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TL;DR;
I lost another tech job, the second in the past 12 months, is this a normal 'right of passage' for a junior? I don't know if I'm a fuck up or if this is just a bad experience.
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I'm a junior developer. Today I had a meeting with my manager and they informed me that they would be ending my employment. This is the second dev job I've lost in the past year since getting my foot through the door (the first due to redundancy). I was surprised, they said it was due to performance issues; they accepted many stories that I had done incorrectly and didn't raise it with me because they didn't want to stress me out / I'm not contributing to meetings (a lot of the ideas I contribute get implemented and improve efficiency) / I'm not engaging in the slack channels often enough (I do but I usually get ignored).
We have monthly reviews and learning goal meetings, there are issues mentioned in these meetings but I take note of them and improve. I wasn't great at writing tests, so I improved and now I can write tests on my own, they said I'm not reaching out for help, I improved and reached out more often ect ect.
The reasons for my termination had never been mentioned before and I didn't even get a chance to improve before they decided to terminate me. I have no disciplinaries or anything negative on my HR record. In every meeting we had they said my progress is great and to keep going with how I'm improving. In our most recent meeting I asked if iI could start working on some of the backend stuff because I keep finishing the stories in my sprints 1 week in, they agreed and sounded onboard with the idea. It all felt so positive.
It's a small team, the owners are a married couple, and they hired myself and the other junior dev at the same time. They prefer him over me, not work wise but personality wise. I guess they have the same humour or similar hobbies, but they often openly praise him, I don't hear 'well done' or 'good job' directed at my work ever.
My dad works as a contractor, he said this is how the tech world is; work politics, favouritism, expectations to work crazy over time, taking work stress, tasks home and working non stop, 100% dedication, pub outings after for beer even if you don't drink alcohol.
I really do love coding, I love problem solving and I really enjoy learning, I know working in tech is more business focused and passion will only get me so far, but does this termination show that I'm unfit to be a developer?
It's also the first time in 10 years that I've ever been fired.
I worked in fashion previously, the arts are considered an unstable career path with low pay, but since getting my first tech job I've been paid pennies and have been terminated without having another role lined up, but I wonder, is it because I suck or because this is just how junior dev things are, and that things will get easier with more experience?

Recently i have been reading all these news how a 16 year old girl was stabbed and before that how a girl was cut into pieces and how people are giving it all a religion perspective love jihad and not looking at the actual concern of girls safety in delhi it's not about Hindu Muslim it's about girls living in delhi and how you should make them feel safe ! Media has created a Islam phobia in people's mind and not looking at the actual scenario in delhi! Girls can't walk alone without getting stares or being catcalled here literally every girl phases harrasment on streets,metro and in working places even at cafes sometimes and not necessarily all are Muslim ovi it's about people in general in delhi they think coming up to a girl and start talking to her like she owes you something huh? As a delhi girl i don't feel safe here and i wish to move out as soon as possible! Stop glorifying this behaviour in delhi by saying it's delhi yrr no it's not okay change yourself first and then point on others! Delhi is a rape capital that's the reality face it! I feel anxious here to a point i feel why I'm born here or I'm a girl fear is literally living inside a girl in delhi and they have to be alert every time thinking what will happen! I don't feel proud of saying I'm from Delhi anymore!

My Girlfriend of 5 years and I used to be thick as thieves, we'd spend so much time together, i'd stream games or watch movies with her and were truly in love. Back in December she got her first gaming PC which I thought would be a blessing, I thought we'd be able to play more together and she'd be able to have a much better time with me.
However, as soon as she got it our communication started getting slower, she'd tell me about her games and her friends, she'd play for upwards of 8 hours a day, with 15 hours being the most i've seen her go for, and some days she'd never even reply to my messages.
Since then, whenever we've played, she's left within 2-3 hours of us hanging out, and I'd see her immediately move to Overwatch. I can't help but feel heartbroken. We've spoken about marriage, I love her with all of my heartc but I can't help but feel she's picked this game and her new friends over me.
I made a concious effort to stop asking her to hang out with me in an attempt to get her to initiate some time together, and it worked once, and the call was only around 3 hours. I'm at a loss at what I should do at this point? Is our relationship beyond salvaging?
Every conversation somehow results in Overwatch being brought up.
ETA: Our hangout sessions went from being almost every day to once every 2-3 weeks.

