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Four Wheel Drive Association of BC

2020.04.12 12:30 wildcat365 Four Wheel Drive Association of BC

The Four Wheel Drive Association of British Columbia is a registered non-profit society that advocates for Public Access to Public Land.
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2011.03.21 15:22 indiggnantuser California State University Fresno

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2015.02.22 04:31 cars on truck frames,

Pictures and videos of cars or other unique vehicles modified to be four wheel drive, that did not come from the factory that way.
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2023.03.21 00:11 RyCooder12 Thinking of doing this summer road trip. Any suggestions?

Not this summer but possibly next I’d like to do the following road trip across Canada and the US with a friend of mine. We’re both in our mid twenties. I’d be driving in a Subaru Outback with a matress in the back, as well as a tent for campgrounds. We’d have 56 days to do it and start at the beginning of July.
Let me know if there’s any changes you’d make. Looking to do a lot of hiking and sight seeing. Will stay in car & tent when possible, otherwise in motels.
Also, is there anywhere on this list where a reservation will be necessary? I know I won’t be able to get a campsite in somewhere like Yosemite Valley on the day of arrival but i’d be fine with staying at a site nearby and driving in for the day.
Here it is. Thanks in advance!
Day 1: Drive from New Brunswick Canada to Montreal
Day 2-3: Drive to Killarney Provincial Park, Ontario, stay two nights.
Day 4-5: Drive to Pukaskwa National Park, Ontario, stay two nights
Day 6: Drive to Blue Lake Provincial Park
Day 7: Drive to Regina
Day 8: Drive to Calgary
Day 9-12: Drive to Jasper, stay four nights
Day 13: Drive to Hope, BC
Day 14-17: Drive to Olympic National Park, stay four nights
Day 18-21: Drive to Mount Rainier National Park, stay four nights
Day 22: Drive to Newport OR along coast via Astoria
Day 22-23: Drive to Redwood National Park, stay two nights.
Day 24: Drive to San Fran via Coastal Highway
Day 25: Drive to San Luis Obispo via Coast
Day 26-29: Drive to Yosemite. Stay four nights.
Day 30-32: Drive to Sequoia National Park. Stay three nights.
Day 33-35: Drive to Death Valley, stay three nights.
Day 36-39: Drive to Sedona. Stay four nights. Day trip to Grand Canyon.
Day 40-41: Drive to Albuquerque, stay two nights
Day 42: Drive to Oklahoma City
Day 42-43: Drive to Petit Jean State Park, Arkansas. Stay two nights
Day 44: Drive to Nashville
Day 45-46: Drive to Gatlinburg, stay for two nights
Day 47-48: Drive to Asheville, stay for two nights
Day 49-50: Drive to Floyd via Blue Ridge Parkway. Stay two nights
Day 51-52: Drive to Shenendoah National Park. Stay two nights
Day 53-54: Drive to NYC. Stay two nights.
Day 55: Drive to Portland ME.
Day 56: Drive home to New Brunswick
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2023.03.21 00:02 colourblindgamer Need help getting my 2004 gto running again

Alright so this is going to be a long one and you may see this posted elsewhere because I'm trying to get as much feedback as possible because I'm not a car guy.
I have a 2004 Pontiac GTO that has been parked for about 4 years. Long Story short, it was parked because it had some small issues that made me uncomfortable driving it and I didn't have the time/ money/ knowledge to fix them.
So here we are 4 years later and I'm tired of seeing my baby rot so I'm fixing it come hell or high water and I'm going to have to do it myself.
Here are the issues:
Here are the things id like to do as upgrades/fixes (I'm an aesthetics person not a speed demon)
So what I'm asking for is recommendations on sites to get parts from and some good resources for figuring out this stuff myself. Also anything that the things above that i listed may lead you to think other things need to be checked or worked on. Maybe just let me know about what to do in a reply. I'll be checking these posts and responding as best I can if you need more info. I may also document me doing all this for fun to show me going from knowing next to nothing about cars to having it running on my own again. Thanks in advance and sorry for the long post.
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2023.03.21 00:01 Creepy-Cantaloupe-19 Client dependencies / T&M contract

I'm currently engaged with a challenging client, they are challenging for a number of reasons that I'll summarise below:
Context: The project is to replace a legacy software with a new SaaS system. Part of this will include driving functionality to other systems in the to be system architecture.
To date we have established a critical path with identified dependicies on the client to input by sprint. So far the client has signed an SoW committing to timelines and the associated dependicies.
However, the client is now pushing back and saying they will do this at a later time and we can pick this up in future. Our sprints capacity / velocity is based on the the inputs from thier dependencies. We have tried to front future sprint work to avoid devs stalling. Looking ahead without inputs from client dependicies we will not be able to push more forward.
Apart from reiterating the plan and letting the client know we have a resource profile attached by sprint and therefore being billed regardless of when we get inputs. This will also result in CRs down the line as the inputs were not provided in line with sprint scope.
So, for the experienced folks and those with relevant experience I'd like to understand tips/ knowledge and insights to my problem with solutions please.
I hope this gives enough context, I'm happy to provide more clarity where required.
TIA for your valuable input.
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2023.03.21 00:00 throwaway20230320 Seeking Advice On Intimacy With My Wife

