I feel like it's 2001 again and I'm making a myspace page...
An offshoot of /Discworld, for the sole purpose of running a book club dedicated to the Discworld.
I am late to admitting to myself I'm trans (I'm nearly 30) and just overwhelmed by all the stuff out there - recs and warnings, costs, what's affordable and safe or dangerous - Turkey, Lithuania?! I am London based but the UK is very expensive. As wait times on the NHS are like 6 years I want to pay for private top surgery out of pocket. Max budget £10k but that would clear me out of any and all money which is NOT ideal.
Help!
Any UK/EU based folks got good recommendations? I have both a UK and EU passport if that matters?!
Whenever I see a couple in public I feel angry, sad and envious because I’ll never know what it feels like. Seeing someone live your dream kills you. Actually I’m gonna kill me, happy couples are just another reason. I like experimenting so knowing that I can’t find out what happens to you when someone likes you makes me feel bad. I’m nice to people so why can I talk to them unless they talk to me first? I remember once on a school trip everyone was talking with someone besides me. I was writing a rant on a similar topic. Why can other people make friends that easily? There’s a couple near me on the train and they both look good and it makes me wanna smash my head into a wall until I become normal
I noticed on my Nelnet account that my due date changed to 10/23/23. It was previously 1/28/2024. I originally applied for Borrowers Defense in 2019 and was rejected because of Devos. Once rejected I reapplied. I haven't had to pay any of the loans since 2019. I received part of the settlement on my UOP loans and a check last week but I still have FFELP consolidated loans. Some of the loans I have remaining are from UOP but some are from another college not included in the settlement. The due date and amount estimated amount due look like it includes all the loans (UOP & other college). It looks like my FFELP loans were with Conduent which is now out of business. My FSA account says Dept of Ed/Nelnet. I fully understand that I have to start paying the loans from the other college but the estimated amount due is making me anxious as it looks like it includes the UOP loans. Just wondering if anyone else has seen this. Thanks!
hi reddit .. my first time making a post like this but i just need help or advice on what to do with my relationship.
myself and my partner are 20 years of age and we’ve been dating since we were 17.
backstory: my partner is the youngest in the family as his parents had him way later in life (basically he’s an accident but so was i) therefore making his parents a lot older than majority of the ‘03 parents. His father laid out strict rules for him and expect so much as he his the golden child. Dating and going out is forbidden (not really, it’s just he always gets the no when asking to come out) so it puts a strain in our relationship.
anyways there’s our problem. i’ve been dating my partner .. let’s call him larry .. for nearly three years and nothing special has occurred. it was understanding in high school as we were still young but now that we are a lot older and in uni, i feel like it’s the right time to start properly dating.
you see larry never taken me out to our restaurant, we have done nothing on our anniversary beside send each other intimate paragraphs. the only exciting thing was when i practically dorm with him for three months but even during that time we stayed in dorms & watched movies. In our nearly 3 year relationship we only went movies twice and bowling once. it took nearly two years to have our first date.
the reason is because his dad won’t let him out which is a valid reason like i will not argue with that but there’s time where i feel like he doesn’t even try. he’s even scared to tell his dad about me but i am happy that his mum knows about me . my mum has met larry and my dad knows about him, you may compare but the reason my dad hasn’t meet him properly is because they live overseas.
we did plan to introduce ourselves formally to each other families on our 21st which is basically next year, however my mum asked me a question asking “will he make it?” which was my breaking point.
my family has been eager to meet larry as i’ve been dating him for so long as no one beside my mum has officially met him so he was invited to many events, i always said “it’s okay, he’s not allowed to come due to (whatever reason)” . i told my mum this and she replied by asking that question, that i asked larry the same thing, he said he will try, i eventually gave him the ultimatum which was if you don’t come to my 21st then i will break up with you. I only gave him the ultimatum as i didn’t want to wait another three years for him to introduce me to his parents.
i maybe the asshole for laying that on him but i can’t take another three years of just phone calls and intimate paragraphs every anniversary. we aren’t even in a long distant relationship yet act like one. i want to experience date nights, going to restaurants, picnics ect. he keeps telling me to wait but i think hearing the same thing for three years is just boring me out. i stopped asking him and inviting him to outings with my friends bc i just know i’m going to get the same answer. it does suck bc my friends have partners and they always bring them along, it hurts deep inside bc i don’t know how long i have to wait to experience what they have.
i love larry with my full heart, i enjoy our time we do get to spend, i love the freedom i get and the trust he lays with me. this is my first long term relationship and l want it to be my last. i believe that larry is my soulmate because we both have so much in common but it sucks that larry situation has to be like this. it got me thinking on what my next move should be. i’m stuck and need advice on what i should do next.
