where in the world you are. I don’t have a sleep schedule and I have most of the week off from work so it really doesn’t matter.
I request that in your response you do put effort into it, it doesn’t have to be anywhere near as long as this but at least enough so I know that you read this and enough about you so I know why you saw potential compatibility. I will seriously read all of it and respond the best I can. I do also request a pic included in your response (sfw please) or one soon after we start talking to prove identity, I’ll send identity proving pics too. As long as this post is up, you can send a reply!

This was so weird...I was in Target the other day, talking to someone on my phone. A lady approached me and handed me a note. It said she was an immigrant and needed help. I was in the middle of a conversation and caught off guard, and said I was sorry but that I didn't have any cash. She helpfully informed me I could buy something and get change at the front. So I did, I bought a pack of gum and took out $20 and gave it to her (along with the gum). She then said she really needed a blanket for her baby. I was still talking on the phone, and feeling badly for her, so I walked with her toward the baby aisle thinking I would get a $5 blanket. Instead, she veers toward the bedding aisle and picks up a $70 comforter. She proceeds to the front of the store, and I know this is nuts...I do...but I bought it for her. I have a special needs daughter, and my heart was hurting thinking about people being in need and not being able to support their families. As I'm checking out, she says she really needs some clothes and shoes. She starts calling family members to get them to tell her what they need. I just looked at her aghast and said, "this is all I'm doing." She tried several more times to coax me into buying things for her, after I had already spent $90+. Instead of feeling like I helped someone I just felt scammed. Choosing beggars are the worst and discourage the goodness in people :/ :/

Only eight models remain as they walk into The Face's Moroccan panel room. Several models have left the competition already, with the most recent exit being Juju. Also notably missing? Ann Shoket.
Atoosa and Twiggy stand before the models in a get along shirt. They're reading from a teleprompter.
"Hello, girls!" Twiggy greets them with a smile. "Ann had to run ahead to Seoul to prepare for your future briefs, so she left us in charge... Together. As equals."
Atoosa yanks against the shirt, "Yeah, as equals. Let's hear about your prizes. The winner of The Face will receive: an international modelling contract with IMG Models AND Next Model Management, a one million dollar contract with MAC cosmetics, and you will become The Face of a brand of your choice! You will also be The Face of Ann's brand Seventeen Again! Finally, you will receive a cover and spread in The Face magazine as well as a cash prize of $500,000!"
The models cheer as Atoosa and Twiggy clap together.
"Well, there's no reason to dilly-dally. There were two teams this week competing for immunity in the Marrakech markets, but who made it big?"
The numbers begin to roll as the two teams of four stand tight together with their hands clasped.
The numbers go up.
They go down.
They go round and round.
Then...
They...
Stop...
"TEAM 1!" Twiggy announces as the models cheer. "And I know you wonder why we're announcing this so early rather than leaving it as a nail biter. Well... Your team won by nearly 2 full points. Want to know why?"
Atoosa reveals the first photo, "Joan. Your photo was a showstopper this week, and most were in agreement that this was a top photo. You will get to select next week's first Korean brief and you will get to select your partner first. Congratulations, and enjoy the first class flight with the model of your choice."
The first model collects her photo with a bright smile before pointing back to her friend that she wanted on the flight with her.
Twiggy then reveals the next photo, "Jessica. You are on a roll. Congratulations on another fabulous week. It was a tight race, so I expect to see more great things from you. Such a lovely photo. You will get to choose your partner second."
The third photo is revealed, "Nadja. You continue to prove you were the correct model to bring back into the competition. You will be our final team leader. Congratulations, and we can't to see what you bring next."
The fourth photo is revealed, and one model's face immediately falls. "Expecting to round out your team? Well, unfortunately, Audrey had a stellar week. Even if there were some low shots that came from some less than savory for a host to see votes... You still rose to the top. Congratulations, Audrey. Joan chose you to fly first class with her."
Atoosa shows the fifth photo, "Daiane, people loved your photo this week. You're on the rise again, so keep up the good work... Or else."
The sixth photo is revealed as a model lets out a sigh of relief. "Isabeli, you have escaped the bottom 2 on your own merit. However, next week, please submit a photo that doesn't make people think of bowel movements. You're ticking your way up the call out order slowly but surely."
Two models remain. The bound together hosts step forward in stumbling and clumsy motions.
Atoosa clears her throat, "Two member of Team 2 stand before us. You both took a more creative route when it comes to being inspired by the market, but for the audience, it just didn't land on their surface level eyes."
She faces the first model, "Jill. This is your second bottom 2, but you've managed avoiding it since Week 1. A potential bias followed you from your other modelling competition. Now? It seems that people weren't feeling this creative take on the brief, but you've proven you're a strong model."
Twiggy faces the other model, "Rebecca, this is also not your first time in the bottom 2. However, unlike Jill, you have a first callout. You have proven that you can rise to the top. But again, people seemed to want something more literal this week, and this didn't deliver for them. Will your track records be enough to save either of you?"
Atoosa reveals the final photo.
"Rebecca. You have proven time and time again that you have earned your place in this competition. There's no more wiggle room, however. Bring your best and forget the rest. Congratulations, and we will see you in Korea."
The two models hug tight before the saved model accepts her photo and rejoins the others. Atoosa and Twiggy give the final model an awkward hug then.
"Jill, we were rooting for you! We need a plussie winner in these games, and the camera does love you," Twiggy explains. "I know Ann will be disappointed she wasn't here to say goodbye, but we all expect great things from you."
After saying goodbye to the hosts, the eliminated model goes to say goodbye to all of her friends.
As she leaves the room, she calls back to the models, "Hey! Don't worry about me! I'm sure Tilda han(g) bok for me somewhere to cast me in a movie."
With that goodbye, the models then leave to run to their flights.

