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Freaking out about my dog biting my roommate. WWYD
2023.06.03 13:59 kjsuperhuman Freaking out about my dog biting my roommate. WWYD
I have a 2yo bulldog, Dozer, that tried to bite my roommate last night. In the process of seeing him go for his hand, I did yell his name out to get his attention and he immediately backed off, so I don’t know if he would have clinched down. Over the past couple months he has snapped at him twice, but he didn’t bare down. My roommate hasn’t done anything to him either. He gets along with my other dog, but he hasn’t been as friendly towards the others he’s been around. In 2 weeks I’m supposed to be going to Puerto Rico for 5 days and we’ve set up a house/dog sitter that’s staying at the house to take care of everything, but the sitter has never met Dozer. We were planning on introducing her to both dogs this Monday and Tuesday so she could get to know them a little better. Now I’m really worried about how Dozer is going to act while we’re gone.
Dozer has always loved people and has been the sweetest dog I’ve ever had, that’s what makes this so confusing. He loves affection and being petted.
I could try boarding him, but he goes nuts in a crate, and I doubt he would get along with other dogs, not to mention the fact that they may not take him if I tell them what happened, but I feel obligated to do so.
What would you guys do? I feel like I’m going to have to cancel the trip.
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Dozer has always loved people and has been the sweetest dog I’ve ever had, that’s what makes this so confusing. He loves affection and being petted.
I could try boarding him, but he goes nuts in a crate, and I doubt he would get along with other dogs, not to mention the fact that they may not take him if I tell them what happened, but I feel obligated to do so.
What would you guys do? I feel like I’m going to have to cancel the trip.
2023.06.03 13:49 queenliz2fr Voldemort's many victims
Inspired by the comment that I made in this post: https://old.reddit.com/HPfanfiction/comments/13z6amv/voldemort_successfully_kills_harry_in_the_forest/
Harry dies in the forest but the sacrificial protection is enacted. When Slughorn and Charlie show up with reinforcements for the second part of the battle of Hogwarts, most of the Death Eaters are killed or neutralized and Voldemort, even if still powerful enough to fight Slughorn, McGonagall and Kingsley even with his crippled powers is still not powerful enough to fight an entire army alone. He gets apprehended and thrown in Azkaban isolated from everybody else. Normally he would have been sentenced to death but by now everyone agrees with Hagrid's statement that he has become too much less than a human to be able to die.
One night as he is pondering in his loneliness over his frustration that he knows so much more magic than anybody else but is unable to use it, he sees his mom who tells him to repent for his crimes because she saw what he will become otherwise and shows him the flayed baby from the King's Cross chapter. Voldemort disregards it thinking it's a trick of the mind and the dark room.
Then the next day he is visited by Myrtle who tells him she had always looked up to him. He was so charming and so good at everything and so popular, while she was a loser and Tom Riddle was the only one who ever acted nice to her when told some classmates who were bullying her to leave her alone. Voldemort just shrugs and responds that he was a prefect and was just doing his duty and doesn't even remember her name. He killed her by accident because he didn't know there was someone else in the bathroom and accuses her that it was because of her he was forced to forever shut the Chamber of Secrets.
Next day he is visited by his father and his grandparents. They all express shame about what Tom had turned out in life. Despite always hating the paternal side of his family, he surprisingly starts to feel a bit embarrassed while watching the disappointed looks on their faces.
The third day he is visited by Hepzibah Smith who is still shocked about Tom's betrayal. She reveals that she had always loved Tom and while she never expected a young handsome boy like him to love an "old hag" like her back, she still treated him like a son and a friend. She revealed her deepest secrets to him and welcomed him into her house, always gave him a nice tip because she knew Mr. Burke was a miser who underpaid and overworked his employees. Now what's this? Is Tom feeling a shadow of guilt.
And so it happens every night some ghosts being accusatory, others questioning his unnecessary brutality towards them, until he gets to James and Lily. Both mock him for being such a coward as trying to kill a defenseless baby, only to meet his downfall at his hands. They are followed by Bertha Jorkins, Frank Bryce, Cedric Diggory and the mother with the two children whom he killed in his quest for the Elder Wand. They all ask him what had they done wrong to him in order to deserve to be killed. Voldemort thinks he is going to collapse in tears after such a lengthy torment especially when the ghosts are joined by the envoy of Gringotts who yell at him for killing them just for being bearers of the bad news and with occasional flashes of Grindelwald toothless smile mocking him by asking him "Did you get what you were looking for?". The group is finally joined by Snape whose throat is still bleeding and says through gargles "I have always been faithful to you, my lord (the words are uttered mockingly) and put my skills to the best of my ability to your service. Yet when I came with a simple request of not killing a person that wasn't even on your target list, if fell on deaf ears. Serves you right!"
For the first time in many, many, many years Voldemort collapses to the ground and starts crying while saying to what may seem to an outsider no one in particular "I'm sorry! I'm sorry I killed you all!" and then everyone disappears except for two people. Voldemort suddenly feels at peace as Dumbledore and Harry, who despite their antagonism in life, look at peace and have kind looks on their faces. They point towards a light.
"Well I think Tom it's time to join us," says Harry.
"But why did all this happen?" asks Voldemort confused.
"Don't you remember Tom that I once told you there are worse ways of destroying a man," explains Dumbledore. "To be quite frank I hoped it would last longer but seems your mother's love saved you from beyond the grave from the fate I had in store for you."
"So am I dead?"
"I think so, your soul appears to be mended," responds Dumbledore. "It seems like you really came to feel remorse about all your victims after having to see their faces every night over the past couple of years. Unfortunately I don't think your body made it. Feeling remorse after making horcruxes can be quite an intense feeling. So much so that it will break the heart and kill the body."
"But then why didn't I die earlier?"
Dumbledore chuckles at this and for the first time Tom actually gets to see the infamous twinkle in the eyes, "Well you see Tom? It was all part of my plan. Remember when I told you that merely killing you won't satisfy me. I wanted to see you suffer through your neverending torment before you finally embraced death through remorse."
"What do you mean?" asked Voldemort confused. "I thought you had Potter destroy all my horcruxes so I would be mortal again."
"I might have mislead Mr. Potter here and his friends with regards to one of your horcruxes. I knew you managed to also turn Gryffindor's sword into a horcrux and I knew no one willingly helping you got access to it. I wanted to keep it intact so you'll have all eternity to finally die by your remorse," explained Dumbledore in a kind tone.
"But I never managed to get a hold of the sword of Gryffindor because that dumb hat would not let me," said Voldemort quite frustrated. "In the end I had to settle for Nagini just to accomplish my obsession with number seven."
Now it was Dumbledore's turn to look shocked, "Wait what? You actually made your pet snake - a living mortal creature with an average lifespan of 30 years - the container of your soul? Not even I thought you were that stupid, Tom."
Voldemort looked away in embarrassment and Harry also looked at his former teacher quite confused.
There was a long silence before Harry decided to break it by pointing towards the light, "Anyways, welcome to the afterlife Tom!". Tom realized that he was starting to change. His bone-white skin was starting to get a normal color and when he managed a glance at his reflection in toilet water he noticed that his facial features were becoming more human. He was ready now to step into the light. It was strange. All his life he had feared death but now he was at peace. He saw the light as inviting and he knew that nothing bad would ever happen to him if he were to step into it.
But then all of a sudden heavy chains started enveloping his body and they were all tied to the dead bodies of the people that had been visiting him so often lately. They were dragging his body to the floor and they were very difficult to drag. "What's happening to me?" he asked.
"Oh yeah by the way... you have to carry the weight of all the lives you destroyed for eternity. Just feeling remorse does not spare you from the eternal punishment for your crimes," explained Harry casually. "Also don't expect a warm welcoming party in the afterlife. Now let's go!"
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Harry dies in the forest but the sacrificial protection is enacted. When Slughorn and Charlie show up with reinforcements for the second part of the battle of Hogwarts, most of the Death Eaters are killed or neutralized and Voldemort, even if still powerful enough to fight Slughorn, McGonagall and Kingsley even with his crippled powers is still not powerful enough to fight an entire army alone. He gets apprehended and thrown in Azkaban isolated from everybody else. Normally he would have been sentenced to death but by now everyone agrees with Hagrid's statement that he has become too much less than a human to be able to die.
One night as he is pondering in his loneliness over his frustration that he knows so much more magic than anybody else but is unable to use it, he sees his mom who tells him to repent for his crimes because she saw what he will become otherwise and shows him the flayed baby from the King's Cross chapter. Voldemort disregards it thinking it's a trick of the mind and the dark room.
Then the next day he is visited by Myrtle who tells him she had always looked up to him. He was so charming and so good at everything and so popular, while she was a loser and Tom Riddle was the only one who ever acted nice to her when told some classmates who were bullying her to leave her alone. Voldemort just shrugs and responds that he was a prefect and was just doing his duty and doesn't even remember her name. He killed her by accident because he didn't know there was someone else in the bathroom and accuses her that it was because of her he was forced to forever shut the Chamber of Secrets.
Next day he is visited by his father and his grandparents. They all express shame about what Tom had turned out in life. Despite always hating the paternal side of his family, he surprisingly starts to feel a bit embarrassed while watching the disappointed looks on their faces.