Why does my drinking Bud Light offend you?
May 30, 2023 4:39 pm • Last Updated: May 30, 2023 4:41 pm
By Mike DiMauro
Day Assistant Sports Editor
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News item: Anthony Bass, a pitcher for the Toronto Blue Jays, shared a video Monday via Instagram endorsing an anti-LGBTQ boycott of brands such as Target and Bud Light.
"Here's the reason biblically why I believe Christians have gotta be boycotting Target, Bud Light, and any other corporation that's pushing the things they're pushing,” Bass said. “I think a lot of people make this into a political issue, or they say, 'Oh, what's the big deal?’
“This is evil, this is demonic, we won't stand for it, we're not going to go to the stores anymore and we're not going to give you our money.”
It would be impolite to wish that Mr. Bass, who throws a ball for a living, blows out his elbow. Perhaps then he could simply blow it out his tailpipe.
Because I’ve grown tired of sanctimonious and hypocritical moral outrage over what Target and Bud Light are “pushing,” while it’s permissible that Bass and his ilk get to “push” their beliefs on the rest of us.
Example: In the last two months or so, I’ve been questioned a half dozen times in public as to why I’m drinking Bud Light. Seems people like Bass have objected to Anheuser Busch’s marketing partnership with transgender influencer Dylan Mulvaney. Their boycott of Bud Light has led to a decrease in sales both locally and nationally. (Local bar and restaurant owners say Bud Light sales are down almost 30 percent.)
It is their right, of course, to boycott the product. I’m just curious as to why what I’m drinking is their business. I drink Bud Light because I like it. And I’m still drinking Bud Light because I will not marginalize people based on gender, race, religion, ethnicity, or sexual orientation. I’m respectful enough to support someone else’s desire to evolve into another gender. And I’m not stupid enough to believe that my decision to drink Bud Light changes who I am or what I stand for in any possible way.
But I wonder why it’s so important for people — and the questions to me haven’t all come from men — to announce their disdain for a bottle of beer, tacitly implying their sexuality is “normal.” Remember this one and write it down: If you are truly comfortable with who you are, you needn’t announce anything to anyone.
And yet to further illustrate how screwed up this country really is, there’s this: Anheuser-Busch hasn’t merely been accused of alienating its traditional customer base with the partnership, but some LGBTQ+ campaigners have also criticized the company for not defending its ties with Mulvaney.
Amid all the finger-pointing and fear-fanning, the truth hides in the corner, too scared to emerge. The truth is that we are supposed to think critically, weigh evidence from both sides and then make up our own minds. Instead, we’ve become a country hell bent on legislating whatever cause we think is right and just, while burying the other side from all consideration.
It’s political tribalism. All or nothing. One side or the other. If you’re not in agreement with every morsel of the transgender movement, you are a snarling, hating, infidel. If you’re not in total agreement with Anthony Bass and his beliefs, you’re going to wither in hell.
But what if — and hold on to your ascots here — two conflicting positions can still be true? Example: What if I support Bud Light’s decision to use a transgender influencer, but also believe that transgender high school athletes belong in their own division?
I disagree with the Connecticut Interscholastic Athletic Conference’s policy complying with a state law that requires all high school students be treated according to their gender identity. We should consider a sports-centric law that acknowledges sports' unique challenges and accommodates the physical component for success that exists virtually nowhere else in society.
Sex discrimination in education, health care, housing and financial credit have no place in this country. But we must — must — realize and accept that sports require a physical component to succeed that calls for different guidelines.
Put it this way: Applying to a school or for health care, housing or financial credit requires no physical component to succeed. Sports require speed, strength and agility and do not fit under the same umbrella. And yet sports are routinely shoved into the same arguments about unfair treatment. Injustices get piled on for rhetorical usefulness, even though they're not applicable.