The old mansion had been abandoned for years, but it still stood proudly at the top of the hill overlooking the town. People would often talk about the strange occurrences that would happen there. Some claimed to have seen lights flickering in the windows at night, while others swore they heard the sound of someone playing the piano on still evenings.
It was the talk of the town for a while, but as time passed, people forgot about the old mansion and went on with their lives. However, there was one person who couldn't stop thinking about it. His name was Jack, and he had always been fascinated by the old mansion's history.
One day, Jack decided to investigate the old mansion for himself. He made his way up the winding path to the mansion's front door and pushed it open. Inside, he found a vast empty space, covered in dust and cobwebs. The mansion was even bigger than he had imagined, and he couldn't wait to explore it.
As he walked around, he noticed that some of the old furniture had been moved. It was as if someone had been living there recently. But that couldn't be possible, could it?
Suddenly, he heard a sound coming from one of the upstairs rooms. It sounded like footsteps. Jack froze in fear, wondering who or what could be upstairs with him. Slowly, he made his way up the creaking staircase and down the long hallway.
Finally, he reached the room from where the sound had been coming. He slowly pushed the door open and gasped in shock. Inside, he saw an old man sitting at the piano, playing a hauntingly beautiful melody. The old man turned to look at Jack, and Jack saw the emptiness in his eyes. It was then that Jack realized that he had just stumbled upon a ghost.
The old mansion had been home to the old man, who had been a famous pianist in his time. When he died, his spirit remained, haunting the mansion and playing the piano that he loved so much.
Jack left the mansion, shaken but fascinated by what he had seen. From that day on, he would often visit the old mansion and listen to the ghostly music playing on the old piano. The old mansion may have been abandoned, but it was never truly empty.

I think everything that happened in the last year or so lead me to where I am rn. It all started when I meet this 25 yr old guy 2 yrs ago when I was 15. Like obviously I didn’t know what I was doing and he made me feel like he loved me so I liked him a lot back. I’ve been with him for a year untill I found out he cheated on me twice. After that I just couldn’t stop talking to older guys who were twice my age. I chat with them online, and I think I’ve meet about 7 guys irl. I’ve only had 3 sexual relationships tho. The first being my ex who I cheated on me, the second being this 40 yr old guy who I met about 8 months ago. I liked him a lot but after a few times of meeting him he totally ignored me. He tells me he’s busy with work and his son but I can’t help but feel like I was used. The third guy is the guy I’m talking to rn. He’s 30 and I’ve only meet with him twice. Every time we met he would just make me do stuff and he would leave right after. Yesterday he said he would come see me and spend the whole day with me, but he never did and he’s been ignoring me. I really liked him too he was so nice when I first met him but now he’s just been ignoring me. Ik these guys are using me but I can’t stop. I have no interest in talking to people my age. Every time I’m with someone my age all I can think about is some older guy. They keep hurting me but I can’t stop. I’m so hurt when they use me and leave, I can’t focus on anything at all. I can’t do school work, all I can do is smoke weed and get high but that doesn’t really help either. I have no interest and no goals anymore. I feel like everyone my age is having fun but I’m just miserable and I can’t stop drinking and smoking weed. I used to care about academic stuff so much now I don’t give a shit about it. I think about suicide a lot too. It’s not like I can tell someone about it either. I tried telling one of my friends a bit about it but they started judging me so much. I feel like I have no one. I don’t know what to do

Joe Diffie was an incredible artist taken from us too soon. What song would you put on the playlist?

1. George Jones - He Stopped Loving Her Today
2. George Strait - Amarillo By Morning
3. Hank Williams Jr. - Whiskey Bent And Hell Bound
4. Waylon Jennings - Are You Sure Hank Done It This Way
5. Reba McEntire - The Night That The Lights Went Out In Georgia
6. Tanya Tucker - Delta Dawn
7. The Judds - Grandpa ( Tell Me 'Bout The Good Old Days)
8. Trisha Yearwood - Walkaway Joe
9. Conway Twitty - Hello Darlin'
10. Merle Haggard - Mama Tried
11. Don Williams - Good Ole Boys Like Me

Suppose a loving relationship, being sure about it being the love of your life, not married, no kids, end of twenties. I cannot stop crying. And can you heal at all?