The third day he is visited by Hepzibah Smith who is still shocked about Tom's betrayal. She reveals that she had always loved Tom and while she never expected a young handsome boy like him to love an "old hag" like her back, she still treated him like a son and a friend. She revealed her deepest secrets to him and welcomed him into her house, always gave him a nice tip because she knew Mr. Burke was a miser who underpaid and overworked his employees. Now what's this? Is Tom feeling a shadow of guilt.
And so it happens every night some ghosts being accusatory, others questioning his unnecessary brutality towards them, until he gets to James and Lily. Both mock him for being such a coward as trying to kill a defenseless baby, only to meet his downfall at his hands. They are followed by Bertha Jorkins, Frank Bryce, Cedric Diggory and the mother with the two children whom he killed in his quest for the Elder Wand. They all ask him what had they done wrong to him in order to deserve to be killed. Voldemort thinks he is going to collapse in tears after such a lengthy torment especially when the ghosts are joined by the envoy of Gringotts who yell at him for killing them just for being bearers of the bad news and with occasional flashes of Grindelwald toothless smile mocking him by asking him "Did you get what you were looking for?". The group is finally joined by Snape whose throat is still bleeding and says through gargles "I have always been faithful to you, my lord (the words are uttered mockingly) and put my skills to the best of my ability to your service. Yet when I came with a simple request of not killing a person that wasn't even on your target list, if fell on deaf ears. Serves you right!"
For the first time in many, many, many years Voldemort collapses to the ground and starts crying while saying to what may seem to an outsider no one in particular "I'm sorry! I'm sorry I killed you all!" and then everyone disappears except for two people. Voldemort suddenly feels at peace as Dumbledore and Harry, who despite their antagonism in life, look at peace and have kind looks on their faces. They point towards a light.
"Well I think Tom it's time to join us," says Harry.
"But why did all this happen?" asks Voldemort confused.
"Don't you remember Tom that I once told you there are worse ways of destroying a man," explains Dumbledore. "To be quite frank I hoped it would last longer but seems your mother's love saved you from beyond the grave from the fate I had in store for you."
"So am I dead?"
"I think so, your soul appears to be mended," responds Dumbledore. "It seems like you really came to feel remorse about all your victims after having to see their faces every night over the past couple of years. Unfortunately I don't think your body made it. Feeling remorse after making horcruxes can be quite an intense feeling. So much so that it will break the heart and kill the body."
"But then why didn't I die earlier?"
Dumbledore chuckles at this and for the first time Tom actually gets to see the infamous twinkle in the eyes, "Well you see Tom? It was all part of my plan. Remember when I told you that merely killing you won't satisfy me. I wanted to see you suffer through your neverending torment before you finally embraced death through remorse."
"What do you mean?" asked Voldemort confused. "I thought you had Potter destroy all my horcruxes so I would be mortal again."
"I might have mislead Mr. Potter here and his friends with regards to one of your horcruxes. I knew you managed to also turn Gryffindor's sword into a horcrux and I knew no one willingly helping you got access to it. I wanted to keep it intact so you'll have all eternity to finally die by your remorse," explained Dumbledore in a kind tone.
"But I never managed to get a hold of the sword of Gryffindor because that dumb hat would not let me," said Voldemort quite frustrated. "In the end I had to settle for Nagini just to accomplish my obsession with number seven."
Now it was Dumbledore's turn to look shocked, "Wait what? You actually made your pet snake - a living mortal creature with an average lifespan of 30 years - the container of your soul? Not even I thought you were that stupid, Tom."
Voldemort looked away in embarrassment and Harry also looked at his former teacher quite confused.
There was a long silence before Harry decided to break it by pointing towards the light, "Anyways, welcome to the afterlife Tom!". Tom realized that he was starting to change. His bone-white skin was starting to get a normal color and when he managed a glance at his reflection in toilet water he noticed that his facial features were becoming more human. He was ready now to step into the light. It was strange. All his life he had feared death but now he was at peace. He saw the light as inviting and he knew that nothing bad would ever happen to him if he were to step into it.
But then all of a sudden heavy chains started enveloping his body and they were all tied to the dead bodies of the people that had been visiting him so often lately. They were dragging his body to the floor and they were very difficult to drag. "What's happening to me?" he asked.
"Oh yeah by the way... you have to carry the weight of all the lives you destroyed for eternity. Just feeling remorse does not spare you from the eternal punishment for your crimes," explained Harry casually. "Also don't expect a warm welcoming party in the afterlife. Now let's go!"
2023.06.03 13:46 Halftrack_El_Camino Tyrion's story
 | Tyrion is my orange, with an interesting history. He was born in the dryer outside my apartment in New Orleans in 2011 or so. A few months later, I started noticing that he and his littermates were spending a lot of time playing in the vacant lot across the street, and decided it was time to catch me a cat. My family is exclusively an orange family, so he was the one for me! I lured him into a carrier with some food, shut the door, and brought him home. submitted by Halftrack_El_Camino to OneOrangeBraincell [link] [comments] We had a good year or so together. He grew up into a long noodly boy, with a spaghetti tail and one crooked claw. He definitely has an impish personality befitting his namesake, but he's a very sweet and snuggly cat and we got along great. Then things took a turn. I was in a PhD program at the time, and my work was going to take me to Gabon for the summer field season. Needing to find someone to care for Tyrion, I entrusted him to one of my labmates, who had a black-and-white named Cow. Tyrion would be safe with him for a few months, I thought. Unfortunately, around 3 AM the next morning, just hours before my flight was to leave, Tyrion burst through a window screen and disappeared into the night. I searched as long as I could, but soon had to give up and go to the airport. My labmate kept looking on and off all summer, but nothing. When I got back in the fall, he'd been gone for months. I was sad, but life went on. I got another cat, left my PhD program, moved back home to New England, started a new career in construction, bought a house, met a girl with two oranges of her own (we are now engaged), sent my cat to live with my mother (she hated my partner's cats and is much happier there), got a dog, etc. Flash forward to the spring of 2021. An email shows up in my inbox from an unknown sender: "Orange missing cat — Tyreone?" A visiting student was staying in my old neighborhood, noticed a feral orange that seemed extra friendly (feral cats are everywhere in New Orleans) scooped him up, and got his chip read. There was a message on my phone. I called back. "Hi! That sure sounds like my cat—but that was nine years ago, and I live in New Hampshire now!" Well, she asked, did I want him back? She couldn't keep him, but he'd been hanging out with her dog and seemed very sweet, and she was willing to fly him up here if I wanted him. Heck yes, I did! Two days later he was back with me. Tyrion was pretty rough. He had picked up a case of feline herpes, which had led to chronic eye infections. His eyes were swollen shut to the point where he was blind—apparently this had been the case for long enough that one of the neighbors had started calling him Ray Charles. He was missing a chunk of an ear from probably a trap-and-release program (they clip the ears of cats they neuter, although Tyrion was already fixed so I guess I'll never really know), and his coat was raggedy. Still the same cat, though. Same noodle tail, same crooked claw. It took months of antibiotics to get his eyes to open, during which time he had to be quarantined away from the other cats. It was tough for both of us, but we made it through. He got vaccinated and dewormed and cleaned up. His eyes will always be dark and sad-looking now (his sclera and conjunctiva are permanently dark brown) but they're clear and open. He's active, playful, loving, and kind of an asshole. Tyrion will come running when I get home from work and jump on the couch to snuggle in my lap. He'll also come running if he hears any of the outside doors open, and gets out a few times a week despite our best efforts to stop him. He will open the screen door if we leave it unlatched, and sometimes will climb it and knock it out of its frame when we're not looking. He is unbothered by Chester and Pepita's attempts to intimidate him—I'm sure a couple domestics are far from the most intimidating creatures he's encountered—and he has been slowly training our dog to be his friend. Turns out, Tyrion really likes the company of a dog—ours is nervous and stupid around cats, but he's slowly learning how to snuggle with one. I'm expecting he'll start teaching Hilo how to pet him any day now. So, that's the story of Tyrion. As I write this, he is deeply absorbed in making biscuits on my belly. It still amazes me not just that he and I were reunited, but even that he's alive at all—the average lifespan of a street cat is only four years, and this guy was outside for nine! He must have a lot of stories locked up in that little walnut-sized brain of his. This is not your typical derpy orange. This orange noodle of a cat is affectionate, silly, and more closely bonded to me than any cat I've ever known, but he clearly has some serious street smarts. You can tell that as much as he likes me, he's in business for himself. You can also tell that he ran out of fucks to give long, long ago. He's living his best life, and ain't nobody gonna stop him. |
2023.06.03 13:43 Coffeeffex First extended dogcation
We are planning a dogcation this summer. Our dog is 80 pounds and goes everywhere with us. My husband takes him to work each day and I take him in walks and to the store. We’ve done one overnight in a hotel and he was fine. This summer we are traveling across the country to visit a relative in Massachusetts. We plan to drive 7 hours each day and have booked dog friendly lodging. I plan to go by the vets office and get documentation that he’s up to date on all shots before we leave. Are there any seasoned dogcation tips that might make our trip easier? Thanks in advance for any advice.