I’m a 40M and my wife is 41F. We’ve been married for 11 years and have two kids, with the youngest just turning four. Ever since our youngest was born sexual intimacy seems to have become less than important to her. As in zero interest and zero thoughts about it.
We still have sex about once or two a month, but I have to initiate it 99% of the time with her only initiating after we have a discussion about how me having to make all the effort doesn’t leave me feeling desired and just feeling placated. This has probably been two or three times in the past four years.
In our discussions she mentions that she has some apprehensions about getting a UTI (I’ve told her I’m willing to clean right before or do whatever’s needed to minimize the chance of a UTI), as well as getting pregnant again (I had a vasectomy to solve this problem). I’ve tried to find the root of the issue in our conversations, but there always seems to be another reason that comes up. Apprehensions about her body, hormone imbalances, brain fog, fatigue, and apprehensions or shame about what we do have all been brought up in our discussions.
And whenever I try to help her and support her in trying to get to a place where these issues aren’t as pronounced, it seems to be taken at its worst possible meaning. She’s told me numerous times that walking on a regular basis, limiting sugar and bread, and drinking ample water reduces her brain fog and fatigue and lessens the chance of a UTI. However when I try to be an accountability partner for her, she sees it as judgment and shaming.
I’m seriously at a loss on what to do. I know her love language is words of affirmation, so I make sure to tell her and give her affirming notes. I bring home flowers unexpectedly. I’m the sole breadwinner and also help with the chores and cook every meal. She says she doesn’t want to be a slut or slutty, but I’m not asking her to be. I just want my wife to want to have sex with me. I want her to enjoy it enough to want it without prompting or negotiation.
I don’t want these feelings to grow into resentment for addressing her needs and love language and mine not being addressed. What suggestions would you have to drive home the depth of my frustrations and support her in finding a path forward on this?
I want my wife back.
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2023.03.20 23:59 colourblindgamer need help getting my 2004 gto running again.

Alright so this is going to be a long one and you may see this posted elsewhere because I'm trying to get as much feedback as possible because I'm not a car guy.
I have a 2004 Pontiac GTO that has been parked for about 4 years. Long Story short, it was parked because it had some small issues that made me uncomfortable driving it and I didn't have the time/ money/ knowledge to fix them.
So here we are 4 years later and I'm tired of seeing my baby rot so I'm fixing it come hell or high water and I'm going to have to do it myself.
Here are the issues:
Here are the things id like to do as upgrades/fixes (I'm an aesthetics person not a speed demon)
So what I'm asking for is recommendations on sites to get parts from and some good resources for figuring out this stuff myself. Also anything that the things above that i listed may lead you to think other things need to be checked or worked on. Maybe just let me know about what to do in a reply. I'll be checking these posts and responding as best I can if you need more info. I may also document me doing all this for fun to show me going from knowing next to nothing about cars to having it running on my own again. Thanks in advance and sorry for the long post.
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2023.03.20 23:59 AmbulantMilitant A Day of Oil and Misery: a TNO short story

Preface: Some days ago i had an idea for a short story about TNO and a school work came up for english to write a story and so, the brainrot was expanded. Therefore here you have it. Now, on to the real thing. Feel free to note anything and give your opinion.
Klaus Bertfled was a average young man, having majored in Economics in Dortmund, he took a position in possibly one of the greatest stock exchanges in the world, the Frankfurt Stock Market. A stressful, but well paying job, even for someone at the beggining of their career. A opportunity made possible by immense reforms and liberalization after the disaster of the Bürgerkrieg. At about 6:30 A.M, Klaus wakes up in his small apartment on the new suburbs of Frankfurt, at Zellsheim. A morning of early January 1972. On his way to work he finds his pick on the radio, one commercial news and music station, it would do just fine for the relatively boring commute. <> As he kept driving, Klaus could only think "Instability in the Middle East? Where those lazy Italians losing grip of their colonies for good? It must be something minor, although weird, it won't be of much importance to the whole world, just another war in some godforsaken place. Sad but it's just the way things are". Klaus finally got to his office and for the next couple of hours, work went on normally. Always a very busy plaza, vibrant with activity and excitement, further augmented by the new panels brought in by the good people over at Siemens who built new electronic equipment to track down every bump on the graphs and access to NetzRam which helped to materialize the miracle of German economics, there was a strange peace in it all. Midday, and it was now time for lunch break but little did anyone know at that point what had just happened. To Bertfled’s surprise, a strange thing came up, the stocks of ENI had just begun to lose value rapidly, and so were many other oil companies stocks going in the same direction. He phoned his supervisor, a stern and mean Prussian man, asking what was going on, then in one fell swoop the dream of a decade had been broken. Employees began to pick up huge stacks of papers with large letters saying SELL, and the gig was up. ENI had collapsed a few minutes before after news broke of Mattei’s death and speculators dragged the company into the abyss. Worser yet, it had been realised that it wasn’t just Oman and Yemen but that indeed the whole of the Middle East was about explode, even Egypt and Iraq were on the ropes. Hundreds of men and women in formal dress were darting from one side to the other, people screaming at the person on the phone. Klaus’s supervisor told him to try and calm everyone down but already most were swept up by the panic and chaos set in the marble and sleek interior of this grand building. <>. These and other screams rang out all across the lobby. And Klaus could only think to himself “How? How had it all come down this way? God help us all for we can’t hold it this way”. Shouting matches were growing in intensity and vigour, as he turned to the once optimistic and positive graph on the biggest screen of the plaza it now painted a rather different story, first it stumbled and fell a little but after a while, it began a rapid descent near zero. All was lost. What would become of his job and more importantly of the World? He hoped this wouldn’t set the stage for something more sinister. Calls were made to Germania to shut down the floors and freeze the banks and markets but this was refused by the stalwart old man that was Ludwig Erhard, Reichsminister for Economic Affairs. As such, all remained as it was. Now, in a smoky room of the Volkshalle, the Fuhrer and his ministers, the democratic “Gang of Four” began to discuss this new challenge, as did their counterparts in Washington D.C and Tokyo.
Guess you can never escape poverty
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2023.03.20 23:55 Mizzno [H] Games [W] Visage, A Hat in Time, Tower Unite, Mega Man 11, CODE VEIN, Offers

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2023.03.20 23:51 im_not_ready_for_it9 Detailed Kiss Ranking