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This is not going to be that scary like other stories you can read here, but when it happened to me it was really really frightening. Also I apologize because it might be a little long.
So this happened a few weeks ago in the countryside at my neighbours (and friends) waterpark.
It was the second day that it opened in the season and there was only one pool in use. Like I said before, it was our neighbour's place. When we arrived (my friend with her parents and my parents and me) me and my friend (I'm going to call her Anna from now on, it's not her real name) went in the pool while our parents were at the buffet having lunch. Before I continue, I would like to mention that we are both girls and minors.
I remember seeing a group of people, about 3 or 4 guys and 2 smaller girls. I think they were siblings, but the point is, there were no adults with them. They all played and had fun together, and I remember looking at them and thinking: 'ohh it's so nice seeing the older brothers playing and having fun with their little sisters and everyone looks so happy!' (seeing love among people always makes me emotional).
As time passed, Anna and I got hungry so we went to the buffet where our families were. When we got there, we saw that same group one or two tables away from us. I was standing there, Anna sitting, and I saw them staring at us. Again, I didn't think much of it.
After lunch only Anna and her mother were in the pool. The next things didn't happen to me, and at that time I didn't realise it was happening, Anna's mother told us later. She heard the guys from that group telling one to go up to Anna. That guy was in some way mentally disabled. I really don't want to offend anyone by saying that, I don't think that a disabled person would be less than any other person. It was not their choice but it is the people's choice to bully them or think differently about them which is just so so so dumb. Anyway the other boys encouraged him to go up to Anna. She didn't notice any of this happening, and by accident, she went to her mother right before he would have gone up to her. Then they heard the encouraging guys say 'come back, her mother is here'.
Later when we were all in the pool, I kept noticing that they were always looking at us and that one guy following us everywhere. My mother went out of the pool, I was with Anna and her mom when the he came up to me and said hi. Of course, i said hello because there is nothing wrong with this. But I have severe social anxiety and I wasn't feeling very comfortable. He was staring at me so strangely... Anna saw this too and she started to feel uncomfortable too. Her mother told us what had happened before then the three of us decided to go to my dad who was not very far from us.
The guy came closer, he even followed us when there were two adults there with us. By this point we were feeling really uncomfortable so we decided to get out of the pool, my mother was outside anyway. So nothing bad could happen right? Wrong. As we were getting out of the pool, we heard the guy come after us while he shouted: 'wait for me' and 'don't leave me'. We could see my mom so we went that way. Anna started panicking, so she decided to run. And because of her, I started to run too. After it happened, of course I know that it was a bad thing to do but at that time I was so creeped out, I couldn't think normally. I took off my slippers, because i couldn't run in them. When we got to my mother, i didn't have time to explain what's happening, because I really had to go to the bathroom. I gave her my slippers and run through this grass field that unfortunately had smaller branches and rocks lying there. I wasn't wearing my glasses, so I couldn't even see what i stepped on while being chased by a shouting guy. When I got to the women's bathroom (what was completely empty), I felt so relieved. I slipped a few times because wet, muddy foot and shiny bathroom floor are not the greatest combo 😅. I went in one of the stalles. Everything was quiet. Then I started hearing this heavy breathing coming from the doors way. I knew it couldn't be a woman, because it was in such a deep voice. Like a guy who's tired from a run. Of course after the past events a thought it was him. At that moment I was thinking: 'this is it'. I knew that if he stood in the door, there would be no way for me to get out of there. I haven't felt that scared before. When I could no longer hear the heavy breathing, I slowly got out of the stall. When I went out, I could see him going in the man's restroom's way and my mother yelling at him. Apparently he wanted to get into the women's bathroom. Later my father spoke to him and after that he stopped following us (but when he passed by or when they left he was looking at us).
I don't blame him, I think it wasn't his fault, but the other boys' who encouraged him to go up to us. I'm quite sure they were just pulling a prank on him by telling him that we looked like we'd be interested in him. And honestly I don't think anything that bad would have happened if he got to us, but like I said, i have severe social anxiety and I'm a little paranoid too so the things that were happening made me feel very uncomfortable and scared.