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2023.06.03 13:28 cristinaa14 Advice: MOH Not Helping
Hi everyone! I’m a Jan 2024 bride and would love some advice on how to deal with my disappointment over my MOH not helping me.
I’ll start by saying that I made it clear from the beginning that I had zero expectations that would put a huge financial burden on her. She does have to pay for her dress but she can pick any dress she likes and is within her budget. I’m paying for hair & makeup. So really all I want is help reaching out to the bridal party to plan things and just some moral support.
A couple months back I had bridesmaids asking about plans for a bachelorette so I talked to her and she was so excited to help me plan. I told her I would pay for decorations and anything extra we needed. I didn’t hear back for a couple days so I went ahead and started a group chat and put together a plan with hotel and Airbnb options and sent to everyone. She didn’t even respond to the group message and I had to ask her if she could respond.
We used to talk regularly and now it’s hard to get a hold of her and she often ignores my texts (most of which aren’t wedding related). My other bridesmaids have offered to help me plan which has been amazing, but I’m just so sad that my MOH can’t even set aside 2 minutes to respond to a message.
I’m self aware and realize that not everyone will care about my wedding as much as I do. But we’ve been best friends for over 17 years and I guess I hoped it would be different. I will love her no matter what, but I don’t know if I’m being unreasonable or right in feeling disappointed. I don’t know if I should bring it up or just be OK with the fact that her role will only be a wedding-day role and be grateful for that.
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I’ll start by saying that I made it clear from the beginning that I had zero expectations that would put a huge financial burden on her. She does have to pay for her dress but she can pick any dress she likes and is within her budget. I’m paying for hair & makeup. So really all I want is help reaching out to the bridal party to plan things and just some moral support.
A couple months back I had bridesmaids asking about plans for a bachelorette so I talked to her and she was so excited to help me plan. I told her I would pay for decorations and anything extra we needed. I didn’t hear back for a couple days so I went ahead and started a group chat and put together a plan with hotel and Airbnb options and sent to everyone. She didn’t even respond to the group message and I had to ask her if she could respond.
We used to talk regularly and now it’s hard to get a hold of her and she often ignores my texts (most of which aren’t wedding related). My other bridesmaids have offered to help me plan which has been amazing, but I’m just so sad that my MOH can’t even set aside 2 minutes to respond to a message.
I’m self aware and realize that not everyone will care about my wedding as much as I do. But we’ve been best friends for over 17 years and I guess I hoped it would be different. I will love her no matter what, but I don’t know if I’m being unreasonable or right in feeling disappointed. I don’t know if I should bring it up or just be OK with the fact that her role will only be a wedding-day role and be grateful for that.
2023.06.03 13:27 -insincerelyyours- Where am I going wrong? Has anyone else had similar experiences?
I (F26) have been OLD for about 2 years and have had little success until more recently. I've spent a long time working on myself while being single and re-evaluating my approach to dating. For the first 18 months or so, I was looking for attention/validation in the wrong places, and eventually came to the conclusion that I was using sex in a bid to find a relationship in the way the "nice guy" uses friendship to try obtain sex. Ever since, I've been a lot more direct about what I'm looking for (long-term), and I've made sure to follow the path of talk for a little while, a few nice dates such as coffee, mini golf, food etc before progressing to anything physical, to try ensure I'm not attracting the wrong kind of set-up. Which brings me on to more recently.
The last two guys I've dated (39M, 40M, respectively) both said they were also looking for a long-term relationship. Both have obviously had lives before in the form of live-in girlfriends, marriages, kids, etc, and are well established in their careers, and the homes they've built themselves. Everything always started off really well, with conversation flowing easily, an immediate connection, and a certainty that a second date was on the table.
Both very quickly brought up exclusivity, were eager to arrange the 2nd/3rd/4th date, talking about the future, promises of "things are going well with the view to a relationship", but then they'd start pulling back. They were still happy to arrange to meet for more dates and both made themselves available at the times we'd usually meet, but it largely became my responsibility to arrange things.
At around the 2 month mark with each guy, I brought up the conversation of, "When can we maybe look to move this on to the next stage?". Both times, I got wishy washy answers that were fundamentally "uncertain", but neither necessarily wanted to end things, they just couldn't say they were sure that's where things were going. Normally, I'd say 2 months could be a little early to ask that question, but in both instances, we had talked all day every day, and seen each other multiple times a week involving dates and staying over.
M39 was talking about a relationship from date 4, meeting his friends/family, planning things for months away, talks of eventually moving in and getting a pet, and even looking at jobs for me closer to where he lived. M40 asked we delete dating apps on date 1, asked to see me multiple times over the first week/two, told me how he missed me, wished I was there, started telling me to let myself in to his house when I'd go to see him because he was comfortable with me, let me leave things like a phone charger there, and it was always "assumed" we were seeing each other on our two set days, indefinitely.
When I received answers of uncertainty both times I asked that question, it completely threw me. I only asked the question when I did because it seemed a given that that's where things were going. Now, perhaps it's me and I'm not very good at reading the room. Equally, I may have asked the question a little too soon and thrown them both. What I can't understand is, why were things plain sailing until I asked the question, and how could they not have been giving it any thought in the run up, given that's what we had agreed the end goal was?
I appreciate dating doesn't always work out, and there is certainly no obligation to commit to a relationship after a certain amount of time. If it's genuinely just me they were unsure about, then I get that. Dating is all about getting to know someone and seeing if/how they fit into your life. I just don't understand why in both instances, they were happy to go on with a comfortable set-up of me playing the surrogate gf, until I pressed for an answer as to where things were progressing.
Please can you guys let me know if you've been in a similar situation or offer some insight?
TL;DR: I F26 recently dated guys M39 and M40 (separately), and both times when I asked the question about progressing things to a relationship around the 2 month mark, I received answers of uncertainty
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The last two guys I've dated (39M, 40M, respectively) both said they were also looking for a long-term relationship. Both have obviously had lives before in the form of live-in girlfriends, marriages, kids, etc, and are well established in their careers, and the homes they've built themselves. Everything always started off really well, with conversation flowing easily, an immediate connection, and a certainty that a second date was on the table.
Both very quickly brought up exclusivity, were eager to arrange the 2nd/3rd/4th date, talking about the future, promises of "things are going well with the view to a relationship", but then they'd start pulling back. They were still happy to arrange to meet for more dates and both made themselves available at the times we'd usually meet, but it largely became my responsibility to arrange things.
At around the 2 month mark with each guy, I brought up the conversation of, "When can we maybe look to move this on to the next stage?". Both times, I got wishy washy answers that were fundamentally "uncertain", but neither necessarily wanted to end things, they just couldn't say they were sure that's where things were going. Normally, I'd say 2 months could be a little early to ask that question, but in both instances, we had talked all day every day, and seen each other multiple times a week involving dates and staying over.
M39 was talking about a relationship from date 4, meeting his friends/family, planning things for months away, talks of eventually moving in and getting a pet, and even looking at jobs for me closer to where he lived. M40 asked we delete dating apps on date 1, asked to see me multiple times over the first week/two, told me how he missed me, wished I was there, started telling me to let myself in to his house when I'd go to see him because he was comfortable with me, let me leave things like a phone charger there, and it was always "assumed" we were seeing each other on our two set days, indefinitely.
When I received answers of uncertainty both times I asked that question, it completely threw me. I only asked the question when I did because it seemed a given that that's where things were going. Now, perhaps it's me and I'm not very good at reading the room. Equally, I may have asked the question a little too soon and thrown them both. What I can't understand is, why were things plain sailing until I asked the question, and how could they not have been giving it any thought in the run up, given that's what we had agreed the end goal was?
I appreciate dating doesn't always work out, and there is certainly no obligation to commit to a relationship after a certain amount of time. If it's genuinely just me they were unsure about, then I get that. Dating is all about getting to know someone and seeing if/how they fit into your life. I just don't understand why in both instances, they were happy to go on with a comfortable set-up of me playing the surrogate gf, until I pressed for an answer as to where things were progressing.
Please can you guys let me know if you've been in a similar situation or offer some insight?
TL;DR: I F26 recently dated guys M39 and M40 (separately), and both times when I asked the question about progressing things to a relationship around the 2 month mark, I received answers of uncertainty
2023.06.03 13:16 vivaladisney 31M - I'm lonely and I need a friend [friendship]
Oh, hi, I almost didn't see you there. so, as much as I might try to hide it, I'm a human just like the rest of us. I think that humans need some level of social interaction. I am usually fairly content doing things on my own, but I need to be honest with myself and admit that I am missing something. I am lonely. I would really like to have a friend, someone that I can connect to, have a real human connection with. even though I have always kind of been more on the side of being a loner, I do like talking. with the right person, that is. and I'm hoping to find the right person. because when I am talking to the right person, I love it. I love just chatting about any random thing that pops into our head.
a bit about me, I'm a 31-year-old guy from california, I'm single, and only because I think that it's somewhat relevant, I have OCD. no need to dwell on that, though.
I'm pretty bad at talking about myself unprompted, I prefer to have a back and forth with someone as a way of getting to know each other. I love questions, I think that asking each other questions is a great way to get to know the person you're talking to, and I also just think it's really entertaining.
but okay, how about some things that I'm interested in;
•movies. this is a big one. I really love film, and I'll watch any type. I basically want to watch and know about as much as I can when it comes to movies. from the most highbrow art film, to the trashiest horror movie, I'll watch it all, and I love it. see anything good lately? I want to hear about it.