I've been listening to kiss a lot lately so I thought I'd rank it.
  1. Sweetie (How the hell did this not make the standard album??? This had the potential to be a huge hit and it deserved to be. She even performed it on Shake It Up.)
  2. Tonight I'm Getting Over You (I can't even describe a more perfect dance club-type song, this song is the peak of that.)
  3. Tiny Little Bows (I've said it once and I'll say it again, Carly's openers never disappoint.)
  4. Wrong Feels So Right (I also question how this didn't make the standard album but other songs did (which will be explained later on))
  5. This Kiss (This was a single, how it didn't become a huge hit of hers surprises the hell out of me. This is a perfect example of a song that sounds like the year it was made (2012) but still sounds fresh today)
  6. More Than A Memory (I just love the way this song kicks off almost immediately after it starts)
  7. Curiosity (Also had the potential to be a huge hit of hers. I also love the bridge on this song and the key change as well.)
  8. Turn Me Up & Hurt So Good (I put these songs in the same spot because they are both two sides of the same coin to me. And both are bops with sad lyrics which I enjoy a lot.)
  9. Your Heart Is A Muscle (It's a very underrated ballad of hers. It closes the album great as well IMO)
  10. Guitar String/Wedding Ring (It's a fun dance song, nothing else much to say about it)
  11. Call Me Maybe (There's no doubt this song is nostalgic and a fun bop but it has definitely aged quite a bit.)
  12. Drive (It's also a fun song but the lyrics are kinda lackluster to me.)
  13. Good Time (Nostalgic and is a bop like Call Me Maybe but I question why she included this song on the album at all. This isn't even her song, it's Owl City's song and she was just a feature on it. It feels so out of place on the album too.)
-A million miles of empty space in between-
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2023.03.20 23:50 star_saint I'm A Little Confused

Ok so I'm in my first year of college (18 years old) and I plan to do my first two years at s community college then transfer to a four year school to complete my bachelor's degree in biology because education is expensive. Right now I have a base level plan of my path to becoming a doctor but I'm so confused about everything.
1.) Degrees: I'm on track to completing my associates degree then transferring to finish my bachelor's degree. I'm considering minoring in psychology since a social science looks nice but I don't know if I should master in something. Some people say it's a waste of time, others say it's a must to get into medical school or become a doctor.
2.) BS/MD Programs: What are they exactly? The more I search then up the more confused I get and nobody gives me a clear answer. I know they're like a program where you can complete your bachelor's degree and medical degree at the same time but when does this take place? Before or during medical school? Do I have to be enrolled in a 4 year school's pre-med program? Can I even do it if I'm transferring from a community college?
3.) Pre-Med Itself: I'm so confused on what it is really. Is it an actual program you have to join in school? Is it a club? Is it just a title for what you're majoring in?
4.) Exams: How do I study for things like the MCATs, the exams you take to get into the next year, the exams for an internship, the exams for residency? When should I start studying? Is it hard? I know it's long but how much material does it really cover?
5.) Mentorship: I heard that do match well into a residency and to help with a lot of your medical career you need to have a good mentor. I'm assuming it's like an academic advisor but for medical students so how do I find one? How do I know which one works for me?
6.) Finances: Medical school is practically your full time job and majority of people don't recommend holding a job during that time which sounds like a reasonable idea but um how do I live then? How do I support myself financially if I can't make money? Is there financial aid in med school? Is it even enough?
7.) Residency: The clearest picture of residency I have in my mind is basically how they choose sorority members. How do I increase my chances of matching into my residency? What research programs do I have to apply for? What happens when I don't match at all?
The entire journey into a medical profession feels like an onion that I'm constantly peeling and crying because I'm finding out just how stupid I am. It feels like everybody around me knows what tf they're doing and I'm just playing dress up. I'm too scared to ask for help because then people are going to see just how unqualified I am. If I'm freaking out over it, I feel stupid because "omg, I never freaked out during my premed/med journey. If you're freaking out you're not made for it." And if I'm not freaking out I feel even more stupid because "omg you don't know what ABC means and how it applies to XYZ? You're not prepared at all." I'm scared, I'm terrified, have no idea what I'm doing and feel like I'm alone because everyone is so far ahead. I feel like I'm instantly a bad candidate because I'm freaking out so bad right now. I don't want to give up on my dream of becoming a doctor because I literally molded my entire life around the idea so if I don't become one I'm pretty much nothing and might resort to wasting away in shame and poverty. I didn't even want to ask this subreddit for help because I'm worried about how random ass strangers on the internet are going to see me as weak prey and not even competition in their fight for their careers. I just need someone to answer my questions and tell me it will get better and I'm not completely pathetic because I'm freaking out here man.
TL;DR: I don't know what I'm doing and I need help. If anyone can answer the numbered questions to the best of their ability that will be greatly appreciated.
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2023.03.20 23:47 tapptowin Lessons? Finding a qualified teacher outside of golf tech, golf galaxy etc…

Backstory, I am 13.9 handicap looking to break into single digit numbers this season. I think I’m at the point regular range sessions, playing regularly will not help me kick some bad habits/routines I need to be a single digit golfer. Outside of being a member of a course, what are some ways you guys have found reputable teachers who work with your current swing instead of reinventing the wheel.
For context I had a 3 lesson deal at a golf tech near where I just moved from. The donut was probably 22 years old, wasn’t a certified pga club professional and was probably playing off a 12 themselves. I don’t need Rory to show me how to play, but my playing partners range from +4 - 2 handicaps and I’m just looking for someone who knows their ass from their pitching wedge and will devote 4 - 5, 30 minute - 1 hour sessions to me and my current swing. I don’t think I need to relearn how to swing the club, especially in this day and age.
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2023.03.20 23:43 fganniversaries Fighting Game Anniversaries: Week 12 (March 20 - March 26)

Hey y'all, this is fganniversaries again. Like last week, I will be recapping anniversaries relating to fighting game announcements/releases this week. Like always, if I missed one, do please let me know in the comments. Here would be the following anniversaries:
March 20
March 21
March 22
March 23
March 24
March 25
March 26
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2023.03.20 23:41 fganniversaries Fighting Game Anniversaries: Week 12 (March 20 - March 26)

Hey y'all, this is fganniversaries again. Like last week, I will be recapping anniversaries relating to fighting game announcements/releases this week. Like always, if I missed one, do please let me know in the comments. Here would be the following anniversaries:
March 20
March 21
March 22
March 23
March 24
March 25
March 26
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2023.03.20 23:35 Blouheme [College english literature ] Hello I have an essay due on the chapter 4 The picture of Dorian gray soon and I wanted to show y’all my first draft to have some opinion on it, also I’m not quite sure about my outline so if someone has something better I will gladly take it thank you