The male born composition has inherent physical advantages, rare exceptions noted. But in the aggregate, there are physiologic differences between biological males and females. I don’t believe writing that makes me transphobic. We should respect a person’s pronoun of choice. But that doesn't mean we have to blindly agree with claims that are not supported by science.
Yet that appears to be the new end game in this country. Blind agreement. Their side or yours. And here I sit, sipping my Bud Light, trying to figure out why so many of us act like the last three letters of Anthony Bass’ last name.
This is the opinion of Day sports columnist Mike DiMauro
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READER COMMENTS
Philip BroseJune 1, 2023 at 16:30Report
Robin great points the right can’t even keep track on who to be mad at. Why are they so sensitive? I here Chick-fil-a is evil now for they “ensuring equal access,” “valuing differences,” and “creating a culture of belonging,” under the title, “Committed to being Better at Together.” what monsters!
Philip BroseJune 1, 2023 at 16:27Report
William Peter the guidance councilor?
Joseph B De La CruzJune 1, 2023 at 15:15Report
This article pretty much sums up exactly how I feel about the situation. Bud Light basically sent someone a can with her image celebrating a milestone. The fact it turned the beer into enemy number one doesn’t surprise me considering the vitriol that has become commonplace in our country. I have had plenty of private messages regarding a video I posted supporting a beer, and more importantly a human being. Most have been vehemently against my support of both and relish the chance to send me a screen shot of Bud Lights stock on a daily basis with a “Go woke, Go broke” ending. I believe much of the vitriol comes from news and talk radio which is why Spotify now fills my vehicle with music instead of talk. I ask everyone to limit their news intake to 30 minutes per day regardless of your party affiliation to center your life. Sometimes my radio will land on a “news station”, and I can feel my blood pressure rise as the most divisive topic of the day is being discussed with a majority of the facts not being considered. I am not recommending folks to ignore what’s happening in our world, but would point out that our country has survived many decades without the need for “up to the second” news reports. Most of the things we worry about will never happen and it seems our country is living in a constant state of fear which is certainly to blame for the vitriol. There will never be a point where everyone in the country will collectively say we are all happy with everything, but I still have a deep believe that with constructive conversations and true empathy we can get us close. When I get my boat in the water I would love to have an ice cold Bud Light while listening to my relaxing boat playlist, and of course talking with my favorite sports writer. That’s an invitation Mike. Great article.
Robin DaudaJune 1, 2023 at 13:41Report
“Bud Light sales are down between 26% and 35% nationwide additionally Budweiser and other AB brands (Michelob Ultra, Busch Light and Natural Light to name a few) have also taken a hit of around 11%.”
All the more reason to explain what set this off. Completely unhinged.
“My take, buy Coors stock now”
And that statement reinforces my point since Coors has been a decades long supporter of LGBT rights probably the biggest supporter (it all began with a workegay alliance boycott ironically… or not)
“Coors Light has been a sponsor of The Center and Denver PrideFest for decades,” says Rex Fuller, CEO of The Center on Colfax. “The work we have been able to do at The Center over the last four decades would not be possible without this support and we are grateful for it.”
Beyond supporting Denver PrideFest, Molson Coors has a distinguished history of supporting LGBTQ communities across the country, with significant support for organizations such as Human Rights Campaign (HRC), Matthew Shepard Foundation, National Amateur Gay Athletics Association of America, National Gay & Lesbian Chamber of Commerce, LGBT Victory Institute, Out & Equal, and One Colorado.
In addition to these partners, Molson Coors works with local LGBTQ organizations in key communities through its Tap Into Change program. Annually, the summer program donates more than $100,000 to these organizations with a consistent growth in impact each year. Events take place in each city to help raise additional funds, awareness, and support for the missions of these local organizations. Over the past 10 years, Tap Into Change has raised nearly $600,000 for local LGBTQ and HIV/AIDS nonprofits.
https://denverpride.org/coors-light-supports-the-lgbtq-community/
This is even though like 2006, 2010 and 2014 they had to go through boycotts for this. And they did shrink back in response, but also came right back and didn’t move backwards for long.
And what will I do?
Continue drinking Corona because I drink what I drink.
It’s damn near impossible to do a successful boycott long term. The web of corporate connections means when you think you’re hurting one, it’s actually benefitting another one connected to it.