My father passed away in November after a lengthy (10 year) battle with leukemia. Between working two jobs as a church music director and public school music teacher (+ freelancing on the side) and a short, yet emotionally intense relationship that recently ended, until yesterday, I felt never took the time to properly “feel” my feelings and truly process my grief.
Yesterday I did a 3.5g of “lizard man” (or so my friend tells me) and had the most emotionally raw, yet euphoric hallucinogenic experience of my life (thus far).
There were a lot of tears. I called my dad’s # to find he sadly never set up his voicemail, I “talked” to my Dad for the first time in nearly 7 months, and I just let the emotions come: from the depths of great sadness to the pinnacles of joy. After this school year, it was exactly what I needed. It was also the most visual trip I’ve ever had, perhaps because at points I completely surrendered to the shrooms and instead of letting music “guide” my thoughts (like I have in past trips) I forced myself to sit with my thoughts, emotions, and feelings in silence. Glad I did it.
I did them yesterday as an “official” launching point for my 2-month self-work journey I’m undertaking (Summer Break gives me time to actually work on myself). I plan to do another trip the day before returning to inservice in August as a bookend to my “summer.”
I’m grateful for the experience to feel emotions I’ve suppressed for months and genuinely feel I can move to the next step of the grieving process: acceptance. Mind you I’m also in therapy, practice mindfulness actively, and model healthily expressing emotions to my students — shrooms seem to be a nice compliment.
Here’s to rejuvenation!

It was made apparent during Kris Statlander's match against Nyla Rose that Taya is not happy with Kris. Pretty valid reason to. Taya does a bunch of work weakening Jade, Taya still loses, and then Kris swoops in to take all the glory. It's pretty apparent that they're building up to a feud between Taya and Kris, so it made me wonder about how people feel on the idea of Taya turning Heel?
I don't know too much about her, but being a Heel seems to be a role that fits her pretty well. Even when feuding against Jade, she was hardly what I'd call a baby face with how often she'd pick fights with Jade unprovoked, and moreover, how her reaction to losing against Jade the first time was to attempt to use the Road to Valhalla on referee Aubrey Edwards out of spite.