•magic. as in, you know, like, tricks. I've been doing it my whole life, and I don't care how nerdy it is, I find it really interesting and fun.
•reading. all kinds of different things. I like nonfiction, especially digging through articles of weird events from history and stuff like that. but I also like short stories. I think that mysteries and detective stories are really cool. I do enjoy novels as well, but I just don't read as many of them as I would like. read anything good lately? let's hear about it.
•I told you I was bad at talking about myself, so I can't think of another thing to mention off the top of my head. I guess if you're curious you'll just have to message me and you can find out.
as for what I'm looking for, I'm pretty open. some things that I would request of the person I would talk to though, would be that you are over the age of 18 (okay, this one is less of a request, and more like I won't reply if you aren't), although aside from that I don't really care too much about age, that you're open-minded, and I would also say that, although it's not as if I'm specifically looking for anything like this, I would request that if you aren't single, that you can at least be sure that whatever your relationship situation is, if we talk it won't be anyone's back. I'm not comfortable with that. oh, I will also say that if you are the type of person who is prone to ghosting people, I'd request that you not reach out, because I have just had enough of those experiences and it's kind of a pet peeve of mine. I'm not saying that I expect long involved conversations with every single person that I interact with, but if we do get in touch and you decide that you aren't really feeling it and would rather not keep it going, then one simple, short message letting me know that would go a long way. so apart from those things, there's not really much else. I really am open to talking to just about anyone.
so, as I said, if you're curious, or looking for someone to talk to, feel free to message me.
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a bit about me, I'm a 31-year-old guy from california, I'm single, and only because I think that it's somewhat relevant, I have OCD. no need to dwell on that, though.
I'm pretty bad at talking about myself unprompted, I prefer to have a back and forth with someone as a way of getting to know each other. I love questions, I think that asking each other questions is a great way to get to know the person you're talking to, and I also just think it's really entertaining.
but okay, how about some things that I'm interested in;
•movies. this is a big one. I really love film, and I'll watch any type. I basically want to watch and know about as much as I can when it comes to movies. from the most highbrow art film, to the trashiest horror movie, I'll watch it all, and I love it. see anything good lately? I want to hear about it.
•magic. as in, you know, like, tricks. I've been doing it my whole life, and I don't care how nerdy it is, I find it really interesting and fun.
•reading. all kinds of different things. I like nonfiction, especially digging through articles of weird events from history and stuff like that. but I also like short stories. I think that mysteries and detective stories are really cool. I do enjoy novels as well, but I just don't read as many of them as I would like. read anything good lately? let's hear about it.
•I told you I was bad at talking about myself, so I can't think of another thing to mention off the top of my head. I guess if you're curious you'll just have to message me and you can find out.
as for what I'm looking for, I'm pretty open. some things that I would request of the person I would talk to though, would be that you are over the age of 18 (okay, this one is less of a request, and more like I won't reply if you aren't), although aside from that I don't really care too much about age, that you're open-minded, and I would also say that, although it's not as if I'm specifically looking for anything like this, I would request that if you aren't single, that you can at least be sure that whatever your relationship situation is, if we talk it won't be anyone's back. I'm not comfortable with that. oh, I will also say that if you are the type of person who is prone to ghosting people, I'd request that you not reach out, because I have just had enough of those experiences and it's kind of a pet peeve of mine. I'm not saying that I expect long involved conversations with every single person that I interact with, but if we do get in touch and you decide that you aren't really feeling it and would rather not keep it going, then one simple, short message letting me know that would go a long way. so apart from those things, there's not really much else. I really am open to talking to just about anyone.
so, as I said, if you're curious, or looking for someone to talk to, feel free to message me.
2023.06.03 13:14 vivaladisney 31M - I need a friend
Oh, hi, I almost didn't see you there. so, as much as I might try to hide it, I'm a human just like the rest of us. I think that humans need some level of social interaction. I am usually fairly content doing things on my own, but I need to be honest with myself and admit that I am missing something. I am lonely. I would really like to have a friend, someone that I can connect to, have a real human connection with. even though I have always kind of been more on the side of being a loner, I do like talking. with the right person, that is. and I'm hoping to find the right person. because when I am talking to the right person, I love it. I love just chatting about any random thing that pops into our head.
a bit about me, I'm a 31-year-old guy from california, I'm single, and only because I think that it's somewhat relevant, I have OCD. no need to dwell on that, though.
I'm pretty bad at talking about myself unprompted, I prefer to have a back and forth with someone as a way of getting to know each other. I love questions, I think that asking each other questions is a great way to get to know the person you're talking to, and I also just think it's really entertaining.
but okay, how about some things that I'm interested in;
•movies. this is a big one. I really love film, and I'll watch any type. I basically want to watch and know about as much as I can when it comes to movies. from the most highbrow art film, to the trashiest horror movie, I'll watch it all, and I love it. see anything good lately? I want to hear about it.
•magic. as in, you know, like, tricks. I've been doing it my whole life, and I don't care how nerdy it is, I find it really interesting and fun.
•reading. all kinds of different things. I like nonfiction, especially digging through articles of weird events from history and stuff like that. but I also like short stories. I think that mysteries and detective stories are really cool. I do enjoy novels as well, but I just don't read as many of them as I would like. read anything good lately? let's hear about it.
•I told you I was bad at talking about myself, so I can't think of another thing to mention off the top of my head. I guess if you're curious you'll just have to message me and you can find out.
as for what I'm looking for, I'm pretty open. some things that I would request of the person I would talk to though, would be that you are over the age of 18 (okay, this one is less of a request, and more like I won't reply if you aren't), although aside from that I don't really care too much about age, that you're open-minded, and I would also say that, although it's not as if I'm specifically looking for anything like this, I would request that if you aren't single, that you can at least be sure that whatever your relationship situation is, if we talk it won't be anyone's back. I'm not comfortable with that. oh, I will also say that if you are the type of person who is prone to ghosting people, I'd request that you not reach out, because I have just had enough of those experiences and it's kind of a pet peeve of mine. I'm not saying that I expect long involved conversations with every single person that I interact with, but if we do get in touch and you decide that you aren't really feeling it and would rather not keep it going, then one simple, short message letting me know that would go a long way. so apart from those things, there's not really much else. I really am open to talking to just about anyone.
so, as I said, if you're curious, or looking for someone to talk to, feel free to message me.
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a bit about me, I'm a 31-year-old guy from california, I'm single, and only because I think that it's somewhat relevant, I have OCD. no need to dwell on that, though.
I'm pretty bad at talking about myself unprompted, I prefer to have a back and forth with someone as a way of getting to know each other. I love questions, I think that asking each other questions is a great way to get to know the person you're talking to, and I also just think it's really entertaining.
but okay, how about some things that I'm interested in;
•movies. this is a big one. I really love film, and I'll watch any type. I basically want to watch and know about as much as I can when it comes to movies. from the most highbrow art film, to the trashiest horror movie, I'll watch it all, and I love it. see anything good lately? I want to hear about it.
•magic. as in, you know, like, tricks. I've been doing it my whole life, and I don't care how nerdy it is, I find it really interesting and fun.
•reading. all kinds of different things. I like nonfiction, especially digging through articles of weird events from history and stuff like that. but I also like short stories. I think that mysteries and detective stories are really cool. I do enjoy novels as well, but I just don't read as many of them as I would like. read anything good lately? let's hear about it.
•I told you I was bad at talking about myself, so I can't think of another thing to mention off the top of my head. I guess if you're curious you'll just have to message me and you can find out.
as for what I'm looking for, I'm pretty open. some things that I would request of the person I would talk to though, would be that you are over the age of 18 (okay, this one is less of a request, and more like I won't reply if you aren't), although aside from that I don't really care too much about age, that you're open-minded, and I would also say that, although it's not as if I'm specifically looking for anything like this, I would request that if you aren't single, that you can at least be sure that whatever your relationship situation is, if we talk it won't be anyone's back. I'm not comfortable with that. oh, I will also say that if you are the type of person who is prone to ghosting people, I'd request that you not reach out, because I have just had enough of those experiences and it's kind of a pet peeve of mine. I'm not saying that I expect long involved conversations with every single person that I interact with, but if we do get in touch and you decide that you aren't really feeling it and would rather not keep it going, then one simple, short message letting me know that would go a long way. so apart from those things, there's not really much else. I really am open to talking to just about anyone.
so, as I said, if you're curious, or looking for someone to talk to, feel free to message me.
2023.06.03 13:10 vivaladisney 31M - lets be honest with ourselves here, I'm lonely and want to make a friend
Oh, hi, I almost didn't see you there. so, as much as I might try to hide it, I'm a human just like the rest of us. I think that humans need some level of social interaction. I am usually fairly content doing things on my own, but I need to be honest with myself and admit that I am missing something. I am lonely. I would really like to have a friend, someone that I can connect to, have a real human connection with. even though I have always kind of been more on the side of being a loner, I do like talking. with the right person, that is. and I'm hoping to find the right person. because when I am talking to the right person, I love it. I love just chatting about any random thing that pops into our head.
a bit about me, I'm a 31-year-old guy from california, I'm single, and only because I think that it's somewhat relevant, I have OCD. no need to dwell on that, though.