We had to rehome a dog we rescued because she was displaying increasing aggression toward our other dog. She was good playing with friends’ dogs in our yard but just seemed like she needed to be the only dog in the house. Our older dog was pretty miserable after we got her. He loves toys but we had to take all the toys away because the younger dog had resource guarding issues. We gave it a year of loving her, training her with the help of a trainer and getting her through heart worm treatment. We finally came to the devastating decision that we needed to rehome her. We spent over 4 months finding the right home for her while my older dog lived with my parents. We found a family who would be home with her 5 out of 7 days a week and who had the time and resources to give her an amazing life. They have a social media account where they post pictures of her truly living her best life.
The new owner texted me a question about something and also mentioned that they’re starting e collar training with a trainer because they’re struggling with her prey drive when outside. I feel so sad because I’ve read a lot about the negative consequences of e collars and how it can make a dog fearful or aggressive in unintended ways. I know they truly love this dog, so I tried to gently say why we personally decided not to use one. However, I feel like the owner probably took it as me telling her to parent (which I semi-get because I might feel the same way) and she hasn’t responded.
I haven’t stopped crying for the past day thinking about her being shocked, or worse, her becoming fear aggressive and then them not wanting to keep her. She is the sweetest dog with people and I miss her every day.
I don’t know why I’m posting this but basically just hoping someone will say she will be okay with the e collar training and she won’t be hurt and hopefully won’t become very fearful 😞

I'm so godamn miserable
But I keep having really good dreams at least once a week. Fun dreams, where I have friends, or I'm reunited with people who I love who left my life
And then I wake up from these happy dreams and its almost like whiplash how miserable I feel when I realize they weren't real.
I wake up from these nice dreams and the first thing I see is my room, completely trashed and my body feeling like garbage from not caring for it. And then I remember the way things really are. I'm not close to anyone. The person I keep dreaming about isn't going to return to my life.
Do I want these dreams to stop? I am unsure. It's nicer than nightmares, but it feels like my brain is taunting me with a life I cannot have. In the dream I just woke up from, I think I was a kid in that one. And the adults were really nice to me, and I had lots of friends.

(This Is a poem I wrote from the perspective of a narcissist using someone)
Don’t think I ever did a thing for you You were just a way To make my absolution come true And this peroxide printed personality Was just the way To get into your broken mentality Take a second to reflect on everything And you’ll see that your nightmares Are your favorite dreams It’s not a side effect of love or a disease It’s just because your broken heart Is easy to please
Take a deep breath Get all that red off your face Rinse your mouth Spit it out I am the aftertaste Your mind is only ever Fixated on me But I’m done with this fling So let me free We were nothing more than A fabrication I felt nothing But you felt all this fake elation I have no sympathy I feel no remorse So kick me out Turn around Just make sure to lock the door
The only thing I love about you Is your face when I leave I haven’t changed I’m still the same You’re just my testimony I’m like propane with Too much pressure Yeah, I’m about to explode This devotion to my emotion Was never à la mode
I know you love to Worship us But that’s just because I’m such a good fictionalist But now it’s time to stop Worshiping us Because I have everything That I want
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Looking to purchase one of them, just don’t know and would like opinions. The Stingray has way more technological options then Dodge is offering, and I like the look of the car better as well. On the other hand, the Challenger is pushing 800 hp and torque w the whining supercharger which is ridiculous. The Corvette only has 500, but also weighs 1000 less lbs overall. I really enjoy speed, but when I have the chance to floor it I don’t stop @60, where the corvette is faster, but the extra 300 horses on the challenger will be right there after. I love the thrill of getting thrown back in my seat when the pedal hits the floor. What are your thoughts on the cars and your opinion?
Basically 500hp vs 800hp, but less weight and better looking

Hello, everyone!
I have recently started talking to a guy which is the opposite of the men that attract me on the emotional level. I did therapy in the past, but it seems that I’m still into men who are avoidant and cold and hard to impress and get affection from.
This guy on the other hand, is very sweet and makes time for me, which sadly, makes me cringe. The thing that turned me off completely was when he said he doesn’t want to watch a tv series he loves because he wanted to talk to me until i fell asleep. I felt as if someone is obsessing over me and suffocated. It’s weird, because I always thought I was an anxious lover since I was always afraid of being alone and was craving affection from my partners, but never truly received it. Now, I find myself being on the avoidant/disorganized attachment style and I don’t know how to navigate this.
Is giving such attention normal or is it a red flag? I feel like I don’t know what is normal anymore and I feel like totally closing myself, but I also want to grow and heal my emotional wounds so I haven’t stopped talking to him.. .
Did anyone go through something similar? Is it like a wall you have to break in order to reach real intimacy?
Thank you!