The beverage brand that owns Budweiser, Corona, and Stella Artois, is suing US beer-maker Constellation Brands for using the Corona brand name in a hard seltzer, according to a lawsuit filed Monday.
Beverage giant Anheuser-Busch InBev (AB InBev) acquired Corona’s parent company, Grupo Modelo, in 2013, but US antitrust regulators required it to sell the company’s US-based business to Constellation. AB InBev retained rights to the products in other markets, and the deal gave Constellation the rights to produce Corona and other Modelo brands in the US.
William PeterJune 1, 2023 at 13:36Report
The virtue signalers didn’t like my harmless comment. I guess being offended by an opposing view is reason enough to silence someone in 2023
Richard GoldenJune 1, 2023 at 12:57Report
Robin- not certain this article nor all the comments will move the needle. Bud Light sales are down between 26% and 35% nationwide additionally Budweiser and other AB brands (Michelob Ultra, Busch Light and Natural Light to name a few) have also taken a hit of around 11%. Bud Light has been the best selling beer in the USA for over 20 years and the normal volume of sales is 27 million barrels a year or 1134 million gallons. A 30% drop equals a loss of 340 million gallons a year. My take, buy Coors stock now
Chris JawakaJune 1, 2023 at 10:12Report
People are allowed to drink or not drink whatever beer they want and for whatever reason they choose. End of story.
Robin DaudaJune 1, 2023 at 09:05Report
Do people realize that Bud Light sent a pack of specially made cans with the person’s face on it and did a minute long or so bit released on like TicTok? It wasn’t some big nationwide PR campaign yet it rubbed someone the wrong way (or so they would like us to think) and it snowballed into this.
I don’t ever want to hear about people calling “the libs” snowflakes or use their center liberal stances as a weakness. These champions of “conservatives” are gullible whiny babies.
I watched in real time a bunch of idiots blow something up out of nothing and then saw them flocking to the internet people with their influencer pages and podcasts and publications where immediately they were being hawked “anti-woke” beer and all these other wares, often made by the same places they are boycotting for double the price.
There is a whole market opening up to people that will only get their businesses off the ground (temporarily for a quick cash grab) by using these outrage tactics and capitalizing (literally) on impaired brains that as Mr. DiMauro correctly observed “Blind agreement. Their side or yours”
Bless your little void of empathy and common sense hearts. Don’t spend all your money in one place now, spread the wealth to these people selling you overpriced junk.
Paul LevasseurJune 1, 2023 at 07:47Report
Mike is discussing one of this election cycles right wing culture war hot spots.
If you can’t get elected because of your governing skills you’re going to have to try to get elected by getting people angry and hateful. The right wing loves doing that. It’s their bread and butter.
TOM DONNEEJune 1, 2023 at 06:46Report
Preaching hate and preaching tolerance ARE NOT the same Evan
DANIEL STORMSJune 1, 2023 at 05:56Report
I always liked this formulation: “In the first place, what makes it any of you business? And in the second place, my reasons for saying yea to [whatever it is that offends you] are at least as valid (and maybe more so) than yours for nay. And in the third place, what makes it any of your sodding business in the first place?” I agree wholeheartedly with your plea for reason and tolerance. Not to seem argumentative but rather to add information to the discussion, though, you might be interested in this blog post from a biologist about the supposed physiologic advantages a trans man or woman has over a cis athelete:
https://freethoughtblogs.com/pharyngula/2023/05/31/we-hunted-the-rabbit/
Evan AndriopolousJune 1, 2023 at 03:10Report
For me… Bud Light as a “beer” sucks. I would rather support local breweries that provide far better beers. As far as this column… as far as AB selecting this influencer in their campaign I have no opinion on it or that person. Up to each to decide for themselves.
Regarding this column actually Mike what you are writing is basically the same as the boycott and the changes in attitudes (political divide) of the country. Often used by politicians on BOTH sides of the aisle screaming to be open, defending one´s right to choose, freedom of speech etc.. and this is the most important part..”unless it does not validate their opinion or view”. This is exactly what you are writing. So if someone elects to boycott something and we know the WOKE police and Leftists enjoy not only condemning opposing viewpoints to the point of boycotting, attacking employers for the “views” of their employees etc… and demanding they be removed from the position their are in. So if someone boycotts something let them… I would ask you… why does it offend you that others are using their constitutional right by boycotting (freedom of speech). I always respect other´s opinions and even when we do not agree. Sadly we live in a world where people are afraid to speak up due to the potential ramifications. None of us will always agree and I know the powers to be are trying to “force” us to all be uniform in our opinions which is sad. And btw Bud Light is terrible anyway… How about you focus on sports.