I'm pretty bad at talking about myself unprompted, I prefer to have a back and forth with someone as a way of getting to know each other. I love questions, I think that asking each other questions is a great way to get to know the person you're talking to, and I also just think it's really entertaining.
but okay, how about some things that I'm interested in;
•movies. this is a big one. I really love film, and I'll watch any type. I basically want to watch and know about as much as I can when it comes to movies. from the most highbrow art film, to the trashiest horror movie, I'll watch it all, and I love it. see anything good lately? I want to hear about it.
•magic. as in, you know, like, tricks. I've been doing it my whole life, and I don't care how nerdy it is, I find it really interesting and fun.
•reading. all kinds of different things. I like nonfiction, especially digging through articles of weird events from history and stuff like that. but I also like short stories. I think that mysteries and detective stories are really cool. I do enjoy novels as well, but I just don't read as many of them as I would like. read anything good lately? let's hear about it.
•I told you I was bad at talking about myself, so I can't think of another thing to mention off the top of my head. I guess if you're curious you'll just have to message me and you can find out.
as for what I'm looking for, I'm pretty open. some things that I would request of the person I would talk to though, would be that you are over the age of 18 (okay, this one is less of a request, and more like I won't reply if you aren't), although aside from that I don't really care too much about age, that you're open-minded, and I would also say that, although it's not as if I'm specifically looking for anything like this, I would request that if you aren't single, that you can at least be sure that whatever your relationship situation is, if we talk it won't be anyone's back. I'm not comfortable with that. oh, I will also say that if you are the type of person who is prone to ghosting people, I'd request that you not reach out, because I have just had enough of those experiences and it's kind of a pet peeve of mine. I'm not saying that I expect long involved conversations with every single person that I interact with, but if we do get in touch and you decide that you aren't really feeling it and would rather not keep it going, then one simple, short message letting me know that would go a long way. so apart from those things, there's not really much else. I really am open to talking to just about anyone.
so, as I said, if you're curious, or looking for someone to talk to, feel free to message me.
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a bit about me, I'm a 31-year-old guy from california, I'm single, and only because I think that it's somewhat relevant, I have OCD. no need to dwell on that, though.
I'm pretty bad at talking about myself unprompted, I prefer to have a back and forth with someone as a way of getting to know each other. I love questions, I think that asking each other questions is a great way to get to know the person you're talking to, and I also just think it's really entertaining.
but okay, how about some things that I'm interested in;
•movies. this is a big one. I really love film, and I'll watch any type. I basically want to watch and know about as much as I can when it comes to movies. from the most highbrow art film, to the trashiest horror movie, I'll watch it all, and I love it. see anything good lately? I want to hear about it.
•magic. as in, you know, like, tricks. I've been doing it my whole life, and I don't care how nerdy it is, I find it really interesting and fun.
•reading. all kinds of different things. I like nonfiction, especially digging through articles of weird events from history and stuff like that. but I also like short stories. I think that mysteries and detective stories are really cool. I do enjoy novels as well, but I just don't read as many of them as I would like. read anything good lately? let's hear about it.
•I told you I was bad at talking about myself, so I can't think of another thing to mention off the top of my head. I guess if you're curious you'll just have to message me and you can find out.
as for what I'm looking for, I'm pretty open. some things that I would request of the person I would talk to though, would be that you are over the age of 18 (okay, this one is less of a request, and more like I won't reply if you aren't), although aside from that I don't really care too much about age, that you're open-minded, and I would also say that, although it's not as if I'm specifically looking for anything like this, I would request that if you aren't single, that you can at least be sure that whatever your relationship situation is, if we talk it won't be anyone's back. I'm not comfortable with that. oh, I will also say that if you are the type of person who is prone to ghosting people, I'd request that you not reach out, because I have just had enough of those experiences and it's kind of a pet peeve of mine. I'm not saying that I expect long involved conversations with every single person that I interact with, but if we do get in touch and you decide that you aren't really feeling it and would rather not keep it going, then one simple, short message letting me know that would go a long way. so apart from those things, there's not really much else. I really am open to talking to just about anyone.
so, as I said, if you're curious, or looking for someone to talk to, feel free to message me.
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2023.06.03 12:47 Blowingcloudsgirl702 Serial cheater?
Dear readers, I’ve contemplated posting for awhile- but at this point I’ve lost myself and feel like I’ve gone insane. I dedicated my life to a man the last year, after meeting on Facebook dating. I had my own apartment, job, friends and life I made after a long domestic abusive relationship 3 years prior. This man swooped me off my feet, but wasn’t ready for a relationship- being the stubborn Scorpio I am I was relentless and kept pursuing him. Couple months later he was needing somewhere to live so I let him come live with me. He worked at a strip club, nightshift, never texted me back or would give me the time of day. He was arrested not long into our relationship and I stuck by his side. Finally we made it official, and I found out some darker things about him. He cheated on his ex the whole 4 years they where together. He had a shrine of all the sex videos, and pictures of every women he’s ever been with, flash drives upon flash drive. Personal ads. Gambling and getting hotel rooms, and constantly lying to his ex. I found out and he lied. Until he knew I had all the proof, then he admitted his regretted his past. Found out he has a porn addiction. He lied about going to work and being at a bar, went far enough as to fake and make up a Uber receipt because I told him he needed to prove he was at work, then find out he has been flirting and trying to sleep with his boss the first couple months of our relationship. I decided he needed location on his phone but seems anytime he leaves- it wants to malfunction, or it won’t have his drive speed and seems glitchy. I’ve suspected he knows developing things and good with technology sense I’ve seen GitHub and some Key-base codes in his phone. He says he isn’t cheating and telling lies anymore. But every apartment we have lived at it seems he is having a affair with someone in the complex. I am certain he sneaks women into the apartment anytime he can even when I’m there. I have caught him making ads and being a editor for escorts websites and he says he isn’t it’s spam. I feel like I’m going crazy and unsure of what’s real and not real. My friend mentioned she thought I was being trafficked because I’ve been having memory loss, waking up bruised and with burns. And just nothing around me seems to make any sense. If anyone has any advice or input or idea on helping me. I’d appreciate the input!
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2023.06.03 12:45 Blowingcloudsgirl702 Serial cheater? Trafficked?
Dear readers, I’ve contemplated posting for awhile- but at this point I’ve lost myself and feel like I’ve gone insane. I dedicated my life to a man the last year, after meeting on Facebook dating. I had my own apartment, job, friends and life I made after a long domestic abusive relationship 3 years prior. This man swooped me off my feet, but wasn’t ready for a relationship- being the stubborn Scorpio I am I was relentless and kept pursuing him. Couple months later he was needing somewhere to live so I let him come live with me. He worked at a strip club, nightshift, never texted me back or would give me the time of day. He was arrested not long into our relationship and I stuck by his side. Finally we made it official, and I found out some darker things about him. He cheated on his ex the whole 4 years they where together. He had a shrine of all the sex videos, and pictures of every women he’s ever been with, flash drives upon flash drive. Personal ads. Gambling and getting hotel rooms, and constantly lying to his ex. I found out and he lied. Until he knew I had all the proof, then he admitted his regretted his past. Found out he has a porn addiction. He lied about going to work and being at a bar, went far enough as to fake and make up a Uber receipt because I told him he needed to prove he was at work, then find out he has been flirting and trying to sleep with his boss the first couple months of our relationship. I decided he needed location on his phone but seems anytime he leaves- it wants to malfunction, or it won’t have his drive speed and seems glitchy. I’ve suspected he knows developing things and good with technology sense I’ve seen GitHub and some Key-base codes in his phone. He says he isn’t cheating and telling lies anymore. But every apartment we have lived at it seems he is having a affair with someone in the complex. I am certain he sneaks women into the apartment anytime he can even when I’m there. I have caught him making ads and being a editor for escorts websites and he says he isn’t it’s spam. I feel like I’m going crazy and unsure of what’s real and not real. My friend mentioned she thought I was being trafficked because I’ve been having memory loss, waking up bruised and with burns. And just nothing around me seems to make any sense. If anyone has any advice or input or idea on helping me. I’d appreciate the input!
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2023.06.03 12:45 Blowingcloudsgirl702 Serial cheater? Or Trafficked?