I had to stop riding clipless after I switched to Vivobarefoots for walking, my feet started growing larger with much better toe splay. I’d love to try and find a pair of clipless shoes that are shaped like a human foot and not a dress shoe. I know there are wide cycling shoes but they’re not shaped like a human foot, they’re shaped like dress shoes with the narrowest part being the toe box. I’ve seen custom made cycling shoes but they cost a few grand. Any ideas?

Ok so, after pouring hours into this class at endgame and doing pretty much every kind of activity possible , here's what i've concluded .
First let's talk about minions:
- leveling 1-30 without sac'ing minions is more throughput than sac'ing them , as long as you're the one doing the damage ( minions are purely utility ), even though they die a lot early on it is better for them to soak up damage /threat and die while you're the one dealing the damage and then resummoning them after the fight is over ( don't waste corpses rezzing them mid fights just focus on dps).
- level range 30-70 , minions become suboptimal as you dont have paragon points or enough legendary stacking to get a proper minion build going without having them dying all the time , you also start running into issues with survivability after you step in to world tier 3, highly suggest you sac them , you can keep the golem if you choose though, it is the only minion that survives decently well on its own.
- level 70+ , you are about at the point where you should have your first paragon board filled up and if you spend the time leveling the minion glyph as high as u can you will finally have minions that don't die often and deal decent damage, although all the problems are still there: janky AI , minion run speed always lag behind you , your squishiness is now the issue rather than minions, damage outside single target feels all over the place ( literally) as you cannot control what your minions are hitting which slows u down a lot more.
And please, don't use a basic builder skill while running minion builds, just use cold mages that generate essence for u and umbral you'll never run out of essence, basic skills absolutely suck (especially decompose) and should be avoided if possible.
Now let's talk about the 3 themes of necro: blood , bone and darkness.
- Blood:
While leveling blood is strong early on as blood surge actually clears packs fast and does room wide aoe which is alright, though as you level higher that early power spike slowly diminishes , even if you have the blood surge aspect and all the other aspects setup for overpower /blood it is still the least powerful build out of any of the other options sadly, the only thing that blood pushes ahead on compares to the other to is permanent fortified and sustain.
Let's quickly talk about blood lance a bit, blood lance is a skill that has been theorycrafted to have very high dps under very specific conditions but these conditions are so tedious that it is often not worth the investment as you can have better results running an easier build like bone.
Blood lance specializes in clearing 3-5 packs of mobs, anything under or over that number will make it feel like it is undertuned and underperforming.
This build relies on PURE attack speed and should be run with a fast 1H instead of 2H, with as much AS stacked, the reason being is that you have to spam as many lances within the initial blood lance spike ( 3 sec window) , preferably 8 lances in 3 secs to guarantee the overpower, as we have multiple targets (preferably in a line) we want each consecutive blood lance to pierce through every enemy that should be lanced by the 4th cast, hence every lance after that will hit all enemies simultaneously each time it passes through a lanced target, this also works on overpower as it will overpower all of them multiple times resulting is quite a lot of burst damage towards the 3rd second.
The issues with this build though is that it is a very high APM intensive playstyle that is absolute garbage on single target and against enemies higher than the recommend lance range, as too many mobs wont let u stack lances on everything fast enough. Beware of carpal tunnel running this build.
- Bone:
Bone spear specifically is the easiest/ fastest and highest dps build for necro going from level 1-80, if you play it properly with the right aspects (umbral) you'll breeze through packs of mobs with almost no downtime, personally i'd run this build without minions as the crit/vulnerable/crit damage bonuses are too good to give up.