« This excerpt from chapter IV from The Picture of Dorian Gray by Oscar Wilde (1891) takes place right after a meeting between Dorian Gray and Lord Henry where Dorian’s shares the news of his love for an actress named Sibyl Vane.Chapter IV introduces a key moment in the development of Dorian's personality through the eyes of the enigmatic and morally ambiguous character of Lord Henry. In this extract it’s Lord Henry that really shines as the main focus. As we delve deeper into the intricacies of this extract, it becomes evident that Lord Henry himself succumbs to seduction. However, this seduction does not stem from another person, but rather from the intriguing possibility of having a profound influence on the impressionable Dorian Gray. In this essay, I will argue that Lord Henry's fascination with affecting Dorian's life ultimately leads to his own ensnarement. To support this argument, I will examine Lord Henry's way of creating a new Dorian’s, his motivations on doing so and the aftermath of this decision. Through this analysis, we will uncover the layers that make up the complex character of Lord Henry and explore the broader themes of seduction and influence in "The Picture of Dorian Gray."
Lord Henry's fascination with manipulating Dorian's life serves as a central theme in this extract of chapter four of The Picture of Dorian Gray. Oscar Wilde masterfully depicts the gradual descent of Lord Henry as he succumbs to the allure of controlling and shaping Dorian's character by using vivid various figures of speech to create imagery that at last convey’s the characters' emotions.The passage is build upon the use of dialogues, both external with the use of a free direct speech , which conveys Lord Henry’s views on Basil and artists in general and an internal one written in an free indirect one which mainly focus on Human nature and Dorian. These two different dialogues works in a similar way Lord Henry start with a clear subject in mind, who he refers to affectionately,for Basil it’s << my dear boy>> l.10 and for Dorian’s it’s <> l.23, this way of reffering to both of his friends are quite akin to eachother yet it reveal something important about the dynamic of the relation between the three of them. Lord Henry sees Basil as a boy wich even with the best intention in mind still connotes to the idea that Basil is not quiet man yet as he lacks something.Those shortcomings are accentuated by the rest of Lord Henry’s external dialogue. The use of the adjective <> can also be viewed in two ways, first a genuine mark of affection or as a way for Lord Henry to mimick Dorian, thus creating a sense of closeness and understanding of each other feelings .In contrario Lord Henry’s way of referring to Dorian connotes a feeling of youthfulness and only implying that Dorian still is in a state of constant growth and changes. Moreover using Lord Henry speech as the main driving force of the extract emphesize the fact the fact that throughout the novel, Lord Henry is portrayed as a character who is incredibly charming and persuasive. He has a way with words that allows him to influence those around him, including the protagonist, Dorian Gray. However, in this chapter, we see Lord Henry give into temptation himself. In Chapter four of "The Picture of Dorian Gray," Lord Henry's motivations are primarily driven by his desire for influence and control, especially over Dorian Gray. He is intrigued by Dorian's beauty and naivete and sees the young man as a potential subject for his philosophical experiments. He aims to shape Dorian's thoughts and actions, instilling in him his own hedonistic beliefs and encouraging him to indulge in a life of pleasure and aesthetic experiences. Through Dorian, Lord Henry seeks to vicariously live out his own beliefs and prove the validity of his ideas. His motivations are also driven by his own innate curiosity and a love for manipulation, as he enjoys the intellectual challenge and power dynamics involved in shaping another person's life.
It is important to mention that as their relationship develops, Lord Henry becomes increasingly closer to Dorian, positioning himself as a stark contrast to Basil, the painter of Dorian's portrait. While Basil represents moral guidance and genuine concern for Dorian's well-being, Lord Henry embodies temptation. In this extract, the dynamic between Dorian, Lord Henry, and Basil undergoes a significant shift While Basil once played an essential role in Dorian's life through their shared artistic passions, basil finds himself being pushed to the sidelines by Dorian himself who, qualifies Basil of a Philistine, a person who is hostile or indifferent to culture and the arts thus implying that Basil would never be able to fully understand himand guide him, leaving only Lord Henry to fill this role of a mentor for Dorian. Despite his deep affection for Dorian and the investment he has made in the young man's portrait, Basil struggles to maintain his influence over Dorian. Thus creating an opportunity for Lord Henry. »
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2023.03.20 23:33 Uptowner26 I Need to Get Away from My Narc Parent's for Good. Advice & Support Needed

A few years ago I moved back in with my narc parents after living on my own in NYC for about 5 years. I had a job (it only paid about $30k, which isn't really enough to live there honestly, friends and a boyfriend) My former boyfriend breaking up with me sent me into a depressive spiral and my father's conditioning that I couldn't make it in the adult world and that it is a scary, dangerous and unforgiving place (especially New York where my dad would tell news stories about crimes and terrorist attack attempts every chance he got) sent me packing back to their house in the burbs in a very regretful move back with them. I think it brought up other childhood traumas like being emotionally abandoned and rejected but that's something for a good therapist and I to work on.
I'm ashamed to say I've been stuck with them for about 5 years now with unsuccessful attempts to get financially free and break free for good..... way longer than I should. Possibly getting cPTSD working at an incredibly toxic job didn't help which put me into a sort of depressive freeze mode I would like to get out of also. I realized though in the past few months due to my father's antics getting worse and worse and realizing my mother has been enabling him all along, especially after he was speeding, lost control going around a cruve and drove into opposing lanes nearly having a head on collision with another car during a heavy rainstorm - with all of us in the car coming home from a restaurant. I suggested to her to take his keys away and she replied: "Well, he's very hard to talk to. What am I supposed to say?" She still drives with him but after that I refused to if he's behind the wheel again. There's other kinds of chaos he does/ narcs do which makes us miserable. I need to get a job and get out of here for good. For myself, my future and my sanity. In addition to getting into therapy whenever I can finally afford it.
My long term goal is to travel the world and possibly teach English. But right now I need to get my money together since financial freedom is the only way to break free from them beside going no contact.
Something holding me back though is the fear of falling into the hands of another narc boss and thinking what if this happens or I run out of money and become homeless? Or even just practically what do I say about my resume gap, recognize a good workplace and not let bieng nervous/ anxious on interviews? (I used to actually look forward to them but now I dread them) I think these 'what ifs" are my father's fear mongering propoganda about the "big bad scary real world" though which I know is BS but it's still holding me back from appying to jobs and just getting out of here.
How can I overcome this feeling of being hopelessly stuck with them forever and get going? Or if other people here experienced this how'd you overcome it? It's especially difficult since narc parents don't support us becoming independent adults, don't teach us skills or even sabotage us trying to move out.
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2023.03.20 23:31 ccrowww AITA for getting mad at my partner for choosing their dog over me?