Benoit BenoitMay 31, 2023 at 20:12Report
Ironic you drink because you like it but will continue to drink it because “ I will not marginalize people based on gender, race, religion, ethnicity, or sexual orientation.” Not just because you like it.
William PeterMay 31, 2023 at 17:46Report
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JAY DEMPSEYMay 31, 2023 at 16:53Report
TY Mike….. I drink Bud Light most all the time unless in Ireland…and support Levine Distributors in our area and my friends that work there. I think the cancel culture is terrible whatever your political party of choice is. Very sad that social media has done this to us. I have good friends that I can no longer talk politics with because of the “great divide” that enriches social media giants.
ROBERT WARNERMay 31, 2023 at 16:45Report
I suppose a similar question could be asked, “Why does a person wearing a MAGA hat bother some people?”
David NowakowskiMay 31, 2023 at 14:30Report
great column, Mike. I’d like to think there are far more folks who see this subject and all its nuances the way you do…but you are probably right again in saying that it is tough to go against your chosen tribe on any component, regardless of how you might actually feel. thanks again!
Andrew RogersonMay 31, 2023 at 13:33Report
Mike DiMauro – well said sir, on all counts.
Lynn YoungMay 31, 2023 at 13:28Report
Drink what you like. Be who you are. Live and let live.
Richard GoldenMay 31, 2023 at 12:36Report
Light Beer is like Sex on the Beach….****ing near water.
Paul NUNESMay 31, 2023 at 11:44Report
Does anyone remember the first light beer and the commercial featuring a slice of bread?
THOMAS MORIARTYMay 31, 2023 at 11:05Report
Richard, must have been some other brand light. Bud Light? It was probably 10 years ago. But he could have been messing with me.
Richard GoldenMay 31, 2023 at 10:17Report
Malcolm- The moral of the story is; if it ain’t broke, don’t fix it.
Richard GoldenMay 31, 2023 at 10:16Report
Thomas- as far as I knew and as far as I can tell Guinness is the most popular beer in Ireland holding a full 25% of the market share. Bud Light does not even show up in the top ten (
https://www.beer100.com/best-selling-beers-ireland/) I think the guy was pulling your leg. Bud Light only became available in Ireland in 2020.
Malcolm JulesMay 31, 2023 at 09:32Report
A corporation decided to target one of their products to a specific community and failed….end of story.
Margaret KliseMay 31, 2023 at 09:12Report
Agree/agree. Good article, Mike.
SUSAN HOTCHKISSMay 31, 2023 at 09:06Report
I always enjoy Mike’s opinion pieces. In total agreement about the transgender athlete issue.
THOMAS MORIARTYMay 31, 2023 at 09:00Report
Tom, hope all is well with your daughter.
THOMAS MORIARTYMay 31, 2023 at 08:57Report
A Bud Light story: Several years ago while in Ireland my son and I toured the Guinness brewery. Of course there’s a pub on the top floor and while getting a pint of Guinness the bar I notice several taps Bud Light. I asked the bartender “why in God’s name are you serving THAT stuff in here?” He replied that it’s the best selling beer in Ireland. Go figue!
THOMAS MORIARTYMay 31, 2023 at 08:51Report
Good column Mike. These anti “woke” zealots claim to support democracy but would be no different from the Taliban if they had their way.
Richard GoldenMay 31, 2023 at 08:42Report
All this talk of beer makes me thirsty…but I have found that drinking beer has become an unwelcome undertaking. No beer allowed at the beach, nor while night fishing in Waterford, nor surf fishing at Avery Point, nor at any state boat launch, nor is state parks- try walking down the street with a cold one….
Chris JawakaMay 31, 2023 at 08:08Report
IMO The left loves their cancel culture but gets all grumpy when the right does the same. Hey it can go both ways. That said I really don’t care about the Bud thing. Its not like they sold beer with its face on it.