Bone spirit build, i see a lot of people talking about trying bone spirit cause streamers mention it all the time as the best build, and although it is the best throughput build at endgame it is very inefficient running this build under a specific endgame range, at least level 90 with properly scaled glyphs/ optimized paragons and very solid modifiers on gear with optimized stats and bis legendaries ONLY then does bone spirit become the "best" build, before that it is very lacking and often frustrating to pull off as it requires a lot of setup and bone spear is often smoother to run before that optimal endgame scenario.
- Darkness:
Overall my personal favorite theme and the most underrated path for necro, let me enlighten you so that you might see through this darkness' hidden strengths.
First, i highly recommend you enable character player highlights in the gameplay option as that will make your character glow while inside darkness clouds. This will help you see where you are and what you are doing when everything else is blind.
Darkness is a hyperscaling spec that seems weak at first but becomes a monster endgame, it's true strengths lies in the paragon node and aspects which make your dots insanely powerful the longer you are in the fight.
Darkness is the "tankiest" necro build ,even though everyone thinks blood is, the reason darkness is the tankiest is due to the damage reduction gains from DoT affected targets and the glyph, 12% from nodes and 10% stacking from the glyph's bonus , if you run without minions ( which you should) pairing this with the sac bonuses from the tree gives this path the highest damage reduction.
- Sever vs blight:
At first I tried really hard to make sever work, on paper it is meant to be used at melee range for optimal damage, as you want the mob to be hit by both the inital and final "whirl" of it's aoe, you also want to target directly behind the mob so that the spectre passes through it on the way out and back , dealing damage on both instances. Only if you do this does sever gain damage equal to that of bone spear , however it is still inferior to bone spear as it has far less vulnerability uptime and crit damage scaling, even while using the tendrils aspect.
Overall i've come to the conclusion that darkness ,being a dot scaling build , doesn't suit the crit/burst playstyle that sever offers, as such i've found that blight is the better spender even without minions.
The only instance of sever i've found to be functional was in the 1-40 level range while running full minions ( cold mages not shadow), and using sever's damage increase based on number of minions.
Still though I'd say this build is weaker than the bone spear version minion build as bone spear has perma -vulnerability uptime on everything which further boost your minions damage.
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Closing thoughts ,advice and some bugs i've found while playing are :
- corpses proc'd by hewed flesh do not grant you fortify through necrotic carapace , i'm unsure whether this is a bug or intentional but i hope it is fixed to grant fortify as necro desperately need more fortify sources.
- corpses random despawn mid fight, i'm not sure if there is a max limit of # of corpses on the ground forcing newer corpses to replace older ones.
- Highly recommend using basic ability only when a specific purpose is needed for them, like reap for the guaranteed corpse for tendrils, a lot of builds do not need a spender ( especially if you're running with minions) once you acquire umbral it will solve most of your essence problems when paired with grim harvest, I see a lot of newer necros spam basics to build essence and often times over capping on it , it is a huge loss doing so.
And please for the love of whatever , stop using decompose! i cannot stress enough how bad it is, basic skills are already the weakest out of any skill we have but decompose is even worse, it forces you to stand still when you should be moving around dodging aoes etc, it only spawns a corpse AFTER 2.5 secs which is why reap is superior for corpse generation.
I feel players are blinded by the "10% minion damage" on decompose and assume its a good skill, you must know by now how random minion attacks are, they're all over the place and you cant get them to hit the same target while u decompose it. Even then you are wasting your time spamming it for minion damage when anything else you do is going to be better, having an extra skill on your bar and ditching basic skill will result in better overall performance than running decompose. It is even worse seeing people use the aspect for it , like i can't. Please do not use decompose !
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Anyway, hope this was helpful for anyone searching for some answers, please lemme know if there's anything you disagree with. :)