Dear readers, I’ve contemplated posting for awhile- but at this point I’ve lost myself and feel like I’ve gone insane. I dedicated my life to a man the last year, after meeting on Facebook dating. I had my own apartment, job, friends and life I made after a long domestic abusive relationship 3 years prior. This man swooped me off my feet, but wasn’t ready for a relationship- being the stubborn Scorpio I am I was relentless and kept pursuing him. Couple months later he was needing somewhere to live so I let him come live with me. He worked at a strip club, nightshift, never texted me back or would give me the time of day. He was arrested not long into our relationship and I stuck by his side. Finally we made it official, and I found out some darker things about him. He cheated on his ex the whole 4 years they where together. He had a shrine of all the sex videos, and pictures of every women he’s ever been with, flash drives upon flash drive. Personal ads. Gambling and getting hotel rooms, and constantly lying to his ex. I found out and he lied. Until he knew I had all the proof, then he admitted his regretted his past. Found out he has a porn addiction. He lied about going to work and being at a bar, went far enough as to fake and make up a Uber receipt because I told him he needed to prove he was at work, then find out he has been flirting and trying to sleep with his boss the first couple months of our relationship. I decided he needed location on his phone but seems anytime he leaves- it wants to malfunction, or it won’t have his drive speed and seems glitchy. I’ve suspected he knows developing things and good with technology sense I’ve seen GitHub and some Key-base codes in his phone. He says he isn’t cheating and telling lies anymore. But every apartment we have lived at it seems he is having a affair with someone in the complex. I am certain he sneaks women into the apartment anytime he can even when I’m there. I have caught him making ads and being a editor for escorts websites and he says he isn’t it’s spam. I feel like I’m going crazy and unsure of what’s real and not real. My friend mentioned she thought I was being trafficked because I’ve been having memory loss, waking up bruised and with burns. And just nothing around me seems to make any sense. If anyone has any advice or input or idea on helping me. I’d appreciate the input!
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2023.06.03 12:44 Blowingcloudsgirl702 Serial cheater?
Dear readers, I’ve contemplated posting for awhile- but at this point I’ve lost myself and feel like I’ve gone insane. I dedicated my life to a man the last year, after meeting on Facebook dating. I had my own apartment, job, friends and life I made after a long domestic abusive relationship 3 years prior. This man swooped me off my feet, but wasn’t ready for a relationship- being the stubborn Scorpio I am I was relentless and kept pursuing him. Couple months later he was needing somewhere to live so I let him come live with me. He worked at a strip club, nightshift, never texted me back or would give me the time of day. He was arrested not long into our relationship and I stuck by his side. Finally we made it official, and I found out some darker things about him. He cheated on his ex the whole 4 years they where together. He had a shrine of all the sex videos, and pictures of every women he’s ever been with, flash drives upon flash drive. Personal ads. Gambling and getting hotel rooms, and constantly lying to his ex. I found out and he lied. Until he knew I had all the proof, then he admitted his regretted his past. Found out he has a porn addiction. He lied about going to work and being at a bar, went far enough as to false and make up a Uber receipt because I told him he needed to prove he was at work, then find out he has been flirting and trying to sleep with his boss the first couple months of our relationship. I decided he needed location on his phone but seems anytime he leaves- it wants to malfunction, or it won’t have his drive speed and seems glitchy. I’ve suspected he knows developing things and good with technology sense I’ve seen GitHub and some Key-base codes in his phone. He says he isn’t cheating and telling lies anymore. But every apartment we have lived at it seems he is having a affair with someone in the complex. I am certain he sneaks women into the apartment anytime he can even when I’m there. I have caught him making ads and being a editor for escorts websites and he says he isn’t it’s spam. I feel like I’m going crazy and unsure of what’s real and not real. My friend mentioned she thought I was being trafficked because I’ve been having memory loss, waking up bruised and with burns. And just nothing around me seems to make any sense. If anyone has any advice or input or idea on helping me. I’d appreciate the input!
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2023.06.03 12:36 jy02521671 How to merge spell books in Toybox?
 | I went Angel path and then turned Gold Dragon, but I didn't plan well and messed up my feats, so I went to respec and found all my angel spells are gone. submitted by jy02521671 to Pathfinder_Kingmaker [link] [comments] I can add Angel spell book in Toybox but there is no Merge button, please help! https://preview.redd.it/wgwh41tp6s3b1.png?width=1124&format=png&auto=webp&s=c9513c1cc587ae7f890879f1c20706d3726ff6d5 |
2023.06.03 12:35 Sil0707 26[M4F] Anywhere- Romantic man looking for his other half (Detailed Post)
I hope to find a kind-hearted woman to build a lasting relationship with. Genuine and kind, someone I can talk to about anything and everything. I want a partner who's excited to share their knowledge and experiences with me, grow together, learn new things from each other, and connect on a deeper level. You can share your thoughts and ideas with me, and I'll be happy to discuss all kinds of topics. I want us to build a wholesome relationship where being there for each other is enough.
This part is about what I'm looking for in a relationship: - Mutual love an respect and care, my chest will be your pillow while we binge episodes and watch a lot of things while cuddling, romantic dinners, cooking together, enjoying life to the fullest , holding hands while walking , going to the beach, traveling to new places, trying new things and experiencing what life has to offer together :) . Being there for each other through good and bad times . You can always count on me and tell me everything, I will be the shoulder you can lean on. I'm very romantic and I have a lot of love to give. When we are together expect me to always hug you, kiss you on your forehead, hold your hands and express my love to you and how much you mean to me while I look deeply into your eyes . Romantic moments and lovely things like giving each other pet names, making you bed surprise breakfasts. Tons of Cuddles and hugs . I will always sheer you up, motivate you, and help you . I'll always be there for you.
Currently located in Morocco. I'm looking for someone 20 or older who's okay with long-distance until we figure things out.
As for my physical attributes, I have light brown skin, black hair, and brown eyes, average looking guy. I used to train in calisthenics and weightlifting, but I had to stop due to shoulder injuries. Personality-wise, I'm an ENFP MBTI type with a bubbly, caring, affectionate, patient, and ambitious personality. I'm easy-going, non-judgmental, and an ambivert depending on the day. I have a good sense of humor and always make my friends laugh. My hobbies and sports include running, calisthenics, cycling, cooking, and hiking. I enjoy reading, playing video games, traveling, camping, watching movies, TV shows, documentaries, and anime.
I can speak four languages fluently and hope to learn more in the future. I love to do many activities like having long walks and exploring new places. When it comes to indoors, I'm very creative at finding ways to enjoy our time. I love discussing all kinds of topics; we can talk about anything from history, geography, cinema, sports, religion, philosophy, languages, food, politics, spiritualism, video games, travel, cultures, technology, and more.
Regarding religion, I'm agnostic, and I don't believe in any religions. I'm still searching for the truth, so I don't have a problem with you being from any religion.
When it comes to films, TV shows, and anime, it's hard to pick favorites, so you can ask me later. As for music, I enjoy classic hip-hop, rap, rock/post-rock, jazz, 80s music, some metal, classic, ambient, pop, and soundtracks. I used to watch anime growing up, and I still enjoy it, but I don't watch it as much as years go by, still watching certain weekly releases.
Thank you for reading through all this! If you're interested, please contact me through DM or chat. Introduce yourself and tell me a bit about you, write more than Hey.
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This part is about what I'm looking for in a relationship: - Mutual love an respect and care, my chest will be your pillow while we binge episodes and watch a lot of things while cuddling, romantic dinners, cooking together, enjoying life to the fullest , holding hands while walking , going to the beach, traveling to new places, trying new things and experiencing what life has to offer together :) . Being there for each other through good and bad times . You can always count on me and tell me everything, I will be the shoulder you can lean on. I'm very romantic and I have a lot of love to give. When we are together expect me to always hug you, kiss you on your forehead, hold your hands and express my love to you and how much you mean to me while I look deeply into your eyes . Romantic moments and lovely things like giving each other pet names, making you bed surprise breakfasts. Tons of Cuddles and hugs . I will always sheer you up, motivate you, and help you . I'll always be there for you.
Currently located in Morocco. I'm looking for someone 20 or older who's okay with long-distance until we figure things out.
As for my physical attributes, I have light brown skin, black hair, and brown eyes, average looking guy. I used to train in calisthenics and weightlifting, but I had to stop due to shoulder injuries. Personality-wise, I'm an ENFP MBTI type with a bubbly, caring, affectionate, patient, and ambitious personality. I'm easy-going, non-judgmental, and an ambivert depending on the day. I have a good sense of humor and always make my friends laugh. My hobbies and sports include running, calisthenics, cycling, cooking, and hiking. I enjoy reading, playing video games, traveling, camping, watching movies, TV shows, documentaries, and anime.
I can speak four languages fluently and hope to learn more in the future. I love to do many activities like having long walks and exploring new places. When it comes to indoors, I'm very creative at finding ways to enjoy our time. I love discussing all kinds of topics; we can talk about anything from history, geography, cinema, sports, religion, philosophy, languages, food, politics, spiritualism, video games, travel, cultures, technology, and more.
Regarding religion, I'm agnostic, and I don't believe in any religions. I'm still searching for the truth, so I don't have a problem with you being from any religion.
When it comes to films, TV shows, and anime, it's hard to pick favorites, so you can ask me later. As for music, I enjoy classic hip-hop, rap, rock/post-rock, jazz, 80s music, some metal, classic, ambient, pop, and soundtracks. I used to watch anime growing up, and I still enjoy it, but I don't watch it as much as years go by, still watching certain weekly releases.
Thank you for reading through all this! If you're interested, please contact me through DM or chat. Introduce yourself and tell me a bit about you, write more than Hey.
2023.06.03 12:31 michaelscape Whats it like living in staunton?
Hi everyone,
I'm planning a move to Virginia in the coming months and am between HBurg and Staunton and am trying to get a sense of what makes each place great. My wife and I are both artists and really enjoy hiking and getting outside, we have a toddler and pets, and have remote jobs and are moving to be closer to family closer to Charlottesville. We've lived in college towns before and that makes us a little more interested in Staunton than Harrisonburg. We're both familiar with the area, I used to do a lot of work in Harrisonburg and my wife is from Charlottesville.