My (21M) boyfriend (23M) and I have been together for little over a year, we met through a mutual friend at a party for my best friends birthday. We live in separate states so we don’t get to see each other often, since the drive is a little over four hours and we both work full time (40+ hours a week) Well this past week my best friend had a bachelors party in a town over from my boyfriends and I was invited since it landed on the days I had off for that week. Me and my boyfriend, let’s call him Alex, had made plans to see each other the following day since I would be in town and it was his day off as well. So on the day of my friends party I get a text from Alex saying he had to push our date out later in the day since his dog had a vets appointment. No problem. so we planned for later in the day. The next day (the day we had planned our date) rolls around and he’s ghosted me the whole day, I call him twice and he doesn’t pick up. After about an hour of waiting I let him know I was driving back to my state and still no answer. I made the four hours back and still nothing. The following morning I get a text saying “I’m sorry I didn’t answer, my dog was pretty sick so we ended up just staying home the whole day.” I was pretty upset because where our schedules are so tight I won’t be back in his state until my friend wedding in late August. I ended up just not responding to him and now his roommates are calling me an asshole for not responding to him. My friends, naturally are on my side, saying he could have at least messaged me that day explaining the situation. So AITA?
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2023.03.20 23:26 Weekly_Software_4049 New tech needs some guidance, did my roommate get ripped off or did I just miss something?

I am a ford tech (green, less than a year) and my roommate’s honda civic had a rotational noise in the front at speeds of 28mph and 56mph. I took it to work instead of my own car and looked it over on my break. Took some hard turns at the speeds it made noise to give me an idea of whether or not it might be a wheel bearing, the noise didn’t change turning left or right. I lifted the car and gave the wheel a pretty hearty wiggle and couldn’t get any movement on any axis. Had the car running in the air with our lube tech inside and had him take the car to 28mph and put my stethoscope to the hub and both sides sounded the same, trans was noisy but I have no idea what a honda trans would typically sound like. I had him take it in to a nearby honda dealership because I wasn’t going to do any more digging for free. They replaced the right front wheel bearing and my roommate was told by the writer that the tech didn’t even need to drive it because the wheel was very loose when he lifted it and gave it a wiggle. There was only about 20 miles difference on the car between when I looked at it and they got to it. I noticed they also did a trans service with a note that the level was significantly overfilled on arrival.
Is it possible that the overfilled transmission was causing the noise, suggesting the wheel bearing wasn’t needed? I’ve correctly diagnosed at least a dozen wheel bearings by now and can’t imagine this snuck by me but I have not done much transmission work and never touched a transaxle like his honda has. More concerned that I could have/would have misdiagnosed the car than my buddy got ripped off, he has an aftermarket warranty and only paid a small copay.
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2023.03.20 23:23 lucader881 Isekai of the Ultimate Ritualist - Chapter 44