Matther TookerMay 31, 2023 at 07:35Report
Thoughtful piece as always Mike. Perhaps the best offset for the 30% decrease in Bud Light sales would be a 30% increase in church attendance. I am betting that won’t happen. (Matt Tooker)
KEITH J. ROBBINSMay 31, 2023 at 06:11Report
You drinking Bud-Lite does not offend me, although it is a horrible beer. What is my concern is a guy using the ladies room that my nieces use!
TOM DONNEEMay 31, 2023 at 05:55Report
Agree Phil. Well done Mike!! Waiting for my daughter to come out of surgery. Then we’ll stop for a cold one, think I’ll make it a Bud Lite!!!
Philip BroseMay 30, 2023 at 16:59Report
Mr. DiMauro is always thoughtful and intelligent. The best writer at the day. Give the guy a raise.
I am a female aged 67. About three weeks ago i noticed a lump near my naval. It seemed to just appear all of a sudden. It’s not visible but can be felt when standing. I went to the doctor the next day and he said it’s the beginning of a umbilical hernia. My naval is not protruding and I’m not in any pain. He told me to he wasn’t recommending any treatment for now and to come back if I have pain or the lump starts growing. I had a colon resection a year and a half ago and this lump is close to the incision. Is this wait and see treatment the usual approach? If I need surgery to repair this it seems like sooner would be better. I would think he would at least send me for a CT scan to get a better idea of what’s going on. Any thoughts?
I used to love playing on quiz machines in pubs around 15 years ago and nearly everywhere had one. There was so many good games and you could stretch out a fiver between a group for ages.
Don't get me wrong, I love a quiet and traditional pub but why have these machines all disappeared? They seem to have been replaced with plain gambling ones, with just roulette or slots.
If you do manage to find one there's a good chance it won't have been updated since around 2012
My partner has never had a high sex drive. But recently he's not wanting it at all. We have a child but she's nearly 3 so it's not because he's tired from looking after her etc. He started a new job end of last year, he works nights but we were still having regular sex. I have put quite a bit of weight on since our daughter was born so I'm thinking it could be that? He has also started smoking weed after his night shifts and since he started smoking it he seems to be less interested in any intimacy. He still gives me a cuddle and kiss every now and then like before he goes to work or before he goes to sleep. We're both 30 next year. Any advice would be appreciated 👍
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I'm looking for constant quality guy friends (at least one naman pls), someone who I can gain a different perspective from. I have quality girl friends na kaya I'm looking for guy friends naman. Someone who can get along with my very energetic personality. Syempre, dapat with substance din - someone I can talk to about the most random things to the deep existential thoughts.
Other things about me - I'm a plus size (if that matters). Black cat energy (can be intimidating but I've been told I have a very bubbly personality din). I'm from the East. I can drive, I can meet with you halfway once we're comfortable with each other (cos hello as a social butterfly I need real life interactions din).
We can exchange pictures (if that's impt to you) to set your expectations about me.
If you're g, send me a dm w a short intro about yourself (di kita papansinin pag walang intro bahala ka diyan magbasa ka).
That's all, thank yew.
(And yes, bago account ko bcos nalaman na ng friends ko yung old reddit ko huhuhu. Kung kilala mo ko, you don't know me!)
Hi! maybe this is not the correct place for this but i will start therapy in some weeks and I am valuting if I should ask to get texted for autism since some people told me that i may be autistic. (i fully understand the therapist will tell me eventually, but therapy is expencive so i wanted to get opinions from people who know autism better, since only 1 of the people who told me di indagate on it was autistic).
For context: - i am 22 F - I have always had huge truble socilizing. I am shy but i litterally struggle to talk in pubblic. When i was young it was maybe described by adults as being "shy" or even "well behaved", but now it is almost embarassing. like if i never learned how to connect natuarally with others - I have truble regulating my tone of voice: it is always to low in pubblic and to high when i am confortable. but i don't feel like i controll it - i only had 2 friends in my hole life. - I get told that i cut people off in conversation, i talk over others and don't let them finish. or that i don't want to dialogate. But i don't do it on porpouse. Actually i spend a lot of time alone and i desperatly want to talk to others -i have always left out from my peers. like i had something weird or wrong i could not fully address and therfore fix. But i don't feel like i do anything peculiar or special. - i was told i do normal things weirdly or that I have "unpopular" or peculiar way of thinking. - i have a strong sense of justice -huge overthinker, anxiety issues, i overanalyze everything even unimportant things -i am overly emotional, everything effect me greatly. -never have really been affected by peer pressure -dyslexic -i often feel like i have to play a part around people. there are really few people i am fully honestly myself with.