We're really curious about the community in Staunton, specifically:
1.what its like to raise kids there? 2.what kind of events and community gatherings happen around the year that are awesome? 3.is it easy to meet folks and make friends (we do know a couple folks there already)? 4.whats the political vibe in town? we're coming from a really purple area, so we dont need it to be california, but also prefer its not like florida ha. 5.what neighborhoods are worth looking into for a home? also any to avoid (I've heard stay away from the mission?)
Yeah, any general info on what its like living in Staunton, what you enjoy/love about it, if it's easy to meet folks and make friends etc would be appreciated. We're heading there in a couple weeks to look at places to live (in both Staunton and Hburg likely) so really appreciate insights.
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I'm planning a move to Virginia in the coming months and am between HBurg and Staunton and am trying to get a sense of what makes each place great. My wife and I are both artists and really enjoy hiking and getting outside, we have a toddler and pets, and have remote jobs and are moving to be closer to family closer to Charlottesville. We've lived in college towns before and that makes us a little more interested in Staunton than Harrisonburg. We're both familiar with the area, I used to do a lot of work in Harrisonburg and my wife is from Charlottesville.
We're really curious about the community in Staunton, specifically:
1.what its like to raise kids there? 2.what kind of events and community gatherings happen around the year that are awesome? 3.is it easy to meet folks and make friends (we do know a couple folks there already)? 4.whats the political vibe in town? we're coming from a really purple area, so we dont need it to be california, but also prefer its not like florida ha. 5.what neighborhoods are worth looking into for a home? also any to avoid (I've heard stay away from the mission?)
Yeah, any general info on what its like living in Staunton, what you enjoy/love about it, if it's easy to meet folks and make friends etc would be appreciated. We're heading there in a couple weeks to look at places to live (in both Staunton and Hburg likely) so really appreciate insights.
2023.06.03 12:25 callme_al90 My night shift nightmare
I work in hospitality, a very popular chain company here at the UK, I won't mention the name, but I can honestly say, it's the best job I've ever had, I didn't think I would enjoy a job so much especially working the night shifts. When I was being interviewed, everything was sounding amazing until they mentioned I would be working completely alone, I have to admit that made my heart skip a beat and I almost refused the job. But honestly accepting the job was the best thing I ever did and being there for nearly 2 years has proven that, I still can't believe I work there. The staff are amazing, the guests are 99.9% pleasant and overall I'm very happy.
But of course, where there's good, there is bad. Sure I've dealt with awkard guests, guests who came back drunk after a night out, I even had to kick out a few guests because they were being way too loud and disturbing other guests sleeping. So it's not all sun shine and roses I admit but that doesn't put me off my job. Until one night where a guest made me question that very thing.
It happened a few weeks ago, I arrived at my normal time to take over from evening staff, the duty manager that was working took me to one side and gave me the run down on what happened to her and the staff that evening during dinner service. According to her, the 2 guests (a man and a woman) who is staying in room 1 was acting very strange, apparently they stepped out to have a cigarette but the guy was disturbing the guests who was eating dinner, by slamming his entire body against the windows that looked into the restaurant, shouting profanities, and making rude hand gestures. He then disappeared for a few minutes then came back with a fire extinguisher that he got from our bin shed. Whilst all this was happening, the duty manager stepped out and gave him a warning and told him if they disturb any more guests or attempts to destroy the hotel property again, they'll be out. Apparently the guy made some empty threatening remarks then disappeared back into his room with his lady friend.
The duty manager assured me that it's highly doubtful that the strange couple will come out of their room for the rest of the night and that everything should be ok. Oh how wrong she was.
After the duty manger and front of house staff left at around 11.15pm, i locked the doors and grabbed my panic button, something that the manager insists us night shift workers wear as a precaution, and although I never had to use it, I'm very glad I wore it that night. I knuckled down and got on with my duties, cleaning, setting up continental breakfast, emptying rubbish bags, counting the till, restocking juices and defrosting pancakes, crumpets and muffins. Little but necessary jobs. At around 1.30am I just finished mopping and getting ready to sit down to take a little break with some snacks and scroll through my phone in the restaurant area, I was just about to take a bite when all of a sudden I heard the hotel door open. It was the couple from room 1, making their way outside to have another cigarette. Going by what the duty manager told me about the guy I didn't feel at all safe being alone in the open, so I gathered all my things and made my way to the office where I could lock myself in a keep an eye on them on the CCTV monitor.
Some time went by, and the lady made her way back in, and she did not look at all well, she was walking so slowly, like she was in pain, swaying while she walked, stopping every few steps, but she managed to get back into her room from what I can see on the monitors. The guy how ever was not at all in a rush to go back to the room. He made his way back in the hotel with his key card and decided he was going to explore the restaurant area, ok nothing alarming, at first i thought he was looking for me, and I almost opened the door to let him know I was there, until I looked up at the monitor and there he was standing on a table and dancing, now I know that doesn't sound at all threatening but you have to admit, very strange behaviour. So instead of opening the door, I decided to observe him for a while and for the next hour or so, his behaviour went from strange, to damn right disturbing.
As I said he started off by just dancing on a table, then danced around the restaurant area, then made his way to the lobby area where he decided to stand very still like a statue, then a few seconds later, move position, then stand still again. Again not very threatening, in fact I was giggling a little just watching him doing what ever the heck he was doing. But the worse was yet to come.
At around 2.45am the guy was still acting strange, he was constantly going in and out of the hotel, dancing some more and jumping around. Then he decided it would be a good idea to take the condiment tray, take a seat on the chair behind the desk and start drinking the ketchup and brown sauce. Ok, now his behaviour has gone from strange, to a bit concerning. I was not about to open the office and tell him he needs to stop what he's doing and go back to his room, being a lone female worker I wasn't about to put myself in any danger, but I wasn't in enough danger to call anybody so again, I just watched him. As time went on his behaviour slowly went from concerning to disgusting.
Around 3.25am after he finished drinking the condiments, he got up and took his shirt off and wiped away the sauce that was around his mouth, he then draped his shirt over the desk chair walked around a little bit until he came to a complete stop and slowly turned his head towards the office door. Now I'm scared, the way he slowly walked towards the office door, the way he made direct eye contact at the camera as if to say, "I know you're in there watching me" he pressed his body against the office door and started kissing it whilst making direct eye contact with the camera, he then started putting his hand down his shorts and yes he was doing exactly what you're thinking. I felt sick, my whole body broke into a kind of frozen mode, like I couldn't believe what I was looking at but I knew I had to do something and fast.
So I pressed my panic button and called the police, I wanted him gone, time was passing fast and pretty soon breakfast service would be starting and I didn't want any other guests to be in danger. As I was on the phone to the police I spoke in a kind of whisper talk, so the guy right outside the door couldn't hear me, I told the dispatcher everything and of course they sent a call out for officers to come to the hotel to see the situation. It was just before 4am when the police officers arrived, and the guy was still in the lobby area but not doing what he was doing before. Instead in a very dramatic way he went down on his knees and yelled "not me, not me" I made my way out of the office, feeling safer that the police were there and whilst he was still on his knees with his hands above his head I told one officer everything that I told dispatch. The officers tried to communicate with him that him and his lady friend needs to leave the premises, there was a language barrier I think the guy was polish he kept saying "not me" or " I no go"
One officer asked to be let into his room to check on the lady friend, as soon as I opened the door, we were hit with the most foulest of smells ever, it smelt like urine and feaces, bottle of beer scattered everywhere, hard drugs on the bedroom desk. The lady friend was sat up naked on the bed that was drenched with urine and alcohol. I never seen anything like it.
After much argueing and alot more police officers arriving with a riot van. The guy was arrested and was put into the back of the van. A relative arrived just before 6.15 am to collect the lady. They couldn't be more apologetic, trying to explain to me that both of them had mental issues and have been missing for days. I tried to be understanding, I really did, but after what I saw, at that moment I just wanted them gone.
By 6.45am the police and the couple were gone. And the day manager arrived. I told them everything and showed them what had happened on the cctv. They gave me a big hug and praised me for how I treated the situation, but all I wanted to do was go home and take a long hot shower and go to bed. I was exhausted.
It's been a few weeks and I was told the guy was charged for indesent exposure and the lady is staying with a relative. I really do hope that both of them get the help they desperately need. As for me, I'm still working there, I'm not about to let one major incident make me leave a job I love. But what it has taught me, is to always, always trust your gut, if I didn't run to the office when I did, god knows what would of happened to me.
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But of course, where there's good, there is bad. Sure I've dealt with awkard guests, guests who came back drunk after a night out, I even had to kick out a few guests because they were being way too loud and disturbing other guests sleeping. So it's not all sun shine and roses I admit but that doesn't put me off my job. Until one night where a guest made me question that very thing.