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There, beyond the mighty door, another world opened before their eyes. It was a world of cog and wheels, of halogen lights and of steam, where pistons and brass pipes were a part of the architecture just as much as stone or brick, if not more. The floors were uneven plates of rusted, corrugated metal worn down by the centuries and corroded by humidity, and the lights embedded in the walls were faint and strained to keep shining, their light also a hum that filled the spaces with noise. There was a gash in the ceiling, a wide aperture from where a ray of white moonlight shone in an inner garden that was overgrown and overrun by nature, reclaiming that space and other spaces with its green growths. For in fact, moss and lichen spread from there like an advancing tide, following the trail of humidity and feeding off the light and heat of the incandescent lights.
“It doesn’t lead to the surface.” Ishrin observed, looking at the ceiling and through the hole.
“Perhaps there is a hidden passage.” Lisette offered her explanation.
“Or maybe it’s just weird and strange like the rest of this place. Am I the only one?” Melina asked.
“You are not.” Lisette stated.
At times the lights flickered, the power that kept them running surging and then stabilizing again, and their hum was a scream, and the scream was agony of a place that was dying a slow death through the centuries. The door far behind them, ajar one second ago, slammed itself shut and the sound echoed.
“This place gives me the creeps,” Melina said. “It feels like everything is moving, beneath the surface.”
“I do have the same sensation.” Lisette said. “But we need to press on.”
Ishrin cocked his head. “Her bracers are on the line. Come on!”
Melina groaned. “Fine. Still creepy tho.”
Indeed, little sounds, groans and hisses of the pipes, strains of metal and mechanism seemed to come from all around. While what they could see was all perfectly still, the noises betrayed that somewhere below the apparent peaceful façade, things were alive and moving, and perhaps watching them with unknown means. Sir Westys’ and his team were walking cautiously now, their pride long forgotten, squeezed between Melina at the front and Lisette at the rear for more protection. They listened to the stronger adventurers’ conversations with a mixture of irritation – this was the case for Sir Westys – and envy at the much more relaxed attitude that only being a seasoned veteran could ever give them. This wasn’t to say that Ishrin and his team were being careless.
There were many things that could hurt them in the world. In fact, even though his coming to Noctis was relatively smooth, Ishrin learned very quickly on his adventures that the world was much more dangerous than it seemed. The mountain realm, for instance. That completely erased his sense of power he gained when he slew the Sycoraptor in the forest where he also met Lisette. And while encounters like that of Lucius in Obscuria still told the tale of a world where the true powerful people were rare in cities and whatnot, places like this revealed the other side of the coin: that dangers and powers beyond reckoning still dwelled beneath the surface, and one needed only look for them in the right places. Very much like his old world of Eternia. Except that here, he theorized, there was the guild. And what the guild did was maintain order and the apparent status quo in the cities and in the countryside around them, or more in general it kept order where order was needed for business to flourish, while confining danger to be only outside its sphere of protection.
Melina too was suddenly thrust in what seemed like a whole different world than what she was used to live in, where danger was everywhere and even her Tier 15 – that once she thought as being powerful with a power unobtainable by any but the luckiest – was just average.
The rooms were many. Ishrin led the way, at times stopping to check with his teammates, at other times to take in his surroundings. He had made another water compass and was holding it himself, letting it float next to him with a bit of effort using his telekinetic powers.
There was no magic here. The air was not devoid of it, but its presence in the air was no more than the usual suffused glow of ambient magic, and none of the walls or things that cluttered the corridor and rooms had any magic inside of them. This made Ishrin feel blind, in a different way than he did in the mountain realm where he was blinded by too much magic, more like he was in the absolute dark, with only a faint glow that was light, yes, but didn’t reveal anything, not even shapes. Of course, he still had his normal vision, but used as he was to having both senses at the same time, he felt extremely uncomfortable.
Not all was bad. The reactive armor, surrounding him but invisible, was charging and this made him feel like he was finally investing his overflowing mana into something for a later use. Beside him Liù was having a great time exploring the place, touching the little brass chandeliers with small halogen candles, examining the many copper and iron cogs on the floor, fallen from damaged pipes on the ceiling, and sometimes she even snuck into said pipes where they were large enough, only to then have to be cut free when she got stuck.
Everything was covered in grime. The greasy, dark fatty substance used to lubricate mechanisms and that was now mixed with dust, and plant matter. Footsteps echoed wetly.
From the distance, faint at the beginning but ever more present in the consciousness of the seven adventurers, a rhythmic clang of metal against metal reverberated through the corridors. Nobody could pinpoint where it was coming from, beyond the feeling that it was coming from deeper in the underground complex, for the sound traveled through the pipes and the hidden hatches in the walls, the service tunnels and the air vents, coming to them as a cloud of slightly delayed sounds from all directions.
An open space. The ceiling rose immediately after they crossed the threshold of a great gate that stood ajar, as if blasted out of its hinges, until it reached so high up that vapor and cooled down steam began to hide some of its features. Inside the fog were, like little searchlights, points of brightness that spread and diffused through the thick air until an orange hue was ever present up there. Below, the floor was uneven stone, cracked and wet, with moss and small ferns poking out of the cracks. Sometimes metal plates that were bolted to the stone were still visible under the vegetation, reflecting the cyan light that came from the far end of the room. There, three circular openings were faintly visible through the mists, and there was a strong light coming from behind them, and in that light the silhouette of three great machines could be seen. Great automata they were, with circular bodies and long, prehensile arms, and their heads were large squares that were dull and dark.
Until, suddenly, they weren’t. Deep, red and foreboding lights came to life like sinister eyes as a screech of grinding metal and awakening old mechanical pieces pierced the air and deafened the adventurers. Everyone almost jumped to their feet, not even having had enough time to take three steps into the room before they were shaken out of their contemplation by the sudden sound. Not everyone reacted the same. Ishrin took in the room he was in, immediately spotting the three now moving figures who were dragging themselves free from the alcoves they were in. The shadows they projected through the misty air were deep chasms of darkness, and the three circles where they once stood immobile revealed a path beyond, that was unreachable.
Melina and Lisette both panicked. In the commotion they lost sight of Sir Westys and his party, the four boys having seemingly vanished into the fog. There were shapes and shadows moving in the distance, but they were faint, and far, and it was impossible to tell if it was them or just the many reflections of the shiny and wet, greasy metal that played with their senses, with their perception. Their panic didn’t last long however, and they both showed their competence and experience, their focus homing in laser-like on the enemies ahead.
The central automaton was closest. Its size was the smallest of the three, but even then it stood at more than four times as tall as Ishrin, and with only the sound of the metal groaning and the hiss of pneumatics, it raised one of its many limbs of welded plates up in the air and slammed down. Immediately the limb hit a field of invisible telekinetic force and was pushed to the side, but it didn’t happen with the ease that everyone was expecting it to happen. In fact, Ishrin had to kneel on the ground and his knee had dug deep into the rock, cracking it and leaving a deep dent when he, slowly, pushed himself back to his feet. He strained.
“Battle formation!” Ishrin yelled, immediately jumping to the side to dodge another incoming arm. The other two automata were each converging towards one of the two girls, and they were bigger, although slower and with less appendages.
Two grunts of strain and effort told him all that he needed to know. In a matter of milliseconds, the battle was on. Sparks raged from his right side, where Lisette dashed towards the metal construct with her blades unsheathed, and was slashing at it while dancing around its body, climbing on it, dodging the prehensile limbs that uselessly slammed into the ground and broke unseen pipes that began to spew gases in the air. She searched for gaps, weak spots where she could plunge her blades and sever vital parts of the grand machine of animated metal.
On his right, the bright flashes of magical green, tinted with a little hint of white and slight blue he had never seen before, were the sign that Melina too was engaging with her enemy.
This made him relax enough to allow him to focus on his own opponent. Liù was also orbiting him like a small sentry, deploying small faint lasers that mapped the structure of the automaton, until they focused on a particular point at the end of one of its limbs.
Danger :o
Ishrin jumped to the side, slightly diverting the giant arm, and firing a Magic Pebble with his sword at it. The projectile hit the metal and dug into it, melting it and leaving behind a circular hole roughly the size of a fist, red with heat and hissing. But the damage was minimal, for it only hit plate and not vital moving parts. As he dodged, he tried to see what Liù was highlighting for him, and he noticed the multicolored scattering of the light, the hue of a crystal he recognized. He had seen it last in Obscuria, tipping an arrowhead that was capable of penetrating Tier 13 defenses with ease.
“Careful—” he tried to warn his teammates but had to dash again and ended his sentence with a grunt.
From the other side of the room, through the clang of metal, he saw a glimpse of Lisette weaving around a similar crystal, coating a long flexible sword at the end of one of her automaton’s limb. From behind instead came the wild rush of wind of Melina’s magic, and a strained yell.
“Noticed! They have crystal blades!” she yelled when she had a small window of rest, before disappearing again in a flash of verdant energy to dash at her opponent.
Ishrin’s automaton was different than theirs. It shifted, and its limbs reorganized and changed until they morphed into different weapons: hammers, flexible swords, whips. And all these weapons were coated with the same crystal, the same dangerous substance that could hurt him somehow.
Suddenly a bright red light was in front of his eyes. He had gotten distracted, but Liù was ever watchful and had highlighted the vector of impact of the automaton’s flexible sword as it descended upon him with a red hologram, and there were ghostly images of him dodging and reposting to the attack, simulating what he could do to counter it. He grinned, taking a stance and exploding out with the full strength of his Tier 11 power, and he used telekinesis to push himself against the ground and change course mid-air until he landed right where one of the thing’s limbs were attached to its body. Before the automaton could react, he blasted the joint with Pebble after Pebble and then jumped away. With the joint weakened, he pulled at it from afar and yanked it free, and it came loose in a shower of black ooze that sizzled and smoked where it hit the ground.
The recoil sent him sprawling on his back. Even though Liù was there to catch him, he still ended up on the ground, feeling the wet of the stone and the odd warmth of a gas leak on his back. His pupils widened, and his mind raced. A giant crystal-coated hammer was descending upon him. His heart sped up. This was a slip-up. And almost fatal one. He could not get out in time.
The hammer hit, and for a moment there was silence. It was like even the other fights were momentarily suspended, as if both the automata and the girls were watching with their breath stuck in their throat was had happened to Ishrin. There was a small cloud of dust that had risen where the hammer had pulverized the stone, and sent Ishrin’s body several layers of pipes and service tunnels below the surface.
The hammer slowly came loose. The crystal on its surface was cracked.
A blue light. The small holographic body of Liù, surrounding her real indestructible body that was the SPAWN AI cube, flew out and up to the ceiling as if running away from something.
The dust slowly settled around the crater. There was only the sound of hissing vapor and dripping water.
Everything was still.
Lisette and Melina held their breath. Time ticked and ticked. Nothing was coming out of the hole.
The girls could see that Ishrin’s opponent was now turning against them, to team up with the other automata and finally tip the scales of the battle.
A single thought on their mind.
“We will fight until the end. Even if we die.”
Resolve in their eyes, they prepared for their last battle.
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2023.03.20 23:17 CMHammer1996 Conflicted on whether to submit smoking charge