But - i don't have sensory issues (at least i think that i don't have them) - I think i understan social cues. and i can really easly put myself in other people shoes
What is your opinion. Is it whorth to give it a try and ask the therapist about autism or maybe i just have social anxiety?
Just had my first bad review and I'm a little down about it. Long story short, there was a miscommunication and the owner threw an absolute fit and cancelled the booking on day 2. She then accused me of abusing her cat by trying to collect a blood glucose sample, and then accused me of stealing a pair of disposable shoe covers.
I don't think it will affect my bookings overmuch, and i really want the whole ordeal with this person to be done so I'm not going to share a lot of details, but i definitely learned a lesson in meeting clients at their home before bookings are made!
If an owner makes you uncomfortable, gives you a weird vibe, or refuses to let you into their home before the booking to meet their pet, think twice before accepting the booking. It may not be worth the stress later on.
My profile has long, detailed posts if you want them. Please feel free to ask any questions at all. Long story short I got stuck in a mental ward and it nearly drove me to actually do it. The second I got out I started collecting my method. Thank fucking God for weed, alcohol, and Thai food. And for some good ass fucking people I met inside. They're more my family than my family. They know me more, care for me softer. I needed them
My cat is a very friendly and social cat, however she is the most attached to me so my theory is this behavior is some sort of attachment issue. I spend a lot of time in my room- as a late teen would do so- but any time I leave the room she'll follow me and basically try to lead me back to my room. My house is quiet and when I'm not there she hangs out with my family, so I don’t think she’s uncomfortable being in other rooms. She very much so has a dog personality, to the point of which even the vet doesn't freak her out like any other cat. However when I'm home and not in my room, she seems to fuss. This happens especially when I sleep in other rooms such as a sibling's room, the living room, or upstairs couch area. During the times I'm not sleeping in my room, she will meow almost all night long even if the door is open for her to get in and out. Anytime I go near my room or even in the direction of my room, she'll let out meows as she tries to lead me into my room. Her meows are those kind of prolonged “this way, follow me!” type of meows. Why does she do this?
I had GBS back in 2021 post covid. It was strange and scary, but not that bad overall. I had a facial paralysis on one side, along with the usual numbness and tingling in my arms and legs and a weakened pelvis. I could walk to a degree but couldn't do any other movements without assistance. My recovery after 5 days of IVIG was pretty swift. I fully recovered in around 3 weeks with a bit of residual numbness at the tips of my toes which wasn't that bad. I was careful for the first 6 months and always looking out for a possible relapse but it never came. Eventually I got careless. I got off the prescribed diet, stopped exercising regularly etc.
So here I am, nearly 2 years later with numbness in my legs longside a stiffness in my calves (these were among the first symptoms last time), and even though it's still pretty early, I'm terrified. It's all coming back to me; memories of lying in bed in a vegetative state feeling absolutely helpless. My current symptoms started 4 days ago, and considering it's pretty early on, I'm hoping it's bad posture or a pinched nerve or hypochondria or something, anything that's not GBS. Not knowing what comes next gave me a sense of bravado the first time round. Now that I know exactly what to expect, I'm not feeling so brave anymore.
Stop looking, stop looking! There is no core! I switch like the wind I kneel like a whore You grasp at something That never was there My soul’s like the wind As thin as the air
Perhaps if you thought For a moment or two Got a little bit giddy Watched me stare at my shoe
You’d think of the wife That maybe I’d be Think of all of the sex Of all the babies you’d give me
But you didn’t know That under my skin Deeper and deeper Much further within
There are many of us 5,3, or 4 Maybe less than that Or maybe much more
We sit and we sigh Waiting for our turn One’s called bobby jo The other’s name is earn
Some are black, some are white Some are guys and some gals Some trans & some gay But not all of them pals
You sir, you seem nice As singletons do But ah, my sweet dear, I’m far too complex for you.