It happened a few weeks ago, I arrived at my normal time to take over from evening staff, the duty manager that was working took me to one side and gave me the run down on what happened to her and the staff that evening during dinner service. According to her, the 2 guests (a man and a woman) who is staying in room 1 was acting very strange, apparently they stepped out to have a cigarette but the guy was disturbing the guests who was eating dinner, by slamming his entire body against the windows that looked into the restaurant, shouting profanities, and making rude hand gestures. He then disappeared for a few minutes then came back with a fire extinguisher that he got from our bin shed. Whilst all this was happening, the duty manager stepped out and gave him a warning and told him if they disturb any more guests or attempts to destroy the hotel property again, they'll be out. Apparently the guy made some empty threatening remarks then disappeared back into his room with his lady friend.
The duty manager assured me that it's highly doubtful that the strange couple will come out of their room for the rest of the night and that everything should be ok. Oh how wrong she was.
After the duty manger and front of house staff left at around 11.15pm, i locked the doors and grabbed my panic button, something that the manager insists us night shift workers wear as a precaution, and although I never had to use it, I'm very glad I wore it that night. I knuckled down and got on with my duties, cleaning, setting up continental breakfast, emptying rubbish bags, counting the till, restocking juices and defrosting pancakes, crumpets and muffins. Little but necessary jobs. At around 1.30am I just finished mopping and getting ready to sit down to take a little break with some snacks and scroll through my phone in the restaurant area, I was just about to take a bite when all of a sudden I heard the hotel door open. It was the couple from room 1, making their way outside to have another cigarette. Going by what the duty manager told me about the guy I didn't feel at all safe being alone in the open, so I gathered all my things and made my way to the office where I could lock myself in a keep an eye on them on the CCTV monitor.
Some time went by, and the lady made her way back in, and she did not look at all well, she was walking so slowly, like she was in pain, swaying while she walked, stopping every few steps, but she managed to get back into her room from what I can see on the monitors. The guy how ever was not at all in a rush to go back to the room. He made his way back in the hotel with his key card and decided he was going to explore the restaurant area, ok nothing alarming, at first i thought he was looking for me, and I almost opened the door to let him know I was there, until I looked up at the monitor and there he was standing on a table and dancing, now I know that doesn't sound at all threatening but you have to admit, very strange behaviour. So instead of opening the door, I decided to observe him for a while and for the next hour or so, his behaviour went from strange, to damn right disturbing.
As I said he started off by just dancing on a table, then danced around the restaurant area, then made his way to the lobby area where he decided to stand very still like a statue, then a few seconds later, move position, then stand still again. Again not very threatening, in fact I was giggling a little just watching him doing what ever the heck he was doing. But the worse was yet to come.
At around 2.45am the guy was still acting strange, he was constantly going in and out of the hotel, dancing some more and jumping around. Then he decided it would be a good idea to take the condiment tray, take a seat on the chair behind the desk and start drinking the ketchup and brown sauce. Ok, now his behaviour has gone from strange, to a bit concerning. I was not about to open the office and tell him he needs to stop what he's doing and go back to his room, being a lone female worker I wasn't about to put myself in any danger, but I wasn't in enough danger to call anybody so again, I just watched him. As time went on his behaviour slowly went from concerning to disgusting.
Around 3.25am after he finished drinking the condiments, he got up and took his shirt off and wiped away the sauce that was around his mouth, he then draped his shirt over the desk chair walked around a little bit until he came to a complete stop and slowly turned his head towards the office door. Now I'm scared, the way he slowly walked towards the office door, the way he made direct eye contact at the camera as if to say, "I know you're in there watching me" he pressed his body against the office door and started kissing it whilst making direct eye contact with the camera, he then started putting his hand down his shorts and yes he was doing exactly what you're thinking. I felt sick, my whole body broke into a kind of frozen mode, like I couldn't believe what I was looking at but I knew I had to do something and fast.
So I pressed my panic button and called the police, I wanted him gone, time was passing fast and pretty soon breakfast service would be starting and I didn't want any other guests to be in danger. As I was on the phone to the police I spoke in a kind of whisper talk, so the guy right outside the door couldn't hear me, I told the dispatcher everything and of course they sent a call out for officers to come to the hotel to see the situation. It was just before 4am when the police officers arrived, and the guy was still in the lobby area but not doing what he was doing before. Instead in a very dramatic way he went down on his knees and yelled "not me, not me" I made my way out of the office, feeling safer that the police were there and whilst he was still on his knees with his hands above his head I told one officer everything that I told dispatch. The officers tried to communicate with him that him and his lady friend needs to leave the premises, there was a language barrier I think the guy was polish he kept saying "not me" or " I no go"
One officer asked to be let into his room to check on the lady friend, as soon as I opened the door, we were hit with the most foulest of smells ever, it smelt like urine and feaces, bottle of beer scattered everywhere, hard drugs on the bedroom desk. The lady friend was sat up naked on the bed that was drenched with urine and alcohol. I never seen anything like it.
After much argueing and alot more police officers arriving with a riot van. The guy was arrested and was put into the back of the van. A relative arrived just before 6.15 am to collect the lady. They couldn't be more apologetic, trying to explain to me that both of them had mental issues and have been missing for days. I tried to be understanding, I really did, but after what I saw, at that moment I just wanted them gone.
By 6.45am the police and the couple were gone. And the day manager arrived. I told them everything and showed them what had happened on the cctv. They gave me a big hug and praised me for how I treated the situation, but all I wanted to do was go home and take a long hot shower and go to bed. I was exhausted.
It's been a few weeks and I was told the guy was charged for indesent exposure and the lady is staying with a relative. I really do hope that both of them get the help they desperately need. As for me, I'm still working there, I'm not about to let one major incident make me leave a job I love. But what it has taught me, is to always, always trust your gut, if I didn't run to the office when I did, god knows what would of happened to me.
2023.06.03 12:22 WTH_JMZ Advice on proof of stay for D8 Long Stay
Ola!
I am looking to relocate to Portugal later this year. Quick bit of background: last year I fell in love with a Portuguese girl I met whilst visiting, we have been together since and I am now looking to move so we can live together (I'm currently in the UK). I've been learning Portuguese for 4 months now. I hope to eventually apply for full residency and settle down there. I (foolishly) thought the visa process wouldn't be too difficult but I have spent a lot of time looking much deeper into it the last week.
Frustratingly, I am eligible for Irish citizenship but never got round to sorting it... This takes around 9 months and my tenancy in the UK is up in December and I am wanting to move around Oct/Nov time.
Everything appears to be in order, so far as my eligibility work an salary wise. I've started collating all the documents I need for the appointment (getting an appointment is another matter as I'm sure many are aware). One of my main concerns is the proof of accommodation.
As I mentioned, I plan on finding a place with my partner to live. We are looking outside of Lisbon centre as it is too busy and expensive for us. I have a quite a few friends out there but all are renting, so using their addresses as proof seems out of the question due to what I've read on the landlord needing to sign paperwork for me.
I'm worried that if I find an apartment and sort a lease, should there be any delays with my application, or even worse, it's rejected for some reason, then I will be stuck paying rent in two countries and one in which I can't reside.
I wondered if anybody had any cheeky work arounds for this. I was thinking maybe it's possible to book a hotel/airbnb and then cancel after the appointment? I've seen Airbnbs can class as proof and I have found some with 0 cancellation fees. I'm not sure if morally this would be a bad thing to do, however I have been paying extortiante rent my whole life to rich landlords with multiple properties and from what I can gather this is the situation for a lot of airbnb hosts! Plus it would only be for a ew days I make the booking whilst I have my appointment.
Any advice is much appreciated.
TLDR; Looking for a way to remove the risk in proving place of stay for 12 months when applying for D8 long stay.
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I am looking to relocate to Portugal later this year. Quick bit of background: last year I fell in love with a Portuguese girl I met whilst visiting, we have been together since and I am now looking to move so we can live together (I'm currently in the UK). I've been learning Portuguese for 4 months now. I hope to eventually apply for full residency and settle down there. I (foolishly) thought the visa process wouldn't be too difficult but I have spent a lot of time looking much deeper into it the last week.
Frustratingly, I am eligible for Irish citizenship but never got round to sorting it... This takes around 9 months and my tenancy in the UK is up in December and I am wanting to move around Oct/Nov time.
Everything appears to be in order, so far as my eligibility work an salary wise. I've started collating all the documents I need for the appointment (getting an appointment is another matter as I'm sure many are aware). One of my main concerns is the proof of accommodation.
As I mentioned, I plan on finding a place with my partner to live. We are looking outside of Lisbon centre as it is too busy and expensive for us. I have a quite a few friends out there but all are renting, so using their addresses as proof seems out of the question due to what I've read on the landlord needing to sign paperwork for me.
I'm worried that if I find an apartment and sort a lease, should there be any delays with my application, or even worse, it's rejected for some reason, then I will be stuck paying rent in two countries and one in which I can't reside.
I wondered if anybody had any cheeky work arounds for this. I was thinking maybe it's possible to book a hotel/airbnb and then cancel after the appointment? I've seen Airbnbs can class as proof and I have found some with 0 cancellation fees. I'm not sure if morally this would be a bad thing to do, however I have been paying extortiante rent my whole life to rich landlords with multiple properties and from what I can gather this is the situation for a lot of airbnb hosts! Plus it would only be for a ew days I make the booking whilst I have my appointment.
Any advice is much appreciated.
TLDR; Looking for a way to remove the risk in proving place of stay for 12 months when applying for D8 long stay.