Host here. Need input on what other hosts have done in this situation. To set the scenario, I had a 3 day rental that just got back. Bouncie tracker data was giving me constant alerts of vehicle abuse and extreme driving, and the renter went excessively over the mileage. They also “lost” one of my window rain guards, presumably it came off from their excessive speeding. All that being said, it was not the smoothest rental. Admittedly the car did come back in good shape cosmetically (except for pet hair inside, different story).
Renter did admit to being a smoker but promised they wouldn’t in the car. After getting it back the first thing I noticed was a definite SLIGHT cigarette smell. Not as strong as I’ve had with past rentals, but 100% there. I looked and there were in fact a small amount of ash crumbs under the seat and on top of the steering wheel column. My reason for posting is about 18 hours later the smell is mostly gone, and I’m wondering if the ash/ smell could have come from the persons clothes after climbing back in the car from a smoke. And that could explain the smell. I don’t ever want to file a false claim, and honestly in this scenario I probably wouldn’t even consider filing a claim about the slight smoke smell if all the other issues hadn’t of happened.
To recap:
  1. slight smoke smell, mostly gone 18 hours later
  2. 100% unmistakable presence of ashes under seat and on steering wheel column.
  3. pet hair in front seats
  4. un-full fuel tank at return
  5. felony level driving infractions recorded during trip
  6. went over trip mileage
  7. lost a rain guard from my car
Would you guys pursue a smoking fee in this scenario, all things considered?
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2023.03.20 23:15 Weekly_Software_4049 Did my roommate get ripped off or am I missing something?

I am a ford tech (green, less than a year) and my roommate’s honda civic had a rotational noise in the front at speeds of 28mph and 56mph. I took it to work instead of my own car and looked it over on my break. Took some hard turns at the speeds it made noise to give me an idea of whether or not it might be a wheel bearing, the noise didn’t change turning left or right. I lifted the car and gave the wheel a pretty hearty wiggle and couldn’t get any movement on any axis. Had the car running in the air with our lube tech inside and had him take the car to 28mph and put my stethoscope to the hub and both sides sounded the same, trans was noisy but I have no idea what a honda trans would typically sound like. I had him take it in to a nearby honda dealership because I wasn’t going to do any more digging for free. They replaced the right front wheel bearing and my roommate was told by the writer that the tech didn’t even need to drive it because the wheel was very loose when he lifted it and gave it a wiggle. There was only about 20 miles difference on the car between when I looked at it and they got to it. I noticed they also did a trans service with a note that the level was significantly overfilled on arrival.
Is it possible that the overfilled transmission was causing the noise? I’ve correctly diagnosed at least a dozen wheel bearings by now and can’t imagine this snuck by me but I have not done much transmission work and never touched a transaxle like his honda has.
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2023.03.20 23:13 smalltownbarista Advice for new grad student: loans and budgeting in general