I know the title seems a little less dramatic then I’m feeling but I feel this is the best place for me to get honest advice. Me and my boyfriend of two years have been going through a bit of a rough time. We are both still uni students me studying Criminology and boyfriend doing a architecture so things have been difficult with finding time for each other. We have never really had problems in the past besides the normal silly bickering so it’s safe to say this is new to both of us.
I wasn’t really sure what to do so I turned to my mum and dad for advice on how to solve things and at first everything seemed fine they said relationships are hard but we will get through it. Cut to a family barbecue where my whole family are gathered at my grandparents house and I of course brought my boyfriend. No ones ever had a problem with him and in fact they seem to really like him especially my grandad who loves talking to him about fishing and football. Everyone was having fun my nephews and nieces playing and us adults having a few drinks when my mum starts talking to my aunties about my “failing relationship.” Overhearing this I took my dad aside and asked him respectful to tell mum to stop talking about my relationship. I thought i was disrespectful to be talking about this in front of my boyfriend and single him out when he’s with my whole family.
My dad just grunted and walked over to my mum. I thought that was going to be the end of the drama for today but it turns out my mum wasn’t done with ruining our day. She then called my boyfriend over and started patronising him loud enough for everyone to hear. Saying things like “your times more valuable then ours” and “I’m shocked you could make time for us little people.” Now I get that my mum is trying to defend me in her own way but doing this in front of the whole family was too much. My poor boyfriend stood there wide eyed for a second when he just came out and said “take time to fix your own marriage before you start playing Cupid with mine.”
My mum and Dad were stunned at this as their faces turned red from embarrassment. They started demanding that either they get an apology or I have to breakup with him which I can proudly say will never happen on their terms.
After about 10 minutes of my parents shouting and screaming at my boyfriend we decided it was best to leave. I’m now getting messages and calls from my parents and aunties demanding that I break up with my boyfriend.
AITA for telling them no and sticking up for my boyfriend?

He was going on and on about how kinky and freaky she is and that she was so toxic but he couldn’t stop fucking her and they kept hooking up for years afterwards because the sex was incredible. He also brags about having dated two models (she was one of them and he did not date them at the same time). They were both bisexual and he would have threesomes. While going on about how hot and great his ex was he started talking about the threesomes he’s had as well.
He had also kept all or her nudes and their sex tapes on his phone which I had discovered before we got married. He claims they’ve been erased.
This isn’t the first time he’s randomly gone on bragging about threesomes, his model ex’s, or that his ex was the best sex ever. It’s happened a couple of other times when he was drunk.
I’m just over it. I’m a very sexual person and I love to please my partner but I don’t appreciate hearing this stuff and it really ruins my self esteem. I feel like I don’t want to have sex anymore with him. I feel defeated and gross.

I finished this series Saturday. I have never loved a fantasy series so much. I think this topped Zodiac Academy for me and that has been my top series for 2 years. I am already starting to reread because I love it so much. But I do have a few questions that have been sitting with me for a few days now.

1. First and foremost: WHAT DID LORCAN DO!? (I will never be able to forgive this one. 😂)
2. I read Assassin’a blade first, but can someone explain why reading it after Heir of Fire? Why it’s so impactful? Is it because of the healing in HOF or because of preparation for Queen of Shadows?
3. I just started rereading Throne of Glass, why did Chaol as a character take such a turn after the first 2 books? I forgot how much I liked him at the beginning, but QOS Chaol. Why? Was it so that people would accept Rowan?
4. Normally I can see deaths as being impactful in a series and make sense. Fenrys’s twin was so traumatizing, but I felt made an impact. But why Gabriel? I get that he was sacrificing himself for Adeion, but I also feel like his death wasn’t necessary? Help me understand if I’m wrong, but I feel like they could’ve shut that gate without him dying.
5. Where the heck did Vaughn go?
6. Because Aelin hasn’t become a full immortal fae yet (I forget what the transition is caused), does that mean she may still regain some of her power that was lost at the end of KOA? Rowan always talked about her continuing to grow her power in the books. I was wondering if any of that magic will still grow with her, or if she’s now forever stuck with what she has.
7. Somewhat unrelated to TOG. Can someone convince me to get into ACOTAR? A long time ago I started it and got halfway through ACOMAF and stopped. I wanted to retry after the amazingness that is TOG, but I’m still having trouble getting into the story. Is there any parallels to TOG that could help me be more interested in ACOTAR? I just have a hard time connecting to the inner circle of ACOTAR. Maybe I am not giving them enough chance, but it was so easy for me to love all TOG characters.

I am sure I am missing some of my questions and I’m sorry if these have been answered many times before. I’m newer here :). If you finished my long post thank you lol. I talk too much.