Hi everyone! Long time lurker, but I thought I would try my hand and ask for some advice here. I’m about to graduate from college (F22) and I’m heading to grad school in NYC. My biggest questions are:
Am I setting myself up for success, total failure, or somewhere in between? How much in student loans should I take out, and what should my plan for the future be with them? What’s a good general budget, and what am I forgetting?
Some caveats: assume I’ll be net-zero from now until this summer, and starting in this place come September 1.
Currently: I have about $18k in savings. I work a part-time job that will be ending in May. I take home about $800/month, and can make up to $500 a month with side gigs (although it’s usually less). I’m not planning on getting a job this next year so I can focus on school, and will only be making income from side gigs, which maybe average $200 a month if I’m hustling a lot.
Expenses: I’m lucky enough to have recieved a full tuition scholarship for my program (which is three years long), so my main cost is housing. Luckily, my program offers below-market university housing, which I’m planning on applying for.
My options are a studio apartment for around $1,500 or a one-bedroom for $2100. They come fully furnished and include all utilities except cable (which I don’t need) and phone (I’m still on my parents’ plan). I’d prefer the one-bedroom, since I plan on having lots of visitors and would like some more space after living in a dorm room for four years, but I’m not sure if it’s worth it, financially. They also have a limited number of one-bedrooms, so there’s a chance I wouldn’t get one and would be placed in a studio anyways.
I technically have $2500 in student loans from undergrad, but my parents are either going to pay for it or wait for it to be forgiven. Other than that, there is no debt to my name. I pay of my credit cards in full every month and have a credit score in the mid-700s.
I have a Roth IRA with almost $8k in it (I maxxed it out last year but haven’t yet this year. Do you think I should max it out with funds from my savings, or not?). I try to put in $20 a month just to add a little in. I also have an individual brokerage account with $400 in it that I’m trying to sit on, and I add a little bit to it ($25/quarterly) from time to time, but I don’t really know what I’m doing. Happy to take any advice here. I don’t have any 401(k)s or anything else.
Other expenses: Food: How much should I budget a month? I’m planning on cooking for myself, maybe going out or ordering takeout a few times a month. Living in Manhattan so I know it’s expensive…
Health insurance: I’m on my parents’ health insurance still, but it has a high deductible so any expenses of mine are essentially full price. I’m physically pretty healthy, but am medicated for depression and ideally would like to see a therapist every week or every other week. My parents split that cost with me right now, so it costs me about $30/visit. How much should I budget for general medical costs, knowing my parents would help me out if it was something serious/we usually hit our deductible halfway through the year?
Recreation: What’s a “normal” amount to budget for recreation? Is $500 a month crazy? I like going to bars/clubs, would love to see some Broadway shows, etc…
Other: What am I totally forgetting to include?
Thank you all for your help!
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2023.03.20 23:12 Loud-Supermarket1707 My mom abused me and I want to forgive her so badly, but I don’t think she’s sorry

I never know how to start this stuff, I haven’t told a single person everything that my mom has done to me because I’ll mention something that didn’t even bother me that much and people are floored for a few minutes and it derails the conversation and makes me think the heavy stuff is just too heavy to tell people. So TW. All the kinds of abuse.
I don’t know when the physical abuse started, but some of my earliest memories are of me being told by my mom that she hated being a mother, that we were the worst kids to be stuck with, how she wished she could drop me off on the side of the road but unfortunately I look too much like her. My sister (3 years older, same month) got some of it, but WAY less. My mom would tell us to call her by her name, not mom. She would have us load our belongings into garbage bags and ‘throw it away’ until we cried and begged at her feet and she decided we deserved it.
We were various levels of homeless my whole life. Borrowed tent by a river in the winter, stolen 5th wheel trailer caked in mold, couch hopping at relatives’ homes.
She ignored obvious signed of SA by her stepdad when I was two, despite telling me a story that made everyone suspicious. The same year of the story, it came out that he assaulted a slightly older relative. Their story was believed, no problem.
In second grade, my mom was in the shower and her friend/dude we were living in the yard of came into our trailer and tied the vacuum cord in a slip knot. They had their smoke session (homelessness and starvation couldn’t stop her, she owed a thousand dollars to her WEED dealer) and he left, then she saw the knot. She proceeded to hit me and my sister every time she asked us and we said we didn’t do it. My sister, at the end of the two hours, was pink where she was getting hit. I was black and blue. I told my teacher that I couldn’t sit because “I tripped on a rock and fell on a boulder” (I still remember thinking that was the PERFECT cover story and saying it in a mirror over and over to make sure my face was emoting correctly as I said it.
She would tell me that she only kept the pregnancy with me because when she was pregnant with my sister, my dad stopped abusing her. He didn’t stop when she was pregnant with me. Once when she was really angry with me (I think because I, at 10, burned dinner cause I had to teach myself) she told me that I was supposed to save her and that’s why she hates me. I couldn’t do my job when she was pregnant, and I can’t meet her expectations now.
She kept me grounded for months and months on end, years even, so I wasn’t allowed friends, or a job. My grandparents tried to get me a car, it was a stick shift and I didn’t drive perfectly on the first try so she took the car for herself.
She hit me until the day she kicked me out, almost daily. She kicked me out because we moved f back to an old trailer park and my friend asked her if I could spend the night. I didn’t even want to, I’m just bad at saying no and wanted my mom to. My friends boyfriend was 30 years older than her, 40 years older than me, and my mom warned me about him. And then kicked me out with not even a penny, no license, no clothes, into his home, where I was victimized by him and his friends.
My little brother was born when I was 10, my sister had moved out with family just prior and didn’t move back until she was in her 20s. My brother has never been hit to my knowledge. I raised him until I was kicked out, and basically immediately after I was gone, she decided to go for a better job and get an apartment. The first thing that someone couldn’t steal while we were at the store in almost two decades. After I left. She is calm now, raises her voice maybe a quarter of what she used to. She seems better.
But she has never tried to fix things with me. Not even in the pretend ways you hear about other abusive parents doing. I haven’t seen her face to face in a couple years. She sees my kids but I stay in the car and drop them off.
There’s more but what a sad essay this already is.
I don’t get why I still care enough to want to do it myself. It grossed me out a little, if I’m honest. Like when am I gonna care about me enough to be done?
I imagine I’m screaming into a void, I can’t even get therapists to care enough about all this, but if you made it thanks and I’m sorry lol
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